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How Big Is Too Big For A Woman
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I once thought I'd fallen in love with an adorable lawyer who started chatting with me while we waited at a crosswalk in Manhattan. I felt an immediate spark, and after we exchanged numbers, we planned our first date without ever bringing up our ages. A week later, somewhere between one and four glasses of wine, he told me I looked “quite young” and asked how old I was.
“I’m 25,” I said, trying to seem proud of the number even though I’d just celebrated this birthday with a bit of dread about growing up. He nodded in surprise and didn’t offer his age until I asked for it. “You’ll never guess,” he said, which is when I tried to examine his face for wrinkles and his hair for salt-and-pepper grays—there weren’t any.
“I’m 38,” he said. Thirty-eight. I wouldn’t have guessed, I told him. Then he excused himself to the go to the bathroom while I sat wondering what our relationship age gap meant: Would he want to move faster in a relationship? Would he be thinking about children already? Would he be appalled by my tiny studio apartment, which I could barely afford?
“So I know what you’re thinking,” he said, upon returning. “Why isn’t this guy married with kids?” He launched into an explanation about not finding the right woman yet and managed to quell all of my concerns—at least for the time being. I continued to find myself smitten, gushing to my mom about him, telling her that 13 years wasn’t that big of an age difference because we got along so well and it just didn’t matter.
We continued to date until, eventually, our lifestyles proved drastically different. His career and financial situations were a far cry from mine, and the idea of things getting serious felt rushed and scary to me. He was closer to 40 than I was to 30, and I felt like he’d inevitably want marriage and children much sooner than I would. So I let our connection slip away, allowing my concern over our age difference to overshadow our passion.
It was ultimately the right call, I felt, and experts seem to agree. The truth is that age is not just a number, says Seth Meyers, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome and Find the Love You Deserve . A relationship age gap bigger than 10 years often comes with its own set of issues. “While there are always exceptions to rules, a good rule to remember is that dating someone more than 10 years older will present challenges now or later that add to the preexisting challenges any relationship has,” he says.
Couples with a big age difference need to think things through or risk finding themselves at conflicting stages in their relationship. “You can see varied cultural references, disapproval from family and friends, and perhaps community disapproval, as well,” says Rachel Sussman , a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York. “It might be hard to relate to each other’s peer groups too.”
Since dating the lawyer, I’ve capped my ideal man at about five to seven years older than me, especially on dating apps, where you can filter out those in a specific age group. But at the same time, I still keep an open mind—a big age gap doesn't have to be a nonstarter. “The unhealthy individual either has a type that is too specific and narrow—'I want someone between 30 and 35 who loves the outdoors, is really close to his parents and siblings'—or, conversely, too broad and vague—'I just want someone nice,'” Meyers says.
Instead, be realistic about what you want in someone, not what you want from their age. Think of 10 years as a general guideline, but be open to other ages as well—and don’t limit yourself to dating only someone older. "'Cast a wide net' is what I tell all my clients,” Sussman says. “Men should date older, and women should be OK experimenting with dating younger. And we should all be more open-minded.”
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Forget what you heard. Dr. Shepherd sets the record straight on this one.
Finally, we’re bringing you very public answers to some of your most private questions. When sexual and vaginal health concerns arise, OB/GYN and nationally known women’s health expert Dr. Jessica Shepherd wants to ensure you have the answers you need to feel at ease. As the founder of Her Viewpoint , an online women’s health forum, she uses this outlet to focus on addressing taboo topics in a comfortable setting. Prepare to take notes!
Q: “Is there such a thing as a penis being too big for a woman to handle or a penis to vagina ratio?”
A: The answer to that question is both yes and no.
It really depends on the anatomy of both the male and the female. The vagina is very responsive to different sizes, and it’s very elastic, and again, returns to normal size after childbirth and after sex. It really does have good ability to go back to its normal size for that individual.
The average penis size is actually, when we’re talking about flaccid, so that’s a soft penis, is 3.5 inches and then for an erect penis it’s going to be 4.7 to 6 inches.
Some significant differences in sizes from one partner to another, for the woman, can cause some sex to be painful or uncomfortable relations during intercourse. If that’s the case, then the couple definitely need to discuss that and find out different ways that they can have intercourse that’s still enjoyable, but still accommodating for both parties.
Sexual intercourse or the experience that you have does not really have to do with penis size. There’s more to sex than just penis size, and width, and all that good stuff. There’s more, but it’s more about the connection with the person that you’re having intercourse with.
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Ladies of Reddit; How small is too small? How big is too big?
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We have all asked if size matters a million times, but at some point it has to matter to every girl. Too big or two small, there is a limit to everything. So ladies, What are your limits?
