How Do I Fist Myself

How Do I Fist Myself

Search

X

Expert advice: 8 steps for first-time fisters

A big part of fisting is intuition and instinct. But there are a few things you can do to make your fisting experiences more enjoyable.

Dolan Wolf is an adult film star, kink educator, instigator and quiet revolutionary. twitter

Contact

info@sfaf.org

415-487-3000

Join us for an event for and by queer and trans people of color.
Support our stigma-free outreach, education, testing and treatment services.
Call for entries from queer artists who want to share their work with our communities.
Info on HIV meds, sex & dating, disclosure and becoming undetectable at your fingertips.
Work with a team of talented people who are changing the world for the better.

The first time I heard about fisting, I thought: No. No, no, no. Never going to happen.
But ten or so years later I was playing with a really, REALLY hot guy, and he really wanted to fist me. I really wanted to give him what he wanted, so I gave it my best shot, but I just wasn’t ready. I decided I never wanted to be in that situation again—so badly wanting to give a sexual partner something they want me to give them, but absolutely unable to.
So I went on a mission to train my ass to take a fist.
If you’ve never been fisted (or fisted someone) before, you might think it’s not for you. Or that you have to be some sort of superhuman or freak to enjoy it. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
It can be (if done right) utterly mind-blowing.
Like all kinds of sex, it’s partly mental and partly physical. Part of what can make kink so attractive is that you’re deviating from what people think of as “appropriate” or “right.” There’s an exotic and erotic power to it. You’re fueled by a desire to push your desire as far as you can. A huge part of it for me—especially in the beginning—was the mind fuck of “I’ve got someone’s fist in my ass!”
A big part of fisting is intuition and instinct. But there are a few things you can do to make your fisting experiences more enjoyable. Here are my best tips on taking care of your ass if you want to try fisting.
You’re going to need lots of lube. Start trying out different brands of lube with a toy to see which ones you like. A lot of people use J-Lube. J-Lube comes as a concentrated powder that you mix with an amount of water that gives you the consistency you want. It can be a bitch to get the recipe right. You can find advice for how best to mix it if you search online. Look here for more info about lubes .
Very few people are going to be able to take a fist without first training their ass. And unless you’ve got a very patient and enthusiastic partner, you’re probably going to need to invest in a suitable toy.
You have two muscles that need to relax in order for you to take anything up your butt: your internal and external anal sphincters. Using a long, tapered toy (that starts small but increases in width the higher it goes up your butt) will help your butt get used to larger sizes.
To train for my first fist I found a plug-shaped toy that I used every other day (if not every day) to stretch my hole. I didn’t go too fast—you want to feel a stretch, but no pain. Once you work your way up to a size that’s similar to someone’s fist, it’s now time to find yourself a top.
If you’re new to fisting as a bottom, you’re probably going to want to find someone who has experience as a fisting top. Your top needs to know that your muscles need to be relaxed before they can proceed. They should play with you before trying to fist you so that you have time to relax. Pick someone you’re comfortable with, and that you trust. You may need to be patient—use the time to keep stretching your hole, it will pay off when you play.
Any sex comes with the possibility of sexually transmitted infections, and fisting is no exception.
The risk of transmitting or getting HIV from fisting is really low since HIV might only be passed between partners if there is an open wound on the fister’s hand. However, fisting rarely happens in isolation from other sex. Often, even if fucking isn’t part of the scene a top will jerk his cock while fisting his partner, so cum or precum can enter the fray. You should still talk about your HIV status with your partner and what precautions are appropriate to prevent HIV transmission.
Other STIs including hepatitis C might be more likely to be passed between partners in blood or anal mucous on the fist. Unlike HIV, hep C is a hardy virus that can hang around for a long time. That’s why you are cautioned not to share toys or lube between partners. If you give your toys a thoroughly good wash you should be good, but never share lube between bottoms. If you are fisting in groups, keep hold of your own lube for your own ass. In these scenarios it can be a real challenge, particularly when lost in passion, to ensure that lube from one person’s ass doesn’t make it up someone else’s. Other STIs like gonorrhea can also be transmitted through ass play because gonorrhea can be spread through touch.
