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| 45 Stories of Sex and Consent on Campus

I. Anticipation

II. Negotiation

III. Aftermath

In this first set of 14 short narratives, students describe their feelings heading into an encounter. Many were wary about putting themselves in a situation where sex was likely but proceeded anyway. To expand the narratives, click on the quotes.
Some women wondered why they felt as if they “owed” sex to a partner. A few men questioned if they could separate reality from pornography. Many students said that talking about sex and consent with someone they had just met — or even knew well — was too awkward and confusing.

I searched for years to find the building where it happened. This might be it.

A message exchange from the morning after.

A message exchange from the morning after.

Is it still a gray zone if you remain friends after? What about following up drunken sex with fully consensual sex — would that retroactively make the first act O.K.? In these stories, students expressed that “gray” could be a stand-in for “still processing.”

An excerpt from our text exchange the next day.

An example of us trying half-heartedly to make plans by text.

A sample of our follow-up text exchange.

An example of the list I used to keep.

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By JESSICA BENNETT and

DANIEL JONES

We asked college students how they navigate the gray zone of sexual consent, where communication is rarely as simple as “yes” or “no.” Here are their stories.

As anyone who has fumbled through a sexual encounter knows, real-life sex can be far more complicated than a poster declaring, “ Consent is Sexy .” Many remain confused about what constitutes sexual consent, and talking about it in the moment can feel awkward. On college campuses, a combination of alcohol, inexperience and differing expectations about how one is “supposed” to perform only heightens the confusion.
In the time of #MeToo, the debate about how to handle sexual consent has become louder than ever. Many sexual encounters seem to take place in a so-called gray zone of miscommunication, denial, rationalization and, sometimes, regret.
We wanted to explore that complexity when we asked college students for their stories of navigating this gray zone: what they anticipated, how they negotiated consent and processed the aftermath, and what advice they would give their younger selves. These are their stories.
A project of Modern Love and The New York Times Gender Initiative . MAY 10, 2018
There’s that popular saying, “consent is sexy.” I’ve seen it proudly written on Twitter, on t-shirts and signs at rallies. But something always sat with me the wrong way about that phrase. Consent isn’t sexy. It’s crucial. It’s not a healthy sexual encounter without full consent.
Throughout my three years in college I never, ever moved forward with a girl without first asking her if it was okay. Consent was that simple: “Can I kiss you?” In my experience, questions like this, asked with the right cadence and at the right time, made sex a more enjoyable experience.
My boyfriend and I have worked out what consent looks like for us. I still struggle with giving a definitive “no,” so our rule is that if the other person isn’t enthusiastically reciprocating, everything stops. If we do any form of role-play, we establish the exact order of activities beforehand, and if at any point we want to step out, we say a safe word and all activity stops.
Many people’s first exposure to sexuality is porn, which teaches kids that men should be rough, demanding, and that if a girl says no, you just need to try harder to convince her. We need to teach our children (especially boys) the self control, respect and communication necessary for healthy intimacy, and do it long before they have devices they can watch porn on.
Every woman I know carries at least one story of her almost-but-maybe-not-quite sexual assault. And there lies the problem: we have been conditioned to believe that anything less than violent rape by a stranger does not deserve our concern or condemnation. But it’s never been that black and white, and I will now tell you what I wish I could tell my 15-year-old self: Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean he can’t assault you. Sexual coercion is a form of sexual abuse. You have the right to stop at any time, yes, even if he’s already horny. Do not give in to sex just to avoid an argument. Do not apologize for saying no.
This is a project of Modern Love and The New York Times Gender Initiative . To learn more about Modern Love, find us on Facebook or listen to the podcast . For more of The Times’s gender coverage, sign up for Gender Letter , a new weekly newsletter, or follow along on Instagram .
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I'm writing this anonymously because no one knows what I did that night. We were at a frat party everyone was drunk and high enough for the whole school. Anyway by the end of the night I found myself the center of a gangbang with so many guys I couldn't count how many guys were in the room. To be honest I think as some guys left the room more guys came in to the room. I lost count after sixteen guys had sex with me. I had so much sperm in my stomach and vagina it was dripping out of me for hours afterwards. The next day I couldn't believe how hard it was for me to stand and walking was so pain
I'm writing this anonymously because no one knows what I did that night. We were at a frat party everyone was drunk and high enough for the whole school. Anyway by the end of the night I found myself the center of a gangbang with so many guys I couldn't count how many guys were in the room. To be honest I think as some guys left the room more guys came in to the room. I lost count after sixteen guys had sex with me. I had so much sperm in my stomach and vagina it was dripping out of me for hours afterwards. The next day I couldn't believe how hard it was for me to stand and walking was so painful. Back than I was stupid but I really loved to see and experience every size shape color penis I ever wanted to see and enjoy to this day I masturbate thinking about it
Hands down with 2 gorgeous Korean girls I met at university. They were both friends and had only come over for a couple of exchange semesters and were going back in 6 months. I continued to chat with them and found out that they had actually played around with each other before, and at that point I couldn’t help but insist that I should be their new boyfriend, at least until they had to go home. (I was somewhat joking at first) but I kept it up and lucky for me they went along with it.
I don’t think I can truly describe how good sex was with them at first. Kissing them and taking their clothes
Hands down with 2 gorgeous Korean girls I met at university. They were both friends and had only come over for a couple of exchange semesters and were going back in 6 months. I continued to chat with them and found out that they had actually played around with each other before, and at that point I couldn’t help but insist that I should be their new boyfriend, at least until they had to go home. (I was somewhat joking at first) but I kept it up and lucky for me they went along with it.
I don’t think I can truly describe how good sex was with them at first. Kissing them and taking their clothes off for the first time; exploring their skinny bodies was intoxicating. They both fell in love with me which I wasn’t really expecting, but it made sex 100x better. Both of them had a very sweet, cute sex appeal which was almost overwhelming. The thing that sticks out to me it most was that their periods were both synced up and happened at the same time, which resulted in me getting some very nice blowjobs - essentially the two of them trying to show off how well they could suck my cock for an hour. Suffice to say I would orgasm really really hard and many times…
The only negative thing is it spoiled blowjobs for me for the rest of my life

