How To Impress A German Guy

How To Impress A German Guy
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Before we dig into the specifics of German courtship rituals, it’s worth questioning the entire premise of this article. Is flirting in German a worthwhile effort? Do Germans even flirt?
Perhaps a better question to lead with is “how would you define flirting?” Spiegel Online put it best when it clarified that “the word ‘flirt’ has two meanings: one for Germans and one for the rest of the world.”
The profound truth of being a human with a beating heart is that everyone, indeed, “flirts.” It’s just that some flirtation styles are a little more subtle, or a little more under the radar, or a little less hung up on spectacle and artistry.
A well-known song by Wir sind Helden, “Aurélie,” describes a French girl’s attempts to flirt with German men. The translated lyrics include such choice insights as “Aurélie, it’s never going to work this way/You expect far too much/The Germans flirt pretty subtly.”
Before you despair over your apparent inability to elicit a reaction from your Deutsch darling when you’re flirting in German, you should probably learn the difference between “I’m not actually looking at you” and “I’m looking at you, but trying to pretend that I’m not.” Eye contact: you’re going to have to learn how to use it.
According to at least one Babbel insider living in Berlin, Germans have a tendency to stare and to hold intense eye contact. This doesn’t mean all eye contact is sexy eye contact. It just means sexy eye contact could involve a little more “innuendo” than usual.
This does not mean it’ll necessarily be accompanied by a smile, or that you’ll be invited with a lingering gaze. A favorite move when flirting in German is the “look, but then quickly look away.”
Most love stories in Germany begin with simple, casual conversations. Indeed, you might not know whether someone is interested in you that way or simply being friendly until they ask for your digits.
The love language that Germans best understand — at least early on in the game — is intellectual conversation, not smarmy pickup lines and handsy body language.
Ideally, you’ll want to keep the conversation stimulating and avoid dull small talk. Ultimately, you should be ready to take your shoes off and make yourself at home during this “getting to know you” phase. If you’re five dates in and still trying to tell if a German guy is interested in you, relax. You’re probably doing great.
To initiate a conversation, you’re probably better off skipping the cheesy pickup lines (unless you consider yourself to be really smooth). Here are a few tips for learning German , as well as a quick lesson on how to say hello :
Flirting in German and German dating culture is somewhat different from American dating culture, mainly in the sense that it’s not “the norm” for people to be seeing multiple prospects at once until they choose one to become exclusive with. Germans are a bit more “point A to point B,” meaning they tend to focus on one person at a time.
Germans are also decidedly less likely to ghost someone than an American, but that has nothing to do with whether they actually like you or not.
The German mentality is that you should follow up on what you say you’re going to do, which dovetails nicely into “not having multiple side pieces that you kind of assume the other person knows about.” In fact, you’ll likely find that your German love interest will be thoroughly dependable and transparent with you, all the way up to the point when they’re following through on your previously scheduled plans in order to let you know, to your face, that they’re not interested.
Germans are also really into punctuality. If you say you’re going to meet somewhere at 7, don’t roll up at 7:15. It will be taken as a sign of disrespect and will hurt your the prospects of your successful flirting in German.
Germans are rather egalitarian when it comes to gendered responsibilities, and there’s no prevailing expectation that men will pick up the check on a first date.
There’s also no prevailing expectation that a man should make the first move. However, he often might — but this usually entails nothing more than a “look” (You know the look. We’ve been over this).
The theory is that German men are kind of shy, and German women are fairly assertive and confident. But it’s worth considering who they’re “shy” and “assertive” in relation to. If aggressive machismo is what you’re used to, then sure, German men might seem a little more reserved.
Be forewarned: overly forward, wanton overtures will probably not be received the way you want them to be. German women might laugh if you compliment their appearance, and men might not even know how to react to an aggressive come-on. That doesn’t mean they don’t like attention; it just means your peacock display will likely not compute.

