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What's the problem with those lists that always promise she’ll have the best orgasm ever? For starters, their success rate is nil. Since every vagina is shaped slightly differently, the moves that get women off vary from lady to lady. Meaning, every woman needs something a little bit different in order to reach the big O. Also, that "something" might not expressly involve your dick, since only 12.9 percent of women consistently reach orgasm through penetration alone.
The good folks at OMGYes know all about this struggle. They created a platform to help spread the word about what women prefer in bed, with scientific data visualizations of how many women like what and why, video demonstrations by real women who love each technique, and virtual simulations that teach you how to execute each move.
How does OMGYes know all this stuff? They've done their homework. Recently, they conducted a study of 2,000 women with the goal of figuring out the fingering techniques and methods that feel best for different women, and why.
While there's no "one fingering trick finishes all" technique, there are some interesting insights from the study that can help steer you in the right direction. Here's what thousands of women had to say about the precious art of fingering.
Remember, it's what's on the outside that counts. Specifically, we're talking about the clit. One point echoed throughout the study was that the kind of "fingering" that actually brings women to orgasm is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that's how most women masturbate because it's what actually feels the best. For the vast majority of women, penetration is nice, but it's kind of like rubbing your balls - pleasant, but not going to make you come.
The women who participated in this study went as far as to say that the guys who think they have "the move" are usually worst at giving pleasure. The mentality of "one move to finish them all" makes sense to men, since moves like stroking and sucking work for almost all guys, and if there’s lube, just about any rubbing is going to feel good to some degree. But for women, it's truly different strokes for different folks.
The clit is so sensitive that touch can sometimes feel really uncomfortable or even hurt certain women. So if some move felt really good for your ex-girlfriend, that doesn't mean it'll do the trick for your next girlfriend. A prime example is that some women orgasm almost exclusively through their clitoris, while others prefer a G-spot orgasm. In bed, try experimenting with using different fingers, since some girls might prefer you use a smaller, shorter finger, while others might prefer the middle finger for maximal G-spot stimulation.
Porn that shows women getting rubbed out typically portrays a hard and fast back and forth motion, commonly known as the "DJ" because of how it mimics the spinning of a track. According to the OMGYes study, that kind of superfast cadence and pressure directly on the clit only feels good for 1 in 48 women. For the rest, it either doesn't feel great or actually hurts. To put it into perspective, imagine someone taking your dick and rubbing the tip really hard with their palm as fast as they can. It's a sharp painful tickle, and naturally, you want it to stop. For the vast majority of women, it's not a good move, even if women in porn are pretending to like it.
It's true that very few women get off by way of penetration alone. In the study conducted by OMGYes, 72 percent of women said they need their clit stimulated during intercourse in order to reach orgasm. That means you need to pay attention to your partner's most sensitive part during intercourse if you want her to orgasm. In fact, the resounding sentiment from the study was that the clit gets attention here and there, but most women would prefer to have it touched throughout the act.
For most women, the more anticipation that's built up before touching the vagina, the more aroused they become, providing more pleasure once you do start to touch her down there. The women who participated in the survey said that kisses on the lips, neck, shoulders, and arms usually do the trick, as well as gently, slowly stroking their stomach, legs, and thighs.You can’t go wrong with slow foreplay.
Approach the crotch area, but keep passing by it as if it’s invisible. One woman from the study likened this tactic to playing with a cat. If you reach right for it, it runs away. If you tease and don't stroke it, it comes to you.
Another woman described a method she calls the “fake out.” To do it, you move your fingertip down your partner's body from her neck to her breasts to her stomach, but instead of landing at her crotch, veer down her leg. Then, on the way back up, move your fingertip in another path that misses her crotch, too. These moves build anticipation and help awaken arousal. Many women love this kind of withholding and will eventually move their crotch toward your finger or tongue as it passes by — a good sign that the clit is ready to be touched. The more awake her body is, the more pleasurable it will be when you finally touch her clitoris.
The clit has a naturally occurring hood of skin meant to help soften contact since the clit is super sensitive . Staying right on the clit is often pretty painful, with one woman from the study describing the sensation as "the feeling of sticking a Q-tip way too far into your ear."
To balance this, most women say that "layering" with the hood brings them the right amount of pleasure without the pain that direct contact with the clit can end up facilitating. To try layering, touch the hood, rubbing it so that the pressure you're putting on it makes contact with the clit.
Before touching the clit directly, most women say they prefer you to spread the wetness from the inside of their vagina. Get it on your finger, and "paint it" onto the rest of the lips and clit.
Using this natural lube makes touching feel smoother, and allows your fingertips to glide and caress instead of pulling or catching on the sensitive skin. Keep in mind, you'll likely have to go back for seconds and thirds of wetness in order to get it well coated. It's also good to note that not all women make a lot of natural lube (even if they're really turned on), so don't be shy about adding some manufactured lube into the mix.
