How To Be A Female Dom

How To Be A Female Dom

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When I began Submissive Guide years ago, I wanted it to be a safe haven for information and experience exchange for submissives. I didn’t realize that it would be a resource for Dominants as well. As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them for what their submissive has shared with them from the site. And so, I went on a little exploration of the site with new eyes. How would a new Dominant use Submissive Guide to learn and explore their budding relationship with a submissive?

It’s been a fantastic journey to reread old articles and see the value from the other side of the slash and I wanted to share with you the key posts that stand out to me as valuable insights into a submissive and the D/s relationship that many are seeking.

Submissive Guide is a great resource to learn more about what it means to be submissive and perhaps how your own submissive feels about you. Many of the articles are great jumping off places for your own discussions and can nurture and grow a relationship. Also, just because you may not connect with the style of dynamic a particular post is written about, you could find a nugget of valuable insight in almost any post!

It’s possible, as the Dominant in your relationship, you understand what being a Dominant is to you and might consider that the direct opposite could be true of your submissive. I’ve found that it’s often not the case, but that each relationship comes together out of mutually connecting traits and compromises on the ones that don’t. Using another person’s perspective can help you gain knowledge on your own. And growth in any way is always good.

Here are a few key posts that I recommend all Dominants read about what it means to be submissive.

While a submissive’s needs are unique and your submissive should have a good grasp of what they need from you and from their submission to feel happy, there are things that commonly come up in discussions about what a submissive needs from you and from their submission to be the best submissive they can be in the relationship.

If your submissive says they don’t know what their needs (or wants) are, I suggest you have them go through the
Wants and Needs downloadable guide from Submissive Guide. You can even choose to do it together!

You’ll find many other key topics on Submissive Guide that could help you learn more about your submissive and how they feel. A couple of the more frequent buzzwords across all social networks and communities are subspace, sub drop, sub frenzy, and aftercare. I’ve created entire series’ for each of these topics that you develop your own knowledge of where a submissive stands on these subjects.

Exploring submission play can involve intense sensation. Subspace is a mental and physical response to the high levels of endorphins produced during play. Described as similar to a runner’s high this is a good feeling and one to be enjoyed if you ever get there.

Sub Drop is the emotional and physical effects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. It can feel like a sense of fatigue, or it can be an intense bout of depression. Let’s get you some help.

During submissive frenzy, you may feel a desperate need to have your desires fulfilled. Many of the activities in BDSM can be considered addictive and frenzy is much like a withdrawal stage. This series will help you understand your urgent feelings and how to listen to your gut when you need it most.

Aftercare is the attending to the emotional and physical needs once a scene is over. But what does that involve? Learn how to give and receive healing aftercare and what you should do in the event you are taking care of yourself after play.

Often, the reason you are browsing the internet in the first place is to get answers to your questions, so it stands to reason that you’ll want to know if Submissive Guide has advice for you. The authors on the site have lived a variety of dynamics and relationship styles and have talked about them, some at length! I’ve gathered some of the best articles for a few of the more common ones.

Long distance relationships (including online only)

Tips for Developing Long Distance Relationships - Long distance relationships are still relationships that require a different approach to develop the same connection and intimacy.

Going the Distance - How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship - Is the time that you will have together worth the expense and duration of the journey? Is there something better closer to home? If the answer is that it is worth it most definitely then you know it can be true that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship - Wearing a collar is not just a way to signify to myself and others that I have given myself to another person, it’s a way to comfort myself when I’m feeling alone and to reassure myself on the days when I don’t feel actively submissive.

Online Submission - Exploring submission online is a growing reality. Chat networks, IRC chat rooms and websites developed for real-time fantasy all have areas where the D/s subculture thrives online. They have developed online protocols, rituals, belief systems and several new words the enhance the fantasy online.

Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It's Not Easy Being A Little - It’s hard to be a little in today’s society. So many people, even those within the lifestyle, don’t understand the Daddy/little dynamic. They don’t try either.

Daddy's Little Girl - Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic - Being in a Daddy/little or Mommy/little relationship is about a very intimate bond between two consenting adults.

Some Misconceptions about the Caregiver/Little Dynamic - Debunking some misconceptions of the Caregiver dynamic.