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I Asked 15 College Girls How They Lost Their Virginity And Here Are The Dirty Details

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Everyone’s first time is different. Some people regret who they lost it to or how. Others think it was perfect no matter how the relationship turned out. In the end, no one can really prepare for exactly how it happens. These girl’s stories show how awkward, funny and strange It can be to lose your virginity .
These stories should show that it if you want to wait for the right person then you should, but if it’s not a big deal to you, that’s okay too. It isn’t a bad thing to be a virgin . Just know that losing it probably won’t be like the movies.
All the following stories are from girls at different colleges and will all remain anonymous.
“I came into college a virgin, and then two weeks into my freshman year I reunited with my middle school crush who had never given me the time of day before. I ended up seeing him at a frat party, and he pushed me up against the wall of the band room as we were making out. Next thing I know, I woke up in his bed in the morning and he said ‘congrats, you’re a woman now.’”
“My freshman year of college I was itching to lose my virginity. I took a boy to my date party and then took him back to my room after. I was determined to get it over with. Unfortunately, he was too drunk and couldn’t get it up. It was terrible and I refused to let him stay the night. The next day we ended up hooking up for real.”
“I visited Tulane University in NOLA and met a random boy at the bar. He took me back to his dorm where he and his friend proceeded to sneak me and my friend up to his room. He told the RA we were his cousins visiting and I don’t know how it worked. I ended up losing my virginity while my best friend was hooking up with a guy in the bed next to us.
“At a random high school party, I ended up hooking up with one of my guy friends. In the middle of it the condom broke, so we stopped and, honestly, I don’t even count it. He ended up making out with one of my best friends 15 minutes later. Then, later that night my friend who stole my boy totaled her car.”
“I lost it in the back of my car. There’s this spot where everyone goes to basically hookup, drink, do drugs, etc. I was hooking up with my boyfriend and one thing lead to another and we started to have sex. It was the middle of summer and we were alone in this parking lot so we had my trunk open, but while we were having sex another vehicle pulled up and it killed the mood so we got in my car and left.”
“It was the last night of summer going into senior year and I was drunk at a party. I lost it to the kid that I was hooking up with on and off since sophomore year. Since it happened at a party everyone in my grade found out and it sucked cause it's something that's really personal.”
“OK, I lost mine when I was a freshman in high school to my boyfriend who was a senior at the time. I remember we waited until no one was home to do it, and since I was so nervous, I kept thinking I was going to get pregnant even though he was wearing a condom. I didn’t even let him finish the job, but I guess it all worked out because he ended up buying me Taylor Swift tickets.”
“I totally would tell you if I remembered any of it.”
“He had already lost his virginity and I was too embarrassed to tell him I hadn’t yet because he was younger than me. It was super casual and kind of just happened because he didn’t know it was my first time. We weren’t dating at the time but ended up dating for almost two years after that.”
“Basically I had been dating my high school boyfriend for like a year and we were in his basement on a couch and had sex. It was really bad and we used probably the thickest condom. We laughed after because it was terrible and then we got Steak ‘n Shake to celebrate.”
“I regret having sex with the person I lost my V-card to because he ultimately turned out to be a douchebag. Don’t get me wrong the sex part was fun until I realized we didn’t know what we were doing because we were freshmen in high school, so looking back it wasn’t good at all. It also didn’t help that we had sex in his room while his whole family was downstairs because we couldn’t stay out past 10... in conclusion, losing my V-card was very memorable.”
“I lost mine my senior year of high school to my boyfriend and we both lost it to each other. I was super nervous and freaking out. He ended up finishing so fast and he was so embarrassed. Also, the lights were on.”
"Me and my best friend lost our virginity on the same day which happened to be Father’s Day. It was in the back seat of a Cadillac. My friend hooked up with the guy in our grade in a different car and I hooked up with his older brother!"
"Basically, I was a junior in high school. I was at this party and I got slammed and I was in the bathroom with my friend just talking, and then this boy came in and my friend left so it was just us. Then we started making out and we had sex on the toilet without a condom and then I had to get Plan B the next day."
“I was a junior in high school talking to a guy younger than me and we went to a party together. We were awkward and drinking and all of a sudden went upstairs and had sex. It was so bad and awkward and lasted about two minutes.”
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