Personally I think you need to consider girth as well. For me it wouldn't matter if it was a mile long if it was only an inch in diameter. But only a few inches long and the diameter of a Tollhouse cookie...I'm set. Its all about the thickness baby.
jesus, tollhouse cookie? aren't those about the width of a beer can?
So small I can't feel much v. So big it hurts. Neither is good & the size of both of these will vary greatly depending on the vagina you're sticking it in, so this question isn't gonna help you much unless you ask it directly to your sex partners.
small is anything less than 5 inches long and no wider than a hot dog.
big is anything bigger than 6.5 and as girthy as a danny devito's neck
Women want to be stretched; not stabbed.
indeed, I wasnt asking specifically about length. I guess I should have specified.
How big is too big of an age gap for relationships?
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I met a guy. Im 19 and he's 24. Is the age gap too big?
I'm 24. He's 32. I have feelings for him. Does the age gap matter?
Is 6 years a big age gap? I'm 18, and the guy that asked me out is 24. Is that too big an age difference?
My uncle, who's 40, is dating a woman 15 years younger than him. They enjoy each other's company and love and respect each other very much, but it still feels off to me. Can a relationship with such a huge age gap be truly healthy and long lasting?
If my boyfriend is 19 and I’m 17 and his birthday is March 30, 2002 and is the same day as mine (March 30, 2004), is that a two-year age gap?
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I met a guy. Im 19 and he's 24. Is the age gap too big?
I'm 24. He's 32. I have feelings for him. Does the age gap matter?
Is 6 years a big age gap? I'm 18, and the guy that asked me out is 24. Is that too big an age difference?
My uncle, who's 40, is dating a woman 15 years younger than him. They enjoy each other's company and love and respect each other very much, but it still feels off to me. Can a relationship with such a huge age gap be truly healthy and long lasting?
If my boyfriend is 19 and I’m 17 and his birthday is March 30, 2002 and is the same day as mine (March 30, 2004), is that a two-year age gap?
I am going to be 19 and my boyfriend is 32. Our age gap Is 14 years. Is this too wide? He treats me amazing and it’s been really good the last 5 months. Should I care what people think?
I am 34 and I am interested in a 26 year old guy. Is the age gap too big? Are 26 year olds much less mature?
My boyfriend is 32 and I’m 21. Is that a big age gap? Should I break up with him?
What are the pros and cons of an 18 year age gap relationship between a 21 year old female and 39 year old male who was never married and has no kids?
Is 4~5 years age difference too big for a relationship? I'm turning 19 in 3 more weeks and he's turning 24 in 5 more weeks so that's nearly 5 years age difference between us. Is this age difference too big for a relationship?
I’m 17 and he is 34. Is that wrong? Is that too big of an age gap?
Is a 16 year age gap too much for a dating relationship, let’s say a 22-year-old female and a 38 year old male make?
I'm a 29 year old male. Is it weird to date girls 7-8 years younger?
I met a guy. Im 19 and he's 24. Is the age gap too big?
I'm 24. He's 32. I have feelings for him. Does the age gap matter?
Is 6 years a big age gap? I'm 18, and the guy that asked me out is 24. Is that too big an age difference?
My uncle, who's 40, is dating a woman 15 years younger than him. They enjoy each other's company and love and respect each other very much, but it still feels off to me. Can a relationship with such a huge age gap be truly healthy and long lasting?
If my boyfriend is 19 and I’m 17 and his birthday is March 30, 2002 and is the same day as mine (March 30, 2004), is that a two-year age gap?
I am going to be 19 and my boyfriend is 32. Our age gap Is 14 years. Is this too wide? He treats me amazing and it’s been really good the last 5 months. Should I care what people think?
I am 34 and I am interested in a 26 year old guy. Is the age gap too big? Are 26 year olds much less mature?
My boyfriend is 32 and I’m 21. Is that a big age gap? Should I break up with him?
What are the pros and cons of an 18 year age gap relationship between a 21 year old female and 39 year old male who was never married and has no kids?
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I am 14 years older than my husband. I’ll admit, the age difference is not ideal. I would not recommend it. But age is a lot less important than other factors. Here’s my experience.
First, some background. My first husband and I were the same age. We got married pretty young, then had a child, then got divorced. In hindsight, my first husband was immature and unintelligent. My mother, a wise woman, wasn’t surprised the marriage didn’t last. In any case, there I was, early 30s with a toddler. My father was particularly disturbed by my decision to leave a man, who from his perspective, was kind a
I am 14 years older than my husband. I’ll admit, the age difference is not ideal. I would not recommend it. But age is a lot less important than other factors. Here’s my experience.
