Ex Wife Dating Younger Man

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Donald Trump 's ex-wife Ivana Trump -- the woman who famously coined the phrase "Don't get mad. Get everything!" -- has been known to date, and marry, much younger men. In the above video from "Oprah: Where Are They Now?" she gives cameras a peek inside of her lavish Manhattan home and talks about where her relationships stand today.
"Me and Donald are very friendly, we have now five grandchildren and the kids, they call me not 'Grandma,' they call me 'Glam-ma' or 'Ivana-ma,' for the youngest ones," Ivana says. "And we just enjoying our lives -- you know life is too short."
She says her time with her grandchildren focuses on fun. "You play with them, and after four hours I ship them right back," she says. "No need to change the diapers. Been there, done that. So it works perfectly."
Ivana has been married twice since her divorce from Donald in 1992. In 2008, she married Rossano Rubicondi, more than 20 years her junior, but the couple divorced within a year. "I have this thing for Italians I don't know why, but the bad boys -- not all of them, but the sort of semi bad," she says. Rumor has it that Ivana and Rossano are back together, to which she says, "With Rossano, we adore each other. Who knows what will happen. God gave us the second chance, and we'll see."
What Ivana will admit to is her preference for dating younger men. "Well it really depends," she says. " I'm very energetic. I don't want to worry about a bad back and bad knees."
"Younger guy gives you a little bit of the edge because it's just more of the energy, which I definitely need. They have a hard time to keep up that's for sure," she laughs.
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A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else. Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life. Months and sometimes years after a relationship, my heart rate still accelerates when I see an ex is dating someone new on Facebook.
Over a year after I ended one relationship, I found some photos on Facebook of my ex with a woman I didn't recognize. "Maybe she's just a friend," I thought — until I saw comments from her friends like "he's a cutie!" and "good choice!" I felt sick to my stomach. It was like we were still together and he cheated. I wasn't entitled to feel this way — I broke up with him !
After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience. But that didn't stop his new profile picture, with an unknown woman next to him. (Sure, she could be a friend, but seeing two people in the same profile picture is basically a giveaway.) Again, I didn't feel I had the right to be upset. We were never exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! What was going on?
After doing some soul searching, I realized my reasons were different for each person. With the first ex, I still relied on him for emotional support the way I did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship. Plus, when I broke up with him, he said he refused to move on and planned to marry me — a promise he obviously couldn't keep, but it planted in the back of my mind the assumption that if I ever had a change of heart, he would be there. With the second (non) ex, I realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed it.
I know I'm not alone in feeling devastated over an ex moving on. A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media. Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on Girls , she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos .
"Most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist Cathy Beaton tells Bustle. Beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "Put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you."
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Here are some things I remind myself to get through this process:
Your ex did not get an upgrade. The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. The fact that you broke up wasn't a failure on your part; things just didn't work out, and they might not work out with this new person either. Your ex moving on is not a testament to your inadequacy.
It's the worst when your ex's new significant other is someone you don't even like. It can make you start to question yourself: "If that's what he's into, am I like that?" No. One person can date two very different people. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning. People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason.
Whatever Beyonce may say, nobody's replaceable. Your ex's new significant other is not your replacement. Your relationship was unique and special and nothing can ever take away from that. Your ex will never experience with this new person exactly what they did with you. You get to be the one who made rainbow cake with them or first showed them Arrested Development or whatever made your relationship special. Even if they do some of these same things with their current partner, they will never recreate your entire relationship. The memories you two have together are yours and yours alone.
If your ex moved on before you did, you might feel as if they won or wonder why you didn't find someone else first. However, how quickly you get into a relationship isn't a measure of how desirable you are. Look around at the people you know. It's not necessarily the most attractive or likable people who get into relationships the most easily. Your ex just happened to stumble upon someone else before you did. That doesn't reflect poorly on you.
When my ex first got a new girlfriend, I feared that it endangered the friendship we formed post-breakup. But even if it changed the dynamics of our relationship a bit, it didn't change how he felt. Getting into relationships in the past at least hasn't changed the way I cared about my exes. If anything, it has helped me know that my friendships with exes were genuine and not ploys to get back together. If you can confide in your ex about your current relationship, perhaps that's the ultimate sign you've moved on — to a friendship that's just as special.
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You’re laying in bed at night and decide to check up on an old fling. Because honestly, what could be more satisfying than to see your ex is still single like yourself? But instead, when you reach their About Me, you’re greeted with the unnerving title, “in a relationship.”
At first you laugh it off, and say, “well, there’s no way this new person is better than me.” So in order to validate that thought, you start scrolling through pictures of them with their new squeeze. Picture after picture. Smile after smile. You even see pictures that the new squeeze has tagged your ex in. You can’t even convince yourself that they’re miserable, when clearly their love is resonating off of these pictures like some sort stinging mist.“Well, okay, fine. They’re happy. Whatever.”
It almost feels like you’re admitting defeat when you say that. That gut wrenching feeling you get when you know you’re wrong. You’d never admit this to anyone else, of course. But in your own mind, all of these insecurities come crashing into your head like a tidal wave. You just don’t understand: why couldn’t your ex have been this happy when they were with you? Maybe once upon a time they were, but that’s nothing but a distant, foggy memory now clouded by envy.
After overcoming the initial shock, you begin to remember all of their flaws. You channel that envy into wrath, and begin to think of their negatives. You remember all the times that they made you feel like crap. All of those disappointments and annoyances that they had drowned you with come forefront. You two broke up for a reason, so why does it hurt so much to see that someone else is making them happy?
You don’t want to admit it, but you’ll never be over it. We leave a piece of us with every person we open ourselves up to. When we make that bond with someone, it’s as if they’re on a plateau above the rest of our everyday thoughts. It’s as if they’re an uninvited guest, always showing up in your mind. Out of the deep blue, without a moments notice, they flood our attention. We want to accept that we’re over them, but then our own hearts fight against all sense and logic to make them float on that cloud of nostalgia.
So close their Facebook page. Take a deep breath, and remember that someone else out there is doing the same thing with you. We all of that flame that whispers, “what if,” or “what could have been,” but we need to take control of our emotions. Just as someone has touched your heart, you’ve made the same impact on someone else. We’ll never be over our drowned pasts, but we can reach out for a new shore.
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Even if the divorce was your idea, that doesn't mean you are totally okay seeing your ex dating. After all, you married this person assuming you'd spend your life together, so discovering that they've moved on with someone else—whether it's serious or just a fling—isn't exactly an easy pill to swallow. These feelings of sadness, longing, or even regret may come as a bit of a surprise and make you question why you care, but rest assured, it's completely normal and, in some cases, to be expected.

