Kinky Night

🛑 ALL INFORMATION CLICK HERE 👈🏻👈🏻👈🏻

Kinky Night
Up until last year, my husband and I led a fairly ho-hum existence in regards to sex and kink. It wasn’t until I accidentally found myself reading an incredibly smutty book that I realized what I was reading wasn’t gross; it was fascinating and I wanted to try everything .
It was a normal Wednesday evening when I brought the book up to my bedroom, where I nervously asked my husband to read a particularly descriptive passage about anal sex and the use of anal beads. Imagine my surprise when he wasn’t disgusted! “So, this is something — we could try? Someday? Maybe?” I said. He laughed and said “ Sure! As long as you’re comfortable with it!” By the end of the week, I was the proud owner of a very pretty butt plug, some heavy-duty lube and my husband was in possession of my butt-sex virginity.
Here’s what I’ve figured out about getting your kink on with a lover: Unless you meet on a fetish forum or get real drunk with each other, your secret desires to be spanked, whacked, choked, and manhandled will probably go unspoken. Imagine turning to your lover right now and saying, “Tonight I would like you to slap my tits until they bruise.”
What would happen? Would someone’s head explode? Would you feel judged? Would your lover even know what tit slapping was? IT’S SUCH A RISK! So how does a happy and healthy sexually active couple go about figuring out the hard and soft limits of their sexuality? If you lead a fairly vanilla life chances are you’re completely unaware to just how much pleasure there is to be had out there. But how do you go about approaching the subject?
Yes, porn is getting a bad rap lately, and it should — I’ve watched porn destroy many a relationship because it was either kept secret or abused to the point where the lines between reality and porn blur into a muddled mess of pain and confusion for everyone involved.
But I’ve learned that porn, when viewed with my husband, can actually be wonderfully beneficial to both of us. It helps that we’re both open-minded in regards to sex but we still find it easier to find new positions and ideas from porn than trying to describe what we think we’d like.
Here are some of our favorite pornographic pleasures:
1. Girl-on girl. Girls are soft, girls are pretty, girls are generally less aggressive than men are, and let’s be honest — girls know what girls like because girls have the same parts as other girls. My husband enjoys watching two girls together because he is guy; I enjoy watching because I have a pretty strong desire to make out with a girl one day.
2. Tit-slapping. I had heard of it, but never considered it until I watched it and my brain and body made the connection that “Hey, I think I’d like that.” My husband was ecstatic as it was something he had always wanted to try but was too shy to ask about. What is tit-slapping? It’s exactly what it sounds like: basically having your boobs spanked.
3. Girl/guy bondage. Preferably the guy tying up the girl. I love being submissive to my husband, so seeing other women being submissive to their lovers is a turn-on for both of us. I especially love elaborate rope ties, as it is more of a focused art form rather than just a hasty, easy-to-break-free-from handkerchief to a headboard.
4. Super-oily, naked massages. If there were one scene I would never opt out of, it would be having big warm hands all over my oiled and naked body. I don’t even care about getting knots out; I just want strong hands all over me. It’s a hard one to recreate in the bedroom because cleaning that amount of oil out of or off of anything would ruin it for me.
5. Sensual, slooooow kissing. Kissing seems so basic and boring, I mean, most of us have been doing it since we were horny teenagers. But a good kiss, one that goes slow, where you’re breathing in another person? Those are the kinds of kisses that get us all hot and bothered. Anyone can slam their body parts together but to kiss like you mean it requires a level of passion and intimacy that can’t be found with just anyone.
Now that you know what we’re into (no judgment!), here are a few helpful suggestions that have worked for us to make watching porn less awkward and more amazing:
I realize guys are audio and visual but I am visual only. Corny dialogue and music only distract me from what is really going on — plus it’s easier for my husband to tell what I’m really into when everything is quiet. I have a bad habit of doing terrible voice-overs if I don’t like what we’re watching. If I’m quiet, it’s usually a good indication that I’m interested in what’s going on.
While watching, our discussions usually involve simple statements like “Please never do that to me” or “I wouldn’t hate it if you tried that on me.” We both laugh at the outlandish positions — what is it with men going down on women who just happen to be doing a headstand? NOPE — and hum in agreement on positions we know we like.
It’s also important to go into more detail if there was something one of us would like to try: When would you want to try it? Where would you want it to happen? What toys or preparation would you need to complete before it could happen? While we’re at it, now is also a good time to discuss your safe words!
There is A LOT of porn out there, and it is categorized down to the tiniest detail. If we don’t both enjoy what we’re watching, we change the video! If one of us really likes a particular scene but the other is slightly horrified? We’ll have a discussion about what it is they like about the scene, then narrow down our searches to even more specific details.
We both agree quality is key — there’s no reason for us to watch terribly lit porn and shoddy camera work — which narrows down our choices immensely. Same goes for costuming, who really does the dishes in a tiny skirt, high heels and no underpants? We prefer our porn to be *slightly* realistic.
There is an entire world to explore on the other side of your safe search filter, when explored honestly and with healthy curiosity in mind — it can open up a whole new world to couples who believe their sex lives to be dead in the water.
Even if you don’t end up living out a real life porn scene, you’ll at least have the fodder for a spirited discussion on what each of you is into (which may very well lead to a horizontal display in the bedroom).
The actress shared that she was "horribly sick" during her first trimester.
This recipe is made simple with an instant pot
List Of Healthy Foods You Can Eat Without Gaining Any Weight
Be a holiday hero: Stock up on this super-affordable gift for the people on your list who most need to chill out.
Tracee Ellis Ross is stepping into her 50s with joy. The Black-ish star, 49, is approaching her 50th birthday on Oct. 29 and couldn't help but share her excitement about the milestone in a Tuesday appearance on Today.
“I’m desperately trying to break this cycle for my children," the model says.
I was all set for my trip, or so I thought. That's when my friend told me to always keep a bread clip when traveling. The reason is quite clever.
The Halo Bolt Air+ is a lifesaver on the road and at home.
Scoop up a Star Wars-themed Instant pot at a discount and get a sweet deal on a mega-popular Fire HD tablet.
This is what doctors say you should look for — plus all the sales that just might change your life.
You’ll Never Believe What It Grew Into...
'They feel like a feather on your feet!' writes one nurse of these amazing kicks, now at their lowest-ever price.
Cook like the Contessa: Stainless steel sets, nonstick grills, fry pans...it's all for the taking!

