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Published December 3, 2013 12:00AM (EST)

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On April 23, 2012, I published a post on my Forbes blog: “The Hardest Thing About Being a Male Porn Star.” I don’t remember what prompted the idea for the post, other than the fact that I have been covering the adult movie industry for more than a decade and have long been interested in how its male performers navigate a business in which they play second fiddle to its real stars: women.
I had sent emails to several male porn stars, asking them about the most challenging aspects of their job. Their answers varied from the mundane (“The hardest thing about being a male porn star is convincing your female co-workers that you are an interesting, well-rounded, fun guy who they might consider dating in a parallel universe after a few drinks”) to the mechanical (“The most difficult part about being a male porn star is the hard-on”). Only one of them couldn’t think of anything difficult about his line of work – James Deen, arguably the most famous male porn star working today, who declared his occupation “pretty easy.”
Recently, the post surpassed 1,000,000 views. Every day, it gets several thousand more. Most of the traffic is organic and comes from Google searches; in other words, those who find it are searching for some combination of “male,” “porn” and “star.” Every week, I get emails from men I have never met, who have read the post, who want me to tell them how they can become male porn stars, too.
Hello sir i want to be a porn star so i want to make a porn movie.
Their letters arrive from all over the world: Florida, Suriname, Pakistan. Of those who mention their age, most are in their 20s. They are looking for work, they decided male porn star is the job they would like to do, they need money and believe this is the best way to get it.
I want to be a porn star. Tell me what to do …
Typically, their emails are not very well written. The majority of the men are straight; a few are gay. They all want to know the same thing: How can I be a male porn star? They believe I can introduce them to an agent/producer/figurehead in the porn industry who will cast them in an adult movie to which everyone will masturbate, ostensibly. This is their dream.
I don't have any adult industries phone numbers how can I find the number?
It is unclear if they know who I am. One addressed his email to “Sir.” For the record, I am a woman. I am a journalist. I download their emails in a home office with a desk, a filing cabinet and a garbage can for recycling. I am married. I am not who they think I am. I do not have a magic wand that can turn them into male porn stars. I don’t know what to tell them. Truth be told, it is very difficult for men to break into the porn business (unless one rides on the coattails of a female who wants to be a porn star, a scenario with its own set of complications); many of the men who work in porn do not make a lot of money ($150 to $300 for a scene is not uncommon); and what it takes to be a male porn star (to wit: get up, get in, get off) is, for lack of a better word, hard.
I am looking to pay for school in these tough times.
The men who email me do not remind me of male porn stars I have known. I have seen woodsmen work. I have had conversations with men who work in porn during which they were naked, sweaty and dribbling spunk from scenes in which they had just performed. I flirted with them, and I wrote down the things they said in a notebook. I liked them. They were tanned, chiseled, waxed. They were smooth talkers, women worshipers, looking for love. You could describe the feelings I had toward them as a kind of romantic longing, one that is never meant to be realized. They appeared suspended between male adolescence and adulthood, caught in the net of those pubescent days when sex is everything, girls are an obsession, and showing what a stud you are makes you the king of your brethren. As grown-ups, they had enslaved themselves to our collective masculine ideal, forever trying to fulfill it, forever failing to do so. They were at war with themselves, their cocks their weapons, a semen-stained sofa in a rented mansion atop a hill in the San Fernando Valley their chosen battlefield – for reasons that, in the end, escaped me, a woman.
This has always been a dream of mine and I would do anything for a chance.
These young men I hear from grew up online. For their generation, the male porn star and his eternal boner symbolize what it means to be a man in the 21st century. In this digital reality, a new vision of masculinity is taking shape in the form of a patchwork man of pixel-based experiences: a click on a porn site, a pirated YouPorn video, an X-rated Google image search. In cubicles and bedrooms, the wannabe woodsman prays for deliverance into manhood at the altar of his glowing screen, gobsmacked by a shared GIF featuring a never-ending pop shot that he worships as if it were a virtual god, the signs of success eternal: money, women and a dick that won’t quit, unless someone breaks the code.
Iv been trying to get into porn since I ended my military contract.
To the uninitiated, James Deen and his peers are sexual superheroes. Yet, in Porn Valley, the male porn star is situated squarely in the industry’s most precarious position. Tasked with holding up an entire production by the strength of his erection, he is beholden entirely to others’ desires: a female costar who may be more interested in a paycheck than in him, a bored director hiding behind a video monitor, a crew member who long ago learned it’s easier to make porn by tuning out than tuning in. The male porn star’s greatest fear: a penile breakdown. From our red velvet seats in the anatomical theater that technology has given us, we watch the woodsman working, scrutinizing his every thrust. If his body fails him, he knows he is penniless, forgotten utterly, a human being chewed up like a piece of gristle spat out by the Great American Capitalism Machine that ate him.
I DOESN'T HAVE SHY TO FUCK IN FRONT OF CAMERA ALONG WITH ALL TECHNICIANS.
Once in a while, I reply to their emails. I ask them all the same question: Why do you want to be a male porn star? Sometimes, they answer. They tell me it’s for the money, so they can support their family. They say it’s because they’re really good at sex, so I should give them a chance. They confess they don’t know, so they can’t explain it to me.
Because intire desire always think about sex like devotional.
A few send photos of themselves. I scrutinize their images for clues. Here he is, smiling for his webcam. Here he is, peering over his erect penis half-obscuring his face. Here he is, resplendent in a sherwani, a golden dragonfly embroidered on his collar. I know the gap between us is real. The distance between us seems impassable. The Internet is the connection between us across the void.
Susannah Breslin is a freelance journalist.
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Since the pandemic started, you might have experienced skin hunger — prolonged lack of physical touch that leads to irritability, sluggishness, sadness and sleep deprivation. If you’re living with a partner, children, family and/or roommates, your time alone might take a backseat to the emotional work of navigating new relationship dynamics .

