Fingering Your Own Ass

Fingering Your Own Ass
How to Finger Ass Buttplay beginner? Ass-fingering feels awesome, and here are some tips to make it even better!
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The anus is packed with nerve-endings, so ass play can be an enjoyable and intimate activity for people of all genders and orientations. Fingering ass can be a great intro to anal play as fingers are often small and agile and can provide the kind of delicate, targeted pressure that can be more challenging to achieve with a toy or a penis. Learning how to safely and skillfully finger ass can be a great addition to your sex life!
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When it comes to ass play, a few rules always apply: start slow, start small and use plenty of lube. Make sure that your nails are well-trimmed and your hands are clean. For those who are new to ass play — and even those who are experienced — it’s vital to be gentle with the delicate tissues of the anus. In order to avoid pain or injury, talk to your partner throughout to make sure that they’re comfortable — and always be prepared to back off if it feels like too much.
Even though fingering is relatively low-risk for contracting STI’s as far as sexual activities go, it’s important to keep in mind that no sexual activity represents zero risk: if you’re playing with multiple partners, have any questions about safety, or just want to keep your hands squeaky-clean, single-use gloves (latex, or nitrile for those with latex sensitivities) or finger cots are a great way to protect yourself and your partner.
For people who are used to fingering pussy , it’s important to be mindful of the differences between a butt and a vagina: vaginal tissue is often more elastic and resilient, whereas anal tissue is more susceptible to bruising and tearing.
For people who have vulvas, infection can result when bacteria are introduced to the vagina or urethra: Even if a butt looks, feels, and smells squeaky clean, there can be a risk. So if your partner has a vulva, it’s vital to be mindful of where you’re touching and to always wash your hands thoroughly (or, better yet, change gloves!) before switching from touching/fingering the butt to the vagina. ‍
Because feces pass through the anal canal as it exits the body, it’s unlikely you’ll encounter much of it while engaging in ass play (the rectum, where feces is stored before a bathroom break, is sealed off by the internal anal sphincter muscles ). It’s true, though, that a very small amount may be present, even after a thorough cleansing. If this possibility is a deal-breaker for you or your partner, you may want to hold off on learning how to finger ass. But if you can handle a little bit of mess (and most sexual activities do get messy), extensive communication, a stash of wipes and gloves, and a sense of humor will be your best friends! ‍
Sex therapist Dr. Tom Murray tells O.school, “The anus doesn't produce sufficient lubrication, so you'll want to use a high-quality lubricant.” Using plenty of lube can not only help to stave off pain but can also amp up the feel-good factor. If you’re using gloves or finger cots, water or silicon-based lube is the way to go, as they don’t degrade latex or nitrile. Some people prefer coconut oil or another natural lube; you can discuss with your partner and experiment to find your favorite . While saliva can work in a pinch, it often dries out fast and becomes sticky; if you plan to finger ass for more than a moment lube is the way to go. ‍
For many people, having their ass fingered can be a lot to work up to. That’s why it’s always a good idea to start slow. Dr. Murray advises O.school readers that, “butt play is a skill to be learned. It's not a sprint. Take your time!”
You can warm your partner up by massaging or gently rubbing their butt; if they enjoy impact play, light spanking can be a great way to initiate an ass fingering session. When you’re ready to go further, you can spend some time gently sliding a finger down the length your partner’s butt crack, going progressively further until you reach their anus. Once you’re there, rub a well-lubed finger around the outside of the sphincter, taking your time to provide plenty of stroking and teasing. Playing with the anal sphincter in this way can feel incredible, as well as promoting relaxation, which is essential for any ass play involving penetration. ‍
Once your partner is ready for you to insert a finger, apply light pressure to the outside of the anus until you feel it relax. Go deeper a little at a time, pausing to ask your partner if they want you to keep going. If the answer is an enthusiastic “Yes!” continue to slide your finger deeper with slow and steady pressure. Once you’ve gotten past the first knuckle, your partner may be ready for some in-and-out action; as with everything up to this point, proceed deliberately, with plenty of communication. Ask your partner if they’d like you to go faster or slow it down. If they’re very relaxed and crave more intensity, they may even enjoy two fingers! ‍
When you’re first learning how to finger ass, you’ll probably want to start with your partner’s back to you for ease of access and so you can see exactly what you’re doing. Having your partner on their hands and knees with their legs spread is a great starting position. This position may not be comfortable for everyone, however; having them lie on their stomach with their butt in the air, with pillows under their hips for extra support, can promote deeper relaxation. Some people find a side-lying position, with their legs together and their knees drawn up, ideal for ass play: This position is super comfy, can be modified with pillows and bolsters for those with disabilities or injuries, and can help you to access the prostate . Try a few positions to find one you both enjoy!
Learning how to finger ass can be a fantastic way to enhance your sex life and open up new horizons of intimacy and fun. With constant communication to ensure that your partner’s relaxed and ready, short fingernails, good hygiene practices, and lube, it’s also very safe. If you want to incorporate a new way to pleasure a partner interested in anal play, learning how to finger ass is a great place to start!
Emily A. Klein is a freelance writer with deep interests in science, culture, and health. As a student of cultural anthropology, she researched and wrote about kink, reproductive rights, cross-cultural medicine, and humans’ relationship with technology. She has designed and implemented a sexual health curriculum for adolescent girls, worked with foster youth and people experiencing housing insecurity, and volunteered as an emergency first responder. Her writing has appeared in The Establishment , Edible magazine, The Seattle Lesbian, Slog, and elsewhere.

