How To Have Sex Doggy Style

How To Have Sex Doggy Style
Published on December 10, 2021 @ 12:00PM

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When it comes to sex positions, some are considered more effortless than others. While "vanilla" missionary is one of those go-to staples for most people, one of the most polarizing is doggy style, a position you might be drawn to or find downright uncomfortable.

The position, which traditionally involves one partner on all fours with the other kneeling and entering the vulva or anus from behind with a penis, fingers, or strap on, is a favorite for those looking for deeper penetration, says Casey Tanner, certified sex therapist and expert for LELO. The angle also massages the G-spot in people with vulvas and the prostate, or the P-spot, for people with penises.

But while the benefits of the position feel amazing to some people, it can be problematic for others who have limited mobility, joint pain, or generally feel strained with prolonged pressure or bodyweight on their knees or wrists, explains Anne Hodder-Shipp, an American College of Sexologists (ACS)-certified sex educator. "Depending on the person and the partner, doggy style can also feel physically uncomfortable because the position sort of shortens the vaginal canal and can make it easier for the penetrating partner to bump up against their partner's cervix, which can be painful for some people," she says.

Thankfully, there are plenty of expert-approved tips and tricks you can employ to make the rear entry position more pleasurable.

By putting a pillow beneath your knees, you can increase comfort and leverage, says Tanner. Bonus: Kneeling on a pillow will mitigate significant height differences, which can make doggy style a bit more difficult, she adds.

If you want to invest in a piece of sex furniture, Amy Baldwin, sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and co-host of the Shameless Sex Podcast recommends checking out Liberator's Wedge or Ramp , which can make doggy more comfortable for the receiving partner as their hips are propped up while laying forward on their belly without strain. "The Liberator Wedge and Ramp also make things more comfortable for the giver as their partner's bits are now at the same level as that of their own, so they can move and thrust with ease," she explains.

If your wrists — or neck, back, or shoulders — bug you in doggy style, a simple position tweak can make a major difference. "The person on all fours can move from their hands to their elbows," recommends Tanner.

Instead of gravitating right to the bed, you might mix it up by using a raised platform like a couch, table, or desk, which makes for an exciting change of pace from traditional doggy, says Tanner.

"Because doggy style takes up less space than missionary, it's also a favorite for sex in small spaces, such as the shower or the backseat of a car," she adds.

Ahead of attempting a position that involves deep penetration, you'll want to be sure you're super-warmed up. "Doggie style may be best suited as the position you go to after you've already played in another position or two," notes Baldwin.

And when considering penis in vagina sex, it's important to remember that the vagina takes approximately four times as long as the penis to get fully aroused, she points out. "So if the penis is turned on and ready for action in five minutes, it may take another 15 for the vagina to be ready for penetration," says Baldwin.

A few steps Tanner recommends taking to ensure you're fired up and ready to go:

Increase blood flow and lubrication by starting to give attention to erogenous zones such as the lips, thighs, hips, butt, and stomach.

Use a lubricant to massage the opening of the vagina or anus. Use fingers to penetrate before moving to anything larger.

A product like the Ohnut can help decrease the depth of penetration in this position for those who enjoy the energy created by doggy style but not necessarily the vaginal or anal sensations. Alternatively, utilizing a vibrating penis ring on a penis or strap-on can increase pleasure for the partner with a vulva by also stimulating the clitoris alongside the penetration.

One major benefit of doggy style: The partner doing the penetrating has the freedom to put their hands wherever they please. That means they can stimulate the other person's nipples or clitoris by reaching around their thighs to access other erogenous zones, says Tanner.

Kristine D'Angelo , a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach, says nipples clamps are a great way to stimulate the nipples during doggy style. Her pro-tip: "Get adjustable nipples clamps that have thin chains or cords attached to them, give your partner access to these chains, and they can tug away from behind you. Create a safe word so you can easily tell your partner to stop if it gets too uncomfortable."

A slightly more vanilla — but equally steamy — option: Hodder-Shipp recommends either partner applying some silicone lube to the nipples and gliding a vibrator across them.

Because most people with vulvas do not experience orgasm from penetration alone, doggy style can present a fantastic opportunity to introduce external clitoral stimulation, notes Tanner.

"Try boosting pleasure with a hands-free vibrator that stays put during penetration, such as LELO's Tiani 3 or a vibrating penis ring," she suggests.

Anal plugs can enhance your doggy style experience, notes Hodder-Shipp. "The giving partner can wear one for a more 'filled up' feeling, and if they have a prostate, they can wear an anal plug shaped to massage the prostate with every thrust," she notes. "The receiving partner can wear an anal plug for that same 'filled up' feeling, and depending on the size and shape of the plug, it can also offer a bit of pressure against the posterior wall of the vagina (the wall that separates the rectum from the vaginal canal) that the giving partner might be able to feel during penetration."

Just be sure to lube up anything you're inserting in or around the anus, as it is not self-lubricating, adds Baldwin who recommends a high-grade silicone lubricant such as Uberlube . "Not only is it a great lube for all types of sex, it also has a pump top so that way the person doing the penetrating in the doggie-style position only needs one hand to apply the lube, leaving the other hand free to continue grabbing on to their partner's hip," she notes.

