Is He Just Shy

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Is He Just Shy or is He Not Interested Quiz

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Sometimes it could be hard to tell if a guy is just shy or not interested in you or losing interest in you because guys could be tough to read sometimes, which leaves women wondering (more like overthinking as women love to do!). Maybe he’s not entirely sure how he feels and is giving mixed signals, or perhaps there is something else holding him … Read More back. Or maybe he means nothing by it and just gets busy at times, unintentionally seeming uninterested due to other things in life. Regardless of the reasons, if you need to know how to tell if he is just shy or not interested in you, take this short quiz to find out! Read Less
1. Is he shy around everyone or just around you?
B. I think he’s more shy around me, but seems shy in general
C. Definitely shy around everyone. He’s just a shy guy
2. Do you always have to initiate the conversation?
3. How does he react when you initiate conversation with him?
A. Somewhat reserved and sometimes uninterested
C. He seems engaged and excited when I initiate conversation
A. Yes/I can imagine him doing that
C. No, I can’t imagine him ever doing that
6. Have his friends said anything to you?
A. His friends have mentioned he’s interested, but just shy
B. Yes, they said he is shy but never indicated if he was interested
7. Does he ever seem awkward around you?
8. Do you feel desperate when you try your moves on him?
C. No, he always seems more than happy I did
9. Has he ever hinted that he had a crush on you?
B. Not actually said it, but definitely hinted at it
C. He awkwardly told me once he did, but I think he is just too shy to make moves
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Is he uninterested. . . or just shy?
Men are supposed to be the insigators in the relationship, but you're fed up with all the arrogant guys hitting on you at the bar. No wonder you've fallen for that soft-spoken, sensitive fella. He's sweet, he's sensitive and he's adorable. He sneaks you bashful glances and smiles like a puppy. Behind his mysterious, impassive veneer, you bet there's a passionate Romeo waiting to emerge.
You like him and you give him signs that you enjoy his company, but he's still not making a move. What gives? Is he shy or just not that into you? It's driving you crazy to sit back and wait for him to finally step up. You're afraid you might wait forever. So why not just ask him out? You can, but chances are you won't because you're reading this. This article can help you decipher whether he is shy or not interested, and some actions you can take to find out.
Not all quiet guys are alike. There are different factors that contribute to why he's reserved, and you might even find his behaviour confusing and inconsistent. Some days he's more outgoing than other days. He could be affected by mood, energy level, environment and the people he is interacting with. Shyness is not a constant thing.
Society anxiety is a catch-22 because he wishes he could just stop caring what other people think, but he can't. He's afraid of making a fool of himself, so he ends up worrying, overanalysing and judging himself to express himself properly. He might be prone to blushing, or even stuttering. He might reply on one-word answers because he's afraid of saying something stupid. Growing up, he might have not felt accepted just by being himself. After age 8, people tend to censor themselves in order to be accepted. Buy Beware: Self-esteem issues. If you're the first real girlfriend he's ever had, he might be clingy, afraid that you'll leave him because he sees little worth in his own company.
Introverted people make up 30% of the population, but they comprise of the majority of creative types. Introverts are different from shy people because they might not have social anxiety issues. They are simply wired differently from extroverts. Extroverts get their energy from being around other people and talking a lot. Introverts can socialize too, but their energy will be drained from social interaction, and they often need time alone to recharge before they can go out again after a big social night, like a party or even going out for dinner in a restaurant with a few friends. If he doesn't recharge, he might get cranky. Note that Introverts will have different shades of extrovert qualities and vice versa. Buyer Beware: If you're a social butterfly, or at least enjoy socializing with groups of friends on the weekend, you need to understand that an introverted guy might not want to go out as much as you would like to. If you force him to that dinner party or nightclub, he might get moody. Compromise by going out on one night and staying in on another. If you can't, you'll have to find someone more compatible with your lifestyle.
He's the strong and silent type. Or so it seems. There's numerous reasons why he can be passive. It might just be his personality. He might be good looking and have been spoiled by women initiating conversations and taking the lead in relationships. Maybe he's unsure of his gender role in modern society where females are now encouraged to be more aggressors, and just goes along with whatever women tell him to do. He might've even been a mama's boy who has been babied into adulthood. He's used to making little effort in relationships because it has worked for him so far. Buyer Beware: If you want a guy to take the lead in relationships, this guy might be frustrating for the woman looking for equal partnership.
