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"I'm into restraints and bondage . The feeling of not being able to move or fight against what is being done to me really turns me on. A fantasy of mine is to be completely tied up and be given orgasms nonstop ."
"I'm poly and have a few different kink styles that I really enjoy with various partners ( impact play, primal biting/clawing, a bit of a bimbo fetish at times , etc.). One thing that has really been doing it for me lately has been a form of erotic hypnosis . My partner puts me in a light trance and 'programs' me to focus exclusively on getting my pleasure from serving him."
"Bondage and being tied up really turns me on. A recurring sex fantasy is being locked into one of these in a frat house living room , while the hot frat guys take turns using my holes."
"I really enjoy breath play (choking), pain play (spanking, flogging, etc.), I love bondage, blindfolds, and gags . I also get off on the thought of people watching me but I have never gotten to play with this fantasy outside of my mind. More than anything though I love pleasuring my partner(s) so I am up to try almost anything and everything."
"Not necessarily DD/lg but just a daddy kink . Also being choked, spanked, and having my hair pulled ."
"I've been having sex with the same man for 23 years, so we most definitely experiment to keep those home fires burning bright. More recently, we've dabbled in choking and bondage . I don't know if it's a 'power' thing, but I've never experienced orgasms the way I do when his hands are around my throat and he's calling me his 'little whore'. It's indescribable!"
"I'm into polyandry , as in one woman and two men . Preferably all three in a relationship together."
"I'm really into moderate BDSM , meaning DD/lg, spanking (paddle, belt, hands, and flogger) nipple clamps, choking, being slapped, bondage, gags , etc. I'm also a submissive."
"My boyfriend and I have handcuffs, bed and door restraints, hog ties, a variety of gags and blindfolds, whips, and paddles . We also have dildos, strap-ons, and vibrators . We enjoy using food during sex but not so often as it tends to be a little harder to clear up after! We change between submissive and dominant roles regularly. As much kink as we have, we still love vanilla sex in our relationship."
"Personally for me I like a Dom/sub relationship in the bedroom, preferably with someone else who is a switch so we can both take turns. Along with this is spanking, and bondage , as well as some role-play occasionally. Oh yeah, and wax play if we both feel up to it."
" Feet definitely, watersports if i'm in the mood, and spit too."
"I am a sucker for being flogged with wide-fall heavy hide floggers. Crops are fun, and restraints too, or being restrained (held down by my jaw, or face down with a hand on the base of my neck)."
"I'm really into sadism and masochism in a severely rough sex kind of way. I also enjoy being tied up and engaging in certain types of role-play . It took me a long time to come to terms with my kinks, but I'm glad I'm finally able to open up about them."
Note: submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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By Tom Miller — Written on Sep 08, 2016
As much as it’s against my personal creed, I’ll be honest for a second. Upon receiving this assignment, I had to look up kinky in the dictionary because I’m a chili cheese fries kinda guy when it comes to sex : meat and potatoes, and a little cheesy.
Internet dictionary defines kinky as “involving or given to unusual sexual behavior.” And I’ll be damned if the word “unusual” doesn’t plop into this whole operation like a number two shot out of a t-shirt cannon.
For some folks, “unusual” may mean leaving the lights on , and for others it may mean being pegged by a criminally insane drifter they met at the grand opening of a Starbucks. But if drunk convos with my friends and lurking around YourTango informs me of anything, most of us are somewhere deliciously between these two things.
For most dudes, the whole kinky thing is about novelty . For others, it’s about unresolved formative trauma. And, if you’re lucky, both. Let’s concentrate on novelty. Periodically it’s gratifying to convince our caveman brains that we’re ensuring our genetics are passed as widely as possible even if we’re not Ashley Madison-ing it up out there.
Here are 10 things kinky women are seriously great at doing that men seriously dig:
When in doubt, just go with “[verb expletive] my [noun expletive], baby.”
Put his hands on your throat if you like being choked. Asked to be spanked if that’s your thing . And if you're interested in having your hair pulled , just do it doggie-style.
Own (and wear) completely impractical lingerie. I don’t know how it’s possible, but thigh-high stockings are somehow sexier than no stockings at all.
Be aggressive. Request position changes. Tell him what you want to do to him and, if you want to choke him, there are like 0.0001 percent of guys who may be cool with it.
Insist on him not using his hands once in a while. But don't let him go hands-free too much or he'll get lazy.
