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'Boffing' and 'boofing' mean two VERY different things.
There’s nothing to make you feel more uncool than being around a group of friends when they use sex slang you haven’t heard of. If you ask what the word means, you often get a response of, “Wait, really? You’ve never heard of that ? Wow, I’m surprised.” (It’s like, come on dude, don’t make me feel less cool than I’m already feeling! )
There are hundreds, if not thousands, of sex slang words out there, and new ones pop up every day while others go out of style. However, in an attempt to clear up at least a little confusion, we’ve rounded up 18 popular sex terms and phrases that you might have been wondering about recently. (These are terms I’ve run into and proceeded to learn in the past few years, so I know they’re actually coming up IRL.) Now, you’ll never be out to brunch and feel uncool again! (Actually, we can't promise that. But at least you'll be able to talk about the fine art of shrimping with the best of them.)
So without further ado, here’s your sex slang glossary, you cool kid, you.
Aftercare is the practice of making sure everyone feels cared for and supported after a sex session. There are tons of ways to do it .
Boofing is when you or a partner insert drugs into your body through your anus. This can be done with fingers, or your partner can put the drugs on their penis and have anal sex with you.
As we’ve previously defined , “Bussy is a portmanteau of the word ‘boy’ and ‘pussy’ and it’s used to refer to a man’s anus. It’s used predominantly in queer culture, particularly among more effeminate bottoms (the anal receptive partner).”
When you have sex with someone that looks identical to you (but isn’t actually related).
When someone (aggressively) fucks their partner’s mouth, typically while holding their head in place.
Felching is when you sip your cum out of your partner's anus after having anal sex. (It’s often done with a straw, but we’ll go ahead and still consider it felching if you just lick it out.)
The fine art of penetrating someone’s vagina or anus or with your entire hand. LOTS OF LUBE REQUIRED.
It’s just another word for a booty call. The word became popular after the Drake song, Hotline Bling .
When you’re watching porn while jacking off but you have to wait because the video’s buffering.
When a penis-owner shoots their semen around their partner’s neck, leaving little white circles resembling a pearl necklace.
When someone runs late because of a sexual encounter. (Get it? Like "postponed?")
This is just a word for when a vulva-owner straddles their partner’s face to get eaten out.
Also known as “rimming” or the ~sciencey-sounding~ “analingus,” it’s when someone goes to town on your booty with their mouth. Read more about how to give a rim job here .
When you suck on someone’s toes sexually.
A term that became popular on TikTok, referring to men who bend over backward to win over women who are barely interested. We get deeper into it here .
A sexual fetish that entails bringing food into your sex life—specifically large quantities of food, so that things get messy. ( Sploshing is a subset of the “wet and messy” fetish.)
A sexual fetish for getting covered in a messy substance, such as food or paint.

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Jargon and esoteric terms used in BDSM
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