How To Be A Cuckold

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Cuckolding Your Husband - How To Successfully Cuckold Him

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Submitted On November 21, 2010

This short article condenses everything you need to know when cuckolding your husband. What is a cuckold? In general usage, and the usage we will use in this article, a cuckold refers to a married man whose wife engages in sexual affairs with other men. The remainder of this article will tell you, the wife, how to change the dynamics of your conventional relationship in order to make a successful "cuckolding relationship": a relationship in which you have affairs with other men and both yourself and your husband are happy with the arrangement.
Some men fantasize about this type of relationship. However, if your husband is NOT one of these men, you have no hope whatsoever of changing his mind. While not an unusual fantasy, it is not for everyone. And most men would be horrified at their wives having illicit sexual affairs. So we will proceed as if your husband DOES want to be a cuckold.
Your husband will have a submissive desire to submit himself to you. You are now his "dominant." He will follow your rules and enjoy doing so. What you need to do is give him a new set of rules to live by. These new rules depend entirely on YOU. The rules, however, should be made to make your life better. If you hate cleaning, have your husband do it. Maybe doing the ironing is your idea of a nightmare. Start with a few rules then gradually build on them. The one rule that is common in ALL forms of cuckoldry is preventing the husband from sexual release.
When cuckolding your husband it is imperative that you use a system of punishments and rewards. This is much like you would use when training a dog. Rewards should be given for good behavior and usually have a sexual element. It is important to know what sexually arouses your husband. Does he like feet, for instance? As a reward, let him worship your feet. It will feel odd punishing your husband, but it is hugely important. You must let him know that you are now the boss.
Boyfriends: The Final Step To Cuckolding Your Husband
Of course, by definition, in order to make your husband a cuckold you need to have a sexual relationship with another man (or men). These are commonly referred to as "bulls." This will be the final step. If you and your husband are still happy in your new relationship, then you have successfully cuckolded your husband.
Finding a "bull boyfriend" can be difficult. After all, very few men want to date a married women with a cuckold husband!
I strongly suggest making a free profile here: Make A Free Profile [http://www.ampersonals.com].
This dating community is one of the biggest. You can join for free and it is very easy to find bull boyfriends.
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'Cuckolding' is a taboo fetish the rise. But what is it, and why do people enjoy it?
At the most basic level, a cuckolding fetish is about a guy getting turned on by his wife or girlfriend sleeping with someone else. Sound like your worst nightmare? Not everyone agrees. In November the Independent reported reported that Google searches for 'cuckolding' hit a peak, and according to Google Trends, the UK is second only to the Netherlands in searches for the kink.
Why would someone be into cuckolding? As with any sexual fetish it's hard to pin down one particular reason, but psychologists have suggested that sexual jealousy - and getting aroused by it - might be linked to biology. In his book Insatiable Wives , psychologist Dr David Ley outlines the possibility that watching your wife with someone else will turn you on so you can compete and 'beat' their sperm for fertilisation ("This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality," he says, pointing out that references to the kink have existed since the 13th century. "But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy.") But others point out that these kind of biological explanations for fetishes can't account for the complex social factors that can feed into kinks too . Ley also explains that the sheer taboo nature of the fetish - society after all deems adultery a sin - might be a core reason for the turn-on.
In his book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life’, Justin Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and discovered that 58% of men and around a third of women had thought about cuckolding. "Men are more likely to fantasise about cuckolding, and they do it more often - but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well, which points to the need for more research focused on women's cuckolding desires," Lehmiller told CNN Health in 2018. Dr. David Ley believes that people are drawn to the fantasy because it represents a taboo. "In a society or culture that idealises monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualise their sexual fantasies," he told the same outlet.
From my point of view, finding a partner who gets turned on by watching me shag other people sounds like the sex equivalent of winning the lottery. I get to sleep with whoever I like, then immediately shag my boyfriend while we relive the juicy details? Sign me up. Unfortunately, I've had a go at fulfilling a couple of cuckolding fantasies and the reality is much more complicated than the sexual free-for-all that exists in my own head.
finding a partner who gets turned on by watching me shag other people sounds like the sex equivalent of winning the lottery
There are lots of ways to indulge a cuckolding fetish – you don't have to leap straight in with a badly-spelled Craigslist ad. Some people get off just on hearing their partner talk about past sexual encounters, and in fact this is a great way to test the waters of your burgeoning cuckold fetish. In the past I've been with guys who enjoyed hearing tales of past shags, either as part of foreplay or during sex itself. Naturally jealousy is always a risk, so if you're really nervous about how you might feel, asking your partner to make up a story can be quite a good way to start. You can then move on to real-life encounters, getting her to tell you about hot sex she had with an ex – as long as you pick one you're not likely to get into a fight about later.