10 Kinky Things Women Do That Men Are Completely Obsessed With
The content you see here is paid for by the advertiser or content provider whose link you click on, and is recommended to you by Revcontent. As the leading platform for native advertising and content recommendation, Revcontent uses interest based targeting to select content that we think will be of particular interest to you. We encourage you to view your opt out options in Revcontent's Privacy Policy
Want your content to appear on sites like this? Increase Your Engagement Now!
Want to report this publisher's content as misinformation? Submit a Report
By Tom Miller — Written on Sep 08, 2016
As much as it’s against my personal creed, I’ll be honest for a second. Upon receiving this assignment, I had to look up kinky in the dictionary because I’m a chili cheese fries kinda guy when it comes to sex : meat and potatoes, and a little cheesy.
Internet dictionary defines kinky as “involving or given to unusual sexual behavior.” And I’ll be damned if the word “unusual” doesn’t plop into this whole operation like a number two shot out of a t-shirt cannon.
For some folks, “unusual” may mean leaving the lights on , and for others it may mean being pegged by a criminally insane drifter they met at the grand opening of a Starbucks. But if drunk convos with my friends and lurking around YourTango informs me of anything, most of us are somewhere deliciously between these two things. 
For most dudes, the whole kinky thing is about novelty . For others, it’s about unresolved formative trauma. And, if you’re lucky, both. Let’s concentrate on novelty. Periodically it’s gratifying to convince our caveman brains that we’re ensuring our genetics are passed as widely as possible even if we’re not Ashley Madison-ing it up out there. 
Here are 10 things kinky women are seriously great at doing that men seriously dig:
When in doubt, just go with “[verb expletive] my [noun expletive], baby.” 
Put his hands on your throat if you like being choked. Asked to be spanked if that’s your thing . And if you're interested in having your hair pulled , just do it doggie-style.
Own (and wear) completely impractical lingerie. I don’t know how it’s possible, but thigh-high stockings are somehow sexier than no stockings at all. 
Be aggressive. Request position changes. Tell him what you want to do to him and, if you want to choke him, there are like 0.0001 percent of guys who may be cool with it. 
Insist on him not using his hands once in a while. But don't let him go hands-free too much or he'll get lazy. 
Take precautions that it doesn’t end up in Kris Jenner ’s hands, but saying you want to "watch" it later is melt-your-face-off-like- Raiders-Of-The-Lost-Ark hot.
Explore yourself with your finger and then put it in his mouth. If you’re feeling fun, do the same with his finger and your mouth .
I'm not even sure if you should ask. I know I know, social contract. I know women have decided they hate 69-ing , so face the other direction and "concentrate" on your magic. 
Be exceptionally clear where you want his DNA to go , even if it’s to be Spider-Man -ed directly into one of the cheaper towels.
Go out and get (mildly) freaky. You’ll be surprised what a virtuous cycle stepping out of your comfort zone with a little kink may start. 
The content produced by YourTango is for informational and educational purposes only. Our website services, content and products are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your doctor before taking any action. See additional information
© 2022 by Tango Publishing Corporation All Rights Reserved.

