Dominatrix Public Humiliation

Dominatrix Public Humiliation

Dominant Women Led Relationships are some of the most common arrangements in the BDSM community.
There are many couples who desire a relationship where the woman is in charge, and while there are many different levels of domination and submission, it is imperative that the woman takes command and puts strategies and practices in place to ensure the success of the relationship.
These strategies may vary depending upon the particular couple and their individual situation.
They set the boundaries and enforce the roles of dominance and submission in the relationship, making it easier for the woman to maintain control.
They also help the man to settle into and relish in his role as the submissive partner.
Without a clear set of strategies and practices, the female led relationship will dissolve and there will be discord and disobedience that makes the relationship difficult if not impossible.
So what should these strategies be to help women control the men in their Relationships?

The strategies employed in any Dominant Woman Led Relationship will depend upon the level of dominance and submission practiced by the couple.
For casual Dominant Woman Led Relationship couples where the woman is in charge of day to day life but the man is still a nearly equal partner, less strict, formal strategies are ideal.
For these couples, the best strategy is to have a clearly written list of requirements for each individual within the couple to follow, something that is clearly written out.
This list can include things like a daily list of chores, guidelines for how to address one another (Madame or Mistress, etc), and a basic schedule including when to eat, when to work, and when to play.
Consequences for both the Domme and Sub, should they chose to disobey or go against the house rules, may be listed out as well, and this plan should be closely followed by both parties.
If the Domme is more strict, she may detail these rules more thoroughly, crafting an hour by hour daily plan for the sub, however that is entirely up to the couple.
This type of strategy will help to ensure that both individuals in the couple know what is expected of them.
When boundaries and expectations are clear, it is easier for the individuals to follow along as there is no guessing or questioning involved.
It leads to greater obedience and greater harmony and can quickly make a casual Dominant Woman Led Relationship a comfortable, satisfying relationship.

When the Dominant Woman Led Relationship goes to the next level into something involving more control, more strategies need to be employed to retain control and harmony in the relationship.
Written rules and consequences are still a great idea, but because the level of commitment requirement to maintain harmony in this type of relationship is greater, other strategies need to be layer on top of these rules.
These deeper strategies are mostly to create obedience and compliance by the sub, particularly for things that are hard for him to control like physical desires.
Mental desires can easily be controlled with a strict list of expectations for behavior, but these other more primal desires need more than just a written list or agreement.

Hunger training is one such method.
The Domme will withhold food from the sub to teach him to deal with his physical urges.
He may be expected to please her in some other way while being denied food with the goal being that the sub learns to put the Domme’s desires before his own.
The Domme may also only serve food the sub does not enjoy to teach him to submit and relax into his life of servitude, and the food may be served on the floor without utensils to create a humiliating situation that sends home the message that his place is lesser than hers.
This type of training both reinforces roles of each individual and also helps the sub to learn to be a better servant, one that puts his Mistress’s needs before his own, making him a better, happier, more successful submissive partner.

Sexual denial and control is another strategy employed by many Women in a relationship.
Like hunger training, it is a way to recalibrate the sub’s reactions and desires so that they are more in line with his responsibilities as a sub.
The Domme may insist that the man does not become aroused, going as far as requiring him to wear a device that restricts his ability to have an erection.
At the same time, she may also require him to perform acts on her or others (depending on their relationship).
By denying his own desires and ability to climax, he can begin to learn to take care of his Domme’s needs first.
It can get to a point that he is so crazy, so desperate, that he will do anything in the world for his Mistress.
Over time, he will still want to do anything for her, even without the restrictions in place.
This type of strategy is excellent for couples because it helps the woman to control the man’s reactions, one of the most powerful human reactions, and allows her to create her ideal lover.

Finally, punishment is another strategy a woman can use to gain control over her sub in a relationship.
This may include things like whipping, slapping, and spanking as well as humiliation and embarrassment situations that are emotionally punishing for the sub.
When punishment is used to correct behavior, when the punishment fits the crime, it can curb bad behavior in the sub and help him to always respond positively, even in the midst of tough situations.
Punishment strategies work best when the punishments prescribed fit the crime and directly relate to the offense, and they can help the sub learn from his transgressions.
This strategy also helps to cast the female in the most dominant light possible, making her appear stronger and more powerful, inspiring her sub to follow her lead.

Any or all of these strategies can be employed to enhance the obedience of the sub, it just depends on each couple’s particular relationship.
Some couples will require many rules and strategies to maintain order and harmony while others will only require a few.
It may also take some experimentation to figure out which strategies work best for each couple.
But with a little practice and the desire to make the relationship work, these methods can really help to allow the woman to take charge and exert control over her submissive male partner.

