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Hear me out: Rubbing your clit is vastly underappreciated. It is, by far, the easiest way to masturbate (you only need your fingers!), it’s quiet (unless you’re moaning, in which case, good 4 u!), and it’s 100% free—no purchase required. But it’s easy to forget about the benefits of clitoral rubbing when we’re so delightfully spoiled by vibrators . And although vibes really do just hit different, knowing how to rub your clit in a way that works for you should be a top skill in your masturbation tool kit. (What else are you gonna do when your trusty vibe runs out of battery mid-masturbation sesh?)
Remember: The clit is the star of the show. 82% (yes! 82!) of vagina-owners can’t orgasm from penetration alone, so for most of us, it’s the key to cumming, and often, the key to good sex. ICYMI, the clit is the nub at the top of your vaginal opening, and it holds around 8,000 nerve-endings (a lot!). And even though it’s tiny, the clit is mighty.
“The clitoris is made up of erectile tissue (and has, on average, as much surface area as a penis when engorged),” says sex and intimacy coach Irene Fehr .”When fully engorged, it actually enables the woman to enjoy sexual contact and stimulation to the fullest—and that includes penetration. That’s because the clitoris is part of a system— an orchestra if you will—of internal organs that allow the entire act of sex to be pleasurable. With sensual stimulation of the entire body and the clitoris itself, the blood rushes to the organ, and it begins to thump with pleasurable sensations such as tingling, swelling, and heat, and it allows for the whole orchestra to burst into music.”
Told you the clit was the star of the show. Here are some expert-approved tips for how to make sure you’re giving it the attention it deserves, so you can feel exactly the kind of pleasure you deserve, too.
According to Fehr, sensual stimulation is a way to tease and awaken the body, so that arousal builds and builds “until it’s ready to overflow into an orgasm or into the desire to have penetration.” She suggests using slow and sensual touch on the entire body (not just the clitoris) and starting from the outside in. “The clitoris and the vagina should be the last in the order of what gets stimulated.” She suggests moving from the underarms, to the chests and breasts (“without touching the nipples”), to the inner thighs. Once you reach your genitals, “start with the external labia and move inward.” Fehr also suggests varying the level and speed of your touch, from light to firm, or slow to fast. “By going slowly, you allow the body and the clitoral network to awaken, to come alive, and to become engorged at its own speed. It allows the nervous system to settle, feel safe, and open up to more.”
This genius tip comes courtesy of Carmel Jones, sex and relationships expert . If you have a very sensitive clitoris, touching it directly can feel like over-stimulation, Jones explains. For folx with ultra-sensi clits, put two fingers up like you’re making a peace sign, and press the peace sign just outside your clitoris, on your outer labia, Jones suggests. From there, you can either move your fingers up and down (imagine you are playing two keys on piano), or gently massage your fingers together and then apart. Both these motions can stimulate your clitoris without direct contact, Jones says. For even more of a buffer, Jones also says you can also try doing the peace sign method or other masturbation techniques over a pair of undies or a light blanket.
Your clit is like an iceberg — there are a ton more nerves under the surface, and the part you can see and touch is really just a small portion of it. Your clit actually extends around your vaginal opening and is shaped kinda like a wishbone. “Most vulva owners are only aware of the top of the clitoris that is typically rubbed to reach orgasm,” explains Malika O’Neill , sex expert and owner of The Pleasure Collective . Massage your labia and the area right above the clit wishbone legs for even more stimulation. You can also extend your touch even further and massage your vaginal opening, perineum (between your vagina and anus), inner thighs, and anus, O’Neill suggests. If you want even deeper sensation, O’Neill recommends using an external vibrator on those areas to try to get even more zuzh out of your anatomy.
The skin that covers your clit is your clitoral hood, and it’s essentially like a foreskin for your clit. You can work the clitoral hood into your masturbation sessions as well. O’Neill suggests gently gripping the skin between your thumb and pointer finger and experimenting with pressure until you find something that feels pleasurable for you. From there, you can try different motions like moving your hand or fingers up and down. To help you visualize it, you’re essentially giving your clit a mini-hand job, as O’Neill explains.
