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This mom is taking the birds and the bees talk to a whole new level.
Chloe Macintosh has created a guide called “First Time Sex Starter Kit” for her two teenage sons in a bid to help them — and other teens — properly prepare to lose their virginities.
The British-based entrepreneur recently launched Kama — a sexual wellness app designed to educate people of all ages on various aspects of eroticism.
The app features a special section for first-timers, which Macintosh was inspired to create with and for her sons — Felix, 16, and Elliott, 14.
“The content we wanted to put out there is more than some tips to put a condom on,” Macintosh told HuffPost. “It’s more relating to the experience and making it as relaxed and comfortable as possible.”
The kit currently takes the form of 20 different videos, in which Felix is seen talking to a sex therapist. They discuss topics from “dry humping” to “how to use your penis inside.”
Macintosh said she never spoke about intercourse with her own parents and wanted to take the stigma out of sex for her sons.
“After an initial period of resistance, Felix and Elliott started to become more used to the topic, and speaking about it became more and more normal,” the open-minded mama declared.
She told the publication it would be impossible for her sons to ignore sex, given that there are sex books, “toys” and “gadgets” scattered “everywhere” around their home.
Her boys began asking honest questions about sex, and their friends even had queries of their own. The pals wanted to know about initiating sex, choosing partners and asking for feedback from them.
The candid discussions helped Macintosh formulate the “First Time Sex Starter Kit.” She wanted the guides to include language used in teen conversations in order to make the kit more accessible and relatable.
According to HuffPost, the guide features advice on topics including oral sex, vaginal and anal penetration, hand jobs, fingering, consent and more.
Macintosh said much sex education learned in schools is not delivered in relatable language. She also alleged it is “heteronormative, binary and generally backwards and incomplete.”
She told the publication she is concerned that teens are now trying to learn about sex from online pornography, which presents an unrealistic and distorted view of intimacy.
The mom said she hopes her starter kit can plug a gap in the market.
“The fact that so many teens and young people go through the processes of dating and intimacy without proper guidance is not good enough and can be easily repaired,” she declared. “If we remove the taboo and shame from talking about sex, then authentic pleasure can come more naturally.”

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Age: 26 Kids: Seven months pregnant with first child Married: 4 1/2 years

8 a.m. Wake up to sweet note from husband next to pillow. "Our baby is so lucky to have you as a mom." He's so thoughtful. 9 p.m. Mother-in-law didn't wish me a happy Mother's Day, so I unleash fury on poor, unsuspecting husband. 10 p.m. Discover stretch marks on breasts. Freak out. Husband: "They're just red marks from your bra." Know he's lying, but it's a sweet lie. Midnight Husband: "Pregnancy has brought out everything I love about you times 10." Makes me want him, but I'm too exhausted for sex. We cuddle in bed with his hand on my belly. Feel closer to him than ever.

9 a.m. Wake up feeling frisky, but husband is at work. Use trusty vibrator. 10 a.m. Husband calls to tell me he misses me. Don't tell him I used vibrator; it'll just tease him. He always wants me to save my sexual energy for when he's home. 12:45 p.m. Meet old coworker for frozen yogurt. Boobs leak. Turn bright red. 7:30 p.m. Eavesdrop on pregnant woman at restaurant. Pregnant woman: "We have sex every day, and I think that's pretty good considering how big I am." You've got to be kidding me. 10 p.m. Watch movie starring Christian Bale. Feel like giggly 13-year-old girl again. Husband sleeping. Darn!

9 a.m. Still feel like having sex. Must wait nine hours till husband gets home! 11 a.m. Stand behind cyclist wearing spandex shorts at Starbucks. Can't stop staring at his perfectly round butt. 7:30 p.m. Husband initiates sex in the shower. He thinks pregnancy is super sexy. Trying to balance belly and one leg in the air without slipping is very difficult.

