How To Finger Yourself Properly

How To Finger Yourself Properly

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Wondering how to finger properly to ensure it's sexy and fun? Read on to find out how to use your digits for pleasure
Learning how to finger yourself, and others, is an excellent sex skill to have. We love our collection of the best sex toys and app-controlled vibrators , but sometimes we prefer to skip the toys for something simpler—i.e., hands-on stimulation. Not only is manual stimulation erotic and fun, but it's also free and doesn't require any batteries.
Fingering yourself or any other person with a vulva is a natural part of sex and a great way to, ahem, singlehandedly achieve an orgasm . For most people, fingering involves inserting one or more fingers into the vagina; however, it can also mean using your fingers to stimulate the vulva or vagina, without insertion. It's possible to have an orgasm from fingering alone if done right, though it is often done without reaching climax, as foreplay. You can also incorporate oral sex in your fingering technique, for super powerful orgasms.
Whether it's utilized as a warm-up or the main event, fingering is exceptionally pleasurable but, if done wrong, it can be painful and uncomfortable. Fortunately, we're here to teach you how to properly finger yourself and/or others, with fittingly handy tips below.
While spontaneous intimate time is great, if you know you might be getting down to business, it can be helpful to ensure you've done a few things beforehand so that everything goes swimmingly and there aren't any unnecessary accidents or even injuries:
1. Get clean
Fingering is fantastic if you're properly prepared. It's important to cut your nails and thoroughly wash your hands before fingering. Infection can occur if the hands are dirty, and unmanicured nails can bruise the tissue around the vulva and the vaginal canal.
2. Set the mood
Fingering is like any other sexual activity. If you're masturbating alone, make sure you're in a private area and feel comfortable and relaxed. If you're planning on partaking with a partner, you can also set the mood with music or naughty conversation.
Hands-free vibrators are great, but often, it's your hands that can work the most magic in the bedroom. Let's get one thing right off the bat: all vulvas are different, which means you have to adapt your fingering technique to each individual person and their preferences for getting off. That said, the universal basics for how to finger do apply.
Follow these steps for fun, orgasm-inducing stimulation:
Lying down on a bed or flat surface with the legs spread open and bent at the knee is the best way to enjoy fingering. However, you can also do it standing with one leg raised, to allow easy penetration. In each case, make sure you're properly lubed up to avoid hurting yourself or someone else.
Don't be too eager to insert the fingers in—start slow with foundational foreplay. This can help avoid overstimulation or orgasm anxiety (stress about or hyper-focus on reaching climax). Kissing and caressing while teasing the entrance of the vagina are great ways to start your fingering session with someone else. If you're flying solo, begin with some soft strokes on your vulva.
Start with one finger, and then add another slowly to your level of comfort. Most people start with the index finger and then add the middle finger; others use the middle finger and the ring finger. If you're flexible enough, you can use two fingers in the vagina and have the pinky finger in the anus.
The majority of women don't experience regular vaginal orgasms—for that matter, did you know that orgasm and climax are not the same thing? Instead, most women find the clitoris as their main source of heightened sexual stimulation and orgasms, so it's important to stimulate the area if you want to know how to finger properly.
Rubbing the clit gently and adding pressure based on the other person's reaction is a great way to stimulate the vagina. If you're masturbating, pay attention to what feels good, and adjust your pressure accordingly.
Use the smooth base of your thumb to run the clitoris in soft circular motions as you finger the G-spot with the index and middle fingers. You can touch the clitoris directly if you or the other person are adequately stimulated and lubed up. Then, as you, or your partner, become more aroused, the vagina secretes more lubricating fluid, making penetrative fingering more comfortable.
The curled finger motion is the best way to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is on the upper side of the vaginal canal. It feels like a wet sponge and has a different texture from the rest of the vagina. Once you have the fingers in, curl them like you're telling someone to come forward, and repeat that motion as you apply pressure. If you're fingering yourself, your hand will face down instead of up, but try to use the same motion.
Maintain consistency if you're getting aroused or if the other person is encouraging you to do it. Adam Safron (opens in new tab) , a neuroscience and psychology expert, explains that rhythm between sexual partners slowly builds up the sexual signals throughout the body and the brain, causing an orgasm.