To “rub” your clit is a pretty broad directive, so sometimes it can be helpful to know exactly what to do and how to move your fingers or hands. O’Neill suggests experimenting with diagonal movement for more pleasure. “Take two to three fingers, flatten them, and gently rub your clit back and forth in diagonal motions, increasing in speed and intensity as you desire.” This can be great if you have a sensitive clit or if you’re just looking to change things up.
Sex and relationships educator Kate McCombs suggests putting a quarter-sized drop of lube on your fingers and using it to gently massage your clitoris. You can also put your fingers on either side of your clitoris and move slowly up and down your inner labia, AKA the folds of skin immediately surrounding your clit. The lube lets you slow down and really focus on smooth, continuous motions so you can figure out what feels good. Not everyone likes friction!
Some women find that consistency, rather than increased pace, is what gets them off. To test this theory, use one or two fingers to make steady circles around or on the top of your clitoris. You can vary up the speed, but once you find something that feels good, try and stick with it for a few minutes and see what happens.
A twist on the above: still steady, but this time, make it a tapping motion! This can tire out your hand after a bit but it allows you to play with pressure. Do you like taps that feel a bit heavier, like a rub, or lighter, like a cool ocean breeze here to deliver you bomb-ass orgasms?
This strategy comes courtesy of OMGYes , a site devoted to understanding how women get off. Try using both hands . One hand slowly circles the entrance of your vagina without penetrating, while the other draws circles on your clitoris more quickly. The increase of sensation variety might be exactly what you need
Put your thing down, flip it, and reverse it. If you're someone who's into rubbing your clit against a surface (#TBT dry humping), you might want to see what happens when you masturbate face-down on your bed. That way you can still use your hands, but you'll also be free to grind against your mattress or a pillow for a little extra oomph.
At the end of the day, vibrators are a great option for people whose hands get tired or, let's be real, if you happen to have long fingernails. Basically, vibrators are for everyone. They're A++++ for experimenting because most toys these days vary in both speed and pattern of vibration. You can find a stellar list of clit-centric vibrators right this way . (Just make sure yours is fully charged before you start going at it.)
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When it comes to the clitoris, that old saying "different strokes for different folks" has never been more true.
"Clitorises are very unique! There's really not one standard type of stimulation that works for all women," says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School , an online orgasm course for women. And, considering orgasms aren't even on the table for many women without some clit play, figuring out what makes you tick is pretty important.
"In general, most women are divided into two camps: those [who] prefer direct clitoral stimulation, and those [who] prefer indirect," says Marin. To determine which brand of stimulation your body likes, she suggests starting with two different strokes: "First, try circling your clitoris with one fingertip, without directly touching it. If you want more stimulation, make your circle tighter until you start touching the clitoris itself."
Once that baseline for pleasurable touch is established, feel free to get creative. Here are six new ways to stimulate your clitoris you may not have thought of before.
It may be tempting to just zero in on the clit and start rubbing away, but that may not quite be what makes your clit tick. Try building sensation first. "If you like direct stimulation, try stroking diagonally across the surface of your clitoris," Marin suggests. If you prefer indirect, try stroking the sides of the clit and the clitoral hood rather than the clit itself. Mix it up by using two, three, even four fingers if you typically just use one. Experiment with different patterns over your go-to.
A light touch may be best, but instead of just stroking your clit, try playing around with pressure: Try squeezing the clit, gently gripping the skin on either between your thumb and pointer finger. Once you've established what degree of pressure feels good for you, try manipulating the skin by moving your hand up and down—like a tiny hand job for your clitoris.
Edging means building up to climax, but then backing off just before you reach the point of no return. When you finally do cum, the sensation is...let's just say, worth the wait.
That said, it requires practice: You need to know your body well enough to discern how close you are to orgasm and exactly how much further you can go before pulling back. Try it on your own before you do it with a partner: start slowly, and build up pleasure with light touches around your clit. Engage in meditative, yogic breathing to help pace yourself. As you feel yourself about to climax, switch from whatever rhythm's getting you there to something else: pulsing over strokes; left hand over right; one finger from two; broad circles from a diagonal. Tease yourself until you can't hold back any longer.
Sex toys are, obviously, a reliable way to get off; most readers, however, will likely be most familiar with the penetrative Rabbit-inspired models, or maybe the iconic Hitachi wand. But for couples play, it helps to incorporate something smaller.
