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~*Because hands are free sex toys you already own*~.
Fisting, or the act of penetrating someone with a fist, might seem pretty intense, but with the right partner, a lot of lube, and some patience, it’s doable. For many people, when they think about fisting, the thing that pops into mind is that scene in Chasing Amy where Amy makes a hole with one hand and then shoves a fist through it with the other like, “Ta-da!” and Ben Affleck's character is like, “WTF???” But it's not necessarily that WTF!
A vagina can fit a lot more than you’d think — like, a whole human baby can come out of there — and you guessed it, a human fist can fit in there as well. But fisting isn’t as simple as throwing a fist up someone’s vagina (or butt), because you pretty much can’t do that unless you have an ocean of lube and a super-relaxed vagina and maybe tiny hands. But what do you do instead?
When Cosmo consulted queer friends on the matter, one woman, Samantha, 44, said that it’s not her thing personally, but she knows a lot of lesbians who do it. She says that since she’s been with her partner in a monogamous relationship for 11 years, they’ve definitely tried a lot of things during that time, with fisting being one of them. Her advice? “Use a lot of lube and a lot of patience. It isn’t something that can be rushed, and the fist can’t just be pummeled into your partner.”
Queer porn performer Andre Shakti says she loves fisting, and it’s actually her “preferred way to get off when I’m bottoming with a partner.” Shakti also makes an excellent point about how rarely we hear about women fisting other women in movies. Most mentions of fisting in pop culture seem to be geared toward people making anal-fisting jokes that are centered “either around male homosexuality or around a man purchasing the services of a sex worker to be fisted,” Shakti tells Cosmopolitan.com. So the idea of a woman penetrating another woman with her hand is often lost on mainstream media all together.
Despite this, Shakti says she likes the feeling of “fullness” and pressure when she’s being penetrated, and nothing else she’s tried has been able to give her a comparable feeling. Shakti feels “our hands are our best sex toys, yet they are often overlooked completely or seen as reserved exclusively for foreplay,” and if you don’t have a penis, the idea of being able to insert an entire part of your body in a partner (or vice versa) can be incredibly intimate and erotic. Plus, not having to drop a ton of cash on a fancy vibrator or dildo because your hands are ~free~ is definitely an added bonus.
Carol Queen, PhD, co-author of T he Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone , says she’s always enjoyed fisting as “a very intense sexual act that’s all about appreciating fullness,” though she cautions it shouldn’t be done too quickly, especially if the receiver isn’t that turned on yet. She also recommends as much communication as possible so you can know when your receiving partner is ready for more and when they want you to stop moving.
So without further adieu, let’s dive right in (pun totally intended) with some tips on how to fist and be fisted.
Katherin Winnick, sex coach and Deputy Editor at Letstalksex.net , says that if you're on the receiving end of fisting, you can help stretch out your vagina and get used to the sensation of more than usual by trying an inflatable dildo or butt plug (if you're doing anal fisting). There are also specially designed sex toys meant to mimic the look and feel of a fist, if you wanna get realistic with it.
Winnick also says that having an orgasm (at least one, but if you go for multiple, do you!) can help relax your PC muscles and get ready for receiving.
Remember, porn really isn't a realistic portrayal of sex most times, and you def shouldn't feel like you need to compare or compete with that. Winnick says to keep in mind that porn actors (whether they're pros or even amateurs) have spent hours training and prepping for a fisting scene, and then cutting and editing the footage to make a finished product. Real life and real sex isn't like that, and that's okay!
Fisting takes practice and training and prep! Winnick notes that it's okay if the first time you try it, it's not exactly how you pictured it.
Winnick notes that if you notice spotting a few days afterwards, you should definitely check with your doctor. "Sometimes fisting can cause micro-tears in the vaginal tissue," Winnick explains. Not only are micro-tears bad news bears, but they can also be risky if you or your partner has an STI. Your best bet is to always practice safe fisting and to not be afraid to call your doctor should anything seem out of the ordinary.
Even if you wash your hands thoroughly, you want to make sure there are no abrasions from the nails or hangnails, explains Queen. It’s also super important to make sure the gloves fit well — any folds in the gloves could be uncomfortable for the bottom, adds Queen. And make sure the gloves won’t cause more of a problem than they intend to solve. If your partner has a latex allergy, go with a non-latex material.
