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In almost all cases, a person’s sexuality is strictly her own business. Attempting to "figure her out" just to satisfy your curiosity is unethical, and could even put your friend at risk of homophobic harassment. However, if your friend is crushing on you or vice versa, you may need to address it. Instead of trying to settle the question of your friend's identity, figure out what your goal is. Are you trying to defuse the situation and just be friends? Or are you trying to turn the friendship into something more? Whichever side of this you're coming from, it takes a careful approach to avoid damaging the friendship.
Respect your friend's right to privacy. Your best friend's sexuality is her own business. If she might have a crush on you, however, you can help defuse this and save the friendship. If that's your goal, reframe your thinking. You don't need your friend to confess; you just need to return to an uncomplicated friendship.
Never tell someone else you think your friend is a lesbian. No matter how progressive your school or town is, someone could bully or harass your friend because of that rumor (even if it is not true).
Look for signs. You do not have to be 100% certain before you do something. You will probably continue to suspect something or second-guess your friend until you clear the air. However, if you are hesitating or doubting yourself, you can check for the following signs of a possible attraction:
Physical touch is common in female friendships, but only to a point. If your friend holds your hand on the street, gives you massages, or hugs you for an unusually long time, she might have a crush on you. (The boundaries are different in each culture, so these examples don't apply everywhere.)
She contacts you constantly, and gets upset if you take too long to respond.
She gets upset if you spend time with other friends instead of her.
Let her down gently. There are ways to defuse the situation without prying into your friend's personal life. During a private conversation, make it clear that you are not interested without putting your friend on the spot. Here are a few hints you could drop (but only use them if they're true):
"I really want to keep you as a best friend. Can we stay that way?"
"I want to find a guy to date."
"I would like us to spend more time with the rest of our friends, instead of one-on-one. Are you all right with that?"
Clear up mixed signals. If you have cuddled, kissed, or done anything else with your best friend that could lead her on, stop and think about why you did it. If you are definitely not interested in dating your friend, this behavior can lead to heartache. Set new boundaries for your relationship, even if she tries to argue with you.
Say "I think we should stop (cuddling/having sleepovers/etc.). I don't want to send you the wrong signal."
Address her directly. If your friend doesn't react well to the changes in your relationship, you need to bring up the elephant in the room. For example, if your friend acts jealous of your dates or other friends, or if she gets upset every time you don't hang out with her, she may have a crush on you. At this point, a private, heart-to-heart talk might be the only way to move forward.
Ask your friend if she has feelings for you. Don't force her to respond or argue with her reply.
Whatever her response, let her know you do not have romantic feelings for her.
If you're straight or a lesbian, you can tell her that, but if you are not sure, it's best not to share that in the same conversation. This is a conversation for another time.
If she is angry or scared that you brought up her sexuality, use a de-escalating phrase like “We don’t have to talk about it,” or “Don’t worry, it’s your business, I just wanted to get this out there.” Just make sure you still include the important part: that you do not have feelings for her.
Spend some time apart. If it turns out your friend was interested in you, she's at least a little heartbroken right now. Suggest that you stop hanging out temporarily while the two of you work through this. Try not to contact each other for at least two weeks. When you both feel ready, ease back into the friendship with short, low-pressure meetups, like a half hour lunch in a public place. Make it clear that you are still her friend, and you want the friendship to continue.
If your friend is questioning her sexuality, this could be a very difficult time for her. Tell her there are LGBT resources and hotlines she can find online to help her. (Or if she was clearly crushing on you but didn't come out, tell her there are resources "for what she is going through.")
Use compassion. Mental and physical health outcomes for non-heteronormative people improve with a stronger, accepting support network.[1] Just as your friend respects your sexual identity, you should respect hers. If she is your best friend, and you are able to put any attraction (if it exists) behind you, your friendship does not need to change. Support her, be an ally, and value her as a human being.
If your friend is dealing with negativity toward her identity, it is still possible to support her. Introducing her to other lesbians, requesting she seek the help of a therapist, encouraging a positive self-concept, and encouraging her to embrace her sexuality as part of her identity can all help produce positive outcomes [2]
Determine your goal. If you are a woman and you have a crush on your female best friend, it's natural to wonder if you have a chance. Before you start with the leading questions, though, ask yourself what your goal is:
Attraction often gets in the way of friendship, and it won't go away if you find out your friend is straight. Sometimes bringing it into the open is what you need to do, regardless of how your friend feels.
On the other hand, if the feelings are not mutual (and they usually aren't), the friendship could end. If this would devastate you, and you don't have a support network to help you out (especially if you are in the closet), it might not be a good idea to continue. Spend at least a couple weeks apart from your friend instead to try and cool down and pick up the friendship at a less intense level.
If you are unsure of your sexuality, or you are straight but have a crush on your friend, focus on yourself instead of her. Look for LGBT resources online or at an LGBT community center to help you figure out your identity.
Acknowledge signs of your friend's sexuality. Wishful thinking can always cloud your judgement when romance is involved. If your friend has dated men in the past or told you about her crush on a guy, it's very likely that she's straight.
