Is It Normal For Girls To Watch Porn

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Is watching porn bad for you? And is it legal for underage people to watch it?
I get a version of these questions from readers all the time. There are seldom any specifics attached — just a vague sense that seeking out porn on the internet is somehow morally bad or wrong. A smaller number of readers are worried they’ll get arrested for viewing it.
I’ll break the suspense: Porn, as an abstract concept, is not morally bad or wrong. Technically, it’s also not illegal for teens to watch it. It is illegal for an adult to show a minor pornography , and any form of watching or distributing child porn is illegal, as it well should be. (This is also why texting one’s own nude selfies is legally risky depending on the state you're in). Basically, if a teen seeks out porn on their own — and chances are extremely high that they have or will — they’re not going to get arrested.
Even though porn is legal and easily accessible nowadays, I still highly recommend exercising caution while consuming it. Porn can be a great way to explore fantasies and stoke arousal, and plenty of people watch porn with no adverse effect on their lives. But porn does contain some ethical, emotional, and educational landmines that you should dodge whenever possible. Here are some questions to think about if you find yourself seeking out porn, regardless of whether you’re over 18:
I want to be super-crystal clear about something: Porn is not a substitute for sex education! It makes total sense that you’re watching porn because you’re curious about sex, especially considering the country’s embarrassingly subpar sex education curricula. But watching porn to learn about sex is, as one sex educator put it , “like watching The Fast and the Furious to learn how to drive.” To say that most porn is unrealistic is an understatement; some porn creators care more about realism than others, but in many cases the wild positions, dramatic moans, and effortless female orgasms play out more like outlandish caricatures of real sex. And the vast majority of porn seems to be made with the male gaze in mind, placing little focus on the specifics of female pleasure or desire.
Beyond that, some porn can send straight-up damaging messages about sex. We don’t often see safer sex practiced in porn, which is crucial to prevent STIs and unwanted pregnancy, and enthusiastic consent is a vital step often skipped during on-screen sex.
In other words, porn can be fine for a little inspiration, but if you’re looking for actual information about sex, I’d urge you to check out some sex ed books or educational websites like Scarleteen instead. (Or past Down to Find Out columns !)
There are some anti-porn advocates who claim that all pornography is inherently violent against women, that it’s hopelessly steeped in the most negative images and values. I don’t believe that to be the case. What I do believe is that porn is created in a society that can be misogynist, racist, and exploitative, and is therefore often going to reflect those things, just like other forms of mass media.
Fantasy is far from a cut-and-dried issue, and it often depends on the context. Porn that portrays fantasies about nonconsensual sex , for instance, isn’t necessarily misogynist if it centers all characters’ pleasure and agency. The next time you come across seemingly racist or sexist porn, give some thought as to whether the porn you’re watching is self-aware and feminist , rather than simply reproducing bigotry. Here’s a great exploration of what feminist porn can entail.
It’s also worth looking into whether the porn was produced in a legal, safe, and pro-worker environment. It’s of course not easy to discern this from a random Pornhub clip, so you usually have to seek out (and pay for) content that specifically advertises itself as “ethical porn.” Following and directly paying the performers, not the sites or production companies, is a good way to know for sure whether the porn you’re consuming is ethical.
Some people watch lots of porn and feel totally fine afterwards, and others discover that too much of it, or certain kinds of porn, takes a toll on their emotional state, mental health, romantic relationships, or productivity. There’s no objective answer here about how much is “too much” or “too extreme,” and many researchers are dubious of the concept of “porn addiction.” Still, it’s worthwhile to be mindful of how porn affects you personally, and adjust your behavior accordingly.
Bottom line? Watching porn (or wanting to) doesn’t make you weird, sick, or bad—but it’s still a smart idea, especially if you’re brand-new to it, to be extra-careful while consuming it. Lots of us pay close attention to whether our food, clothes, and household products were made ethically. Why not be a conscious porn consumer, too?
I masturbate to videos of people falling asleep and bobbing their heads while traveling. Am I normal? Is something wrong with me? Is this habit of mine going to be a setback while doing actual intercourse?
I cannot stress this enough: You are normal! A bobbing-head fantasy might be a bit unusual, but that doesn’t mean it’s harmful. The origins of fantasies are somewhat mysterious; researchers think they’re hatched from a combination of social and biological factors. Like you, many people feel ashamed and worried about their sexual fantasies, but it’s best to just accept your quirky mind for what it is. If you’re feeling brave, you may even want to disclose this to your next sex partner. I wouldn’t count on them sharing your fantasy, per se, but perhaps they’d be game for a role play — especially because this fantasy can be reproduced in real life without any complex ethical issues.
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How often do you watch porn? And would you consider that a healthy amount or are you compulsive about it?
Watching porn has become the norm for many who use it to spice things up in the bedroom or while away lonely nights.
But new research suggests that not all porn viewers are the same and, instead, can be split into three groups.
What’s concerning, though, is that only one of those groups is considered healthy.
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine revealed there are recreational, compulsive and distressed porn viewers.
Recreational viewers account for 75 percent of all participants in the study, watching an average of 24 minutes of porn a week.
This group consisted of mainly women and people in relationships.
It was closely followed by the distressed group, who watched porn for the least amount of time – about 17 minutes per week.
As the name suggests, the distressed group associate their emotional distress with watching X-rated material.
Then there is the compulsive group.
This group may have made up just 11.8 percent of the participants, but watched a staggering 110 minutes of porn per week.
Researchers discovered that men were more likely to fall into this category.
The experts from Université Laval in Quebec who conducted the study said only those who were recreational viewers were healthy porn watchers.
To conduct the study, the researchers asked 830 people to report how often they watched porn, then measured it against how compulsive their porn habits were and their level of distress while viewing porn.
Recreational users reported higher sexual satisfaction and lower sexual compulsiveness, avoidance and dysfunction.
Compulsive users experienced lower sexual satisfaction and dysfunction and higher sexual compulsiveness and avoidance.
Those who were highly distressed but watched porn less were sexually less satisfied and reported less sexual activity and more sexual dysfunction and avoidance.
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The experts concluded that the study “confirms the existence of recreational and compulsive profiles but also demonstrates the existence of an important subgroup of not particularly active, yet highly distressed consumers.”
But while the majority who watch porn appear to be able to do so in a healthy manner, it can be a problem for some.
It is still not classified as a true addiction, but some researchers believe a person can become addicted to watching porn in the same way they can become addicted to drugs and alcohol.
Others argue that there is not enough evidence to support it being treated as an addiction.