“It’s a good idea to bring a fisting bottom down gently after the act, as well as staying in touch and checking in,” says Queen. The reason being, fisting can be a very intense sexual act, especially if you’re new to it, she explains. And while vaginal fisting isn’t as likely to cause damage as rectal fisting, damage is still possible (especially if you don’t use enough lube or wear a glove!), and therefore, it would be the fister’s responsibility to help the fistee with that afterwards.
“I tell my clients that small movements feel big,” says sex therapist and sexuality professor Erika M. Evans . Once you’re inside, try moving your wrist in small circular movements, or use your knuckles or fingers to wiggle around ever so slightly to create different sensations, says Evans.
Shakti says only half of her partners have been able to receive a full fist, because their anatomy just couldn’t accommodate an entire hand. That said, those partners were happy to fist her whether or not they previously had experience doing it, so there are ways to get around that issue of their body being like “nah.”
Shakti says that even if you think you’ve put enough lube on both your hand and your partner’s genitals, apply more. She recommends using a silicone lube like Swiss Navy , as it’s much slicker than water-based lube and is thick enough for fisting. She also says to make sure to leave lots of time to relax and experiment with your partner, because fisting is “definitely not something to try during a lunchtime quickie,” partly because it can also be super messy. Which leads me to my next point…
As a precaution, you might want to arrange some dark-colored towels or a Liberator Throe on the bed beforehand, because with all the lube you’ll be using, the odds that it’ll leak all over your sheets are very good indeed. Better safe and dry than wet and sorry.
If you’re the fister, Shakti says you want to make sure your nails are short, rounded, and filed, and your hands are recently washed clean, and free of cuts, abrasions, rough edges, and nail polish (because duh, it’s going inside a body). You can also use latex or nitrile gloves, and if you really don’t want to cut your nails, you can always wrap the tips of your fingers in medical gauze or stuff the tips of your gloves with cotton balls to “pad” them so your partner doesn’t get clawed in the worst possible place to get clawed. Jess Wilde, Lovehoney’s bondage and fetish expert, says you can also get a fisting mitt , which is a smooth latex mitten worn over one hand to create a barrier between the giver’s hand and the receiver’s bodily fluids. Basically, wearing the mitt is an added safety measure and reduces the risk of accidentally scratching your partner internally and also makes lubricant last longer.
Wilde says a lot of anal-fisting lubes have numbing agents in them, but it’s a horrible idea to use them, particularly with vaginal play, because it can stop the receiver from being aware when something isn’t going well for them or is painful. The person being fisted should always be able to feel everything so they can stop play if something becomes uncomfortable, so skip these gels for sure.
Wilde says that if you’re being fisted and something feels great, tell your partner, and the same goes for anything that hurts or is uncomfortable. Shakti also recommends having a safe word since fisting can be so intense. It’s just good to know you have the lines of communication as open as, well, your vagina is when it has a fist inside it.
This is definitely not a sex act where you want to rush foreplay, so take your time and use smaller toys or even just a few fingers to get them wet and aroused. Basically, the more aroused she is, the bigger, wider, and wetter she’ll become, which will make it a lot easier to get your whole fist inside her when you get to that point.
Wilde recommends starting however you normally would sexually, and then move up one finger at the time until she can comfortably accommodate four of your fingers. Then, you can then start to move your thumb into position to create a “beak” shape with your fingers and your thumb (basically pulling your pointer and baby finger together underneath your middle finger.) This allows your hand to be tapered, which is easier for slowly inserting to your partner. At that point, it’s just about getting past your knuckles, because then your full fist will form pretty naturally once you’re inside.
Shakti says that it can often be tough to get past the knuckles when you’re inserting them, but once you do, you can use them to rock back and forth and put pressure on the internal part of the clitoris. You can also play at the edge of the vaginal opening, bringing the knuckles in and out, which Shakti says is her favorite sensation in fisting, so you know it’s good.
Now that you’re inside your partner, you can experiment by rotating your wrist gently, making small movements with your fingers, and rocking your knuckles up and down as mentioned before, and feel free to keep reapplying that lube when she needs it.