According to the women surveyed, the most commonly appreciated "first touch" of the clit is one that’s feather-light. One woman even compared the initial touch she likes to rubbing honey on a butterfly's wing. Keep your touch delicate and light so that your fingertip isn't even moving the skin, just gliding over it.Remember, the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so proceed gently!
Many of the study’s participants reported that the guys who are best at fingering are the ones who start off gently and then try different moves , while watching and asking for feedback. They also ask questions that don't put their partner in a tough spot. For example, questions like "Is that good?" or "Are you close?" are not the direction you want to go. Instead, ask questions like "Faster or slower?" or "Higher or lower?" The answers to these questions will actually give you useful information to make the pleasure better, and keep your ego intact.
One big factor that prevents women from reaching orgasm is that they have too many concerns running through their head. They're worried that they're taking too long, or that they'll offend their partner if they ask them to change their moves.
The quickest, easiest thing you can do to up your chances of getting your partner off is assure her that there's no rush. Say how much you're into it, and that it can take as long as it needs to. Also, let her know that there’s no pressure if nothing happens. Many women can't orgasm because they feel like they're going to let their partner down if they don't. If you take that end goal off the table, she's actually more likely to get there.
One foolproof way to take things up a notch? Adding a toy into the mix. Here are a few products to help level up your next finger bang.
If you're already good with your hands, throwing these finger pads into the mix will potentially lead to some of the most mind-blowing fingering your partner has ever encountered. These finger pads combine the benefits of using a vibrating toy, including maximal clitoral stimulation , with all the best things about being fingered. The result? An orgasm that's earth-shattering. $36.99 at AdamEve.com
You know that a sex toy is going to be solid when it has been designed by a board-certified sexologist. Created by Dr. Kat Van Kirk, the flutter ring is the latest and greatest when it comes to clit stimulation. The toy conveniently attaches to your finger in order to keep it in place while you're maneuvering. The magic is in the way that the four silicone layers are tiered into a v shape. When the toy vibrates, the layers delicately move with it, providing four times the pleasure — without overstimulating the way that larger clit stimulators can sometimes do. $29.99 at AdamEve.com
If you're already good with your hands, throwing these finger pads into the mix will potentially lead to some of the most mind blowing fingering your partner has ever encountered. These finger pads combine the benefits of using a vibrating toy, including maximal clitoral stimulation, with all the best things about being fingered. The result? An orgasm that's earth-shattering. $10.00 at JimmyJane.com
You'd be surprised just how far using the right lube can go when you're looking for an easy way to give your partner more pleasure. This clit-sensitizer lube does wonders when used while fingering. Don’t get too crazy with it, as a little goes a long way. Spread a dime-sized amount on her clit to make her most sensitive part even more stimulated. Pair this formula with the fingering moves and fingering techniques you just learned, and you've got all the tools you need to give her the most incredible finger bang of her life. $7.95 at AdamEve.com
Don’t let this vibrator’s size fool you. It packs a punch and works wonders for easy clit stimulation if your partner needs some extra motion while you're fingering her. Slightly over 2 inches long, this mini pocket vibrator is single speed, battery powered and easy to operate. It's also waterproof, in case you're getting your nasty on in the shower. Not to mention, a waterproof toy makes for easy cleanup once you two are done using it. $9.93 at Amazon.com
If you're looking for a lube that’ll provide more slip, Überlube is an ideal formula to try. It goes on soft and smooth, and it’s long lasting, meaning less is more. Plus, it’s packed with vitamin E, making it beneficial for whatever skin you’re putting it on. Lubes that get sticky after you've been going at it for a while are pretty much a recipe for lost orgasms, so make sure you're using one that's silicone-based, like this one. Bonus points: Überlube doubles as a massage lube, in case you two want to give each other a good rub down later on. $29.95 at AdamEve.com
Bottom line: The best lovers aren't the ones who can move their fingers a certain way. They're the ones who will go the extra mile to make her feel comfortable enough to give feedback. If you can get your partner talking, telling you how she wants you to touch her and where (the vaginal opening, the outer labia?), that's golden. The most mind-blowing orgasms you dream about are the ones that happen as a result of excellent communication r... with a little trial and error throughout.
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Last week, during a shared lie-in with my partner, I experienced one of the loveliest orgasms I’ve ever had.
To bring me to the brink of ecstasy that morning, my boyfriend didn’t even need to take off his boxer shorts. He prompted my delicious climax using only his hands.
My orgasm that day (and the gorgeous build-up to it) got me thinking about fingering, and how much I rate it.
Sexologists define fingering as “the use of fingers or hands to sexually stimulate the vulva or vagina.”
Personally, I find it one of the most satisfying sexual acts. It’s the most reliable way to get me to orgasm.
Of course, every woman is different — but I’m by no means alone in my love of fingering.
“I think many women would agree that getting fingered feels phenomenal,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. “Fingers can give much more focused, deliberate, and intense stimulation than any other body part.”
If you want to learn how to finger a woman, you’re in good hands (pun intended)!
