Deepthroat Hand

Deepthroat Hand
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Putting a penis in one's mouth is not as simple an endeavor as one might assume it is. Learning how to give a blowjob is a complicated process that can be a source of anxiety, fear, and unexpectedly deep soul searching. While the person being fellated might not be aware, the person on the other end is being bombarded with a lot of blowjob-related mind garbage. But no one ever talks about these little nagging things that have to do with giving head. It's difficult enough to bring up blowjobs around the water cooler or at a dinner party, so getting into the dirty little details can be tough. Obviously, not so for me, since I'm broaching them right now.
Generally, conversations about blowjobs center around who can deep throat, how easy/difficult it is to get a penis in your mouth hole, and whether or not you should kiss after completion. But there are far more mundane factors at play, and all of them far more important than these racier questions. I don't know why we don't talk more about the minutiae of giving head. What I do know is that there are certain things I can guarantee most women are thinking when we go down on someone. Such universal thoughts deserve to be shared and commiserated over. Here are six things about blowjobs that no one ever talks about, but which I'm forcing you to listen to me talk about right now:
Blowjobs are scary - not because of what happens to you when you're giving them, but what you might inadvertently do to the person you're giving them to. For instance: suddenly, reflexively biting down for some reason. There are a lot of things I'd like to go through life never having experienced. Orally castrating someone is certainly one of them.
I envy anyone who can give a blowjob and retain sexy thoughts in their brain. For most of us, we're just trying not to choke on the chunk of our own hair that keeps slipping into our mouths. We're also thinking about the sweat smell of balls, making eye contact, the giant drip of our own spit smeared across our face, not biting down, etc.
Again, I have much envy for the sucker who has no gag reflex. Because for everyone else, when a penis hits the back of your throat, its all we can do to stop from vomiting. Add "vomiting on someone's penis" to the list of things I would like to go through life without ever doing. It doesn't exactly scream "sexy" - unless you're one of those fetishists I once saw on Jerry Springer (I'm aware that a Jerry Springer reference reveals my age, and I don't even care).
Look, I don't want to brag but, like, I work out. Even still, there's no workout quite like kneeling with no hands for support (one's on the shaft, the other's on the balls) while angling your face downward and bobbing your head up and down. There's no amount of yoga that will prepare your core for the exercise of giving head. It's a full-body experience that requires poise, concentration, balance, and abs and thighs of steel.
No matter how many blowjobs you've given, nothing can prepare you for giving your first one to a new person. Every penis is unique, and no two blowjobs are the same. The same can be said for all sex acts, but there's something particularly intimate about having someone's penis in your mouth. The whole experience can be quite discombobulating, what with all the balls you have to juggle (pun intended) with a new person.
It doesn't matter whether you're an established spitter or swallower, or how many times you've had a man cum in your mouth. There's always an intense anxiety when you feel him come close to orgasm. What is going to happen? Even though you know, you're still scared. For instance, every time it comes to that point, I start worrying that so much semen is going to squirt out so hard and fast that I will choke on it. This has literally never happened to me. But as soon as a guy starts clenching, I fill with fear. Even the most seasoned fellator has anxiety when it comes to finishing the job. Snap decisions have to be made, fast and in the heat of the moment, which can lead to embarrassing situations, like naked runs to the bathroom to spit up.
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When you're giving a guy a blow job and he grabs your head and pushes it down/into him more... has this ever happened to you? what was your view of this? guys, what are you thinking when you do this? i have heard guys do this, but none of the guys I had ever given a blow job to have done this before, and I thought it would be extremely degrading, but surprisingly I didn't mind it. I kind of thought of it as..he's enjoying it and wants more and is just taking more control..a dominance thing maybe? (I suppose you could say he wanted more deep throat too!) so I guess I'm just curious as to what you all think.
forgot to include that this happened the first time last week
When a guy pushes down your head during a blow job, how do you feel about this?
