Do Men Like Their Anus Licked

Do Men Like Their Anus Licked
Straight Guys Reveal What It's Like To Experiment With Anal Play

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Any guy who has ever tried some anal play sexually knows that it doesn’t always come naturally. Of course, I could get into how usually things come out of there instead of go in and therefore it always feels pretty weird at first, but instead I’ll keep in scientific because I still have standards when it comes to writing — even if it is about ass play.
Anal, for men, is as close to a clitoral orgasm as we’ll ever get. Located inside the anus, the prostrate is essentially a male G-spot . When hit properly, whether it be with a finger or whatever else you’re using, it can send you over the edge and make you orgasm harder than you ever have before. It is for this reason that so many guys, despite which gender they’re into, tend to explore their butt over time. However, for some straight men there is a lot of shame, guilt, and confusion around admitting you enjoy anal. To these men, to enjoy butt stuff is to admit that they enjoy something predominately revered in the gay community.
Heck, all it takes it looking at how Kanye West reacted to Amber Rose's iconic hashtag #FingersInTheBootyAssBitch to understand how much of a stigma there is when it comes to straight men admitting they enjoy their butts played with. For these men, it is this antiquated idea that to be on the insertion end of anything sexual would detract from their masculinity. And while it may seem insane, it does make sense. In our heteronormative culture we’re used to imagining a man penetrating a woman, and anything outside of that is considered “other.”
However, in an effort to beat back this stigma, I asked 12 of the most sexually open men I know about the first time they played with their butts:
“I remember seeing it in porn and wanting to try it. I think I didn’t realize just HOW much lube you would need so it was super painful the first time. I think I tried to use the handle end of a plunger!” - Bradley, 29
“I was with my ex at the time and she was blowing me, she slowly worked a finger in there and I was so in the moment I didn’t really realize it was happening. I’ve never cum harder in my entire life.” - Oliver, 24
“I remember trying it for the first time when I was 20. I was totally grossed out by the idea of putting a finger in there so I started with other items such as a highlighter and such. Have you ever tried to stick a highlighter up your ass? Don’t. As I got more comfortable with it I switched to fingers and it was allllll great.” - Mitchell, 25
“I went for the gold! The girl I was seeing at the time had a strap-on and we tried it out. By far some of the best sex of my life.” - Joshua, 28
“I’ve had a girl ask if she could rim me in college. At first the idea really grossed me out….but then she did it and worked a few fingers in there and I came without even touching myself.” - Matthew, 23
“I think the first time I tried something with my butt is when I was a young kid. I would jerk off and put fingers up there and it felt incredible. I admitted it to a bunch of my buddies years later and he seemed so disgusted…in my opinion, though, you can’t knock it until you try it.” - Aaron, 30
“I mean, I tried it because the same ole same ole was getting boring. If there is anything I’ve learned about putting things up my butt is that it can feel amazing sleeping with a girl….but it’s almost (but not) as good as cumming when you’re fingering yourself.” - Mike, 24
“Men… please play with your butt. You will thank me when you hit the wall behind you from coming so hard. I remember the first time I did it I was shocked at how intense the orgasm was.” - Alex, 25
“I had a girlfriend for a while who would want to use her double ended dildo with me when she was feeling wild. It was so hot, and sure, it is a little uncomfortable at first…but ultimately it feels like heaven.” - Travis, 29
“I definitely didn’t do enough research on it before hand. I kept having to stop because I thought I was going to shit on myself at least 5 times.” - Liam, 27
"The first time I ever did anything butt-wise, I was 25 and had watched some gay porn just to see what the hype was about. They seemed so into it, so I went out and bought a vibrator and a bunch of lube. I don’t think I left my house that weekend it felt too good to stop.” - Jeffrey, 29