He's attracted to women, but he naturally has more feminine energy than the average guy. For that reason, he needs a woman with more masculin energy. You attract your opposite, according to the masculin-feminine polarity. If you're an alpha female, you are probably not reading this article because you're fine with doing the chasing. Buyer Beware: If you're a girly girl, run! If you don't want continue to attract feminine guys, you might have too much masculine energy. That pushes away the masculine guys who would take initiative. I recommend the book The Tao of Dating. There's great advice on how to reconnect with your feminine side.
He doesn't fit in a particular social group because he's "different". There are said to be two kinds of loners: ones who are too "dumb" and others who are too "smart". He might feel too inferior, or has not been socially accepted by the cool crowd, so he is comfortable alone. On the other hand, he might feel superior to others. Buy Beware: If you want a boyfriend who can mingle with your friends and families with ease, he might not have the social skills or sensitivity to do so.
Maybe he's not any of the above. He's sensitive, he's considerate, and he seems to genuinely like you. The real reason why he hasn't made a move might be because he was hurt in a previous relationship. Or several. He needs time to recuperate before he can consider dating someone new. Buyer Beware: If he's been hurt, he might transfer some of the pain and trust issues to your relationship. He might suddenly snap at you and become suspicious for no reason. If you're okay with dealing with some with relationship baggage, proceed. Remember that every guy is different. You might have a combination of these things.
It's important to understand why you like someone who is reluctant to show all his cards. Have you always been attracted to shy guys, or is he the first one who has peaked your interest? Do you like being the huntress and chase guys, displaying all your charms to win them over? Do you like a bit of mystery in a guy? Are you so used to being pursued by men that you're dumbfounded and intrigued by why he's not the same as the others? Are you shy too, and feel like you understand him? Are you simply attracted to him - his looks, his voice, the way he walks, his apparent innocence? Think about what might happen after you get him. Right now, you might not know him as well as you think you do. Maybe you've projected your idea of your fantasy guy onto him because you don't know him well enough and he's a blank slate.
Once you've nabbed him, you might lose interest if you were only in it for the chase. Once he stroked your ego by confirming that you're worthy and attractive, you might realize that you don't like him after all. And you might even cause him pain by dropping him so quickly.
Don't fall into delusions about what you think he is like. The problem with quiet guys, more than the average guy, is that they're harder to open up so you have to fill in the blanks. He might not be displaying all the other signs of attraction as other guys will. After you pinpoint the reasons why you think you like him, and you are still interested in pursuing this guy, then there's no stopping you. Read on.
Using the L.I.P.S. Method to Convey Your Interest
The L.I.P.S. Methods may sound simple, but most women don't do this enough for it to work.
Stand with your body directed toward him. Tilt your head slightly to the side. This is a posture to show your interest in a subtle way. Don't do this with a married or an attached guy, as it's quite powerful in showing your interest.
Hear what he is saying. Contribute, but make sure that he's doing at least 75% of the talking. Especially on the first few dates. The point is to get him talking about himself, so he can share and let you know what he is worth. Alpha females might find this hard. Don't get competitive and butting in with your accomplishments. Really listen and have interest in what he's saying. Have follow up questions. Don't be too intense or stare him down. Make eye contact (but blink!), nod. Smile, look away, make eye contact again. If you're the funny type, make a few jokes. You can tease him a bit, but don't insult him.
The shy guy needs more patience to be drawn out. They might not have had too much experience with women and find it difficult to read your signals. He may need some time to grasp that you are genuinely interested. Don't be pushy. You're not a car salesman. Remember that shy or not, he needs to make effort to earn the right to be with you.
Give him a big, genuine smile when you see him and before you leave. Look him in the eyes and give him a deep smile. If you're walking to him, don't look at him until you're close enough to see the colour of his eyes, than maintain friendly eye contact. This will make you seem warm and inviting. The eye contact will give him a jolt of electricity.
Okay, so you've done all you could to convey that you're interested in a light, fun way. If he's still impassive and not initiating conversations when you see each other, he might not be the right guy for you. Do you really want a guy who doesn't make an effort to initiate dates, plan things, or even string together a decent sentence? If the shy guy is starting to come out of his shell, then great! He still needs to make the move, but you've done all you can to be warm and accepting on your end.