Here are some of my best suggestions to help you maximize your partner’s enjoyment.
I’ll start with the most important takeaway. The best way to finger a woman depends on the woman in question.
For example, fingering feels best for me when my boyfriend focuses on the external parts of my genitals.
Consistent strokes between my labia and circles round my clit will put me in seventh heaven for an hour.
A finger inside my vagina can feel hot, but I’m triply turned on when my partner focuses on my vulva!
But another woman might feel there’s something missing unless her vagina gets attention, too.
Once she’s aroused, she might be the kind of lady who craves that G-spot stimulation.
No two women are the same, explains Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., psychologist and sexuality expert. “Because each woman’s nerves are positioned differently, they each like to be touched differently.”
Communicating with your partner helps you tailor her experience. You’re more likely to satisfy her if you understand exactly what she enjoys.
Plus, taking time to communicate shows you care. Your lady will appreciate knowing her lover is serious about delighting her!
The following strategies will help you learn more about your partner’s needs.
Later, you can use your new knowledge to complement the more general tips in the rest of this guide.
Outside the bedroom, ask your partner how she feels about fingering. Are there any techniques she’s already keen on?
Hey, I came across an article which described how pleasurable fingering can be for some women. I’d love to know how you feel about fingering. Are there any techniques you know you like?
Mintz calls this kind of discussion “a kitchen-table sex talk.”
A neutral environment — like the kitchen — encourages more relaxed conversation. It’s often easier to broach sensitive topics when you’re not already in the middle of having sex.
Additionally, experts have been telling us for years that “sex starts in the mind. ”
Hence, “kitchen-table sex talks” are a great form of foreplay. A juicy chat about your partner’s favorite techniques will likely titillate you both!
You’ll learn a lot if you observe her pleasuring herself.
Here’s another arousing way to educate yourself. Let your partner know how much it would turn you on to watch her masturbating.
Every woman has her own unique way of inducing an orgasm when she touches herself. Your partner likely uses her fingers in the way that works best for her body.
Hence, you’ll learn a lot if you observe her pleasuring herself.
“Create an environment of intimacy and trust,” advises sex counselor Ian Kerner. “Let her know you want to watch because you want to learn more about how to please her.”
If she feels self-conscious or awkward, don’t pressure her. There are other, less intimidating, alternatives.
For example, Mintz suggests “watching realistic videos of women masturbating, and talking about them together.”
You could ask your partner questions like:
“Compared to the lady in the video, what do you differently when you touch yourself?”
“Do you focus on the same areas, or different ones?”
This allows her to describe her proclivities — even if she’d rather not demonstrate them.
Before you get down to business, wash your hands and ensure your fingernails are trimmed.
Like any other sexual act, fingering requires a warm-up. Indulge in foreplay, and go slowly. Spend plenty of time building sexual tension.
Start off with light, teasing kisses. Undress your partner one garment at a time, leaving only her panties on.
Graze her neck and breasts with your fingertips. Fondle her inner thighs. Tell her with your words and your eyes how beautiful she is.
Before you take off her panties, try cupping her whole vulva very gently in one hand. Now keep your hand still! Kerner says stillness can be more arousing than movement, because it builds anticipation.
Next, move your hand gradually up her vulva, pausing at intervals and pressing softly.
“This wakes up all the tissues and allows your partner to get used to being touched,” says Stella Harris, sex coach and intimacy educator.
(I find it incredibly erotic when my boyfriend does this. It’s my favorite form of teasing!)
With your free hand, you could massage your partner’s breast or cradle her face as you kiss her.
Finally, remove her panties and cup her now-naked vulva. Does her slit feel wet to the touch? If yes, that’s a good sign.
Before you move on to the next step, apply lube to your hands to give them extra slip.
Also, get comfortable — you’re going to be playing with her genitals for a while! Choose a position which allows both of your hands easy access.
Personally, I love lying next to my partner while he works on my pussy.
That way, I can kiss him, run my hands through his hair, and bury my face into his neck as I’m getting close to climax.
However, you may prefer to lie between your lady’s legs, or kneel between her knees.
The entire vulva is a potential erogenous zone.
Want to give your partner an outstanding sensual experience? Don’t rush to sensitive areas like her clitoris or G-spot.
Going straight to those regions can produce overwhelming or even painful sensations.
Plus, as Harris reminds us , “the entire vulva is a potential erogenous zone.” Lavish attention on every crevice to intensify your partner’s arousal.
If you’re not sure where to begin, I’ve outlined some suggestions below.
Once again, not every woman likes the same kind of stimulation. As you try different touch techniques, note your partner’s responses.
Be willing to adapt as you learn what works for your lover!
I go crazy when my boyfriend splays my labia and strokes between them.
His touch feels even more electrifying when he wets his fingertips with my juices. There are few things hotter than feeling him spread my moisture in the valleys between my lips.
For some women, soft squeezes and playful pinches of their labia can feel tantalizing, too. But as with all sensitive areas, remember not to overdo it!
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