Some people like to fist with gloves, some don’t. They can help increase smoothness around the fingernail but should never be a substitute for well-trimmed and smoothly filed nails. For some, gloves can heighten the erotic thrill, for others they can reduce the feeling of intimacy. If a top has hairy hands gloves can make entry easier, but if they are ill-fitting they’ll be uncomfortable to whoever is wearing them. Gloves can reduce the risk of transmitting STIs, particularly because it is quite normal for people to have minor cuts on their hands. Find more info about wearing gloves for fisting here .
We already talked about how part of the attraction of fisting and other kinds of kink is the ability to push boundaries. People feel compelled to push themselves as far as they can go. But you might want to moderate how far you push yourself—especially when you are first starting out. You don’t want to break your new toy before you have time to enjoy it!
Get consent from your partner and make sure your partner hears your consent. Communication is important—especially if this is the first time for either of you.
How big is too big you ask? Well there are limits. For one, you’re limited by the size of the opening in the bones surrounding your ass (your pubic bones & coccyx). Listen to your body, and pay attention so that you avoid pain.
Some people choose to douche before getting fucked. Others don’t feel the need to. With the amount of muscle movement that fisting involves, even if you don’t go deep, you’re probably going to need to clean out if you don’t want shit showing up.
Some tops are less tolerant about shit showing up during play than others. And most bottoms are far more worried about shit showing up than they actually need to be.
I think most tops understand that if you stick your hand up a person’s ass, there’s a risk of encountering something coming the other way. And some guys are particularly into that.
There are a few reasons why I prefer not to have shit be part of my fisting experience. For one, it’s not particularly comfortable. It’s grittier than lube and can cause more friction. And each to their own but I don’t know how you play in the mud on purpose without it getting everywhere (although I have heard tarpaulin is the answer).
I’ve found that there aren’t really any tricks that will 100% guarantee cleanliness during fisting. That said, one thing I do is to put in a large butt plug about a half hour before fisting. That sort of “speeds up the conveyor belt”—kind of tricking my body into thinking that it’s time to use the toilet. Pushing everything out before you fist, without having to go crazy with the douching, is a strategy that sometimes works for me.
This rule is for both tops and bottoms.
Tops: You want your bottom to be happy and relaxed. Stressing out over your bottom not being clean enough will ruin the experience for both of you.
Bottoms: Don’t worry if you have to take a quick trip to the bathroom to clean up in the middle of things. Clean yourself up with toilet paper or jump in the shower and squirt a little water up your hole to rinse out. I’m inclined to avoid the shower shot. Most people I’ve played with who use it in the middle of play have brown water leaking out of them for maybe an hour of two afterwards and play has to be aborted. A douche bulb’s worth of water is much less risky.
Fisting with people you have chemistry with can be an incredible experience. Take that fist, listen to your body, and go with it!
Douchie brings butt health & happiness out of the closet so you can care for your butt in the way it deserves. Get info about everything from douching to fissures with this series on all things anal. Visit sfaf.org/butthealth .
San Francisco AIDS Foundation is a California nonprofit public benefit corporation which has been granted tax exempt status under Internal Revenue Code section 501(c)(3). Our Federal EIN is 94-2927405 and our California corporation number is C1241510.
© 2022 San Francisco AIDS Foundation. All Rights Reserved
Designed & Developed by Firefly Partners
Give LOVE. Give HOPE. Give OUT. #giveoutday!

Возможно, сайт временно недоступен или перегружен запросами. Подождите некоторое время и попробуйте снова.
Если вы не можете загрузить ни одну страницу – проверьте настройки соединения с Интернетом.
Если ваш компьютер или сеть защищены межсетевым экраном или прокси-сервером – убедитесь, что Firefox разрешён выход в Интернет.