it's taken me a while to warm up to this move, because a few years ago I was raped/forced to give oral and he pushed down so hard I threw up. not okay. I was really nervous about giving my current boyfriend head for that reason, so the first time he put his hand on my head I freaked out. now I actually enjoy it, I like it when he plays with my hair or tucks it out of the way so we can make eye contact, and it lets me know that I'm doing a good job and he's enjoying it and wants more, which is definitely sexy. he pushes really gentle now, just enough so I get the message but nothing forceful because I feel more comfortable having some control of the situation. I still usually keep a hand on his shaft so that my mouth literally can't go down farther than I want it to because my hand is in the way, so even if he did push harder it wouldn't really matter much
men do that, its not their fault either. Men have testostorone, so they are natural dominant, they never notice though... My boyfriend has done this to me, at first I was like "WTF?!?!" but then I got used to it, yeah its uncomfortable and no one likes a **** shoved down their throat, but I do the same thing to him when he gives me oral, without noticing of course. But unlike a quick 10 minute bj for him, I take 30-45 minutes to orgasm, so he goes down on me a LONG time, and I know his tounge hurts afterward. The least I can do for him is let him have his enjoyment during oral. At least your not getting a "face f***" or when a guy pretends your mouth is a p**** and humps and screws it like he would during sex, now THATS degrading and uncomfortable.
For the most part, I enjoy it because it means he's really getting into it. I have to be in the right state of mind, though If I'm not prepared to deep throat and he just pushes my head down, I get claustrophobic for some reason. Luckily, my boyfriend "warns" me by pressing lightly on my head before he does it. It gives me time to fully relax my throat. So yeah, I prefer to initiate deep throating myself, but if he wants it before I do it myself, I have no problem with some not-rough head pushing.
I don't like it, in fact I hate it when my boyfriend does it. If it were comfortable to go deeper then I would. Don't get me wrong, I love giving bj's but I have a small mouth and sensitive gag reflex so forcing it doesn't work for me.
It is because we are very close to orgasm and we don't want you to stop or slow what you are doing. If you do, we experience a sort of "misfire" where we may get only a couple of weak contractions that leave us unfilled. We do not intend to degrade you. If we could just say: "Go go go go go go go go" and then: "OK!" and you could follow the cue, there would be no need for that. I give my lover heavy duty oral sex. When she rolls into orgasm, she does not hesitate to grab the back of my head for the same reason. Where she is very (very) wet, sometimes I have to be really creative to breathe and not, uhhhh, drown! Its all good, though.
Yea deep throating feels the best so when we do that its trying to get you to do it. Most girls get pissed though so good for you..
Name something that you hate which the opposite gender do during sex?
Women need to realize that men love deepthroat. It's one of the most pleasurable sexual experiences for men. To some (probably many) it's preferable to the sensation of vaginal or anal sex. A blowjob is good and all, but if a man can receive deepthroat, he'll be in heaven. It's basically the G-Spot, but for men. Why do you think there was a famous porno movie named after the sexual act back in the 70s? One women respondant says she has a small mouth and a "sensitive gag reflex". The small mouth excuse has been used by many and everyone has a sensitive gag reflex, not just you. That's why it's the gag reflex. The windpipes naturally have a kneejerk reaction to any foreign invader blocking the pathway. As for the size of your mouth, I would imagine most women's mouths are "small" and aren't naturally designed to take an erect, rock hard and in some cases very huge penis, length and girth wise. Women can use the standard excuses if they want, but just know you are losing major points in how sexually satisfying of a partner you are to your man. One's comfort level with going deeper can simply be adjusted by training deepthroat skills progressively over time. Now the issue is who's going to initiate this training? Are women? Most likely not, because there is a natural aversion to things going in to the throat, like I said. I also know this because in most of my experiences in receiving oral sex during my younger years, I simply let the woman do the job while I watched. And it left me sexually unsatisfied. But hey, at least I was the "nice guy" who treated her like a lady and I didn't resort to being one of those aggressive brutish types that do whatever they want to women without considering her feelings. Right? Well, now that I'm an older guy who's been around the block? Well, with my last girlfriend, I finally took matters into my own hands. Literally. I finally gripped the back of her head with my hands and just took full control of the situation... And it ended up turning her on. She'd ask for it during the sexual encounters in which I wasn't doing it. Based on a couple other female responses hear it seems like it's something that's at times forgivable because "men will be men" and also something women end up finding exciting and erotic because of the dominant aspect of it. It's a fine line to walk though, because you never know when a woman will be turned on by such aggressive actions or if they will feel uncomfortable or even violated.
Yeah, I don't really need her to deep throat, but I like to be a little more dominant if she's comfortable with it.
Personally... I fucking love it and I like giving head I like him to be pleased and if he wants more then all he gotta do is push however I will need air lol
the guy just sorta gets off on regaining control. I mean, you have the most control since his d*** is in YOUR mouth,
honestly, i kind of like when they do that - helps me focus more on the other stuff.
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