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Some men are naturally shy. However, some of them try their best to overcome their shyness when they meet a woman that they really like. There are also some guys who are not able to overcome their shyness at all. This is why it can be quite hard to tell whether a guy is just timid or if he’s really just not into you. They say women are complicated but most likely, those who believe that have never met a timid guy.
Here are some things that will help you recognize a shy guy and one who is just not interested.
This is perhaps not the easiest way to know whether he is not interested or just shy but it will lead you to a more accurate conclusion. If he has an established reputation among his friends and family as a naturally shy person, then it will be easy to tell if he is interested in you or not.
You need to observe him closely whenever he is talking to you. A shy guy would be fidgeting or he may not be able to look you in the eye but a guy who is just not interested will generally look disinterested or will try to deflect your attempts at conversation.
If the guy exerts effort to talk to you, it usually means something. This is even more so when the guy is actually shy. Often, his attempts to make a conversation will come out awkward. So, when a shy guy says something weird, it just means that he is exerting effort to talk to you.
If a guy is simply shy, then he may just not find the courage to initiate an interaction with you. In such cases, you can try to make a subtle first move, just enough to make him feel that he can easily approach you and if he is interested, he will most likely bite the bait. He may not start conversations but he may look happy and enthusiastic once you make the first move. However, if you already made the first move and he did not pay much attention, then it is most likely that he is not interested at all.
Some shy people are not so when it comes to writing letters (or more common in this day and age, messaging). A shy guy may not talk to you a lot in person but he may text you more often than other people.
High school never really ends. Friends just cannot help themselves but make the first move for their friend especially if that friend is a shy one. If he likes you, you may have heard it once or twice from his friends.
If a guy is just shy, then you need to prepare yourself because it is more likely that you will be making the first move often. However, if he’s not into you, then maybe it’s time to move on.

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He possibly doesn't know how/when to initiate so you might have to just ask him if he likes you or keep guessing
It could be that, his friends know that he has a crush on you, and so he might be shy/uncomfortable talking to you on front of them, since they might tease him about it.
What do you mean you are very non reactive, and uptight? Do you not laugh at his jokes or give one word answers or not ask him about himself? It could be giving him mixed signals, and hence why he hasn't said anything to you.
I think you need to just go for it and tell him how you feel the next time you guys are alone. And take it slow. Give him time to process. Good luck!
The question is : does he spend time with that other girl sitting next to him ? Because it seems that he just wants to spend time with you, and that he likes you.
Anyway, if you really "want" him, just talk to him, because conversation is oh so important.
Have you tried taking it further? For instance by asking him of a hug, or sitting in his lap (or he in yours)? If you study together and read something, invite him to lie beside you on the bed. You could even have the loser of a challenge kiss the other (on the cheek). To make him feel more awesome, you could lose the challenge (subtly) and give him a peck. If he backs off, then respect his boundaries and stop that advance.
Of course, the most sure-fire way of knowing how he feels is by asking him.
This is the sweetest thing I have read in a while. Good luck.

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