9:45 a.m. Get friendly with myself again. Am I becoming addicted to vibrator? 12:30 p.m. Woman looks at my frozen yogurt, then my belly, and smiles. Feel fat. 9 p.m. Watching Lost with husband. Bet on outcome of episode. If he wins, he gets a sexual favor. If I win, a massage. Shoot! I lose. 10:15 p.m. Naked in bathroom when realization hits me. Me: "I can't see my vagina anymore!" Husband: "Don't worry, I'll keep any eye on it." I laugh.

10:30 a.m. Best ... Sex ... Ever! Breasts leak everywhere. 11:30 a.m. Lie down for post-sex siesta. 9 p.m. Pregnancy is wearing me out! Husband massages me. Love him. 2 a.m. Dream I'm having sex with Johnny Knoxville. Hope subconscious picks a more romantic sex partner next time.

Dr. Hutcherson: "Strong sexual desire and frequent fantasizing are not very common in late pregnancy. Increased blood flow down below could be the reason for it. It's wonderful that she's still having shower sex."

Age: 35 Kids: 3-month-old son Married: 3 years

3 a.m. Husband is talking in sleep: "Ooh ... Aah ... Yes! So good!" 7 a.m. Ask husband if his dream was about having great sex. Husband: "Yeah, that would definitely be a dream!" 10 p.m. Husband: "Please come to bed naked. I don't need to have sex, but I need to feel intimate with you." Still scared it will hurt too badly. Husband understands, but wishes that we were on the same page.

8:45 a.m. Husband wakes up frisky. He moves aside my breast pads (sexy!) and starts kissing my breasts. He's been obsessed with them ever since I started breastfeeding. 10 a.m. Have sex for first time after birth. Ouch! This does not feel good. Note to self: Buy lots of K-Y jelly!

10:30 a.m. Wince during sex. Husband notices and pulls away. Husband: "It's not real sex unless you enjoy it too." Me: "So we've been having fake sex for the past 10 months?" Husband: "Yep, not as fun." Sex has been uncomfortable since fourth month of pregnancy. Start crying. 3 p.m. Husband squeezes my butt as I unload dishwasher. 10 p.m. Unwittingly start watching soft-core porn movie with my mother. Yikes! Turn it off quickly. Mortified.

9 a.m. Have sex with husband. Still hurts. 3 p.m. Good news: My doc can prescribe estrogen cream to make sex more comfortable. Husband will be pleased. 9:45 p.m. Husband: "Please take off your shirt and come to bed." Me: "Can't. My boobs are swollen and leaking milk." My breasts are the forbidden fruit -- firm, perky, and totally unavailable to him.

10 a.m. Make out with husband. 2 p.m. Changing clothes. Husband: "Available boobies! Quick, before our son gets them!" He pulls me onto floor and pleasures me next to sleeping baby. Weird at first, then kind of sweet. It's nice to be close to him. 6 p.m. Husband is touchy-feely after a few cocktails. Husband: "I loooove youuu. I love you even more than our son."

Dr. Hutcherson: "Painful sex after childbirth is common, and most new moms are scared intercourse will never feel normal again. Some men can feel pushed away and unwanted during this time, but her husband is great at communicating how much he loves her."

Age: 33 Kids: 2-year-old boy and 6-week-old girl Married: 7 years

7:50 a.m. Gently caress wife. Hope this gets her in the mood today. 9:45 p.m. Wife is pumping for baby. Breast pump reminds me of a farming device, but it does allow me a glimpse of her boobs. 11:37 p.m. Kiss wife's face and neck. Nursing bra makes access easy but weird-looking. I'm not picky, though -- it's been a while. 11:40 p.m. Play with wife's breasts, but not for long. Scared of being squirted in eye. We touch each other for a long time, then fall asleep.