Время ожидания ответа от сервера www.loyalmd.com истекло.

Отправка сообщений о подобных ошибках поможет Mozilla обнаружить и заблокировать вредоносные сайты

Сообщить
Попробовать снова
Отправка сообщения
Сообщение отправлено

использует защитную технологию, которая является устаревшей и уязвимой для атаки. Злоумышленник может легко выявить информацию, которая, как вы думали, находится в безопасности.

Between sets at the gym, I explained to a friend what fisting is. He did not believe me. I demonstrated: my hand, balled in a fist, punched slowly through the air, a gentle six-inch thrust, turned slightly at the wrist, and pulled back. The last time I did this in a man’s hole, he roared into the pillow — that lovely, otherworldly animal growl of pleasure.
I’m not a “pro” or internationally famous fister. But I love it, and that’s why I’m writing this. Because you don’t have to be a pro. There’s no level that qualifies you to talk about or enjoy your fetish. In a kink that requires training and skill, practitioners sometimes get bogged down in a competition that doesn’t exist, in comparisons that idealize “pros.” Everyone starts somewhere. It’s great to be a beginner.
The only thing you need is the hunger — that can’t-look-away tremble when you watch fisting videos online. Ready to try? Click through for my best tips on taking a hand.
My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am known by friends in the kink and leather community as Beastly. I am a sex-positive writer and blogger. The views in this slideshow do not reflect those of The Advocate and are based solely off of my own experiences. Like everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men.
Those who are sensitive to frank discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: If you are outraged by content that address sex openly and honestly, I invite you to examine this outrage and ask yourself whether it should instead be directed at those who oppress us by policing our sexuality.
For all others, enjoy the slideshow. And feel free to leave your own suggestions of sex and dating topics in the comments.
Hungry for more? Follow me on Twitter @BadAlexCheves and visit my blog, The Beastly Ex-Boyfriend . Photo by Jon Dean.
You don’t learn how to fist by taking a fist. You learn with small butt plugs that gradually get you comfortable with the feeling of stretching your anal sphincter (your hole).
You must get accustomed to this feeling and enjoy it before you work up to larger insertables. And then — and only then — can you start playing with fingers. You may find — as I did — that the stretching process can be more fun than the actual fisting. I found a massive love of toys (or a love of massive toys) along the way.
Pro tip: Purchase a small, smooth, teardrop-shaped (or rocket-shaped) butt plug no larger than an inch in diameter. Lube it up with tons of lube, slide it slowly in, get comfortable with the feeling, then pull it slowly out. In, and out. Again. Steadily build speed. This is way better with a playmate.
Being a good fister requires knowledge of different chemicals and compounds and how they interact with each other. Insertable toys can get very expensive, especially larger ones, and you want to pay for premium materials.
Smooth, soft, high-grade, premium silicone comes with a hefty price tag, but it’s worth it. You should avoid cheap, hard, plastic-feeling toys made out of materials like TPE.
Since you’re paying money for good toys, use lubes that won’t damage them or limit their longevity. Silicone compounds tend to bind or break each other down, so don’t use silicone lube with silicone toys unless the manufacturer explicitly states it’s safe to do so.
Do research! Find lubes explicitly made for toy play, contact the manufacturer, and always do a “spot test.” Rub a small amount of your desired lube on the base of your toy and leave it for a few hours to see how it reacts. If a chemical reaction happens — an eroded spot or bubbling up — that’s not the lube to use.
Pro tip: When in doubt, water-based lubes are best for toy play.
There’s the old-school classics like Crisco and J-Lube, but recent years have seen an increase in lubes made explicitly for fisting. Grunt Grease from Fort Troff, various lubes from the English brand FIST, and K-Lube — similar to J-Lube except that it’s made for humans (J-Lube is a veterinary lube used for birthing cattle) and way easier to clean — are all great options.
Pro tip: I use J-Lube. Different fisters enjoy different consistencies — I like my J-Lube thicker, less runny. Adding different compounds to the mixture produces different effects. Clove oil, for example, softens the skin and minimizes inflammation and irritation, and has a nice smell.