Beyond simple storytelling, you could also try sending your partner out on a sex mission, then hearing all the juicy details when they get home. I used to regularly see a few guys for spanking and BDSM, and on a few occasions my boyfriend would sit outside in the car until I was finished, thoroughly beaten and ready to tell him every detail of what happened inside. This option does throw up some ethical questions, such as how much do you tell the third party about what's happening? Personally I'd recommend telling them exactly what's going on – full disclosure saves a world of trouble down the line. And who knows? If you decide to take things further they might be up for joining in.
If you do decide to live out a cuckold fantasy, you'll naturally need one extra person and a hefty dollop of courage. I could be prescriptive here and tell you exactly how your cuckold fantasy might go down, but in truth these encounters can be as varied as any other kind of sex. A quick trawl of Craigslist shows couples who are looking for anything from 'horny guys in uniform' to a simple 'porn star cock' or the more detailed 'verbally abusive dom top hunk who's looking for married couples to worship him.' Good news for potential cuckolders - if you fancy being the extra in someone else's fantasy there are lots of couples out there who'd love to have you. Standard threesome rules apply here, such as 'be nice' and 'try not to get jizz on a stranger's sofa' but alongside these it's also worth clarifying with the couple exactly how they see things going down. Will her husband or boyfriend just be watching from afar? Or will they get involved, offering suggestions or directing the action? If you're part of the cuckold couple, clarify all these things with your third before you get started – there's nothing more awkward than you chipping in with suggestions like an enthusiastic threesome director if they'd planned for you to stay quiet.
We've grown up being told that sex should be between two people, not two people and a guy called Brian
Alongside awkwardness, a cuckold fantasy that sounds fun in theory can be horrible in practice if jealousy gets in the way. Most of us have grown up being told that love and sex should be between two people, not two people and a guy called Brian that you met on the MF4M section of Craigslist. When we see our partners enjoying sex with other people, there's a lot of societal pressure that's primed us to react with horror – demanding an immediate break-up followed by a three-month rebound sex-fest to recover. If it weren't for these ingrained assumptions, cuckolding wouldn't have quite the same fetish status as it has, because breaking these taboos about monogamous sex is often the whole point.
There's a word for the joy you feel at seeing your partner happy: compersion. It's often used by polyamorous people to explain the warm-and-fuzzy feelings they get from seeing their partner happily dating other people. It's not directly tied to sex – it's all about emotion. Cuckolding, on the other hand, is rooted in something closer to sexual humiliation. It relies on the idea that it is appalling for one man to 'take' another man's wife. The word comes, quite pleasingly, from the word 'cuckoo', because a cuckoo lays its eggs in another bird's nest, thus sneakily getting its chick raised by someone else.
cuckolding is often wrapped up in offensive or troubling assumptions
So let's address the elephant in the room: cuckolding is often wrapped up in offensive or troubling assumptions. Firstly, the idea of ownership – that a guy should control his girlfriend or wife, and that if she strays it's not just upsetting to him as a person, but damaging to him as a man, because 'his' woman is getting pleasure elsewhere. It's why the word 'cuck' is now often used by alt-right nobheads as a term of abuse. A 'cuck' is similar to a beta male – someone who is too weak to control his woman the way screaming right-wingers think he should. (There's a female equivalent, with an equally unsexy-sounding name – cuckqueaning).
More disturbingly, cuckolding is also sometimes wrapped up in race. My trawl of Craigslist found a number of ads that specified wannabe cuckolds looking for 'BBC' - a racist term popularised by porn, meaning 'big black cock.' Why? Well, the awkward answer is that just as we have ingrained sexist views about men needing to 'own' or control their female partners, so we also have ingrained racist ideas that feed into people's sexual fantasies. Probably another reason why the alt-right has picked 'cuck' as its insult of choice.
But while it's worth noting the negative connotations surrounding this fetish, it doesn't mean that anyone who has cuckolding fantasies will be experiencing the same thing. Depending on the nuance of your kink, you may be more of a 'hotwife' fetishist than a cuckold. 'Hotwife' as in 'I have a really hot wife, would you like to shag her?' While cuckolding relies on the idea that men 'own' women and are therefore humiliated if their wife sleeps with someone else, 'hotwife' fetishists are more into the idea that offering your wife up for sexual encounters is a matter of pride. It still leans heavily on the idea of 'giving' your partner away as a gift, but it avoids the awkward humiliation aspect. Beyond 'hotwife', there's swinging of course - a mutual sexual free-for-all, where everyone gets a turn to play.
Over the course of his research, Dr. David Lay found no reason to dissuade people from fantasising about to embarking upon cuckoldry. “Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behaviour,” Ley told CNN . “It doesn’t appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one’s partner.”
Whatever your fascination with cuckolding – and I assume you have one because you read to the end – there are many different ways to indulge it. From storytelling with your partner to full-on cuckold threesomes arranged with a willing third. And while cuckolding has an awkward history, and an even more awkward present, you don't have to be tied to the dodgy assumptions that a lot of cuckold porn rests on. Just follow the same rules you would for any other great sex: good communication, mutual respect, and regular checking in to make sure you're all still having an awesome time. It's way more work than just buying a lottery ticket, but the payoff could be totally worth it.
Girl on the Net is a sex blogger and author.
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