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Depending on the study, one-third to two-thirds of women say they’ve faked an orgasm at least once.
Many popular sex positions don't provide much stimulation for women’s orgasm trigger: the clitoris.
Three intercourse positions allow men to provide direct clitoral massage quite easily.
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Posted January 31, 2019
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“Did you come?” This question looms over a good deal of lovemaking, especially among lovers under 30. Fortunately, gentlemen, it’s usually not difficult to recognize women’s orgasms. And it’s fairly easy to help most women get there. All men need to do is let go of the idea that intercourse is all it takes.
Depending on the study, one-third to two-thirds of women say they’ve faked an orgasm at least once:
Faking is age-related. As age increases, more women become better able to ask for the clitoral caresses that trigger an orgasm, and most men gain insights into the sexual moves that help women climax.
I’d be interested to hear from women about faking it. Have you ever? Why? How did it affect the relationship? And has the relationship endured?
Gentlemen, given the frequency of faking, if you feel the need to ask, chances are she didn’t come. Especially if you make love drunk, rush into intercourse, or don’t provide gentle, extended hand massage of her clitoris and cunnilingus every time.
Most orgasms are actually pretty hard to miss. Women’s resemble men’s. Think about your own and you’ll be better able to identify women’s. The vast majority begin with the quickening of breathing often accompanied by gasps or moans followed by several seconds of rapid, involuntary contractions of the muscles around the vulva and anus, usually with a jerky movement of the hips and often the whole body. Orgasms conclude with release into relaxation and dreamy contentment. If you help her to orgasm orally, your lips and tongue are likely to feel her vaginal muscle contractions.
If you want to see women have orgasms, ignore the vast majority of porn . The women moan, groan, and thrash, seeming to climax, but they don’t. I’ve interviewed several female porn actors. All were orgasmic at home during personal lovemaking with their real partners. But none ever came on camera. Not one.
Why? Largely because porn depicts male fantasies of women endlessly servicing men with fellatio and intercourse. Porn contains very little of what actually helps women climax—leisurely, playful, extended kissing, cuddling, and whole-body massage, gentle hand jobs, and lots of gentle cunnilingus. The women actors didn’t get that on the set but did at home.
However, one little corner of the amateur porno-sphere can be instructive. You can watch hundreds of real women have real orgasms using their hands or vibrators by visiting sample-aggregation sites (like PornHub). Among the myriad categories, select Orgasm Compilations.
Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse. The old in-out doesn’t provide much stimulation for women’s orgasm trigger, the clitoris, which sits an inch or two above the vaginal opening under the top junction of the vaginal lips.
But many couples would like women to come during intercourse. Three intercourse positions allow men to provide direct clitoral massage quite easily. In addition, a slight variation on the man-on-top (missionary) position may also help.
Almost all women can climax solo by hand or vibrator, but with partners, around 30 percent have problems. That’s what the University of Chicago found in a study of 3,299 women age 18 to 85. Fortunately, the overwhelming majority can learn to have orgasms. In the words of sexologist Erwin J. Haeberle, “Orgasm is learned. The teacher is masturbation .” Some suggestions:
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Eichel, E. and P. Noblie. The Perfect Fit. Dutton, NY, 1992.
Fahs, B. “Coming to Power: Women’s Fake Orgasms and Best Orgasm Experiences Illuminate the Failures of (Hetero)sex and the Pleasures of Connection,” Culture, Health, and Sexuality (2014) 16:974.
Heiman, J. and J. LoPiccolo. Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women . Fireside/Simon & Schuster, 1987 (revised edition).
Hurlbert, D.F. and C. Apt. “The Coital Alignment Technique and Directed Masturbation: A Comparative Study of Female Orgasm,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy (1995) 21:21.
Jern, P. et al. “A Longitudinal Assessment of Associations Between Women’s Tendency to Pretend Orgasm, Orgasm Function, and Intercourse-Related Pain in Different Partner Relationship Constellations,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (2018) 47:671.
Kaplan, H.S. “Does the CAT Technique Enhance Female Orgasm?” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy (1992) 18:285.
McCoy, M.G. et al. “Development and Initial Psychometric Assessment of the ‘Reasons for Pretending Orgasm’ Inventory,” Evolutionary Psychology (2015) 13:129.
Muehlenhard, C.L and S.K. Shippee. “Men’s and Women’s Reports of Pretending Orgasm,” Journal of Sex Research (2010) 47:552.
Pierce, A.P. “The Coital Alignment Technique 9(AT): An Overview of Studies,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy (2000) 26:257.
Michael Castleman, M.A. , is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
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