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Want to learn how to compliment in German… and seriously impress some Germans? Well, that’s why you’re here. Here’s a quick German compliment lesson – a 2-3 minute read.
Today, you’ll learn 15 German Compliments for life, love, friends and of course, work. Don’t worry – they’re usable for males, females, friends, lovers, coworkers and all kinds of people. So, you will..
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This one’s for guys. Don’t worry, there are plenty of compliments for females down below.
This is a very general compliment. Basically if someone has done a great job (duh) or accomplished a goal. Use it when you want to praise someone for their work. Good for friends, coworkers, family and anyone.
Aw, now this is poetic. And this sounds like it’s been taken straight out of a romantic German drama. If you want to express this compliment – this is for you.
Another awfully poetic and impressive compliment. And I hope my German lessons make you want to be a better person as well!
A must-know compliment. If you want to comment on something other than a “jacket,” simply replace it with another word like… “shirt” or “pants” or “gloves.” Why not!? Anyway, this is one you should use a lot – for guys or girls. Especially German girls.

Great to use for little kids. Just as good to use for your friends. And in general, who doesn’t like to be told that they’re smart?
This is an all-around compliment you can use for anyone.
This is just a good German compliment to use for your friends. Even they deserve a nice word or two once in a while, right?
Great to use on anyone. We all like to think that we’re funny. Please tell me I’m funny.
Great compliment to use. Why? Everyone comments on general looks. This is specific. It’s about something that’s unique to them… their smile! Use it and expect awesome results. I guarantee it.
Ooh, very important compliment to use on the ladies. Why? They feel good about their cooking talent. They cook more. You eat more. It’s a win-win situation. Just don’t get fat like I did.
This is a nice compliment you can use on most people – friends, family, coworkers and anyone on your level. Basically, it’s typically used to comment on their tastes in fashion, movies, books, etc. etc. Similar as how you would use it in English.
Again, this is one of those German compliments that you must know. If you want the girl to like you, tell her a damn compliment! Stop the small talk. Get to the point… “ daaaang, girl, you lookin’ GOOD! Umph! ” … except in German, of course.
This compliment’s for anyone that’s a good talker… and probably, better used for guys when they’re saying all those nice things to girls. You might get this compliment by using all the other compliments I listed here.
Now, obviously this German compliment can really only be used for employees… or perhaps students. Well, if you’re a boss… ( do many bosses read my site? get back to work! ), here’s something for you!
Again, not a typical compliment, but definitely a good one to hear if you’re applying for jobs. So, if you just happen to be interviewing a German person… use this!
There are only 15 German compliments here. Do you know any more? If you have more to add to this list, be sure to leave a comment below.
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Everyone is hitting it off with other people, except for you.
But one faithful night, you notice a charming German across the way as you sip your tea at a local coffee shop.
You know a bit of German , or maybe you even consider yourself quite fluent , but even fluent people have trouble when it comes to flirting.
That’s why it’s essential to understand how to flirt in German. From ice breakers to talking on dates, the entire courtship process is one big mess unless you prepare with certain statements and understand the intricacies of the German dating scene.
That’s why we put together a comprehensive guide that will bring you confidence and zeal when approaching people you like, along with the ammunition to ask the person on a date.
Before you know it, you’ll be walking hand in hand on one of the many entrancing bridges of Schloss Charlottenburg.