Public Humiliation
Often a disciplinarian will use various forms of punishment and discipline to train a slave in obedience.
One such form of discipline is humiliation.
The humiliation may be private or public.
For many a submissive the use of public humiliation is a great training tool

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When you hear the word “punishment,” sex probably isn't the first thing that comes to mind. But in BDSM —an umbrella term that encompasses bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism, and masochism—punishment can be a major component of sex. And a pleasurable one, at that.
“Punishment is a behavior modification tool used in some [dominant/submissive] dynamics to train or discipline a submissive when they’ve defied a boundary or disobeyed an order,” explains Charyn Pfeuffer, a sex and relationships writer and author of 101 Ways to Rock Online Dating . “There’s no one-size-fits-all playbook for punishment, and not every kinky relationship uses it.”
Every couple is free to determine the type and severity of punishments they want to use—and the options are essentially endless. For example, if the submissive partner is a "brat" (a sub who enjoys disobeying their dom’s rules), a dom might give you a spanking as a punishment for being naughty.
“Punishment can include spankings, slapping, choking, use of restraints, or (consensually) forcing your partner into sexual acts," says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness , a private members Open Love club for the adventurous. "It's really up to you and your partner to set the limits of what's okay for punishment and what's not.”
Like with most deliciously kinky things, punishment is not just about pain, but also pleasure. It’s a dance between the dom and sub that allows them to explore sides of themselves they may not get a chance to express in real life.
“Sexual punishment is when you know there is a part of you that is under-expressed, maybe from shame or fear,” says Kenneth Play , international sex educator and and creator of the Sex Hacker Pro Series . “So, if you feel like you’re being a dirty slut, being punished by your partner allows you to live out that feeling, while also enjoying your 'dirty slut' side.”
IMPORTANT: Before you engage in any BDSM punishments, you and your partner must thoroughly discuss your boundaries and limits beforehand. Despite the connotation of punishing someone, the activity still requires enthusiastic consent from all parties; the punished wants to be punished, and the punisher wants to punish.
This is where you bring someone to the brink of orgasm, only to stop touching them right before orgasm. Oh, the sweet agony.
Put them over your knee and show them what happens to naughty people who break the rules. Just remember to aim for the fleshy parts of the body, such as the butt cheeks and upper thighs.
Or, you could deny them a spanking. “Sometimes a submissive will ‘act out’ to get the punishment that they really enjoy," says Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven , the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shop. "One way to punish them is to NOT give them what they enjoy."
Force your sub to agree to keep their pretty little mouth shut. You can go a step further by not allowing your submissive to speak while in a public place without asking permission first.
This would be cruel outside of a consenting dom/sub dynamic, but hot as hell if both parties are into it. “[This entails] getting your submissive dressed up for an event that they really enjoy, but upon arrival making them sit outside on the ground with their hands in their lap and not allow them to come into the event for a specific amount of time,” Sparks says.
Make your submissive walk on all fours with a collar and a leash like a dog. You can incorporate a dog mask designed for kink, like this one , and even take the act outside for the public humiliation factor.
This is a form of public degradation: You make your submissive wear a shirt that literally says "slut" on it.
“Chain your partner to the bed and leave them there to wait for your return,” Saynt says. “Leave your home and decide how long you want to make them wait for you. Come back to them begging you to set them free.” Oh, the fun that can ensue afterward!
This is when you "make" your partner "take" the pleasure, even if it feels like over-stimulation. “Force your partner to have orgasms until they are completely overwhelmed—then keep going,” Play says.
This is when the dom has sex with someone else and forces the sub to watch. Cuckolding is a more advanced activity, and we suggest doing your research before bringing a new person into the bedroom. For a slightly tamer version, the dominant partner can make the submissive watch them get off with a toy.
“Refuse to let your partner pleasure you and make them beg for a taste," Saynt suggests. "Come within a few inches of their mouth, watch their tongue slip out and get just close enough but not quite there. Make your body their prize and make the longing for it the punishment.”
“Grab ice cubes and use them to run along your partner's body while they are restrained,” Saynt says. “Use the ice to stimulate their body and offer a chilling experience.” This can go really well with a blindfold—that way the sub’s other senses, including touch, are heightened.
“What chore(s) does your sub hate doing? Make them do it—meticulously,” Pfeuffer suggests. What better excuse to not have to do the dishes tonight?
If your sub is naughty, take away their table privileges and force them to eat off the floor like a dog.
Tell your sub to get on all fours and act as a stool for you to rest your feet. Dive into a good book and force them to stay still until you’re good and ready to let them get up.
Is your sub being a little brat? “Put your submissive in the corner for a time-out,” Pfeuffer says. “Being ‘grounded’ for a little while can be incredibly effective” in getting them to follow your rules next time.
Dribble hot wax on a naughty sub’s body. Be sure you’re using a body-safe candle (like these from LoveHoney ), unless you really know what you’re doing. You don’t want to cause burns.
“Only allow your sub to pleasure themselves with your permission," Pfeuffer says. "If rules are broken, that permission is revoked." This means you hold the power over whether they experience pleasure or not; their pleasure is a gift you’re allowing them to enjoy in return for good behavior.
Have your sub go to the grocery store, the dry cleaners, or some other ordinary place while wearing a panty vibrator. You can accompany them, if you choose. We love the We-Vibe Moxie , which comes with its own remote for the dom to control.
If your sub breaks the rules, write what they did wrong on their body in permanent marker. Make them wear it around all day so they don’t forget how naughty they were.
Have your sub sit in the shower or bathtub and pee on them. This kind of humiliation play can get messy, so you might want to do it in the nude.
This is a form of “restrictive discipline,” much like giving your sub a “time out” in the corner. If they break the rules, take away something they enjoy as punishment. This could be access to the show they want to watch, their cell phone, or even an orgasm.
This one is taken right out of the old Catholic school playbook. If your sub does something they’re not supposed to, have them write out what they did a hundred times as punishment.
Have your sub wear a collar around. This shows them that they belong to you and you are in control. If you want ideas, we love this one .

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