Keep up the motion and only increase the pace when it's necessary. As you build up the tension to a climax, it's important to continue what you're doing. If you change up the technique, you might have to start over, so keep at it.
Don't be afraid to introduce toys to the mix. Choose toys that stimulate the clitoris, to increase the chances of reaching an orgasm. Clitoral gadgets also make it easier for you to focus on fingering if multitasking is challenging. Vibrating toys for the anus are also excellent for extra stimulation.
Overall, fingering is sexy and feels amazing. It's incredible as foreplay with a partner, and it's a great way to masturbate solo. As with any activity, practice makes perfect, so don't get discouraged if it takes a few tries and adjustments when you're learning how to finger. Just find your rhythm—and remember, every vulva is different and will likely enjoy different techniques.
Amy Hunt is a lifestyle writer and editor, and was previously Lifestyle Channel Editor at womanandhome.com, having been with the brand since 2015. She is passionate about everything from entertainment to books, to homes, food and wellness. When she isn't editing, researching or writing articles, he's busy burying her nose in a gripping thriller, practising yoga, or buying new homeware.

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“I am going to share with you how to finger yourself men using the “g-spot technique”. This method can be used by both women and men but it is more effective for men who have never done this before. It is easier than you think once you know what you are doing. The process is simple and easy to follow. Just like learning how to tie a tie, if you do it right you will get the hang of it in no time at all.
There are many methods out there that teach different ways to stimulate this area. Some people use their fingers while others use sex toys. In my opinion, the best way to learn is hands on. With this said, let’s begin!
1. Lay flat on your back and raise your knees bent and facing up so they point up high in the sky. (You may want to put something under your hips) 2. Apply lube.. 3. Start my massaging your taint and slowly make your way to the entrance of your rectum. 4. If you are not yet stimulated or hornny, I recommend also touching your penis. 5. If entry into your rectum is tight or too painful, practice breathing techniques to become relaxed. 6. Once inside and about one or two knuckles deep, about two inches inside, angle your finger up as you should feel a round bulb of tissue, you’ve hit the prostate.
2. Gently massage around the g-spot in circles. You only need one finger, just keep moving it up and down. Don’t apply pressure.
3. Move your hand horizontally towards your stomach as you continue massaging your g spot. Your vagina should open naturally when you move upwards. Be careful here not to hurt yourself.
4. As soon as you reach the top of your rectum, stop pressing on. Now insert another finger and continue to gently massage around the g-spot. Do this for several minutes until you start feeling some arousal. Never go deeper than an inch.
5. When you’re ready, remove your middle finger from the g-spot. Insert your index finger and spread your vaginal lips apart with your other hand. Press against your clitoris with your palm, then massage it in small circular motions. Repeat this step several times.
6. When you are finished, remove your middle finger and insert your index finger again. Hold onto your testicles with your left hand, and grab hold of your penis with your right hand. Keep them firmly gripped together in your dominant hand, and pull your penis away from your body. Then take your non-dominant hand and place it over your lower abdomen. Grip your testicles tightly in your non-dominant hand, and stroke your penis upward toward the ceiling. Continue stroking in long strokes, always keeping your penis firm but not stiff. Alternate which hand does which job every few strokes.
7. Massage the head of your penis with your fingertips. Use short quick strokes and don’t forget the base.
8. When you are getting close, release your grip on your testicles and squeeze your PC muscle. Make sure you aren’t jerking off; you’ll know because your orgasm won’t happen.
9. After your ejaculation, try to relax. Let everything cool down and enjoy the moment. Give yourself plenty of time to recover.
10. Relax and breathe deeply. Allow yourself to fully embrace the sensations of pleasure without worrying about anything else.
11. Repeat steps 1 through 10 until you reach climax.
12. Enjoy your relaxation period after your orgasm.
13. Take note of where you would prefer to receive stimulation next time.
14. Remember, masturbation is self-pleasure and nobody needs to see you enjoying it. Masturbate in private, preferably somewhere quiet and comfortable.
15. There are many ways to masturbate and each person finds comfort in his/her own style. Experimenting is part of the fun!