One way to chase away your pandemic winter blues: elevate your masturbation routine by making your own porn. Skin hunger is no match for the cortisol-banishing powers of masturbation . This is a perfect opportunity to take a break from dicey arguments with loved ones, Zoom fatigue, and mind-numbing loneliness.

Aside from skin hunger, masturbating in front of the camera can cure two common arousal killers: dysmorphia and dysphoria. Body dysmorphia is an obsessive mindset over your body’s “flaws,” which is so overwhelming that you’re unable to see your body for what it actually looks like.

Dysphoria is a feeling of helplessness, guilt and shame about the body. Trans, gender non-conforming and non-binary folx may specifically experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of dissonance between one’s gender identity and their physical body. Masturbating in front of a camera can improve body dysmorphia and dysphoria, which can lead to more self-confidence.

You can stash your homemade video in your own digital library as a celebratory reminder to practice self-love. If you feel comfortable, you can send it to your partner(s) to show them how you like to receive pleasure. When you’re feeling dysmorphic or dysphoric, whip out that self-tape to remind yourself of how beautiful you are.

Approach these eight steps to making your own porn with gratitude for your body for being exactly who they are.
Clean Your Space
Ever been in a middle of having really hot sex only to be distracted by a pile of smelly laundry in the corner? Sometimes, a cluttered space can totally kill the mood. Take a second to look at the backgrounds of the porn you like to watch. Usually, they keep the space minimal so that you can focus on the actors.
The right lighting can elevate your session. Think about the time of day you’ll be masturbating on camera.
Imagine looking up at the camera after a sweaty ride with your favorite sex toy and looking onto Ryan Gosling’s ultra sleek apartment in Crazy, Stupid Love — or at least, as close as you can get to that ideal in your own space . Ah, what a relief. Throw in a few extra touches like candles, flowers, twinkle lights, salt lamps and essential oils to set the mood .
Prepare Your Sex Toys
Preparation is key. You don’t want to get up in the middle of your video to spend time cleaning a toy. You may start out thinking that you’re not in the mood for an anal plug , but change your mind five minutes into the session. It would be such a buzzkill to have to get up, rummage through your nightstand to find the right toy, and spend some time cleaning it.

You might also want to add additional props to your lineup, such as whips, lube, ben wa balls, handcuffs, nipple clamps, and bondage rope. Keep everything where you can see it.
Find Your Light
The right lighting can elevate your session completely. Look around your space and think about the time of day you’ll be masturbating on camera. If you’re shooting in the daytime, prop your recording device near a window with the camera facing toward you.

