How To Use A Dildo
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How To Use A Dildo
By
Sandra J. Barry
/ August 29, 2022 August 29, 2022
A dildo isn’t designed to relieve sexual tension quickly; it’s the same as having a lover. It should be used for long durations of exploring sexual heights with or without a partner. Before we get into How to Use a Dildo, it’s important to find the right type of dildo that will suit your needs.
To begin, you need to decide on which type of dildo you want.
Some people prefer a realistic-looking penis dildo, while others desire a more fantasy-style toy. There are various shapes and different-sized dildos to suit everyone’s needs. There are huge dildos out there for those looking for a challenge, and then there are the more realistic sizes and smaller ones.
If you want a realistic dildo that looks just like a hard cock with balls, you can get the LATIN LOVER , or if you want more fantasy, try the Build Your Own Prime or the KINKY COBRA that can slide up any hole. Yummy… or try a set of smaller options to start with, like the XTRA – SMALL DILDO SERIES . Then it’s time to bring in some extras…
Some dildos can be used with a vacuum lock suction cup like the HEAVY DUTY 4″ SUCTION CUP . It can also be used with a partner when attached to a strap-on for some girl-on-girl action or even some extra anal fun.
Other excellent choices include the MR S LEATHER DILDO HARNESS or the King Cock Strap On Harness 9 inches Dildo . These choices give you a hands-free option that allows for more sensations at the same time.
This is for the daring, but more on this later… and you will see why having this machine can become a must-have. There are many on the market, like The Cowgirl Unicorn Premium Sex Machine or the Mod Love Deluxe Thruster Machine , that will blow your mind.
Now, let’s get deeper into the nitty gritty of using a dildo in our Guide to Using a Dildo .
First, make sure it’s wet. You can use a water-based lube like the Astroglide Personal Water Based Lubricant . You want the slip-sliding sensation when your dildo thrusts into you.
This will also tantalize your taste and smell buds. It’s not just sexually stimulating; it’s also important to keep your dildo lubricated, especially if it’s made of silicone, to avoid tearing.
Keep in mind that anal penetration necessitates more frequent lubricant reapplication. You can also use a butt plug in your anus at the same time while using your dildo. Try the B-Vibe Rimming Butt Plug or the Temptasia Bunny Tail Pom Plug Black .
This will give you the sexually arousing feeling of being penetrated and taken from all sides, allowing highly erotic fantasies to come to life.
Make use of a condom if you plan to insert your dildo into both your vagina and your anus, or if you are going to insert it into yourself and then your partner. Rather be safe than sorry. Plus, it can add to the taste sensation if you use the Trustex Flavored Condoms Banana or the feel sensation by using the Trojan Ultra Ribbed Lubricated Condoms .
If you’re on your own, you’ll need to commit a lot of time to discover and explore your pleasure zones. You can watch porn or read erotic fiction. Spectrum Boutique has a variety of erotic books to choose from.
Turn yourself on as much as you can and for as long as you can. The more you can develop your desires, the better using a dildo will feel. Try to get to the point where you’re wriggling in your chair because you’re so horny.
Finger yourself first. Turn yourself on. Stroke your body and all its contours, and imagine a lover’s lips and tongue licking your kitten as you rub it until it’s lovely and moist. Start fingering yourself. Feel the sensations as your fingers hit just the right areas.
Then play with your dildo ; that cock is entirely yours. Feel its contours and rub it seductively over your breasts. You’ll be throbbing and aching to get it inside you.
With your dildo, stroke the exterior areas of your vagina as well as between your butt cheeks. The goal is to continue to tease yourself. That anticipation can enable you to heighten your arousal level.
Make sure you take your time bringing the dildo to the entrance of your vagina or anus. Feel the head first, then the shaft, enter your body. Allow each sensation to wash over you as it gradually moves in.
Now is the moment to discover your rhythm. Move your hips slowly and sensually. As you find your stride, widen your legs for extra comfort. Continue to drive the dildo inside you until it lands on your G-Spot. The sensations will rush in and out of you until you reach a point of build-up.
It will soon reach the point where the only thing that counts is to enjoy those waves of pleasure. Your thrusts will get stronger and more chaotic. You won’t stop until you’ve experienced a multitude of climaxes which will leave your body trembling and shuddering.
Get in the right position. With a sex machine, you can take masturbation with a dildo to the next level. And boy! can it operate anytime and anyway you want it. For this method, attach your dildo to your machine and turn around with your back towards it facing a wall.
To make it just so much kinkier and fun, use adjustable nipple clamps like these Sex And Mischief Chained Nipple Clamps .
Place the dildo so that it fits and reaches you comfortably. Insert the dildo between your legs at this point. Position the head at the anus or vaginal opening. Rub the head over your butt cheeks or all over your vagina and clitoris.
