How To Live A Better Story ?

What Is A Story?

A story is when a character overcomes conflict or resistance to get what he/she wants. This conflict story structure is evident in the popular movies, TV shows, and books of today.

What Makes A Good Story?

We are all living a story. At any given time, with the options available, we choose the story of our lives.

A good story involves risk and a potential for failure. The more that’s on the line(Чем больше на кону), the better.

We don’t like to change unless we have to. In stories, this is called an inciting incident(провоцирующие событие). An inciting incident forces a person out of their comfort zone.

The catalyst of a good story is character transformation. Humans are constantly evolving and never stagnant(застой). You’re not the person you were one year ago.

Your ambitions become your story. What your story is matters. Your story communicates to others what is important to you. In a good story, the character aims at a goal that’s difficult to attain(достигнуть).

It’s not enough to live a good story. Living a good story means making other people’s lives better.

The finality of life and unavoidable(низбежный) death create tension(напряжение) in the human story. A character could die before your story finishes.

Resistance

You are a reflection of who you spend time with-if your friends are living boring stories, your story will be boring too.

The reward always falls short of your expectations(не оправдывает ваших ожиданий), and the work is always harder than you imagined it would be. Life’s not about results. It’s about the journey.

When facing hardship, you have two choices:

• Get bitter(горевать)
• Get better

It is limiting to believe that who you are is who you’ll always be.

The cause of most feelings of fear in life stems from relationships — forgiveness, rejection, and love. Facing your fear makes for an excellent story. Wealth and comfort aren’t requirements of a good story.

Lean into resistance. The more resistance you’re facing, the more worthwhile(польза) it will be. Would you rather live a life of sacrifice(жертва)?

Why do people stay in destructive relationships or dead-end jobs? People are afraid of change, and they are inclined to stick with what is familiar to them(склонны придерживаться того, что им знакомо.).

We understand that’s what makes a good story. Yet, we don’t embrace conflict(не принимаем конфликты) or see a potentially great story in our everyday lives. The tendency is to attribute events to luck rather than create our destiny.(Есть тенденция приписывать события удаче, а не создавать нашу судьбу.)

Takeaways(выводы)

Life is beautiful and happens slowly. Gratitude for the beauty of life is a responsibility(ответсвенность). Are you a victim(жертва) of life or a willing participant(добровольный участник)?

There is meaning in sacrifice, especially in the service of others.(В жертве есть смысл, особенно в служении другим.)

What is your story? What actions make up who you are?