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To start, learning how to flirt in German isn’t only about going to Germany and finding the love of your life. In fact, flirting works at home as well, since you can impress someone you know speaks German, or you can even woo your English-speaking significant other or spouse, then tell them the translation later.
However, if your goal is to bring your flirting game to Germany, it’s wise to consider a few differences in the way Germans flirt and interact.
First of all, guys generally start the interaction, but it’s not a bad thing if a girl likes a guy and they initiate it. However, unlike other countries, where guys assume they need to walk up to a girl and start chatting up a storm, German flirting usually starts with a guy giving a subtle glance or smile to a girl. After that, it’s often the responsibility of the woman to decide whether or not she wants to go chat with the guy.
This illustrates the importance of eye contact in the German culture, since you should also try to hold that eye contact while going on a date.
Two big questions generally arise when flirting with people in other cultures: How can you tell if someone is flirting with you, and how can you ensure that you don’t accidentally flirt with someone?
In short, being respectful, fun and cheerful can take you a long way, just like many other cultures. The first rule to follow is punctuality. If you’re ten minutes too early or too late, this is seen as disrespectful.
Here are some other generalized tips (not rules, since everyone is different) from my experience:
And now, let’s break the ice with some flirtatious German phrases.
You see a girl or guy that you’re attracted to, but you haven’t the slightest idea of what to say. In general, Germans have the same type of small talk you would find in an English speaking country, so here are a few go-to statements to break the ice with your crush across the room.
Ich habe mich gefragt, ob du vielleicht weißt, wo ich X finde.
(I was wondering if you know where I could find X.)
Ich habe mich gefragt, ob du mir vielleicht helfen könntest.
(I was wondering if you could help me.)
Ich habe gesehen, dass du ein Buch von X liest. Ich bin ein großer Bewunderer von ihm.
(I saw you reading a book from X. I’m a big admirer of his.)
Woher kommst du?
(Where are you from?)
If you make traction with your first few flirtation lines, consider asking the person on a date. This way, you can get to know each other better and speak even more German! Consider the following phrases to get someone to go out with you.
Wollen wir uns in diesem Restaurant treffen?
(Should we meet up at this restaurant?)
Feel free to replace “this restaurant” with just about any place in the above phrase.
Möchtest du was essen? Leckere Nudeln vielleicht?
(Would you like to eat something? Delicious pasta, perhaps?)
Willst du ein Bier?
(Want to get a beer?)
Soll ich dich abholen?
(Shall I pick you up?)
Um wie viel Uhr sollen wir uns treffen?
(When should we meet?)
Lass uns etwas trinken gehen.
(Let’s have a drink somewhere.)
Lass uns ins Kino gehen.
(Let’s go to the movies.)
Lass uns in einen Club gehen.
(Let’s go clubbing.)
Ich freue mich auf unser Treffen!
(I’m looking forward to our date!)
You’ve navigated through the most gut-wrenching part of flirting, but now it’s time to woo the other person at your date. Here are a few German phrases to keep in your back pocket:
Sag mal, was hältst du von dem Essen / Kaffee hier?
(Tell me, what do you think of the food / coffee here?)
Ich habe eine gute Zeit.
(I’m having a good time.)
Du machst mich glücklich.
(You make me happy.)
Mit dir kann ich am besten lachen.
(With you I can laugh the most.)
This is the literal translation, but it basically means that you enjoy laughing with them.
Du siehst schön aus.
(You look nice.)
All right, this isn’t for everyone, but sometimes it works to be upfront and reveal that you are solely interested in flirting.
Let’s say you wanted to express the following: “I was wondering if I could sit next to you.”
Say this: Ich habe mich gefragt, ob ich mich vielleicht zu dir setzen darf.
Now, if you’d like to say the following: “I saw you sitting here and I just had to say hello.”
Use the German version: Ich habe dich da sitzen sehen, und musste dich einfach ansprechen.
Note: Although it varies from person to person, I would argue that being bold is best for German women, since men tend to be a little shy in Germany. Not to mention, German women aren’t known for liking machismo or cockiness from men.
Eventually it’s nice to compliment the other person you’re on a date with. You can also use these flirting phrases when walking up to a person you like or while at a party or some other type of social function.
If you’d like to say “You have beautiful eyes,” you can use the “ Du hast wunderschöne Augen” phrase .
Maybe you get out on the dance floor and your partner is busting a move. Tell them you like the way they’re dancing by saying “ Ich mag, wie du tanzt.”
Women are encouraged to tell men how handsome they are (I guess that’s biased, since I’m a guy), and that little tidbit can be communicated by saying “ Du siehst gut aus .”
Finally, another way to progress the conversation and compliment another person is by telling them you like their clothing. Simply say “ Ich mag deine Kleider.” The cool part of this statement is that you can exchange Kleider with anything you want.
Note: As I stated earlier in this article, German women probably won’t take you seriously if you compliment their looks, but it can draw a smile and break the ice.
Go for the corniest pick-up line you can think of and try to make the person laugh.
Ask her, “Ist dein Vater ein Dieb?” She will ask, “Warum?” And you will say, “Weil er die Sterne vom Himmel gestohlen und sie dir in die Augen gesetzt hat!”
What does this interaction translate to?
Is your father a thief? Why? Because he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes!
Yes, it seems super lame, but it may just work on that special someone. Otherwise, keep trying these tactics for how to flirt in German and you will become a smooth operator in no time.

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