As you insert the dildo inside yourself from behind, make sure you are adequately lubricated. Pain can be pleasurable at times, but it can also be unpleasant, so make sure you’re wet enough to enjoy the ride and to get it comfortably inside you.
Feel the dildo slowly and methodically pump into you from behind, bend slightly forward, so you get more into you… deeper… till your excitement level rises even higher and the machine’s speed slowly increases.
You can feel it thrusting in and out… in and out… even harder into you now, giving you the full hard thick effect. Feel how your dildo is so thick and so tight against your walls and how it hits your G-Spot, bend over further, so it goes in deeper. Feel those waves of pleasure.
Now your machine is speeding up, and that dildo is going in hot, hard and fast and wild. Your juice should be spraying out. Keep on going… ride that dildo with a wild abandon you never knew existed in you. Let go and meet those hard thrusts with your hips so that dildo gets in so deep inside you that you groan loudly in ecstasy.
Touch your clitoris now, and you may be squirting like a waterfall. The sensation of the dildo ramming wildly and deeply into you, plus the throbbing sensations on your clit will drive you over the edge. You will need to keep your balance by grasping the wall with your hands as things can get dizzying after so many climaxes.
And, if you want to scream in ecstasy, use a Luv Clit Licker Bunny on your clit until you nearly collapse in euphoric exhaustion.
Another scenario with a partner could be having your lover’s cock or another dildo inside your vagina and the dildo attached to the sex machine ramming deep into your anus from behind at the same time as your lover or the other dildo is pumping into you from the front… imagine those sensations from all directions.
As mentioned above, the perfect dildo for you depends a lot on your personal preferences. For something realistic, check out our RealDoll RealCock 2 Dirk Review and Realdoll RealCock 2 Rockwell Review .
Although smoking after sex is no longer a healthy option, you might feel like your whole body is on fire after those hot and steamy sessions. So if you want to feel those orgasmic sensations in your life, I strongly suggest you pick out your dildo and accessories today that will suit your pleasure needs.
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Sandra is from Santa Barbara, California, where she trained as a clinical sexologist, and certified sex therapist.
Over the years, she noticed that even when she was not at work, she was bombarded by question after question about sex generally and toys in particular. This confirmed what she had always that, in that there were not enough voices in the sex education community. So, she started to share her experiences by writing about them, and we consider ourselves very lucky here at ICGI that she contributes so much to the website.
She lives with her husband, Brian, and their two dogs, Kelly and Jasper.
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From solo sex to pegging, our experts cover it all.
If you're here, then you probably want to learn about how to use a dildo. Welcome! One big misconception about the phallic-shaped sex toy is that it's only for people with vaginas. The truth is, dildos are an egalitarian sex toy that anyone can enjoy, regardless of genitals, gender, sexual orientation, or whether you're getting it on solo or with a partner. This includes men and people with penises. Yes, you too can enjoy the pleasure-packed power of the dildo. I could apologize for that intense alliteration, but I’m not sorry, so I won’t.
The idea of a dude using a dildo might make you uncomfortable, and that's normal. Society has taught us to believe ridiculous things like:
So what should you actually believe about dildos? First off, they're for everyone, and you can enjoy them as much as anyone else. If you have a penis, you can use a dildo to stimulate your prostate, a.k.a. the male g-spot. It's an explosive area for pleasure—and possible the most intense orgasms ever. But dildos aren't just about butts; you can use them in a vagina, too. Here's everything to know about how to use a dildo.
When you think of a dildo, your mind might immediately go to one of those giant, Caucasian, veiny AF silicone penises ( like this one ) that exist out there. Sure, that's one type of dildo, but there are many more varieties. To put it simply, a dildo is “a phallic object that is used to simulate penetration that can be used during solo play or with a partner,” says Kenneth Play , international sex educator, sex hacker, and creator of the Sex Hacker Pro Series .
Dildos are not all penis-like. They come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Some of them even look like alien and fantasy creature dicks. Ever wanted to get banged by a tentacle c*ck? Well, here you go . Carol Queen, Ph.D., sex educator and staff sexologist at Good Vibrations , points out that lots of dildos are designed to not resemble a real penis, “since not everyone wants a penis-y item inside them.” That’s totally fair.
The key thing that differentiates a dildo from a vibrator is that it, well, doesn’t vibrate. These toys are designed for penetration, without the motor, and they deliver a different kind of sensation than a vibrator does.
There are a few exceptions to the no-vibration descriptor, Queen says. Some dildos come with a pocket at the base to pop in a pocket vibrator (usually for strap-on sex, which we’ll get to soon). Additionally, “any dildo can be given some vibratory power by affixing a vibrating c*ck ring, if the user desires,” she says.
Vibration or no vibration, all sex toys are equally swell. It’s about preference; maybe you love both equally, or neither at all. Maybe you like small dildos, medium dildos, or truly enormous dildos in the "how-can-this-thing-fit-inside-a-person"-sized. Anything that works for you is A-OK.