The Big Book for Littles by Penny Barber - The Big Book for Littles is really great for those who are new and exploring the little or age play dynamic. This review is a quick analysis and shares why you too should pick up this book if you or your partner identify as a little.

For Male Submissives - While this site is predominantly written by and for female submissives, a lot of what we write about can apply to male submissives too. But there are topics that are specific to male submissives and relationships where the male is submissive and we’ve curated them into a single collection for you here.

The Value of a Slave - I am not sure why I dreamed so much of being owned. Of being a slave. I certainly don't try and protest that I was born to belong to a man and that it was my nature from birth because I really don't think it was. I don't think this is something that you are born to be, maybe how you are wired has something to do with it but I think it is more what happens to you and what inspires you rather than how you are born. Well whatever it was, something inspired me to want this.

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice - I'll definitely recommend this book to anyone who says they want a Master in their life or are thinking they are a Master. It's easy to read with a lot of personal introspection expected. You'll finish this book a better Master or slave - that I really believe.

Dominance as a Slave Training Tool for Better Submission - Your Dominant is still a valuable tool for slave training and we can use them as a tool for our own development. Take the rules and orders they give us, how do they mold us if we are also seeking a deeper level of submission.

Polyamory - Polyamorous relationships take many forms and can include many different levels of intimacy. The possibilities are limited only by the needs and desires of the parties involved. A poly lifestyle is really a challenge and for those that it works well for, it is worth it. Are you curious about poly relationships?

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino - If you are in an open relationship of any kind or are thinking about entering into an open relationship or thinking about opening up your current relationship, you need to read this book.

Is Monogamy a Dying Trend? The Rise of Poly in BDSM Relationships - On a few sites I frequent I have been getting an impression recently that poly relationships and playing with others outside your primary relationship are not only accepted but expected. I'm uncomfortable with this way of thinking.

I’ve been told that a lot of what is written on Submissive Guide can help a relationship grow. Using it for that purpose can only be a wonderful thing, right? So take a few of the selections I have below and start building your unique, beautiful relationship with the training you can develop from the articles within.

Your Submissive Files - A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Throughout the course of this program, you will learn how to write your own files, learn to focus your training in the direction you wish to go and develop a personal development plan for your own growth.

Journaling in Submission - One of the tools that Dominants can use for communication is journaling. But you don’t have to be in a relationship to keep a journal. How do you start one? What goes in it? Dive into the 30 Days of Submissive Journaling series or one of the many other articles about this very useful tool in a submissive’s kit.

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook - It's organized quite well and I haven't found a single page that isn't worth my time and energy to think about.

Did you know there is a smaller sister site to Submissive Guide with articles written specifically for you? Ah well, true it is not that big. Dominants don’t seem to be as prolific writers as submissives. Perhaps it is that no one is giving you assignments (haha). In any case, it is helpful. Trust me.

