Extreme Tease And Denial

Extreme Tease And Denial

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May 27, 2016, 12:44 pm

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Posted on May 27, 2016 by Paul Byerly
Most men enjoy being sexually teased, as long as you know when to move from teasing to pleasing. Some women enjoy teasing too, but many don’t and those women are unlikely to provide the sexual teasing their man would like.
Sexual teasing falls into two categories. The first is arousal teasing, the second is stimulation teasing. Every man has a limit for each of these. Usually, if his limit for one is high or low, the other is about the same, but there are exceptions. The reason men like to be teased sexually is it makes sex bigger and better. Arousing him in bits and pieces all day long makes sex an all day thing, and it builds him up for a much better climax. Prolonged stimulation also makes sex last longer, and can make is much better for him.
This is doing things you would usually do to get him to orgasm but stopping before climax. You can take him to the brink of climax, just close enough to make him think you might finish him, or stop before he’s too far along. You can do it a few times or many.
Most men enjoy being repeatedly taken to the edge of orgasm without finishing. In addition to making their climax far better when you finally give it to them, being that close is almost as pleasurable as orgasm. This is as near as most men will ever get to multiple orgasms.
If you want to take him very close, manual sex is the best option. You have the control, he can’t finish himself with a quick thrust. Additionally, you can watch him better. His body will tell you how close he is to climax. His face, his breathing, and the way he holds or moves his legs all telegraph his level of arousal. His penis and testicles are especially good for this. At high levels of arousal, his testicles will pull up very close to his body. When he’s very close, the head of his penis will change colour and texture. With practice, you will know exactly where he is and how much more you can do without taking him over the top.
One thing you may have to learn is to know when “Don’t stop” means don’t stop and when it means keep going. He may beg you to finish him when he really wants you to tease him a bit longer. Test this by stopping one more time when he asks to finish, and then after he regains his mind ask him if he’s glad you stopped or wishes you had kept going.
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OH I wish! I can tease him til the cows come home, and 9 out of 10 times he falls asleep! He does seem to enjoy it, but not enough to stay awake. In his defense, he does work 60+ hours a week. But oh how I wish I was half as important to him as his job. If I were 1/4 as captivating as the next job site, we’d be golden.
My wonderful husband is close to 80 and post-prostate surgery. A few days ago we were lying in bed together before going to sleep, and I was fondling him. He said, “I’m glad I’m the age I am, because if I were young, I’d have shot off already.” And I might have been reluctant to be fondling him for that reason. One of the benefits of being older!
@One half of a very mature couple – Not that old yet, but I agree – being a bit less easily aroused is a good thing. It’s okay if a bit of fondling is just a bit of fondling.
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Many a professional dominatrix will tell you she will not allow submissives to orgasm during the session. I did.
Mainly because if they did cum halfway through, it meant I could clock off early and get on with a nice boxset.
Of course, if they specifically asked for orgasm control or chastity then we could start to play with a variety of devices – both physical and psychological – that come in pretty handy for me.
Orgasm control is basically what it sounds like: you control whether your partner can cum or not.
This doesn’t have to be in the midst of a BDSM activity – after all, who hasn’t asked him to keep his boner a little longer while we edge ourselves a little closer to the finish line with a gentle ‘not yet’?
I’m going to go through a few things you can also try if you want to get a little kinkier, and especially if you want to try long-term orgasm control – otherwise known as chastity.
No bells, no whistles. Just tell him he’s not allowed to masturbate for a certain amount of days.
Start off with just a few days though, as you might find he wakes up to a ‘wet patch’.
I used to tell a lot of subs not to play with themselves until our session as it would increase both the anticipation, the sensation, and my chances of having an early night.
Plus, it will also help to make orgasming a much more intense experience.
A fun one for Skype, or if you want to make a little pre-recorded video.
You are, as the name suggests, literally instructing him on how you want him to w*nk off.
Start from right at the beginning – he’s fully dressed and you want him to rub his hands over his crotch. Demand he undresses slowly, before you tell him if he’s going to grip hard or soft. Stroke with a hand, or just a finger.
From there, it’s just a series of ‘harder, harder’ or ‘slower, slower’. There are plenty you can watch on websites like ‘clips4sale’ if you want some inspiration.
If you’re playing the Domme, don’t be tempted to start getting your boobs out for titillation. The fact you have control over how he’s doing such an everyday, personal task is the turn-on.
There are a wide range of chastity devices for men, which will see their junk safely away from anyone’s trunk.
A word to the wise – you get what you pay for.
Cheaper chastity devices might be good for an hour or so of play, but they will start to chafe. There will also be hygiene issues if you want him to keep it on for longer.
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My advice is to check reviews on the sites that sell them and see how long someone has managed to keep it on for. You can always get advice from various forum boards and social media groups too.
Plastic ones tend to chafe, and the heavy metallic ones can be a bit too weighty. Be prepared for some trial and error, as well as a bit of moisturiser to help the skin. But when you’ve found one you can wear indefinitely, it’ll be worth it.
Also, remember that consent is key and there are several health issues to be aware of – if it needs to come off, it needs to come off.
As ever, the language used changes from person to person, but as you can probably guess, this is about getting someone closer and closer, before denying and cutting off their orgasm.
This could be seen as the pinnacle of orgasm control – after all, it’s easy to just stop someone from w*nking off, but how do you get someone close to the edge and know when to stop, or even how to stop them?
There are a few ways in which it can be done; sometimes just ceasing all activity will do it, or there’s the old ‘pinch the tip’ trick (which you literally pinch the tip of the penis).
The aim is to get as close to the point of no return as you can, but leave him begging for more.
Fortunately, as you learn about ‘edging’ your partner, and what amount of tease and denial he can take, you will still be able to give him a ‘ruined orgasm’.
Nope, it’s not a cocktail at Wetherspoons, unless you’re really unlucky.
The trick here is to read your sub, and get them to that brief moment between the point of no return but before the orgasm starts. Without that final bit of stimulation, he’ll find it pretty hard to cum and can be extremely frustrating.
In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub.
You don’t have to be cruel, and you certainly don’t have to listen to anyone tell you ‘you shouldn’t let him cum’. I never understood that as a working practice anyway.
Have fun with the timings, and you’ll soon turn your guy into a geyser.

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