Japanese Husband Goes 20 Years

Japanese Husband Goes 20 Years
8:46PM Wednesday, August 31st, 2022
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A JAPANESE man engaged in an epic sulk and refused to talk to his wife for 20 years after she upset him despite still living together.
A JAPANESE man engaged in a sulk of epic proportions after refusing to talk to his wife for 20 years despite living in the same house as her.
Otou Yumi shared the home with his wife, Katayama, and their three children in Nara, southern Japan.
Katayama tried making conversation but only ever received a nod or a grunt in response, Mail Online reported .
The two-decade long silent treatment was revealed by the couple’s son Yoshiki, 18, who wrote to a TV show asking them to intervene.
The show brought the pair together at a nearby park as their children watched on from a distance.
“You were so concerned about the kids,” her husband responds, adding. “Yumi up until now, you have endured a lot of hardship. I want you to know I’m grateful for everything.”
As their daughters are seen becoming emotional, Otou goes on to explain that he has been giving her the cold shoulder out of jealously for the attention lavished on the children.
“I was kind of ... jealous. I was sulking about it. There’s no going back now I guess.”
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One Japanese husband was so jealous, he refused to speak to his wife for 20 years -- despite sharing a house with her.
The couple's 18-year-old son, Yoshiki, reached out to a TV show for help after explaining his father had spent 20 years living with his wife, Yumi, in silence.
Their three children recall watching their father rebuff every one of their mother's attempts at conversation in the past two decades. Instead, Otou would only respond with grunts and nods.
When the TV show forced him to finally speak, his reason stunned many: he envied the attention Yumi gave to their children.
"I was kind of ... jealous," he said on the show. "I was sulking about it. There's no going back now I guess."
The show forced Otou into meeting with Yumi at the same park in which they had shared their first date.
There, it appears, he revealed he may have realized the error of his ways.
"You were so concerned about the kids," were some of Otou's first words to his wife in 20 years. "Somehow it's been awhile since we talked. Yumi, up until now, you have endured a lot of hardship. I want you to know I'm grateful for everything."
While his children looked on with happiness, many worldwide expressed their shock and anger on social media, with many calling the man "immature."
"Is this intended to be a 'feel good' story?" asked one YouTube user on a video of the incident posted by Online News. "Because it isn't. This petty f*** ignored his spouse for 20 years out of jealousy against his own children ... Honestly, these levels of selfishness are usually reserved for fictional cartoon villains. "
Others debated whether or not the mother should have left.
"Why waste 20 years not talking to your other half?" wondered one user, echoing the sentiments of many others.
Yet another user, however, disagreed.
"Older Japanese still feel a great sense of moral duty," the user said. "Perhaps a little too much -- it's good she didn't leave him, but it's bad they never talked."

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It’s been presented as a lighthearted story, but reports of a Japanese husband who stopped speaking to his wife 20 years ago fits the pattern for coercive control
S ince in 2016 turning on the news invariably resulted in a rush of negativity, it’s fair to say that by 31 December we were all fed up with the prevailing sense of doom. This perhaps explains why a story – the authenticity of which has been questioned – about a Japanese husband who didn’t speak to his wife for 20 years was reported as a bizarre-yet-comical, and ultimately cheery, item. Better that than to see it as an example of coercive control , something violence against women’s charities have been highlighting for decades.
Last December, ironically rather close to the dawn of the year just gone, some types of controlling domestic abuse became a crime in the UK, punishable by up to five years’ imprisonment. For many though, their understanding of “domestic violence” remains limited to its physical manifestations.
Thus, the Daily Mail and the Sun are happy to report on what they are saying is a true story of a father-of-three from Nara in southern Japan, who has continued to live with his wife despite only ever responding to her attempts at conversation with a nod or grunt. That this might be less a comedy and more a peep into how coercive control operates isn’t dwelled upon in these articles.
The drive to cover it at all is based on this being viewed as a strange but harmless story of the ups and downs inherent in marriage. Nowhere is time given to ponder what, if this story is genuine, would be the grim reality for a woman who was treated like this. Neither is there consideration of what levels of emotional resilience had been worn away to make her remain with a man who grunted responses to her despite them raising an 18-, 21- and 25-year-old. Or to consider the emotional impact of the children seeing their father demean their mother in such a way. The story is instead presented under the jokey headline The Incredible Sulk , without understanding the irony of this pun, with its allusions to explosive rage and violence, and relying on tired gendered stereotypes of the miserable husband and long-suffering wife.
The Mail’s take on the story (a version one commentator believes is an example of fake news and poor fact checking), has been shared 17,000 times. If anyone cares to they can watch the couple meeting and talking at the place where it’s said that they had their first date. Footage comes courtesy of the TV show their 18-year-old son had written into, telling of how he had never heard his parents in conversation together.
As is typical, the wife is blamed for the abuse she has suffered, while her husband admits that he was “jealous” that she was “very involved and busy in raising the kids”. Laughter can be heard when the husband says he intends to speak to his wife after their filmed reconciliation, to which she says she is “grateful”. Again – the urge to see the funny side of things. Reporting like this, which fails to acknowledge the humiliation this woman may have suffered, or to accept that the jealousy that fuelled the sulk is not a sign of love but an example of coercive control, shows how far we have yet to go in publicising the complexities of domestic violence.
Psychological coercion is central to how an abuser maintains their power and yet there persists the focus on physical violence. Trying to turn a story that should make us question the intricacies and impact of such behaviour into a light news item merely perpetuates the problem. It means that the impact on a person who is in a relationship that is emotionally and physically threatening is minimised. And under such conditions it is far easier to believe survivors are catastrophising their perception of reality. These are the types of arguments perpetrators make to those who they are abusing in order to justify their abuse. It is an effective tool for silencing victims.
Coercive control is, thankfully, now on the radar. Last year’s domestic violence storyline on The Archers made listeners aware that it is more complicated than looking out for bruises, and a wider understanding of the issue can only be a good thing. Yet simplistic assessments of domestic violence situations which see the only problem as the woman’s unwillingness to “just leave” continue to fail victims. Instead what is needed is greater appreciation of how coercive control works. That, I’m afraid, is not cheery news but it will go some way towards helping those suffering to be seen and heard.

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