8 a.m. Hope wife joins me in shower. Hopes dashed. 9:45 a.m. Car broke down. Sitting on bus next to attractive woman with low-cut shirt and nice breasts. She smells good. 12:10 p.m. E-flirt with coworker I call my "sports girlfriend." She's cute and laughs at my jokes, but it won't go anywhere. 10: 45 p.m. Consider perusing Internet for porn but decide against it.

9:15 a.m. Notice that warm weather has brought out all the cute girls. Feel guilty and juvenile for thinking this. Noon More e-flirting with sports girlfriend. 10:45 p.m. Have pseudo-sex with wife -- no actual intercourse, but enough rubbing against each other to feel good.

7:35 a.m. Wake up late and shower alone, again. Sex life sucks in past few months. 10:10 p.m. Hang out with the guys. Discuss hot women. We're pigs. 11:50 p.m. Internet porn tonight? Can't. Feel too guilty.

6:45 a.m. Wife joins me in shower. Even if we don't do anything at least we're naked. 7:10 a.m. Wife stands in doorway wearing one of my shirts -- sexy. Will file away as masturbation material for later. 9:45 p.m. Doctor has cleared wife. Feeling hopeful tonight, so I sleep naked. 11:00 p.m. Make love for first time in four months. Wife is totally into it. Looks like we're back on our sex-once-a-week schedule.

Dr. Hutcherson: "This dad's experience is typical of fathers whose wives have just given birth. Waiting six weeks for intercourse can feel like an eternity for them. You can tell he's anxious to have sex and because of this starts fantasizing about what he's not getting at home. Fortunately, when they did have sex it was a great experience and his wife enjoyed it. A lot of new fathers worry that it won't be the same."

Age: 38 Kids: Three girls, 16, 3, and 14 months Married: 7 years

2 p.m. Running errands. Mission: Get home, put kids down for nap, and (hopefully!) have sex. 2:30 p.m. Hubby and 3-year-old take nap while I stay up with 1-year-old who won't sleep. Oh, well. 10 p.m. Baby wakes up screaming. She's soaked and teething. Long night ahead. 11 p.m. Teen wants to talk. We fall asleep in my room. Three-year-old joins us. Midnight Wake up with 3-year-old's foot in my face. Get up and look for husband.

12:05 a.m. Find husband. We drink a few cocktails and talk. Alone time, finally! 2 a.m. Hubby and I lie down on teen's bed. Should we have a quickie? We've got a nice champagne buzz and, for once, no kids in the bed with us! Baby starts crying. Guess not. 7 a.m. Wake up frisky after sex dream. Pleasure myself in the shower. 11 a.m. Miss sleeping alone with husband. These spoiled girls need to sleep in their own beds! 12 p.m. Husband: "Stop what you're doing and come here now." Worried. Husband: "I love you so much."

7:30 a.m. Exhausted! Too many late nights recently. 11 a.m. Doing dishes. Husband starts rubbing my breasts and butt. Unfortunately, not in the mood. 8 p.m. Husband and I cuddle on couch. He starts rubbing up on me again. Turned on now. Three-year-old wakes up crying (bad timing, again!). She has a fever. 1 a.m. Husband falls asleep. I stay up with sick baby.

7:30 a.m. It's husband's birthday. Maybe we'll both get some tonight! 8 a.m. Husband and I kiss in kitchen. Three-year-old bursts in: "Daddy, why are you rubbing Mommy's booty?" 9 a.m. Stressed out today. Definitely could use sex to relieve all this tension! 11 a.m. Time to run a million errands. Can't wait to celebrate tonight! 11 p.m. Too exhausted for sex.

5 p.m. Husband grabs my butt at grocery store. Husband: "I just love your butt!" 6 p.m. We stop by storage facility. Husband: "How 'bout a quickie?" Me: "Now?" 6:05 p.m. Space is tight, but we make it work. Sex feels dangerous, like we might get caught -- exciting! 6:45 p.m. Husband: "Who needs bedroom sex, right?"