"In most positions, you can squeeze a sex toy between your legs to get some clitoral stimulation," says Marin. "My favorite vibrator recommendation is the Minna Life Limon ($119, minnalife.com ). It uses a squeeze technology, so the harder you squeeze, the harder it vibrates. It feels more intuitive than many other vibrators."(Or check out Squish ($99, u nboundbabes.com ), Minna's collaboration with Unbound.)
Or, choose a hands-free vibrator—like Dame's Eva ($135, amazon.com )—that's designed to stay positioned on your clit during sex. For solo play, the Satisfyer Pro ($48, amazon.com ) is designed to mimic the sensation of cunnilingus using air pressure. Stimulating!
Don't want to shell out for a sex toy? Maybe reconsider some of the stuff you have just lying around the house. "A lot of women masturbate by grinding against pillows, towels, hairbrushes, or TV remotes," says Marin. In case you were feeling weird about humping your duvet cover.
Certain penis-in-vagina sex positions work better for clitoral stimulation than others— Women's Health has a whole list for your pleasure—but in general, any situation in which the clit is grinding against another body part will be more likely to yield orgasmic results. Think: rubbing up against your partner's thigh or pubic bone.
"When you're on top during intercourse, have your partner hold his thumb upright against his pelvis. You want it located directly under your clit. As you move, grind your clitoris against his thumb," Marin suggests.
But if you prefer positions that leave your clit out in the open, like doggy style, "touch yourself!" she urges. "So few women actually do this."
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Seventy-five percent of women need more than just penetration, sooo….
Meet your clitoris, the small and sensitive part at the top of your vulva. With its 8,000 nerve endings, it exists to give you some serious pleasure. I mean, you can basically credit that thing to any orgasm you’ve ever experienced according to new research .
“It turns out that all orgasms are clitoral,” says sex therapist Holly Richmond , PhD. “They discovered that the clitoris actually has legs. These nerve endings are expanding all through the vagina and pelvic floor muscles.” So rather than thinking about the clitoris shaped as a button, it’s more similar to a wishbone.
Most easily, it can be achieved by masturbating and experimenting with your hand or toys, as it’s actually pretty dang hard to experience one during sex considering 75 percent of people with vaginas need more than penetration to orgasm.
“Masturbating allows a woman to know more deeply what type of touch works for her,” says psychologist and sexologist Denise Renye, PsyD . So regardless if you’re single or partnered, to experience a clitoral orgasm, it’s important to take time alone to get to know your anatomy and touch preferences.
Some people’s clitorises are so sensitive that they don’t want to be touched directly but prefer circular hand motions above the external clitoris. Others want an intense vibration directly on the clit. The only way to find out is to explore, which luckily isn’t too daunting of a homework assignment.
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After you’ve explored what works for you, share with your partner how you like being touched. You can use your hands, have your partner rub your external clit, or add a vibrator to your penetrative sex life.
And if you enjoy oral sex, feel free to get comfy and allow your partner to go down on you for as looong as you want, girl.
you can use ice cubs= COLD!! tape=wierd
um id think she wants to use a dick.
something soft, go with that first.then ask again
Try a Miele washer/dryer. I'm just a man but I hear they work wonders. Try humping the spin cycle. It seems 2 work in Australia.
- Dildo - Twisted up towel. - Squat down and use a table leg - small clit-Vibrator - a tongue (my favorite) - Banana in a condom - vibrating back massager - Big vibrator (think Hitachi Magic Wand style) - your heel (clean) - Ice pack (wooo!) Did I mention a vibrator? - Washing machine on the spin cycle, according to legend. Don't know anyone that has actually *done* that though. Really, anything small enough to fit between your legs and isn't rough or spilntery.
Don't bother with the spin cycle. In order to get a good enough knock out of it, you have to load the clothes unevenly, and that can break the machine. And it only works on top loading machines, not front loaders. .... So I've heard.... lol
Hmm. You've heard some pretty specific intel. ;-)
lol try a drier...that might work mine downstarts vibrates alot, but I cant do that, my "rents" would kill me if they saw that im not sure about the towel...
You can use a tampon just don't pull the string and put it in and out it feels so amazing I'm doing it right now:)
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