Watching Porn is Normal and Natural — Even for Kids
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How fondly do we remember the days when the dirtiest thing we would find in a kid’s room was a copy of Penthouse? How innocent we all were. Goodbye, innocence — and hello there, technology. Today, a quick online search will reveal that the average age of first Internet porn exposure is 11, and that “sex” is in the top five search terms used by boys and girls from under the age of 7 up through 18. If you’ve been waiting for the right time to talk to your kids about Internet porn, well, tick tock.
In the old story about “The Emperor’s New Clothes,” all of the adults were so afraid of looking foolish because they couldn’t see the clothes (sold by a couple of conmen) that supposedly only the wise could see. The result? They said nothing. The story concludes with the Emperor running for all his dignity because a wise child blurted out that the Emperor was naked. In this morality tale, we’re the adults who couldn’t talk about the nudity, errr, porn, and our children are saying, “Well, would you look at that? They’re naked!”
The point is that our silence on the subject renders us as irrelevant know-nothings while our children design, build, and execute a personal tutorial on what sex is all about. This point leads us to a modern moral position: “Parents who care about kids talk about porn.” But what to say?
I hate to break it to you, but you’ll have a more difficult time with this conversation if sexuality isn’t already an accepted and regular part of family dialogue. Now you want to talk? Or maybe we just wait until big brother comes home with a pregnant girlfriend? At this point, if sexuality hasn’t been a very, very regular topic, then there is no way that bringing up Internet porn will be a comfortable icebreaker. But comfortable or not, here goes.
First: Normalize their interest. Any interest in pornography from the young is perfectly normal. They’re very curious about a subject that is very important, and no one’s talking. Apologize about that, and move on after you commit to doing better in the future.
Second: Normalize their excitement. If you like sex (and we all know you do so don’t deny it), then you know that no one dislikes viewing attractive people. There’s nothing odd about sexual beings liking the look of beautiful people who are sexually aroused doing sexual things. Tell your child their interest is “perfectly understandable.”
Third: Please don’t start shaming your child or preaching. Yes, I’m asking you to avoid the urge to universally condemn porn, which in reality can be one element of a fun and engaging sex life. But more on that in a future column.
Last: Please start (or, perhaps, continue?) a years-long conversation about what’s great about sex. How wonderful it is. How wonderful that first kiss felt and how wonderful kissing still feels. Tell them how close you feel to your partner when you have sex and how you’re still feeling the same feelings only more so as you get even closer over the years. If you’re brave and have a suitably tawdry past, then let them know that sex with people you didn’t know wasn’t even close to what you have learned about intimate sex.
These conversations about healthy relationships — with an undercurrent of the importance and benefits of intimacy, which is a crucial missing component of porn — will help them tire of porn sooner rather than later.
Article originally appeared in the Reno Gazette-Journal.
Got questions about sexuality you’d like Marriage and Family Therapist Steven Ing to address in a future column? Tweet @StevenIngMFT or email askING@stevening.com .
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If you’re a teenager reading this article, the chances are you’ve already watched porn. It may have been on your phone, laptop, tablet, or – as the classic response goes – you happened to maybe see some pictures on your friend’s phone that one time.
Whatever the case may be for you, research shows that about 67% of 13-year-old boys and about 40% of 13-year-old girls have seen at least one pornographic image on some sort of digital device in the past year. Those numbers jump up toward the end of adolescence. Research shows that by the age of 18, over 90% of boys and over 60% of girls have seen porn in some form or other.
But you already know that, since you’re a teenager. You don’t need our data to tell you what you just (maybe) experienced last week (on your friend’s phone).
There are plenty of reasons to watch pornography or view pornographic images. You probably didn’t expect this article to go in this direction, but let’s not fool ourselves: people watch porn for the same basic reason people have sex.
It feels good. There are more reasons, but that’s pretty much it.

Sex also has different meanings in different religions, mostly related to marriage. They’re very serious about it, but we won’t go there in this article.
Porn education often fails in this country for a reason similar to why sex education often fails. Educators aren’t willing to say what everyone knows: people mostly watch porn for the feeling it gives them. It’s also a way to have a new experience and break the rules in a way that seems like it doesn’t have serious consequences. You may watch and then share porn with your friends to show how mature or worldly you are – also, for the most part, without consequences.
The thing is, watching porn does have consequences.
Time to pull back the curtain on this article.
There’s a person here, writing these words – me. When I write articles like these, I typically use the third person “we” pronoun, or avoid using it altogether, and simply convey useful information on a topic. I do research, I try to construct smart-sounding sentences, and I offer real facts backed by links to peer-reviewed journal articles, like I did above.
But for this article, I want to talk straight to you. Like I talked to my nephew last Thanksgiving. When I talk to him about sex and drugs, I don’t pull out journal articles and spew facts about neurobiology and adolescent development.
Well, I do talk facts, but who walks around with articles? Not me. I’m a grown-up. I’ve watched porn and I’ve had sex. I also studied neurobiology and writing in college. I ca
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