The 10 most common sexual fantasies
The best sex toys to suit every scenario
Sensory deprivation for sexual pleasure explained

Navee Sangvitoon / EyeEm Getty Images
10 ways to have sex with strangers during lockdown
How to meditate for better sex orgasms
What you need to know about foot fetishes
Rhalou Allerhand
Rhalou is a Digital Editor specialising in health and wellness across Hearst’s titles, covering everything from sexual health to parenting.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
Positions to make female orgasm easier during sex
Anal sex: is it safe and what are the health risks
Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
Can mutual masturbation transform your sex life?
Sore penis tip: symptoms, causes and treatment
Female ejaculation: can you learn to squirt?
What causes bleeding from your penis?

©2022 Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ. Registered in England. All Rights Reserved.


About Netdoctor
Disclaimer
Terms & Conditions
Privacy Notice
Cookies Policy
Contact
Complaints
Sitemap
Advertising



Cookies Choices




We earn a commission for products purchased through some links in this article.



The beginner’s guide to kinky sex, from role play to bondage and beyond.
If you've ever picked up a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey or accidentally wondered into your local Ann Summers store, you might have a vague understanding of what kinky sex entails. But while we can't knock EL James for bringing kink into the public consciousness, the stereotypes depicted in popular culture are often way off the mark.
Kinky sex is a way of experimenting with boundaries in the bedroom which sometimes involves a good spanking, but it also comes with emotional, physical and even spiritual benefits that could improve your relationships and transform your self-esteem. All that from a bit of slap and tickle? Bear with us...
We spoke to Bodyworker and Sex & Intimacy Coach Libby Sheppard, gynaecologist and co-founder of Hanx Sarah Welsh, and sex and dating expert at The Stag Company Clarissa Bloom, about the pros and cons of exploring kinky sex, plus we share 26 expert tips for beginners on how to enjoy a positive, safe and sexy kink experience:
Sexual attitudes have changed and so has society’s perceptions of what is considered risqué in the bedroom. These days kinky sex is best described as anything unconventional – that is to say, outside of kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation and oral sex. But what one person may view as kinky, another might consider vanilla love-making, so it's not an exact science. 'Kinky sex can mean different things to different people and plays out along a broad spectrum,' says Sheppard. 'But it is basically any sexual act that utilises aspects of fantasy, role play or polarity/power dynamics and isn’t limited to penis-in-vagina sex.'
What one person may view as kinky, another might consider vanilla love-making, so it's not an exact science.
The truth is you can set your own kinky parameters. So if you and your partner enjoy experimenting in ways that feel wild and sexy and outlandish to you, then that defines your kink. 'Kinky sex involves something that you enjoy adding to your experience,' says Sheppard. 'Examples of kinky sex might be: acting out sexual fantasies , using toys like butt plugs, floggers or pussy pumps, using restraints or bondage or involving extra people - threesomes, or group sex.'
Attitudes are changing, but stepping outside the boundaries of sexual norms still often comes with a side serving of judgement and may be considered taboo. ‘We recently conducted a survey exploring fantasy with over 600 responses, and unsurprisingly, kink and its many aspects came up again and again,’ says Welsh. ‘It’s not as underground, weird or unusual as some perceive it to be.’
The most common misconception is that kinky sex exclusively involves being trussed up in a gimp suit and spanked into submission.
The most common misconception is that kinky sex exclusively involves being trussed up in a gimp suit and spanked into submission. While this certainly does happen, there is more to kink than BDSM.