Plenty of people enjoy doggy style but miss the ability to connect with their partner through eye contact while in the position. A few ways around this, according to Tanner:

D'Angelo emphasizes the importance of remembering to breathe deeply and listen to your body. "Ask yourself, 'Am I enjoying this?'" she advises. "If not, stop doing it or ask for an adjustment to make it more pleasurable for you."

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Like all things sex, doggy style sex can come with a lot of questions. So, if you’ve ever wondered if you’re doing doggy “correctly” (spoiler: doggy has a ton of different varieties and tweaks so any variation of your-partner-entering-you-from-behind is “correct”!), rest assured, you’re not alone. If you’re wondering about the intricacies of pulling it off (are you supposed to be on your hands, elbows, or arms?) or if you’re just wondering about how to make it more comfy for you, we’ve got answers for you!
Here are some of the most commonly asked doggy style-centric questions, along with expert insight from Carmel Jones , sex and relationship coach and writer at The Big Fling ; and Gigi Engle , LifeStyles brand ambassador, certified sex coach, and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life , to help.
You can do doggy in any variety of ways (so whichever is most comfortable for you, do that!), with one of the more common ways is with you leaning or resting on your hands or arms, explains Jones. “Some people like to get on all fours on the bed and rest on their hands,” which is considered the most “classic” form of doggy, according to Jones. And if you’re looking for even deeper sensation, Jones recommends keeping your butt up higher, arching your back, or resting on your forearms instead of hands or palms: If you do yoga, “Imagine it like Child’s Pose with your bum in the air,” Jones adds.
Before we get into this, let’s just note that queefing is totally normal (check out our list of fascinating queef-tastic facts here if you’re so inclined) and something you can’t “hold in” or control. Because doggy is a relaxing position that causes your pelvic muscles to be raised, more air can get inside, which might explain why doggy leads to queefing more so than other positions, explains Jones. Queefing is also caused by movement or changing positions, which could be the reason why. “The shift in your position might also contribute to the motion of air flowing out. But you must remember, that's all it is: air. It's nothing to be ashamed of anyway,” she adds.
Just like queefing, there could be a variety of reasons why you feel bloated after doggy style, explains Jones. One reason could be if you have a tipped uterus (more common than you’d think, FYI!) Women with a tipped uterus often describe discomfort during doggy style, says Jones. If you think this is you, talk it over with your OBGYN who can assess if the bloated feeling is attributed to your anatomy.
If you’re having a little trouble getting there during doggy-style, you’re not alone. Actually, not to make you feel basic, but there are plenty of women with the same issue. A 2017 study found that 36 percent of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. And let’s face it, doggy-style isn’t exactly heavy on the clit rubbing.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. “Get your clitoris involved by bringing in some sex toys,” says Engle. “A smaller toy is easier to maneuver over the clitoris since you’re balancing with one hand on the bed and the other on your clit,” she says.
But honestly, know that doggy just isn’t the right position for everyone when it comes to having an orgasm—and that’s totally chill. “Doggy-style can be enjoyable without orgasms, so don’t put so much pressure on yourself to come,” she says. Instead, mix up your sex positions so you can find which position does.
According to Engle, all you really need to get maximum depth next time you and bae are doing it doggy is a slight tweak to your positioning. “Try moving onto your elbows for support instead of being on straight all-fours,” she says. “This can get your partner deeper.” Another option? Try out flat doggy, where you lie on your stomach and your partner lies directly on top of you, says Engle.
If you’re not feeling super ~connected~ to your bae during doggy, it might be time to slo-mo this B. “Doggy-style is often depicted in porn as this rough and intense pounding position, and it really doesn’t need to be this way,” says Engle. “Slow everything down. Have your partner thrust with purpose.” Engle actually recommends slowing things down as a rule of thumb whenever you want things to feel a bit more intimate in bed. “When in doubt, slow down the sex to make it more sensual,” she says.
If you’re craving some mid-coital smooches, there’s even a way to get that taken care of. “You can even sit back on your knees, with your partner still inside you, so they can kiss your neck and grab your breasts,” says Engle. “All of this makes the position very intimate and sexy.”
If you’re dealing with this issue, Engle says that first and foremost, you have to make sure you’re, like, 110 percent turned on before any P goes into your V. “This can take 20 to 30 minutes for women,” she says. “Oral sex is a must. The vagina naturally expands when it’s aroused. If you’re not ready for penetration, there can be pain and even tearing. This is the biggest cause for female pain during sex.”
In addition to being aroused, make sure you have a handy bottle of lube lying around on deck. “Lube is a must. We need to stop having shame around lube,” she says. “It doesn’t matter how wet you get, you should always be using more lube. The wetter, the better. This will help with discomfort.”
Alright, so there are a few reasons he could be slipping out of you so often: “It could be that he has a smaller penis or it could be that your thrusting movements are too big and you’re out of sync with your rhythm,” says Engle.
No matter what the reasoning behind the regular slip-outs, Engle says it’s nothing a little good old-fashioned communication can’t fix. “The easiest way to handle it is to decide which one of you is moving and which one of you is staying still during this position,” she instructs. “That way, you don’t wind up disconnected." Or try flat doggy, as described above, since this positioning gives a more controlled depth, which can make staying in easier.
If the classic knees-down-ass-up doggy isn’t working for you, Engle recommends working a pillow into the mix when you’re doing it the OG way. “Being on all fours can cause a lot of banging around of the cervix, which is not ideal,” she says. “Try placing a pillow or two under your hips for more lift.”
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