How To Date Guys

How To Date Guys
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Show interest in little ways. [1]
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Some shy guys need the green light to know that you're interested. Whenever you see him, be sure to smile and say "hi." [2]
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If you see him from across the room, hold eye contact for a little while and smile. Doing so may give him the courage to come over.

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Approach him one-on-one. Even the most outgoing guys can be overwhelmed when you're constantly surrounded by a group of friends. Take the pressure off by stepping away from your pals to chat him up. [3]
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A shy guy will be more likely to engage with you one-on-one.
If your friends are around, ask them to meet you later so you can talk in private. Then walk up to your shy guy with a huge smile and say "Hi."

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Ask open-ended questions to keep conversations going. [4]
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Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.

Greeting one another and making small talk will only get you so far with a shy guy. Take conversations deeper by using open-ended questions that require more than a "yes" or "no" answer. [5]
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Suggest low-key activities to warm up to one another. Once you and Mr. Shy get on friendly terms, suggest a time for you to hang out together. These should be low-key get-togethers under "safe" conditions, using something that connects the two of you. [6]
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Chat side-by-side rather than face-to-face. Guys in general are more receptive during shoulder-to-shoulder activities as opposed to head-on ones. Try to reduce the pressure and help him get comfortable with you by talking and doing activities side-by-side. [7]
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You're more likely to win him over if the interest is genuinely mutual.
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Invite him out to a no-pressure small gathering. Calling it a "date" just might freak out a shy guy in the early stages, so ask him out to lighter, small group gatherings. Maybe ask him to come with you and friends to a concert or a festival happening in your city. [9]
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Up the stakes by hanging out one-on-one. After you've gotten to know one another, initiate plans for a real date. Plan the date around your personalities, so you both feel comfortable. [10]
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Consider going to a movie for a first date with a shy guy, because there's no pressure to talk or make face-to-face chit-chat.
If he's not the mushy type, resist the urge to plan a romantic candlelight dinner. Instead, go for something light-hearted and casual, so you can both be yourselves.

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repeat something to yourself, like "Silence is not a bad thing" to avoid rushing in with empty or unnecessary conversation.
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Give him space as needed. If your boyfriend is shy or introverted, he may need time alone to recharge. Don't take this personally—it's nothing against you. Just establish a way for him to let you know when he needs a little space. [12]
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He might put on some headphones when you're together to demonstrate a need to pull away. Or, he might grow quiet and withdrawn.
If this happens, you might ask, "Why don't I go in the other room and give you some space?" or "I think I'll go hang out with my friends for a while. Call ya later, okay?"

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ask him in advance if he's okay hanging out with a group of your pals.
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never say "Aww, you're really shy!" or "You're blushing!"
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Plan to take the lead with intimacy. One of the tough things about dating a shy guy is having to initiate intimacy. Hugs, kisses, and other forms of affection will likely have to be prompted by you in order for them to happen. Your guy may be too shy to make the first move. [14]
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Be patient. [15]
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Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC Marriage & Family Therapist

Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.

Dating a shy guy might feel agonizing. You might constantly wonder if you're on the right track. You might also get frustrated when it takes him longer to open up. He will send you signals in his own way to let you know that he's into you. Give it time. [16]
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Are you wondering how to take things to the next level with that shy cutie? Shy guys can be perplexing— they may not openly let you know they like you or ask you out, so you'll have to be willing to make the first move in order to date them. Once you've broken the ice, work your magic to get closer to a shy guy. No matter what happens, you'll need to reel in your expectations--a shy guy may be a little different from other guys you've dated.

Conversation Starters: Questions: "That test last week was so hard. How did it go for you?" "What are your plans for this weekend?" "What’s the first thing you want to do when school gets out for summer?" "That t-shirt is so cool! Where did you get it?" "My week has been crazy. How is yours going so far?" Tip: Be prepared with casual follow-up questions to keep the conversation going. Show him that you think he’s interesting and that you want to keep talking!
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