There’s also a false perception that the person in the dominant role (AKA the Dom) is the one in control and calling the shots, when often it’s the reverse. ‘Most of the time, the person playing the Dom is performing this act to please their partner whose kink is to be submissive,’ says Bloom.
Sexual gratification aside, kinky sex can benefit your mental health, your self-confidence and even your stress levels. A study from Northern Illinois University found that couples who engaged in positive, consensual sadomasochistic activity had lower cortisol levels – the stress hormone – and reported increased feelings of intimacy.
Understanding what you find arousing is important, as your sexual wellness is an essential element of your wellbeing.
Exploring kink is also technically an act of self-care, explains Welsh. ‘Taking ownership of your pleasure and understanding what you find arousing is really important, as your sexual wellness is an essential element of your overall wellbeing,’ she says.
There’s also the social aspect to consider. Meeting others with similar fantasies in the kink community and finding your 'tribe' can be hugely validating. ‘Being able to talk openly about what turns you on without fear of judgement is an amazing experience and the kink lifestyle has a huge community aspect,’ says Bloom. ‘From local meet-ups to regular events, there are often things going on in each town across the UK.’
Everyone has different limits and boundaries, and it’s important to respect that. Follow our 6 tips to make sure kinky sex is a safe, positive experience for everyone involved:
Keen to give kink a try? The key to exploring your kinky side starts with open, honest communication and fun! So sit down and talk about what turns you on with your other half before you get started. Discussing your sexual desires with a trusted partner can also serve as foreplay and be seriously steamy. So talk about it, plan what you hope to explore together and enjoy the ride! As long as you're all consenting adults, anything goes and the world is your rubber lobster:
Depriving any one of the sensations associated with sexual pleasure can sharpen the rest, so something as simple as switching off the lights can be remarkably erotic. ' Removing one sense can be a simple and safe way to begin with kinky sex,' says Sheppard. 'Try blindfolding your partner or using sound-muffling headphones.'
Restraint can be a part of power play or sensory deprivation, so it adds to feelings of complete submission. It can also be tantalising if you're tied up and unable to resist the tickle of a feather or the sting of an ice cube.
There are a million different ways to restrict someone’s movement. 'Don’t go straight for ropes or silk ties, they can be fiddly to undo quickly and you risk tying them too tight,' advises Sheppard. 'Soft leather handcuffs are a comfortable, pleasurable alternative.' Using shibari rope or bondage tape are also popular ways to experiment with bondage.
If you've ever found yourself on the brink of orgasm but you've managed to hold back for a moment, you will know how tantalising orgasm denial can be. Known as edging, hovering over the precipice of sexual pleasure can prolong the party and make the eventual reward even more intense. Sex toys can really add to this, as you can control your lovers orgasm by simply switching off every time they get close to the edge. Reading up on tantric sex can also help brush up your delayed orgasm skills.
Role play includes everything from fantasy pillow talk to fancy dress. If you're shy and the idea of acting out your sexual fantasies feels rather awkward, role play might surprise you. By adopting a different persona in the bedroom, fans of role play often find it easier to explore sexual situations they might not otherwise feel comfortable with. Popular role play scenarios often involve power play such as boss and secretary, but this is your sexual fantasy so if pretending to be two ponies in a meadow gets you off, don't hold back. Provided you've agreed in advance, role play can bring you closer to your partner and help you live out your wildest dreams - so ride that pony!
Group sex is the epitome of kink and most of us have fantasised about invitin
40 Free Porn Video
Both Holes Porn
Www Horny Babes