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Help and advice from Suzie Hayman, Woman magazine's agony aunt and presenter of the BBC's "Stepfamilies".
I’m confused about my sexuality. I’m a 23 year old guy who has often had homosexual fantasies. One night a few months ago, I decided to act on them and it was a disaster. I’ve been depressed about it ever since and I’ve vowed never to repeat it. It’s just not for me. There’s a girl I think I’ve fallen in love with and it’s possible she may like me too. The thing is, by having this homosexual encounter it feels like I’ve forfieted my chance of being with her and it’s depressing me even more. I’m so ashamed by what I did with a guy, even though it was a few minutes of madness on my part and it feels like I have to be alone for life. I could never have a relationship with another man but now I feel like I’m not allowed to have one with a woman either. Am I being unreasonable?
Yes, I’m afraid you are but I do understand and sympathise. We have such a really stupid society with black and white and blinkered views about sexuality. It’s not your fault – it’s the way we bring people up. But honestly; to make you feel awful because sex with someone your own sex felt exciting – how ridiculous is that?
So let’s get a few things straight. Firstly – sexual attraction is not a one-way door. You don’t go though the section marked “homosexual” and find it’s one-way and you can’t go back. Millions of people pop back and forth over that line, being attracted to someone of the opposite sex one day and someone of their own sex the next. Sexual orientation isn’t an either/or, one thing or the other issue. They best way I’ve heard it defined is to imagine a line. At one end are people who are only ever attracted to people of their own sex. At the other end are people who are only ever attracted to people of the opposite sex. In the middle are true bisexuals – people who really don’t notice the sex of those they are attracted to because it simply isn’t relevant to them. Along the line on either side of bisexuals are those who mostly are gay or mostly are straight but may be attracted and may act on their attraction to people of the other sexuality now and again. Notice one thing; if you accept that theory – and I do – it means people who are totally gay and people who are totally straight are actually in the minority. Most people are somewhere on the line.
Which is why – second thing to get straight – gay sexual fantasies are so common. Most people have them. Having a particular sexual fantasy – gay sex, rough sex, sex in front of an audience to name a few very, very common ones – doesn’t mean you want to carry that particular action out in real life. The point about a sexual fantasy is that it’s safe and inside your head. It can be a rehearsal for the real thing but more often it’s simply a dabble in the forbidden.
You may be gay and what is stopping you express your self is the brainwashing so may people receive that makes them ashamed of their true inclinations. You may be straight and fell for the mistaken impression that just because you dreamed it you had to do it. Or you may be where most people are – somewhere on that line and capable of feeling and expressing desire for various people regardless of their gender. Whatever, it really isn’t something to get so upset about and certainly not something you feel ‘dooms’ you for the future.
My advice? Lighten up. You did nothing and felt nothing either out of the ordinary or deserving of this self flagellation. It may help to discuss it f2f with someone who can be both sympathetic and calm and who will confirm what I say – a counsellor for instance. Find someone through The Site. And then, ask that girl out. Good luck!
I’m a Relate-trained counsellor, an accredited parenting educator, an agony aunt with over 15 years experience of working on UK national magazines (including eight years as agony aunt of Women’s Own), newspapers, television, radio and online and the author of 26 books – the two most recent being Teach Yourself Step-parenting and Teach Yourself Single Parenting. I was the counsellor in ‘Stepfamilies’, a major BBC1 series, helping people sort their way through the difficulties of bringing new families together.

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We asked sex therapists what it means when you identify as straight but fantasize about other women.
By Suzannah Weiss. Photos: Stocksy.
If you consider yourself straight but your sex fantasies involve other women every once in awhile (or a lot)—either during solo sex or when you're with your partner—you're definitely not alone. One Boise State University study found that over half of straight women were attracted to other women, "lesbian" is the term women most commonly search for on Pornhub, and a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that most women physically responded to videos of both naked men and women. So why is this so common, and what does having another women in your sex fantasies say about you?
The short answer: Whatever you want it to. Don't feel like you have to question your sexual orientation solely based on what gets you off. "Our fantasies don't overlap 100 percent with our actual desires," says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. "Most people have entertained fantasies about things that they don't actually want to do in real life. Sometimes fantasizing about something we know we wouldn't do in real life is exactly what makes the fantasy so hot."
"Just because you enjoy lesbian porn or fantasies doesn't mean that you need to identify as such or live the fantasy out" if you don't want to, agrees Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and Adam and Eve's resident relationship and sex expert. "There's only a question of orientation when you can't get aroused or have an orgasm without the thoughts. Also, if you begin feeling compelled to see what it's like."
That said, if you want to act on your fantasies, obviously go for it. A third of women have hooked up with other women, according to an Adam and Eve survey, even though only about seven percent of American women identify as lesbian or bisexual.
But if you have fantasies that you don't want to act out IRL, there are a number of other things they might mean. For example, sometimes the women in our fantasies are actually stand-ins for ourselves, says Marin. "Fantasizing about a very sensual or sexual woman can also be a way for us to access our sexuality in a way that we don't feel confident enough doing on our own." In that way, you could think of that woman who keeps popping into your head as your own inner vixen.
Other times, women enjoy lesbian porn or fantasies because they consider them less intimidating than those involving men, says Dr. Van Kirk. Some women dislike heterosexual porn, for example, because they find it degrading to the women featured.
P.S. Guys are probably doing this, too—even if they don't admit it. "Most people lie somewhere on the spectrum between gay and straight, but it's much more socially permissible for women to acknowledge same-sex curiosities," says Marin. "It's likely that there are just as many men out there with same-sex fantasies, but they don't feel comfortable acknowledging them."
In the end, says Dr. Van Kirk, "sexuality is far more fluid than what we once thought."
This story originally appeared on Glamour.

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