Take precautions that it doesn’t end up in Kris Jenner ’s hands, but saying you want to "watch" it later is melt-your-face-off-like- Raiders-Of-The-Lost-Ark hot.
Explore yourself with your finger and then put it in his mouth. If you’re feeling fun, do the same with his finger and your mouth .
I'm not even sure if you should ask. I know I know, social contract. I know women have decided they hate 69-ing , so face the other direction and "concentrate" on your magic.
Be exceptionally clear where you want his DNA to go , even if it’s to be Spider-Man -ed directly into one of the cheaper towels.
Go out and get (mildly) freaky. You’ll be surprised what a virtuous cycle stepping out of your comfort zone with a little kink may start.
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Yup, there are more flavors to sex than just vanilla.
Whether you realize it or not, kinks and fetishes play a pretty big role in mainstream sexuality. If Fifty Shades 's “ red room ” didn’t cue you in, songs like Rihanna’s “S&M” and Netflix’s show Sex/Love are examples enough.
But before we dive into the specifics of what these look like, let's break down what it means to have a kink or fetish.
According to Merriam Webster , a kink is "unconventional sexual taste or behavior." In other words, this is anything that goes above and beyond strictly vanilla sex. It's used to indicate something that gives you pleasure and isn’t a run-of-the-mill interaction sort of thing, says sex therapist Liz Powell , PhD.
This could mean the thought of using handcuffs, trying a butt plug, and/or feeling a leather flogger on your booty turns you on.
Keep in mind that a kink is different than a fetish though. A fetish is “an extreme amount of interest in a person, a thing, or a non-sexual body part,” says sexuality professional and mental health clinician Shanae Adams . (Basically, a kink is something that turns you on whereas a fetish is something you need in order to get turned on.)
If someone has a foot fetish for example, it means that they would need to receive or give some sort of foot stimulation in order to experience an orgasm.
Now regardless of whether you have a kink, a fetish, a few sexual interests, or just prefer vanilla sex, the key element is the same: consent. As long as everything’s consensual , there’s really no right or wrong way to have sex. Especially since sexual interests vary from person to person and there are tons out there to learn about and explore.
So for your pleasure, here's a list of the most common kinks, fetishes, and sexual terms to get well-acquainted with.
Role-playing is one of the most common kinks and involves playing characters outside of your day-to-day lives , usually as part of a sex scene. This can range from tossing on a tie and pretending to be the boss of your partner, channeling your favorite TV character , or even creating a whole, character-filled scenario.
Whether it's a kink or a fetish, objectification means "arousal by being dehumanized," explains Rogue. For example, someone who wants to be used as a sex doll or as a sex object would have an objectification kink (or fetish, if that's the only way they can get off). It's important to note this is different than an objectum kink or fetish. People with objectum fantasies have sexual relationships (or attraction to) inanimate objects.
As the name suggests, a pregnancy fetish is having an intense sexual attraction to some or all aspects of pregnancy. For some people, it might be the round belly, whereas for other, it could be the lactation—whether it’s the actual act of breastfeeding or the milk itself—explains Adams.
In a sexual context, “ exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which the person feels sexual arousal at the idea or reality of being seen naked or engaged in sexual activities by others,” clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon previously told Cosmopolitan . If you’re into the thought of someone watching you masturbate or change or get it on, this one's for you.
“ Voyeurism is getting sexual excitement from watching others when they are naked or engaging in sex acts,” says Jill McDevitt, PhD, CalExotics sexologist. And while the pleasure is most commonly derived from watching others, the fetish could also include hearing others engage in sexual acts or even being told about other people’s sexual experiences.
According to Dr. Powell, foot fetishes are "shockingly common," and usually seen in people with penises . People with foot fetishes may be submissives, meaning they have a desire to "worship" at someone's feet through kissing and massage or by even giving a pedicure, Dr. Powell explains. Other people enjoy an aspect of humiliation and want to be stomped on or have smelly feet on their faces.
Going hand-in-hand with foot fetishes , a nylon fetish is—you guessed it—someone who needs nylons to feel arousal. This could mean you like the look and feel of them or like touching someone's legs in nylon stockings (or like to wear them yourself). Like with most fetishes, this could also be a kink if it's something you don't need , but kinda like. Either way, get yourself some stockings and get to playing.