Dr. Hutcherson: "This poor mom! She's trying to have sex, but the kids keep getting in the way. I love that they had a quickie in the storage facility. It's important to be creative and find a time and space to have sex when the kids aren't around. They've done this, which is great for their relationship."

By Hannah Orenstein Updated: Nov 25, 2019
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"Afterwards, I expected to feel more mature and more confident, but I really just felt the same as I always have."
Thanks to thee unrealistic standards constantly portrayed in media , we've all built up this imaginary idea of what sex is supposed to be like. Some people expect a romantic night of candles and passion, while others think it will be the most pleasure they've ever felt in their whole life . But the truth is, everyone's experience is different. Sometimes it's smooth and romantic and lives up to your expectations, while other times, it's kind of terrible.
But no matter how old you are or what the circumstances are, having sex for the first time can feel like a huge deal! So, to give you a better idea about what your first time may be like, we talked to 43 girls about the first time they had sex — how they knew they were ready, who they did it with, and how they felt afterward.
1. "He knew I was a virgin and for some reason, I had this expectation of it being magical, which in all honesty, it wasn't. He kept his face buried in my shoulder/neck the whole time and asked if I was okay once during, which I thought was kind of inconsiderate. I think I would have enjoyed it more if he had checked in with me to see if my needs were being met, which they weren't . At the time, I was blinded by my love, so I chose to look past that." — Hafeezah, 22
2. "It was not romantic at all. It was messy, drunk and horny. I was 17, drunk at a beach concert, called a guy that we had an on and off thing and we had sex in the back of his pickup car. Then, he went to study abroad and we never spoke about it , until like 2 years later." — Bianca, 23
3. "I was a sophomore in high school and at a Halloween party. I got pretty drunk and had sex with one of my childhood friends (on his birthday) in the basement of his house. Then, the next day, I found out one of my best friends also had sex for the first time that night . So to this day, she and I will text each other on October 30 to say happy anniversary." — Tory, 24
4. "We were 17 and we needed a time when our parents weren’t home, so we waited until Christmas Eve when his parents had left for a holiday party. I was so incredibly nervous — I think we both were. So we lit candles and took it slow . To be honest it hurt like hell. But other than that I think it was pretty perfect as far as virgins go." — Debby, 22
5. "It was after homecoming and we were just in his room. It all happened pretty naturally. It wasn't painful, but it honestly didn't feel like anything at all was happening . And then 1-2 minutes later it was over." — Jasmyne, 21
6. "I was 17 when I first had sex. I lost my virginity to someone I actually cared about, which doesn’t mean much to me looking back now, but it was important to me back then. It was late at night and we were in the backseat of his car . I was really nervous, but he was patient and managed to make me feel comfortable and sexy, even. I don’t regret anything and for that I’m thankful." — Jennifer, 22
7. "It was nothing like I imagined. I felt comfortable, but out of nowhere, I got really nervous . He told me to relax and that we didn't have to continue if I didn't want to, but I did. It was very painful to the point that I had to stop because I was in so much pain. I felt a little ashamed and embarrassed because I imaged something different and I thought he was disappointed in the experience. He was so understanding and he said it was fine and that he wanted me to be okay, and that we didn't have to continue. He made me feel better about the experience, and we are still together two and a half years later." — Katie, 24
8. "I wasn't "in love" or whatever, but I guess I never expected to be. He made me feel comfortable and respected, so one night, I went over and we had sex. It wasn't awkward or weird, and it wasn't this special magical moment either . We went to a diner the next morning for breakfast and texted my best friend group chat the link to Lonely's Island's "I Just Had Sex," and I think they were more excited about it than me to be honest." — Tiffany, 21
9. "Truthfully, it wasn't enjoyable. I wasn't ready at all and he was . And then it sort of just happened to me rather than me choosing whether or not I wanted to." — Alex, 22
10. "I was on senior week, and I was hanging out with the boy I liked. His friend was asleep in his hotel room, so we did it on the balcony . It was completely unplanned, but I've never re
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