If you’re shooting in the dark, play around with your lighting. Keep in mind that overhead lighting can cast shadows on body parts in weird ways. You’ll probably have to add a second lighting source to overhead lighting to get good results.

You can also point a desk lamp at your body for a gentle spotlight effect. Pro-tip: This trusty $17 LED desk lamp from Ikea casts a dramatic spotlight while still preserving the effects of candlelight or twinkle lights in the background. A worthy investment.
Position Your Camera
It’s best to use a laptop or digital camera to make your video, but a phone camera should work just fine. A digital camera that can be propped on a tripod offers a stable angle that won’t shake while you’re bucking, gyrating, and writhing on your bed.

You can achieve the same effects by moving your nightstand or a small table near your bed, stacking books or delivery boxes until you get the right height, and then positioning your laptop on top of that stack. Phone cameras are a bit trickier to finagle into a stable angle, but you should be able to do it with the right support to prop the phone up.

A pro-tip for the expert Tik Tok splicers and video editors who want to capture that multiangle feel: If you have an office chair with wheels, stack some books or delivery boxes on top of the office chair, and then position your laptop on top of that stack. You can gently push the chair into different angles around your bed to capture different angles and splice the footage together.

Seeing your body in all its glory can lead to surprise, delight, and arousal:. Damn, I look good!

You should also consider the mode of storage that feels the safest for this video. A digital camera is less likely to get hacked. Since your phone goes with you almost everywhere you go, the likelihood of misplacing the phone altogether is higher than other devices. Consider looking into apps that encrypt your footage, if you want to make sure your content is completely secure.
Fluff Yourself
On porn film sets, there might be an extra person called a fluffer who helps keep the actors aroused in between takes. Since you’re a one-person crew for this project, you get to be your own fluffer!

Working those angles can more than enough to get you riled up and turned on. Seeing your body in all its glory can lead to surprise, delight, and arousal:. Damn, I look good! If you’ve started slapping your ass , scratching your thighs and bending over to inspect your angle, you’ve probably already started fluffing.

Get yourself aroused by engaging different textures and temperatures. Warm cold fingers by slowly gliding them from your knees to your hips, across your belly to your nipple, from your nipple to your mouth. Tease yourself with gentle touch. Whip out those nipple clamps and play with the intensity of the sensation.

If you need music to set the mood or to muffle your moans from the neighbors, this would be the time to turn it on. And then go ahead and make some noise. Give the camera a show it’ll never forget. Your unique and incredible body has been surviving during this strange time in history — you deserve every second of this ecstatic pleasure!
Press Record
You might feel a little silly or awkward after hearing that little recording beep. Five seconds in, you might also be filled with unexpected fears of having your roommate walk in on you, misplacing the video in the digital ether somehow, or that you’re being weird for thinking that you could make a porno in the first place.

Thankfully, you’ve done all the work before this very moment to help yourself stay present in this generous video project you’re making for yourself or your partner(s). You’ll quickly glance around your clean room, remembering that you’ve thought of every little detail to help you enjoy every sensation in your body at this very moment.
Switch Positions and Rotate Toys
Thank Goddexx that you laid out all these options to keep going after the first few orgasms. Reach for that one toy you haven’t been using lately. Hello, old friend. I’ve missed you. Switch positions and thrust deeper. If you’re using the office chair pro-tip, swivel the chair to the other side of the bed to get new angles.
Cool Down
Whew, that last orgasm was off the charts! You’re sweating and your heart is still racing from watching your beautiful body move on camera. Take a minute to lay down and rest. If you’re into pillow talk, talk to yourself in the camera after you’re done. You can also hold your used sex toys up to the camera, admiring all the liquids on the toy and your fingers right now. Taste yourself, if you’re into it.
Admire Your Work
Now it’s time to watch your masterpiece. If you’re editing your footage, you might pause here to admire your professional-looking film work with all the good angles. If you’re keeping it simple, you might rewind to rewatch a part that was particularly blissful, taking note of the positions, toys and props that you liked.

At the end of the day, your investment in this makeshift film production is going to pay off big time in sexual confidence and self-awareness. You may even find that you’re getting aroused again while replaying the footage. In that case, you still have that office chair all set up… you know what to do next.

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