Do Women Like Getting Fucked In The Ass

Do Women Like Getting Fucked In The Ass

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Ryan O'Connell ,
March 28th 2011

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Getting your ass penetrated should be a prerequisite for life because it’s an experience that teaches humility and encourages teamwork. After the deed, you see your fellow man in a whole new empathetic light, the kind of light that’s humanizing, curbs any further judgements and could possibly end wars. It’s like, “You just let me put my penis in your ass and move it in and out for an hour. God bless you, you wonderful angel. Take this ‘get out of jail free’ card. You’ve earned it!”
The only people who aren’t getting fucked in the ass are straight men. Lesbians use dildos, straight girls get drunk and acquiesce to their boyfriend’s requests, and gay guys, well, we sort of invented anal sex. If Jersey Shore has “Gym, Tan, Laundry”, gay men have “Gym, Tan, Anal.” As I’ve discussed before, the male equivalent of a G-spot rests in our prostate so the incentive to get someone’s dick in our ass ASAPular is that much greater.
But here’s some real talk for you. Anal sex is kind of the biggest deal ever. When my friends tell me stories about doing it with some random they met at a bar, I’m completely stunned. The act is so intense and delicate that I could never give my asshole to just anybody. Entrance is only granted to V.I.P.’s—Very Important Penises. But this is something the gay community doesn’t always see ass-to-ass on. Some only have anal sex in monogamous relationships and consider oral sex to be intercourse. With others, however, it’s like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Anal is like the oxygen they need to breathe.
I’m going to try to put the feeling of anal sex into words so you can get an idea of how crazysexyintense it is. First of all, anal sex cannot be an on-the-fly decision. If I’m getting fucked in the ass, I need to know way in advance so I can prepare properly. The guy needs to send me a private Facebok event invitation titled, “Ryan O’Connell gets fucked in the ass.” with a set date and time. I can then have the luxury of choosing “Attending”, “Maybe Attending” or “Not Attending.” If I choose to attend, I need to start doing some serious yoga to Sade or Enya. When that’s done, I’l give a pep talk to my asshole and be like, “Hey babe! I know you’ve been in retirement or whatever, but you need to get ready because something’s coming to an orifice near you. Don’t hate me! You’ll like it. And don’t try any funny business tonight. I’ll be mortified if you-know-what happens!” After chilling your asshole out, you kind of need to go in the shower and fuck yourself with your finger. You don’t want it to be too tight because then it runs the risk of being very painful. While loosening things up, take this opportunity to clean things up. You don’t want to go into the experience feeling insecure about the state of your ass so be thorough in your examination.
Fast forward to the main event. It’s imperative that the guy who’s going to be penetrating me is trustworthy and gentle, and not an asshole. Assholes don’t mix with my asshole. I’m going to be getting in sexual positions where my body will look fleshy and revolting. It will seem like I’ve magically gained 20 pounds somewhere for no real reason so this guy needs to be understanding of everything. Hopefully his dong won’t be too huge either because that can become difficult to manage.
When he goes in, it’s going to feel strange at first. Actually, anal sex always feel strange. It’s hard to explain but the whole thing just feels wrong. I don’t mean that in a moralistic or bad way. I mean, it just literally feels unnatural because you’re using an exit as an entrance. Funnily enough though, that’s how you derive a lot of enjoyment from it. The unnatural feeling enhances the pleasure. You know how when you watch people getting fucked in gay porn, there’s all this moaning, and you’re just like, “yeah, right. they’re acting”? I can’t be for sure obviously but I don’t think they are. When a penis enters your ass, a moan involuntarily escapes your lips. Just try not to be loud. I dare you. You have little control over it, which makes the experience even hotter.
When he starts to really fuck you, it gets very overwhelming. You’re making noises you didn’t even know existed and the whole thing is just blowing your mind. All of these sensations are just making you feel so vulnerable, and you’re staring at the dude (well depending on the position) and you usually feel some warm and fuzzies towards them. You also might think the way they’re fucking you is incredibly hot and primal and oh my god you’ve never wanted them so badly before! You want them to fuck you so hard and jesus christ, where is all of this coming from?! You just want to get fucked, you know?! Fuck me!
You’re writhing and shaking and everything that’s happening feels so dirty and hideous kinky. You feel like this is what you were built to do—get fucked. It just feels so right and back to basics. You might never feel more like an animal than you do in these moments of getting fucked in the ass. There are no more nuances to humans, no more complexities. It has just boiled down to wanting to get fucked.