I could wax lyrical about the myriad ways dudes can explore dildo play, but I will try to keep it as concise as possible.
Dildos are designed for penetration of all orifices. “‘Penetration’ can be vaginal, anal, or whatever you call those body parts; and even oral, since some people find it erotic to have a dildo in their mouth even during solo sex,” Queen says.
Dildos are also great for pegging , where a female or vulva-owning partner anally penetrates a male partner with a strap-on. If this is what you’re after, you’ll want to pick a dildo with a flared base that is compatible with a strap on. For more on pegging, check out our complete guide , which is also by me and is therefore amazing.
Sparks recommends the Spare Parts Hardware Deuce harness —"the only harness designed specifically for penis-owners," she explains. "It has two holes: one for your own penis and the other for a dildo. It can be used for double penetration.” she explains. Ever had a MMF threesome fantasy? Here it is, come to life, without the messiness of planning something IRL.
Dildos are also great for solo sex. Yup, you read that right. If you've been looking for ways to switch up your masturbation routine , we've got you covered.
The first question to ask yourself is: What do I want to use this dildo for? Solo sex? To double penetrate my vulva-owning partner? To have my partner peg me? There is no wrong answer. That’s the beauty of sexuality: curiosity and exploration have no limits as long as everyone involved is safe and is a consenting adult.
Here's why having a purpose in mind matters: you must always, always, always choose dildos with flared bases if they are going up a bum. “Using these toys for anal is a fabulous way to stimulate the prostate (if you have one), but the dildo must have a base to keep it from slipping all the way in,” Queen warns.
Because most quality dildos are made from silicone, you’ll want to stick with water-based or aloe-based lubricants, as they’re latex-safe and won’t damage your dildos. My favorites at the moment are Desert Harvest Aloe Glide (the bottle is frickin’ huge and it’s very slippery) and Stimul8 water-based lube.
Do not—and I repeat, do NOT—buy a dildo just because it's cheap. The anus and vulva-vaginal areas are some of the most highly absorbent in the entire human body. Choose toys made from body-safe or medical-grade silicone. “Silicone comes in varying degrees of firmness/softness (it is most often a bit on the firm side though); it is non-porous and very easy to clean, so it's a safe choice; and it warms up to body temperature when used,” Queen says. Stainless steel and glass dildos from reputable retailers are also safe to use.
You must always thoroughly clean your toys after use . Read the directions carefully, because processes vary from toy to toy. (Some dildos can be cleaned by putting them on the top rack of the dishwasher or dropping them in a boiling pot of water for a few minutes!)
If you're cleaning your dildo with soap and water, you might want to opt for a special toy-friendly option. “It is always best to use a chemical-free sex toy cleaner such as Sensuva’s Think Clean Thoughts Sex Toy Cleaner or Intimate Earth Green Foaming Cleaner ,” Sparks says. “Body soaps that are not chemical-free can potentially leave a film on the toy which could then be transferred to vagina or anus, making your partner uncomfortable.”
That just about covers everything! Remember to be safe, go slowly, and communicate with your partner to make sure everyone is feeling great and enjoying themselves the whole time. Happy dildo-ing!
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Along with vibrators, dildos are among the most popular sex toys of all time. Designed for penetration, they are made to be inserted into the vagina or rectum for pleasure that mimics that which one would receive from a partner's penis or fingers. But that doesn't mean that dildos are boring, or even that they need to be used in the traditional in-and-out thrusting that mimics sex.
Angie Rowntree, founder and director of ethical porn site Sssh.com , says that while many dildos are phallic and designed to look like penises, "dildos ultimately come in many different shapes and sizes, and some can be more 'abstract' or even fantastical looking. They can be made of different materials, and they can also be slightly curved, to help stimulate your g-spot or prostate."
We've already scoured the internet for the very best dildos on the market today, but if you're wondering, on a more fundamental level, how to use a dildo—or even how to up your dildo-play game—you've come to the right place. Keep scrolling for some of the best, expert-approved tips on how to properly use a dildo, alone or with a partner. Once you have the right tools in hand, the possibilities are truly endless.
Buying a dildo can be an incredibly daunting experience, what with all of the shapes, materials, and kinks that buyers can fall into a rabbit hole looking into during their shopping experience. For that reason, we've asked experts to demystify the dildo shopping experience so that when you're browsing online or at your local sex shop, you can do so with the utmost confidence.
Rowntree points out that, first and foremost, you should "make sure your toy is made from quality materials and designed for penetration." You should never assume that an object is safe to insert into your body unless the package or instructions expressly says so.
Then, when it comes to materials, Lovehoney sex educator Javay Frye Nekrasova breaks it down, explaining that "there are really four main material types for dildos: Silicone, metal, glass, and plastic. It is recommended to stick to non-porous materials, as they are easier to clean, so your glass and metal are top choices, followed by silicone, and then plastic."
Choosing a dildo based on material can also vary based o
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