16. Don’t rush things. Masturbation takes time, patience and understanding of oneself.
17. For those of you looking for a quick fix, please remember that masturbation provides significant health benefits. Not only does it reduce stress levels and anxiety, it also increases libido and overall well being. It improves concentration, energy levels and sleep quality. It helps regulate hormones such as testosterone and estrogen, which are key factors in maintaining sexual function during aging. Lastly, regular masturbation has been shown to protect cognitive functioning later in life.
18. Try incorporating Kegel exercises to help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. These muscles are responsible for controlling urine flow and bowel movements. They also play a role in sexual intercourse. Strengthen these muscles by contracting and relaxing them vigorously several times per day. Exercises include pushing hard on the front wall of your bladder, squeezing your buttocks together, and clenching and unclenching your fists repeatedly.
19. Another great exercise is called “”the butterfly””. Begin by lying on your side with your bottom half propped up slightly on pillows. Place your arms behind your ears and bring your shoulder blades together. Clasp your hands together and interlock your fingers. Keeping your elbows locked and your shoulders relaxed, tighten your abs and press your pelvis upward toward the ceiling. At first, you might find it difficult to maintain your position. That’s OK! Just focus on your breath and try to stay calm. Slowly increase the intensity of the movement until you feel your pelvis beginning to lift. Repeat this sequence three times. Rest for 30 seconds between repetitions.
20. A third exercise that works the pelvic region is known as the “”cat”” exercise. Lie on your back with your legs extended straight up in the air and your feet together. On each side of your pelvis, grasp your ankles and bring your heels together. Tighten your abdominal muscles and contract your buttocks as much as possible. Next, contract your pelvic floor muscles forcefully and push your pelvis forward. Hold this position for five seconds, then rest for one second. Repeat this cycle ten times.
21. Breathe deeply to achieve a state of total relaxation. Deep breaths activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes healing and rejuvenation throughout your entire body.
22. Find a comfortable and stimulating position. Many people choose to lie on their backs with a pillow placed beneath their hips. Others prefer to sit upright on the edge of a bed or sofa. Some even opt for kneeling positions. Whatever feels most comfortable to you, simply allow your surroundings to dictate what type of position you assume.
23. Focus solely on your erotic fantasy. Concentrate completely on your desire and ignore any outside distractions.
24. When you are aroused and ready to climax, concentrate on feeling good, rather than thinking about specific details.
25. Feel free to experiment with positions. However, make sure that whatever position you adopt allows you to easily access your g-spot.
26. If you experience pain during masturbation, then you are either gripping your testicles/penis too tightly or applying pressure too aggressively. Try loosening your grip and reducing the amount of pressure applied.
27. Never skip meals, eat healthy foods, drink lots of water, avoid alcohol, caffeine, cigarettes, and drugs. All of these substances contain toxins that can cause impotence problems.
28. Have a plan for emergencies. Tell someone where you are going, when you expect to arrive, and how long you intend to spend there. Also tell him/her who you will contact if you miss your appointment.
29. Keep a pair of scissors handy. Trimming pubic hair keeps unsightly hairs from interfering with pleasurable activity.
30. Lube is vital for safe solo sex. Using lubricants can make penetration smoother, less painful, and more enjoyable.
31. Always use condoms during oral or manual stimulation. Condoms provide additional protection against pregnancy and STDs.
32. Consider wearing a condom over your erect penis prior to having penetrative sex. This prevents sperm entering the cervical mucus and making it harder for infections to occur. Sperm are usually present in the cervix for approximately six days following unprotected sex.
33. Avoid douches and feminine sprays. Douching irritates sensitive skin and makes it difficult for genital areas to remain moist. Spraying perfumes and deodorant directly onto genitals disrupts natural pH balance of the delicate genital tissues. Both douching and perfume spraying can burn the delicate skin surrounding the genitals.
34. Bathing daily reduces odor and enhances hygiene. Wash your genitals with mild soap and warm water to avoid irritation and infection. Rinse thoroughly to cleanse the surface of bacteria and other contaminants. Dry thoroughly afterwards.
35. Wear loose fitting pants, underwear and shirts made of cotton. Cotton absorbs moisture better than synthetic fibers.
36. Cleanliness is very important. Remove fecal matter promptly to prevent contamination of food items and surfaces. Wash your hands often, particularly after changing diapers. Pay particular attention to cleaning the anus and perineum.
37. Keep your genital area dry to decrease friction and”
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