It’s impossible for me not to feel close to someone when all of this happening. There’s a bond that develops that makes it impossible for it to happen with men who don’t mean a thing to me. Anal sex is a special thing. I’m unwilling to perceive it as casual. I feel like putting someone’s P in a V is more manageable and impersonal, but what do I know? I just know that it feels crazy to get fucked in the ass. It hurts, it feels good, it feels wrong, it feels right. It’s a dick going deep into your ass. It’s a connection. I recommend it to all.
“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino
Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.
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As a straight man, I would never "find out the hard way" but I'm curious because of the change in tone and intensity of the moaning whenever I slip it up the backdoor with my girlfriend. I want to know what it feels like. And does it feel different the harder and faster you get thrusted into? Girls and guys can answer. Anyone who experienced it
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Y'know what's funny... I've actually thought about the same thing. Specifically, what it's like to be a *guy* getting fucked in the ass. Because guys are, physiologically speaking, the sex that's better built to get pleasure out of it -- having a prostate gland, and all. In all seriousness. YOU guys actually have a biological mechanism that is able to deliver DIRECT pleasure from getting drilled up the ol' exit ramp. We don't. What pleasure we get from it, is either indirect (there's a chance of some g-spot stimulation -- close neighbors and all -- or even a small amount of clitoral stimulation just from all the rockin' and rollin' happening in general), or else psychological. So... uh... yeah. You should give it a shot, and report back to us.
I've been tempted but I can't. Maybe if I go to prison...
actually in both men and women there are nerves that go from your ass to your clit/dickhead. so direct stimulation is possible for women as well as men.
@anonman32 you losing most important point. Men has prostate being stimulated. Women don't. So for men is much much more pleasure than for women.
@goldfinch23 thats true, but i was just saying that women can be stimulated there as well.
@anonman32 but women missing prostate. So it means less pleasure for them.
@goldfinch23 i already said thats true.
To the asker, you can have your girlfriend use a toy on you, it doesn't need to be another guy.
@Felinegirl but that's not the same. A real cock I would imagine hurts less cause it can be more squishy
Then get a squishy dildo or beads or whatever you'd like to start with. Hurts less than the real thing since you can choose size shape and texture.
@Felinegirl If I was going to try the hard way (which I am not) I'd rather the real deal.
well damn, you just put that right out there, didn't you ahahahah
It's the only way to know what it really feels like
For me it's definitely different. It doesn't necessarily hurt because I make my guy go slow when he's back there, but I definitely don't enjoy it as much as vaginal intercourse. I wouldn't suggest thrusting too hard in your gf's backdoor, but each girl is different and she may like that. The change in her tone is probably just due to the difference in position that her body is getting used to.
What position do you think is the most enjoyable for anal?
It doesn't feel better than vaginal at all. But its different. Have a girl to stick a finger up your but you will find out
Do you think the change in moaning is due to pain?
I can't explain what it feels like but i can explain what it doesn't feel like. Vaginal is intense and you feel the pleasure from head to toe anal is just in that one area The differnce of moaning is because its in the back door. and its a different feeling. Like if she had anal all the time and switched to vaginal every now and then she's moan differnt with a sensation she doesn't feel all the time.
It's like @redyeymindtricks said. We have thousands of nerve endings there. We have prostate there. Once your prostate is being stimulated, (at least from my experience) it's different than any other stimulation and hard to explain how exactly I felt. I didn't expect that my girlfriend will do it, but I felt incredible arousing. From when she started, I didn't lasts than few seconds. But I believe men and women has totally different feelings about this, just because of physiological differences
she fingered, did rim job and used strapon?