There are no obvious signals that mean someone is a lesbian, especially if she is in the closet. Trying to analyze your friend this way is nearly impossible, especially when attraction is clouding your judgement.
If your friend is attracted to you, she may initiate prolonged physical contact (long hugs, for example) or ask to see you constantly. Unfortunately, it is difficult to tell this apart from close female friendships, especially if she is responding to your own desire for close contact.
Talk to a confidante. If at all possible, talk to a trusted friend about the situation (preferably someone you can come out to or have already). He or she will have a less biased perspective on whether your friend is interested in you, and can talk you through your feelings. Continue only if you have decided that this is important enough to risk the friendship.
Explore her comfort level with LGBTQ topics. Before you tell your friend the whole story, get an idea of her views on lesbian and gay relationships. How does she react to fictional and real-life same-gender couples? Does she support gay rights? If she seems accepting, this doesn't mean she's lesbian — but it does make it easier to take the next step. If she reacts to the topic with revulsion, it is not wise to continue the conversation.
One way to bring this up is to mention that you're thinking of attending a Gay Straight Alliance event, which only "outs" you as a straight ally.
Some people raised in homophobic environments express negative views on gay love even though they seem attracted to the same sex. If your friend seems defensive on the topic or is sending mixed signals, she may need more time to work out her sexuality. This is not something you can do for her.
Come out to your friend. If you are comfortable with your sexual and gender identity, and your friend is an LGBT ally (or at least not in opposition to them), the next step is telling your friend that you are not straight.
Mention your feelings briefly. This is the make-or-break moment, and sad though it is, the response is rarely the one you want. But if you can't move on without getting it off your chest, don't pour out your whole soul to your friend. Let her know what's been going on, but do it in a way that doesn't put too much pressure on her or the friendship. This is very personal to your friendship and the conversations you've had together, but here are some examples to start with:
"I think you're attractive, but staying friends is the most important thing for me."
"I've been having feelings for you. I just need a little time apart to clear my head."
(jokingly) "I wish I could find a girlfriend as nice as you!"
Leave the ball in her court. Now your friend knows what you needed her to know. She still might not be ready to talk about her own sexuality or how she feels about your crush. Asking her directly is unlikely to help: if she felt the same way, she would say so. End the conversation and give her time to process what she's heard. The two of you may need to spend some time apart to cool the air.
How can I tell my friend that I know she is a lesbian?
Instead of saying that you "know," say that you were wondering about it instead. Never assume you know unless the person has told you herself. Try saying something like, "I've noticed you've been showing a lot of support to the LGBT community. That's really cool!" This will show her you aren't homophobic and should open up a conversation. When she is ready, she will come out to you. Respect her and her sexuality.
I have a crush on my best friend, but I'm too shy to tell her that I like her. What do I do?
You don't have to tell her directly; just subtly hint to her using the methods above. When she starts to get the idea that you like her, make it more obvious. If she asks, tell her the truth.
I think my best friend likes me. She recently came out to me and my other best friend also told me that she kept asking her whether there was someone I liked or not. She also was very concerned when I told her I had a cold. Am I right or is she just a very nice friend?
There is a possibility that she is just a nice friend, but it may also be that she likes you. If the former is true, then she may get offended if you ask directly if she likes you. One thing you could do is offer to set her up with someone and see how she reacts, or you could ask your other friend to ask her and pretend like she's just curious.
My best friend keeps on making inappropriate jokes about me and her and it's making me uncomfortable. How can I find out whether she is really a lesbian or not?
If your gut is telling you she's hinting at real feelings, you're probably right. The important thing is that the "jokes" are making you uncomfortable. Just tell her. Don't say anything disparaging like "Ew, that's gross," just ask her to knock it off with the inappropriate stuff.
If my best friend touches me a lot and we're both girls, is she a lesbian?
No. Many friends touch each other regularly in a friendly manner so doing that does not signify that she is a lesbian.
How can I help a friend who has recently come out as a lesbian to me, but hasn't told her family?
The best you can do is support her. You should not force her to tell her parents, even if you think she should.
What do I do if someone doesn't believe that I'm a lesbian?
You don't do anything, really. You know who you are and that is really all that matters.
I tried coming out to my best friend as a lesbian, but I accidentally made it seem like I liked her, so I told her I was messing with her. How do I tell her im a lesbian without making it seem like I'm interested in her?
I would suggest telling her that you are indeed a lesbian, but you are not attracted to her. I told my best friend was that she was a beautiful person, but not exactly my type.
What can I do if I am attracted to men but I've also been attracted to women lately?
This could mean you are bisexual, or bicurious. Explore your options. Do some research. Know that you don't have to fit under a certain label!
My friend acts weird in the classroom. She is always staring at me, she will tell me "I love you", and she will give me letters stating that even friends can love. Is she asking me out?
Probably. Try asking her directly about it. If she says yes and you don't feel the same, make sure to let her down gently.
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