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Fingers are for novices son. This will work much better.

Go out to your Dad's garage and get a hacksaw and a broom. Cut about 8 inches off the broom handle. Put the saw and broom back where you got them.

Go find your Mom's body wash or lotion and slather it all over the rounded end of the broom handle. Go to your room, open the window slightly, insert the cut end of the broom handle and shut the window on it to hold it in place.

Now disrobe completely. Go to the opposite side of your room from the window. Face away from the window, bend over slightly and start running backward. After a few practice runs you should be able to ram the broom handle up your poop chute. Repeat and enjoy.

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how do u finger urself in the ass? Ive been trying but da hole doesn't seem big enough. And ive heard dat it feels good so I wanna try. Please help!! Thanks and does it hurt? And I'm only 13 is dat weird? I'm a guy too but I'm not gay
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It's time to take your pleasure up a notch.
In 2020, anal play is on the menu. By now, we know that liking butt stuff has nothing to do with gender or sexual orientation, and everything to do with achieving earth-shattering pleasure. This is thanks in large part to the prostate , a walnut-sized gland located two to three inches inside the anus that is jam-packed with nerve endings, making internal stimulation feel heavenly. When you ejaculate with something in your rear end, you typically end up having a much stronger, full-body orgasm that puts regular penile orgasms to shame.
Even though they don't have a prostate, women can also immensely enjoy anal stimulation because the rectum and anus are chock-full of nerve endings. Additionally, it’s possible to stimulate the internal clitoris through the back door. The so-called G-spot (located on the front wall of the vagina) and the A-spot (also on the front wall, but closer to the cervix) are both reachable through anal penetration .
One of the best ways to get the booty involved during sex is to engage in anal fingering, which is exactly what it sounds like: inserting one or multiple fingers inside the anus to enhance sexual pleasure. While sex toys such as prostate massagers , butt plugs , and dildos can all stimulate the inside of one's behind, anal fingering can more directly hit the prostate or the internal clitoris through the rectum. (Think about it: You can wiggle your fingers, but you can’t wiggle a butt plug.)
But there's an art to anal fingering. You can’t just go ahead and ram your digits inside your or your partner's behind. Do that, and you're going to cause—or experience—a world of pain. To learn how to anal finger correctly so that it’s both safe and pleasurable, we reached out to sex and pleasure educator Luna Matatas and Dr. Evan Golstein , founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical and The Future Method . Here are their expert tips on positions and techniques that will help you finger like a pro.
If you’re the top (i.e., the person doing the fingering), you need to cut your nails hella short and file them. If your nails are long or jagged, you can accidentally scratch or tear the inner walls of the rectum. “This will not only be painful, but it can also lead to issues like hemorrhoids or infections,” Goldstein says.
If you’re the bottom (i.e., the person getting fingered), you want to make sure your anus is clean. How thoroughly you clean will depend on how much you plan to take. If you’re new to anal play, and your partner is just going to put in a pinky, you don’t need to wash your insides for 50 minutes. Just make sure you haven’t had a bowel movement in the past hour, and then go ahead and shower to wash your external anus with antibacterial soap.