While it's important to acknowledge your feelings, try your best not to dwell. You may be a little overwhelmed at first, but consider this your guide to coping with your ex dating someone else. It isn't easy, but it is possible. It may even inspire you to start dating again .

Here are six tips that will help you process those negative emotions.

Whether you were married for a few months or more than a decade, your ex meant a lot to you at some point, and during the time you were together, you probably considered them the love of your life—or life partner at the very least. Seeing them with someone else may trigger feelings of bitterness, but that's normal.

It doesn't mean you are still in love, but it does mean that you still care. You may feel insulted or sad that your ex was able to move on so fast, but when you meet someone else and fall in love, you'll probably feel a little bit less bad about your ex having moved on. Trust us; the fact that they're dating has nothing to do with you.

This goes hand-in-hand with feeling your emotions. However, while you may expect to feel a bit sad about your ex moving on, you may be surprised or confused at the feelings of jealousy that are bubbling up. You may feel jealous because the person who was supposed to be your partner is with someone else, and it feels like they're cheating . On the other hand, you may feel jealous that they were able to move on before you.

If you're negative feelings are too much for you to bear, try talking to a therapist who may be able to help you work through your emotions in a constructive and helpful way.

Getting a divorce is generally not something a married couple agrees to lightly and without a lot of consideration; you probably had valid reasons for splitting up. Keep these reasons in mind when you start to feel sad or jealous at the idea of your ex with someone else. Do you want them back? If the answer is no, remind yourself why. Doing this whenever you start to feel negative emotions about your ex and his new partner will help you accept what's going on—and it may even help you move on , too.

Something else to consider: Might you be uncomfortable with the idea of your ex dating someone else because you are still a bit stuck in the past? If you feel so strongly about your ex dating that it's forcing you to overthink every little thing and effectively ruining your day, take a step back and try to help yourself move on. The idea of putting the past in the past may sound intimidating like you're officially closing a book you used to love, but it's the best way to remind yourself that you are the most important in your life, and you are the person you need to keep happy.

No matter how in love with his new partner your ex is, remind yourself that they're not trying to replace you or reproduce what you two had. Each relationship is different because it's perfectly tailored to the parties involved.

What you two had will always be unique to you two. Also, them making new memories with someone else doesn't force out the memories he shared with you. The most important thing to remember when it comes to coping with your ex dating someone else is that this new relationship is not a reflection of you or your relationship.

No matter how much conflict there was during the divorce process , ask yourself if you genuinely want your ex to be unhappy. Even if the immediate answer is yes, that probably isn't true deep down. After all, you married them believing that they're a good-hearted person who deserves love and respect, right? Letting go is a process, and it will take some time and effort to get there, but when you do, you'll probably realize that you want your ex to be happy—even if that means they're happy with someone else.

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