@niceguy199 fingered and rimming. Never use a strapon
I've heard second-hand that it varies from "nothing" to "pain" But I've also read that some people do enjoy it, so eh
It sounds like my girlfriend experiences pain but she tries to pretend she likes it and just wants to please me
I identify as a straight (ish) man who enjoys being penetrated (not attracted to guys like I am to women), so I hope I can help you. It feels wicked, wild, so wrong and taboo that it's a major thrill and a turn-on. I'm like WOW OMG I HAVE ANOTHER MAN'S PENIS IN MY ASS AND IT FEELS GREAT. In a sense, it's about submission, and taking something that I shouldn't be able to (and shouldn't want to) take. Another guy has a raging boner, because of me, and is getting pleasure, because of me. It feels like I'm helping out a bro, doing some good for the world by relieving one man at a time of his need to pound a hole and unload. This is how it goes... The first press of his cock at my hole is a real buzz of anticipation, the pressure as he presses, and I dilate and his shaft slides in and there's a moment of shock as I feel like it might be too thick, then a sense of WOW as I realise I've achieved penetration and it hasn't hurt or not too much. My regular FWBs will hold it there and let me adjust to his size before thrusting. He slides deeper, and depending on the angle, my position, and his curvature, he'll brush my prostate which is a real thrill. Then with a nod from me, he starts pounding. If I'm in doggy position (my favourite) I'll start throwing my ass back on that cock to take each thrust. I love it when he grips my ass cheeks or my waist as he gets extra hard and build up to his orgasm, grunts or moans in pleasure, and goes still. To submit to that raging lust and power of another human being for their pleasure is a major thrill and a turn-on. There's a sense of humility, and teamwork in achieving something great together. I've made another human happy by taking his tension and made the world a better place, in a small way. Another great thing is my understanding of what it's like for a woman to be fucked. Most men are bigger and stronger than their woman and it must feel overwhelming, but also a major thrill. When I'm fucking a woman I have that empathy with her.
I sure don't want to find out what it's like to have something in my ass but the woman I've been seeing enjoys me giving her anal and I have to say it's so god damn tight it makes it very enjoyable for me. Any women that hesitate to try it, if the guy has read up on it at all he has to know how to be very slow and very lubed at first. Then once she's used to being filled up you can go at it like regular sex.
a bisexual friend of mine said is basically a two way stimulation between the rectum and the prostate. really intense fucking is basically... well, he asked a girl he was a sex friend with and she agreed saying that is basically like normal fucking but in a tigher hole. sorry to be so blunt, basically he said to me that is like having a vagina in your ass
In theory it feels better for a guy to bottom than for a girl to be sodomized: a guy has a prostate. In theory...
I've tried it, it's not comfortable in the beginning but as you relax more it feels good for like acouple thrust but then I have to stop, it's too much to handle. I've only been with one person so maybe it was just because of his size. the worst part for me is having this feeling that I need to poop.
For me, it has always been unpleasant. I've tried it about a dozen times.
Pain? Feeling like you need to shit? Describe what you feel?
Dude, why don't you have a girl put on a strap-on and try instead of asking stupid questions? How is a description going to help?
My anus is throbbing with excitement and anticipation.
I've got no idea, and I certainly do not intend to ever find out.
I love getting fucked in the ass it feels amazing I’d sooner take it then have sex with a girl
I want to try anal no lie. But I'm afraid of the consequences, bleeding, poopinh, having poop particles go into your blood stream
It's not as dangerous as people make out. Just douche and lube. Pretty simple actually. I've done it without many women. Never any bleeding.
You've never seen those women the day after. I read a lot about tearing and small bleeding inside. It's really not meant to go up there
Actually, I forgot one time I was doing bondage with an ex and it was dark and I couldn't see what I was doing and she was gagged and bound and couldn't move and I did tear the hole a little shoving it in. There were small spots of blood on tissue paper but it didn't get infected. She just had to hold an aticeptic wipe on that one spot when she took a crap. She said she had cold shivers for a couple of days when she went number 2 from the pain of the tear but after that she was fine and 100% recovered So the moral of the story is lights on with bondage and look where you're going so to speak.
You see. Can you imagine her pain while taking a shit? No you can't. And that's just one girl you saw. Before I lost my virginity, I could hold my pee. Now i can't hold my pre as much. I can't imagine that happening to my asshole. That's the only reason keeping me back from anal. I really want to try it but don't want to cry afterwards
I've heard as long as you leave a 3 week gap between times you do anal, you don't lose control of those muscles. I think you'll be ok if you just try it once and do it safely
I have no idea. And I will never try it.
No idea and I don't want to ever find out.
Same but I want to find out verbally
Well I am straight but I used a toothbrush holder which is just smaller than a dick and I don't know how to explain it... it just felt really good like nothing else.. I came in like 3 minuets without even touching my dick...
Never use a tooth bruh holder that can cause tearing. Remember it isn't a sex organ but where all the toxins and bacteria comeout of. The intestines are thin and using something like a tooth brush holder can cause tearing.
In what way? Can you describe the feeling?
Well @fearless_banana and me usually start by chest bumping each other and then go team shower together and .

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