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"Giving someone else a back massage may be rewarding, but getting a back massage is pure bliss. The same applies to this scenario."
The great thing about buttplay is that everyone can participate. No matter your gender or sexuality, everyone has a butt and is free to take part in the joys of the anus. Analingus is basically a fancy word for rim jobs, or when someone uses their tongue to stimulate the opening of the anus. Here, two guys explain what it is they love about getting rimmed.
Man A: I date women. I'm married, but we have an open relationship.
Man B: This is 2017, we are in a golden age of sexual freedom, and I’m not here to set hard boundaries on where I lay. That considered, I have only dated women at this point in my life, but if you possess a tongue the likes of Zeus' and you have a one way ticket to my love.
Man A: I discovered I liked it from my (now) wife giving it to me. It was the first time I had ever received it, and it gave me quite a bit of pleasure.
Man B: As many people are aware, Jewish youth learn about all aspects of sexuality at sleepaway summer camps across the US [Editors note: it's fair to say this probably happens at most summer camps] . When I was about 14, and just starting to do more at camp than sloppily make out in the woods by the light of the moon, my “summer girlfriend” and I were fooling around behind bunk 17 and needless to say hands started flying. In her fumbling, a finger traveled further south than I was expecting, but it was not unwelcomed. That was the catalyst that ultimately brought me here.
Man A: I do enjoy giving, and probably give more than I receive. I guess I'm more of a Santa Claus type, believing it is better to give than to receive.
Man B: As my parents like to say: give the world your love and you will be rewarded ten fold. I’m a firm believer that if you’re going to ask for a favor, you better be willing to return the favor. That being said, giving someone else a back massage may be rewarding, but getting a back massage is pure bliss. The same applies to this scenario.
Man A: I like the feeling; it gives more stimulation than almost anything except a tongue on my frenulum.
Man B: There’s a combination of the physical sensation and the idea that I’m breaking some unspoken “social rule” that gets me going. Aroused. Turned on. Whatever you want to call it. It’s a sensation more satisfying than drinking water after a chewing a piece of spearmint gum, and I encourage everyone looking for a little exploration to give it a whirl.
Man A: I really couldn't say. Teeth, I guess?
Man B: Generally speaking if the thought is there, I’ve never experienced someone do it “wrong”. That being said I have to admit, at times the bum is sore, or tired, or angry from midnight Taco Bell the night before. Then a behind becomes less ripe for the picking. Less, shall I say, primed for the passage.
Man A: I can't. Or at least, I haven't yet.
Man B: I’ve never been much for showmanship, and generally stick to the “old fashioned” techniques, but I will say that a rear tongue lashing speeds up the process like a little blue pill at the Boca Raton retirement home.
Man A: Well, I do love being penetrated, and my wife and I have a strap-on that she uses. We haven't used the strap-on while she licked me, but we do have a few toys that I suppose we could use.
Man B: I’ve always been a fan of the phrase 'out with the old old and in with the new' and that definitely applies to my hole life. That being said, I’m a sensitive guy and there is such a thing as too much of a good thing if you catch where I’m coming from.
Man A: I haven't, actually. My wife and I do it, but that's not something I do with outside partners.
Man B: It completely depends on who it is. Some people, while great to be around, are a little more reserved when it comes to discussing things sexually, and so bringing up the topic has to happen later, or not at all in some cases. Other times when you click really well with a person nothing is off limits, at least to bring up. Feel them out before they do the same to you.
Man A: The only reaction I've had is that she loves giving me something that gives me that much pleasure. That's a mutual feeling, as it should be.
Man B: The worst would probably be a reaction of disgust, but that’s just a quicker way to find out that the person may not be the right fit for me — what’s the value in having the wrong key for your lock? Not to say that’s the only thing I look for, but it’s definitely taken strongly into consideration.
Man A: Showers are your best friend. I've heard of people who don't mind a little, um, matter, but none for me, thank you very much.
Man B: You should probably have a discussion before-hand. Obviously there can be a good deal of excitement to be had in surprising him, but if you do, just be warned that you could be in for any number of surprises of your own.