First, some background. My first husband and I were the same age. We got married pretty young, then had a child, then got divorced. In hindsight, my first husband was immature and unintelligent. My mother, a wise woman, wasn’t surprised the marriage didn’t last. In any case, there I was, early 30s with a toddler. My father was particularly disturbed by my decision to leave a man, who from his perspective, was kind and responsible. He didn’t think any man would want me, a divorced woman with a child. My mother, perfectly pragmatic, advised, you’re going to have a hard time finding men your age to date. They are all going to be happily married, or the “Charlie Rejects” like the one you just booted out. But there will be a bunch of men much younger who have never been married, or men about a decade older who have just gone through their first divorce. I wasn’t interested in dating. I was interested in raising my child and focusing on my career.
It wasn’t long before I became friends with a 20-year-old co-worker. Because he was so much younger, I felt that we could be friends without ever risking it turning into something else. So we spent a lot of time together. We talked a lot about the company we worked for and our future professional plans, but we also had more meaningful conversations. Then the proverbial one thing led to another.
It was a fun fling with no-strings attached. There was an expiration date because he was planning on moving away to go to graduate school. There wasn’t any pressure on our relationship, which was probably the reason it worked. He ended up accepting a slot at a school that was only a couple hours drive away. We never had an agreement that we would try to make it work. But him being in the same state, it didn’t seem impossible. So on weekends that my daughter was with her dad, I drove to see him. He visited me on the other weekends. We kept this pace for the next three years.
Him being in school allowed me the time I needed to focus on my young child. And take things slow. I didn’t want him to form any kind of bond with my child if things weren’t going to be serious. A man my age would have been impatient with my circumstances. And a woman his age would have likewise been impatient with him.
Those early years were fun. He didn’t have any money. But I had plenty so I paid for us to go to expensive restaurants and on nice vacations. I had some girlfriends who had a problem with the fact that I always paid for everything. But what was the alternative? Only eat at places he could afford? I love Wendy’s as much as the next girl, but not for every date. For them, dating someone so young (and poor) seemed insane. I couldn’t care less that he was broke as a joke. I was in love.
After he moved back to the same town we decided we’d try to have a serious relationship. He moved in and we fell into domestic life. After a few years we got married, had a child, bought and fixed up a house. Things have been great. I’m grateful for the wonderful life and family we have. We are very compatible and share values and priorities. He and I have a very deep connection. We are committed to each other and our family. We are best friends and enjoy our time together. Our age difference has not interfered with our happiness one bit. But I don’t think it would be as good if our age difference were much greater.
The big issue for us was children. He wanted one but I didn’t want another child. Now he loves my older daughter very much. But he wasn’t there from the beginning. I didn’t allow it until she was about 5 or 6. He wanted a baby. I think this was more an issue for me. He never worried about it because he never doubted that he would manage to persuade me to have another child when the time came. I reminded him that even if I changed my mind, there was a matter of biology. He was convinced that we could overcome any obstacle with modern medical practices. And if we tried and it didn’t work out, he could live with that. But he wanted me to try. I agreed to try. But I didn’t really believe it would work. I got pregnant either on my wedding night or within a few days, based on my best calculations. I had a child at 47. She’s now 3. Frankly, this life is not at all what I had envisioned for my 50s. My older daughter is about to go away to college. I’m at a good age to have more time to myself. I’d like to travel and maybe write a book. Instead, I’m looking at kindergarten options. I’m starting all over again. On the plus side, I love this little girl with my whole heart. She has brought us all so much happiness. We couldn’t imagine our lives without her.
Then there’s the whole thing about me dying leaving him alone. He is genuinely worried about that. For his sake, and also for my kids’ sake, I have taken a serious interest in my health. I’m much more of a health nut than I otherwise would have been. In truth, I have probably added a good decade to my life. But then, my health stuff has rubbed off on him, so he will also live longer. So the problem hasn’t really resolved.
The worst thing, and I hate to admit this, is that I really don’t like looking so much older than my husband. I’m very insecure about my aging. I’d otherwise probably be completely uninterested in my appearance. I never really cared about it before I met him. I don’t like being the type of woman who regrets her wrinkles, but I am. My husband thinks I’m beautiful. I know he does, I can tell from the way he looks at me. But I’m bothered by the thought that anyone could think, “why is he married to that old hag?” So now I have to do things like get glycolic acid peels (they work wonders, incidentally). I’m pretty sure I can pass for a woman ten years younger than me. Unfortunately, he also looks quite young. So that problem hasn’t resolved.
As a final note, I’d like to let you know that my friends who judged me for splurging have had to bite their tongues. My husband earns a much higher salary than I do, and in recent years has splurged on me plenty, more than making up for the losses I sustained in our early years.
I’m 44. My husband is
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