If you plan on taking multiple fingers, or are using anal fingering as foreplay for anal sex involving a dildo or penis, then you should consider cleaning your rectum with an enema, douche, or shower hose . Remember that feces isn’t stored in the rectum. It’s stored in the intestines and then is pushed through the rectum when you defecate. So it’s not as “messy” as you likely think it is.
There are two traditional positions ideal for anal fingering. The first is when you’re on our stomach in a starfish or doggie-like position. The second is when you’re on your back with your legs up in the air.
“I recommend positions [like these] that give you or your partner a clear view of the hole,” Goldstein says. “If you can see it—and I mean all of it—then you have a better chance of understanding the angles and anatomy to make the experience most pleasurable.” It’s also easier for the top to finger from these positions without uncomfortably bending their wrist.
Lube is not optional when it comes to anal fingering. It’s mandatory, and no, spit does not cut it. You specifically want “long-lasting lubes like silicone-based or oil-based lubes,” Matatas says. Water-based lubes tend to dry out too quickly with anal play because the anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina is. You want to put lube both on your finger(s) and directly on and around the anus, Goldstein adds. Reapply lube generously and frequently as needed.
“The most common issue that can happen with anal fingering is tearing, otherwise known as anal fissures,” Goldstein says. This can happen when you thrust or insert too much too quickly. That’s why, before even starting with a finger, you should massage the external anus “as if you’re petting the butthole,” Matatas says. This helps the anal muscles relax.
After you’ve teased their hole with external play, you can insert a finger before eventually working your way up to two or more (if you ever reach that point). “Always be aware of your limitations,” Goldstein says. “No one is counting how many fingers you can take up your bum.”
Whatever you do, don’t start by quickly thrusting in and out. Instead, begin by inserting a third of your finger, then half, and then all of it. Once your finger is fully inside, let it rest there for a little without any movement. Let the anus get used to the sensation of having something inside of it.
“The anus doesn't only get pleasure from depth, so try moving your finger so you're massaging the sides of the anus in a horizontal motion,” Matatas says. And remember, the prostate is two to three inches inside your anus. That’s the money maker and what feels really good when stimulated. So you want to focus on that part of the region when fingering or getting fingered.
“Fingerplay should be more about gentle massaging, which will create better nerve stimulation in that region,” Goldstein adds. “The skin in this region is quite thin, so any jerky or sudden moves can cause significant tearing and trauma.” So really, you want massage as oppose to thrust .
Both Goldstein and Matatas make clear that there should be an open line of communication for the entire experience. If you’re the top, ask your partner if what you’re doing feels good. If you’re the bottom, don’t be afraid to tell your partner to reapply more lube or go slower. With anal fingering, as with any new sexual experience, communication is crucial.
You want to wash your hands when you’re done with anal fingering. You can wait until you’re done with your sexual session except if you want to transition from anal fingering to vaginal fingering. You don’t want to transfer bacteria from the anus to the vagina, Matatas says. So in that situation, you want to wash your hands before touching your partner’s vagina.
It's an intense experience to have something inside of you, especially if you never have before. If you were the top, check-in with your partner after the sexual experience to see how they’re feeling and if there’s anything you can do to support them.
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