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Here’s what they really feel about going through the back door.
Do men really think of anal sex as the holy grail of bedroom activities? If you pay attention to pop culture, it certainly seems like it: Take that “accidental anal” episode of The Mindy Project , for example. We went straight to the source to find out dudes’ uncensored opinions on exploring your poop chute, and IRL guys’ thoughts on this somewhat taboo act vary from gung-ho to meh . If you’re into anal action, what you’re about to read is proof that you won’t have to look too far to find a guy who’s on the same page as you. But if you’re not, we're guessing these men's insights will offer some major relief.
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“I have had anal sex exactly one time. Well, I count it as anal sex, even though it was more of a ‘stick it in and see how it feels’ kind of situation. My ex-girlfriend and I tried it one afternoon just for the hell of it. She'd actually lured me away from the college football game we were at with a promise that we could try anal if we left at halftime, which seemed like an okay deal to me. [I'm pretty sure] every guy wants to at least try anal, if for no other reason than to say they've traveled that path. There wasn't really anything too special about it, to be honest, and she certainly wasn't enjoying it, though that was probably due to lack of proper preparation and lubrication. I would do it again, but I don't think I'll ever be one of those dudes who is constantly asking his girlfriend if she wants to ‘do butt stuff.’ Afterward, all my friends kept asking me if I had gotten poop on my penis. I had not.” —Scott
“Why go to the sewer when there’s a playground right next door? Okay, I’m joking. But I’ve just never felt the need to explore that area. From what I’ve heard, it’s not all that enjoyable from the woman’s perspective, physically speaking, and the tightness aspect isn’t convincing when it already feels so good elsewhere. But if a girl seemed really into it and wanted me to try it, I would.” —Paul
We asked guys what really turns them on. Find out what they had to say:
“Anal sounds like a good idea when you’re tipsy or really horny. It’s like if you’re binge-eating cake: another piece seems like a good idea because it’s more of what you’re already loving. Sometimes you just want more of everything she has. But the vagina is where it’s at. As soon as you finish with anal, you’re no longer as turned on so you’re just kind of wondering why you thought it was a good idea. The vagina is right there, and it’s clean and self-lubricating. The poop thing is a real risk. A little got on the condom when I was 16 or 17, and I didn’t try it again until my mid-20s. The thought still makes me shudder.” —Mauricio
“Anal sex feels great, although not greater than vaginal sex to any exponential degree. There's more pressure on your penis, which provides more stimulation for it. It's like having vaginal sex with someone who knows how to engage their pelvic core.” —Dan
“Anal sex is interesting, great—for me, at least—and not what I expected. It’s very different from vaginal sex. A friend of mine had explained that to me, but I didn't fully understand until I tried it. To put it bluntly, vaginal sex puts pressure all over your penis when it's inside. With anal sex, there’s not much past the hole, so during the act itself, I had to focus on a lot more movement than I was expecting. Lucky for me, my partner was far more comfortable with it than I think I would have been! Although she did emphasize the need for ‘lots of lube.’” —Alex

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Everyone has their own sexual desires – but not everyone likes to talk about them, feeling ashamed or embarrassed, worried that they may be judged.
But in reality, loads of us share the same sexual desires. We don’t realise this because we’re not openly talking about them.
One sexual desire, for many men, is for a finger to be inserted into the anus. It makes perfect sense, as the ‘male G spot’ is located in a male’s prostate, which is behind the anal wall. When the prostate is stimulated, it can give a man incredible amounts of pleasure.
But still, putting a finger into a man’s bum can seem taboo because people still believe that any form of anal play says something about your sexuality – despite it just being another way to explore your body and all of its pleasurable areas
Whether you’re experimenting on your own or with a partner, it’s always great to find out what you enjoy or don’t enjoy to heighten your own sexual experiences – but how can we do this when we’re scared of liking something that we feel ashamed of?
To open the conversation around anal play, we spoke to six different men to see what they thought of their own bum-fingering experiences, whether they think it’s something everyone should give a try or if it’s something they believe to be a ‘taboo’.
See below for their incredibly honest (and incredibly NSFW) answers.
Tom: ‘I personally want mine left alone but I understand it can be a really sexual area for some guys.’
Mark: ‘It depends on the situation you’re in. I’m very open (so to speak) regarding sex, and I wouldn’t dismiss my arsehole being used in a sexual way at all…’
Henry: ‘Kind of sexual, I think men’s anuses are usually pretty grimmer than women’s though!’
Rheese: ‘I’m intrigued by the idea, never done anything about it though. Would like to see what the fuss is about, maybe when I’m intoxicated with my girlfriend sometime.’
Josh: ‘I was completely against anything going up my bum until not long after I got together with my current girlfriend. Long story short, we tried it but I get nothing from it.’
James: ‘Done right it can be very enjoyable. It can add pleasure and increase stimulation.’
Mark: ‘Not really… I’ve seen it in porn and carried on masturbating.. does that count?’
Tom: ‘I have definitely fantasised about it, everyone’s a little bit curious!’
James: ‘I wouldn’t say it’s a fantasy as it’s something I have already experienced. Would I do it again? Yes. Is it something I crave? No.’
Henry: ‘Yes, definitely! Experimented a bit but
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