This is for everybody. Everyone with a kinky thing: Stop using porn as a the measuring stick for skill. This includes both “amateur” and professional porn.
Porn is wonderful, but it also skews to the advanced skill level. You don’t get in front of a camera to do something unless you know how to do it well. Which means we, the viewing public, rarely see the failed attempts or hours of training.
I’ve worked on professional porn sets and can assure you all the preparation time, messes, stretching, and training still happen, even and especially at the “pro” level. It happens before, during, and after the action, and gets edited out of the final product.
Pro tip: Don’t watch too much porn when you’re starting off. Form your reality around your own experience first.
The kinkiest, most hardcore fister will be a beginner to a new kink. Because we’re all beginners to something we haven’t done.
Pro tip: Being a beginner and discovering a new sex practice is the best part of the journey, and one you’ll never live again.
The stigma against fisting is real. Guys who aren’t into it may be repulsed by it. In the kink community, fisting is not a divisive or uncommon practice. Kinksters (kinky people) may debate the ethics of kinks like “race play” or rape fantasy, but fisting? No one bats an eye.
That’s not true for the outside world — for guys you do not meet in kink-friendly spaces, guys you meet in bars, on Grindr, or at the gym. I’ve been blocked countless times by would-be hookups when I answered their question: “So what else are you into?”
Pro tip: Don’t seek fisting playmates on mainstream platforms like Grindr. Look up apps like Recon or, better yet, go to your nearest leather bar or fetish store and ask the people there if they recommend any local fisting gatherings or online communities.
You can’t immediately jump into Olympic diving without training. Consider fisting Olympic-style penetration. You don’t dive in overnight.
All sports have risks. As with all sports, there are necessary steps you must take to minimize risks. Stretching and training your body doesn’t come without risk, especially if you go too fast, but you’ll be surprised at how supple your skin is and how much you can do once your train your muscles to relax.
Pro tip: Fisting happens in the mind, not the body. We tend to tense our muscles when we experience new and uncomfortable sensations. The journey of fisting is training your body to breathe, relax, and enjoy the sensation of your body relaxing and opening.
I was horrified of fisting when I first saw a video. That horror morphed into curiosity. Years later, I accepted the fact that I was into it, and had to try it. But that fear has never completely gone away, and that’s part of its eroticism. If something scares me a little bit, I know it’s an erotic trigger.
The feeling itself is overwhelming, uncomfortable, and can be very intimidating. That’s the whole point. The vulnerability of working and exploring the limits of your pleasure and your body with someone is powerful. On the other side of that nervous threshold is the most intense pleasure my body has ever felt.
Pro tip: Never be vague or dishonest about your experience level or how you’re feeling. If you’re scared but game to keep trying, tell that to the person you’re playing with. Fisting is a two-person job. If you’re playing with someone you like, they can help you through that fear if you have established trust with them.
While the infection potential of gloveless fisting is disputed among fisters, you should definitely start with gloves. Not only do gloves create a barrier blocking fluid contact, they also protect the bottom’s body from germs and other unpleasantries that may be on someone’s hand. That said, you should wash your hands and forearms thoroughly before every fist session.
Tops: Your fingernails must be shaved down to nubs. What might feel like a barely-there sliver of fingernail to you will feel sharp when your hand is inside your playmate. Fingernails can hurt — and even tear and injure — the delicate skin of the rectum and colon. This is why you must wear gloves.
Pro tip : Use gloves made of nitrile, which is just as strong and protective as latex. More people have latex allergies than you think, and you won’t know you’re allergic until your butt feels like it’s on fire.
It took multiple attempts before I got a hand in.
Pro tip: Start with a good toy play session and see how big you
Texas Cowgirl Porn
Dani Marco Nude
Italian Twink

How Do I Fist Myself

Report Page