Okay, so breath play refers to the BDSM practice of having your breathing restricted during sexual activity—but it's not exactly safe (for obvious reasons). A healthier, better alternative: Holding your own breath. Not only do you get to experience breath play, but you're completely in control of when you choose or not to breathe. The excitement of the action, plus the excitement of the power exchange, is a great alternative, suggests Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Queen, PhD.
" BDSM is a catch-all acronym for several different aspects of the kink community," Dr. Powell explains. "The B and D are for bondage and discipline, the D and S are for domination and submission, and the S and M are for sadism and masochism." All BDSM involves a consensual power exchange , which means a submissive partner consents to letting the dominant power take control through various scenes.
A "scene" is a term for the time period in which the kinky play goes down . While you might refer to a night of sex as simply a hook-up, those within the kink community often referred to planned time with partners, in which they engage in their shared kinks, as "scenes."
A dominant is someone who enjoys dominating their partner through various kinky activities. These can be physical—like choking—or mental—like calling someone names . The submissive partner enjoys being dominated, and being the one who is consensually tied up, slapped, or humiliated.
"Usually when we hear people use terms like ‘dominant’ or ‘submissive' to describe themselves, these are more identity-based than action-based," Cameron Glover , sex educator and Sex Ed in Color podcast host, explains. "But these don't have to be set in stone—there are people that use these terms interchangeably."
A switch is someone, who as Glover mentions above, "switches" between dominant and submissive roles.
A sadist is someone who (consensually) derives sexual pleasure out of inflicting physical pain or psychological humiliation on their partner . Masochism, or someone who identifies as a masochist, is someone who derives sexual pleasure out of receiving pain or humiliation . If this feels similar to the dominant and submissive dynamic, that’s because it is. But not all dominants identify as sadists, and the same goes for submissives and masochists.
Golden showers are a form of piss play (which, yes, is any play involving urine). Golden showers specifically refer to peeing on a partner, as Glover explains. "So beyond golden showers, piss play (also called 'urophilia') can include peeing on or in different body parts, clothes wetting, or making a partner hold in their pee as part of the scene play," Glover says.
"Edge play in kink is any kind of activity that is further out there and considered more dangerous," Dr. Powell says. What qualifies as edge play is different for everyone. It could mean anything that involves blood or breaking the skin with certain whips, and there are others who enjoy knife and needle play. For some, golden showers may be a regular part of their routine, but for others, that counts as edge play. Dr. Powell says that anything involving intense physical pain is typically considered edge play, but sometimes in kink, the most intense scenes involve only psychological edge play.
RACK is not a kink, even though it sounds like on e. It stands for "risk aware consensual kink," and is the most common guideline kinksters live by to make sure all parties are safe. There's another acronym, SSC, which stands for safe, sane, and consensual, but RACK is used more commonly, since what’s considered "sane" varies so drastically from one person to the next.
The idea of RACK is not that you find a way to eliminate all risks, but that you consider holistically all of the risks that might come up or be involved, Dr. Powell explains, and "then decide how you want to manage those and if that is a risk that feels good for you."
Like most kinks, erotic humiliation exists on a spectrum . It can mean a dominant partner consensually calling their submissive partner names like "slut" during sex. It can also be as extreme as someone being consensually "forced" to watch their partner have sex with someone else in front of them.
Cuckolding is a form of the aforementioned erotic humiliation of watching your partner have sex with someone else. And yes, it’s where the term "cuck" came from . A cuck is a submissive who identities as male and gets off on his partner having sex with someone else , usually a more "traditionally" masculine person. Sometimes the cuck will watch from the corner of the room. Sometimes the cuck will be verbally mocked for having a smaller penis while their partner has sex with someone else, and sometimes the cuck is forced to stay at home, getting off on the knowledge that their partner is out having sex with someone bigger and stronger than them.
Aftercare isn’t technically a kink, but it’s another word that anyone engaging in kinky play needs to know. It’s basically a fancy word for checking in with one another after a scene to make sure all parties feel happy and comfortable with what happened. "It can include cleaning up the space you were in, putting away any toys that were used, and checking in on each other’s mental space," Dr. Powell says. If anything about the scene felt off or you didn’t like, it’s also a great time to discuss that and make sure the next time is better.
Most people hear "CBT" and think of cognitive behavioral therapy, a form of therapy that focuses on regulating emotional responses and developing helpful coping mechanisms. But in the world of kink, CBT refers to cock and ball torture . It’s fairly self-explanatory, and usually involves a dominatrix inflicting consensual pain on a submissive’s geni
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