After you’ve been fisted, Shakti says it’s possible your vagina will get incredibly sensitive, and you might even be a little sore for a day or two afterward. Using lots of lube, going slowly during sex, and drinking lots of water after always helps to alleviate the discomfort, but it can still happen. Queen says you also might see some blood depending on how vigorous the sex was, or if the person is on hormone replacement therapy (which can change the delicacy of the tissue for some people), but it should stop. Queen adds that fisting injuries are pretty rare (though she does say to exercise extreme caution if the person you're fisting has had a complete hysterectomy or vaginoplasty), but if you continue to bleed, even if it’s just a regular drip, go to the ER as soon as possible.
Shakti says that people who haven’t fisted before tend to want to yank their fist out of their partner’s body right after they’ve orgasmed, but it’s super startling and very painful for the person you’ve just fisted. She recommends just remaining still and then massaging the outside of her vagina with your other hand to relax the muscles while you slowly and carefully work the other hand out. You can also give your partner a vibrator to use on themselves to distract them from what could be a painful removal scenario, transforming it into what fisting should be overall, which is super fun and awesome.
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"It's a bit of a kink for me to see how shocked people are about how much I can handle.”
You've heard of vaginal fingering , but what about vaginal fisting? Fingering entails inserting a finger or two into someone's vagina (and hopefully using your other digits to touch their clitoris). Fisting is an entirely different sensation for the giver and the receiver: it's when you get all five fingers in your partner's vagina, making it past the knuckles and all the way down to your wrist.
“Fisting is a bit of a misnomer because it makes it sound like the hand is entering the vagina as a balled-up, kickboxing style fist, but this is not the case,” explains queer sex educator and journalist Gabrielle Kassel . “The fingers enter the vagina as a 'duck beak' or 'Italian gesticulation' shape.”
Some advanced fisting bottoms (a.k.a. the person being fisted) may have their partner roll their fingers down into a fist once they're inside the vaginal canal, “but the hand does not start as a fist,” Kassel says.
While vaginal fisting may seem like something that only happens in porn, you can definitely pull it off in real life, with practice—and people in all types of relationships can try it out. “While people of any sexuality, kink preferences, and gender configurations can fist, in my experience, fisting is most common in kinky communities and queer partnerships,” Kassel says. “This is because both the queer and kink communities are used to expanding and exploring what can qualify as pleasure.”
To learn more about the wonderful world of fisting—including how to do it—we spoke to three experienced vaginal fisting bottoms:
Kim: “Sometimes, it feels like my partner is the puppetmaster. Their hand inside me, calling the shots, like they made marionette strings of my nervous system. Their hand movement causes corresponding involuntary movements of my limbs, face, neck, and vocal cords. Psychologically, it can put me into sub space, or it can keep me there. It's about surrendering control of my own body. But other times, it feels like I’m a fucking champion. It’s like, ‘Watch what I can do with my hole. Stick your whole fist in there, I dare you.'"
Bex: “Physically, at its simplest, it's about a feeling of fullness. It's a deep and radiating pleasure, the kind I relate to g-spot and a-spot stimulation. There's also something particularly satisfying about the moment the fist is fully inside you.
"Psychologically I very much enjoy the idea of exploring my body's limits and the challenge of taking a fist. I enjoy the feeling of satisfaction and pride when I get past that last knuckle and feel them slip into me, and I love the chance to impress my partner with how much I can take. Occasionally, it can also be emotionally intense and will sometimes leave me feeling a little vulnerable afterward, but having my partner around to cuddle me always helps.”
Danielle: “So I'm 4'10" and 85 pounds, but I have a surprisingly big pussy. It's a bit of a kink for me to see how shocked people are about how much I can handle.”
Kim: “Oh my god, all of it. With a whole hand inside me, my partner can reach places they can't access with other types of penetrative sex. They have the dexterity to feel around inside me, and I can guide them to my pleasure points. Finally, there’s a moment of ecstasy when the hand pushes all the way in, and the hole tightens around their wrist.
We hold so much power in our hands: They create, write, type, eat, open doors, and drive. Our hands are the primary appendage we use to go about our daily lives. Having someone's hand completely inside me links my momentary experience with all of the beautiful things they do with their hands. Being fisted by an artist, I become a work of art. Being fisted by an athlete, I become the game they train for. Being fisted by a skilled driver, they have command over the machine that is my body.”
Bex: “I mean, at its simplest, it feels good! I particularly enjoy the intense feeling of fullness and the fun challenge of pushing my body to see what it can do.”
Danielle: “I simply like feeling very full. There's something about the stretching of my vagina that feels really intense but wonderful. The feeling of seeing how my body reacts when I intentionally connect
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