If you are Dominant, I’d love to hear why you read Submissive Guide and what type of posts you find useful for your own understanding. Drop me a message. (subguide@gmail.com) I’d welcome the additional viewpoints!
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In my past sexual endeavours, I have always prioritized my partner’s pleasure over mine, I would make sure that they always came, even if I didn’t. I was always the ‘submissive’ one and they, the ‘dominant’. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to start taking charge — being more assertive and more dominating to ensure my needs are met. How do I go about that? What steps should I take with future partners?
Asserting dominance does not just start in the bedroom, it’s a process. I recommend you begin by making small simple changes to your daily routine as well as your interactions with people. Give yourself time and be patient, growth does not happen overnight! You need to start by rewiring the way you approach certain things. It’s about standing up for what you believe and not letting people walk all over you. Choose to move forward in spite of fear, learn to love yourself unconditionally despite your flaws, take action — you’re the only one that can make yourself feel confident! Being dominant in bed as a woman doesn’t just mean being on top; you need to know why you’re there and you must be bold about pursuing your pleasure. Be confident in yourself and your abilities, but make sure you establish a clear line of communication with your partner — communication is key!
Having a dominant personality (in bed) is often misunderstood as being mean or demeaning towards others; which is not the case, taking the lead does not change who you are as a person; it just unlocks a different side of you. You’re essentially connecting with a more powerful and uninhibited side of yourself that always existed and just needed to be released.
The first step is to find out what your (deepest and darkest) desires are, is to start experimenting with yourself — find what turns you on. The more you know about yourself the better it’ll feel. I would recommend watching Fifty Shades of Grey or 365, this may spark your imagination and give you ideas of what you would like to do with your partner. Yes, it might be a little bizarre at first, but this process is all about finding what feels good for you — accept it!
Remember, earth-shattering sex doesn’t happen without clear communication — your partner is not a mind-reader! So, communicate, let them know what you like and what you want, take the lead, be confident!
Being dominant in the bedroom does not automatically mean that you need to be kinky, ease into it and when you feel ready, go-ahead, experiment — use vibrators, ropes, handcuffs, whatever makes you feel good!
Just remember to work on yourself first, get to know and love yourself — confidence will follow. Figure out what makes you feel comfortable and communicate with your partner and I assure you, it’ll be the best sexual experience you’ve ever had.
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A dominant wife may need to take control of every situation. Her goal is to keep things in order and make sure everything is handled in the best possible way.
She doesn’t believe she’s being unreasonable but standing for what’s right and making sure her spouse or partner follows suit. Sometimes she doesn’t realize her manipulation or attempts to have things her way.
Still, the tools used to control the spouse’s behavior are much more manipulative to dominate a mate’s behavior, often to the point, there’s a part of them that almost believes it’s warranted. This kind of dominance in marriage is unhealthy .
A domineering wife has little respect for the spouse . She will approach their partner with aggression and criticize them mercilessly, whether it be on social media work events in front of family and friends.
Showing that kind of blatant disregard is almost like saying your husband falls somewhere beneath you. It’s a toxic situation.
When you interrupt your husband who might be involved in something else, whether it be a conversation with someone, watching a program they were looking forward to, or working on something that needs taking care of because you want their time and attention right then for something else that’s domineering.
You can tell you’re dominating when you choose to yell and throw a fit over minor things instead of attempting to handle them reasonably.
Controlling wife behaviors is related to a power imbalance in the marriage. The dominant wife causes intimidation for her spouse and insecurity and guilt.
A spouse can experience these emotions through physical, psychological, sexual, financial control—some signs of a dominating wife.
The dominant wife will begin gradually and subtly but complaining about time spent with friends and family is a first step in a wife- dominated marriage.
The idea is that you no longer have a support system to turn to when things are rough at home, making it harder for them to stand up against you.
These issues can start over minor issues but begin to include everything from the way your spouse dresses, how they handle chores, to their manner of eating.
After a while, it’s impossible to find yourself valued in the partnership or loved without condition when you’re being criticized over all your daily habits.
Threats made by a dominant wife don’t have to be physical against you. They can be insinuated threats against themselves, the idea that they’ll leave, that privileges will be stopped, or other manipulative tactics .
In some cases, a wife dominating a husband will go so far as to use the kids against him.
If you go on a diet and lose that extra weight, I’ll find you that much more attractive. If you get the promotion at work, we’ll get along so much better.
The you that you are right now is not good enough, but if you had finished college to talk to your dominant wife friends and make some other vast improvements, you would just about make the grade.
Each time you do a favor for the other person, it’s supposed to be something appreciated, and it’s known that ultimately they’ll do something for you when you need it.
Unfortunately, a dominant wife doesn’t leave it to chance. She keeps a tally of how often she does something for her spouse and lets them know quite often.
Characteristics of a dominant wife include shrew manipulations capable of making their partner feel guilt about day-to-day happenings.
Spouses don’t like the idea of feeling guilty and will do what they need to, including letting go of their personal opinion and relenting to the control of the dominant wife.
In the beginning, when you start dating, you might be lavished with expensive gifts, driving a luxury car, staying at her nice place, taking you to extravagant meals, outings.
It makes it more difficult for you to walk away from the controlling person if warning signs begin to pop up.
Whether snooping behind your backing or demanding to be privy to private information, they feel they deserve full disclosure despite that being a violation of personal boundaries.
They might go into your email, check your phone, or track your internet history consistently. There should be a level of trust. This steps over the line.
Jealousy in the start is often viewed as cute
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