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Forums > Sexuality & Relationships > is my husbands penis just to big???

hi i was just wondering i dont know if its me or him....but everytime i have sex with my husband it hurts really bad like it wont go in all the way it hurts as its going in...is it because he is to big its always been  this way and we have been togather for 6 yrs now. we just have a hard time making it go in we use alot of lube and stuff to try to make it easier but it doesnt seem to help very well it takes like 6 min for him to be completly in and during sex it always seems to kinda hurt. i just started using condoms again to protect me from getting pregnant again i just recently had a baby 1month ago via c-section and prior to having him i wasnt using anything no need to obviously i was already pregnant and after sex i would hurt really bad it would just sting down there i dont know what the cause of this was. and now with condoms it jst burns really bad to urinate what is the cause of that???

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My girlfriend and I expereinced the same problem.  I used to only finger her with one finger because otherwise it was painful for her, and when we tried to have sex the first few times, she experienced a great deal of pain. What worked for us was using foreplay as a way to "loosen her up".  I start off by fingering her using one finger only, after about a minute or so of stimulating her with in and out motions, I start using a 2nd finger by putting both my index and midde finger in her vagina real slowly. She experiences slight pain at first, but once i get both fingers in, I VERYslowly start move my fingers in and out and eventually I reach "full speed". By then i can usually stick up to 3 fingers in her vagina without her experiencing any pain at all. After this, we proceed with regular sex. I once again have to start off very slow while sticking my penis into her vagina but after a couple slow thrusts in and out , she experiences no pain what so ever.

I highly encourage you and your husband to try this method. It takes a lot of time, but is highly successful and rewarding. Just remember that your own vaginal lubricant is what makes your vagina ready for sex, and it may take a lot of arousal to achieve this. So take your time while having foreplay/sex and enjoy it. I know your husband probably won't mind arousing you, and i know for certain you won't mind either.

I* have a friend who has endometriosis and sex has always been painful for her.

Hi,

After I got married 19 years ago, my wife also had broblems with pain if I tried to  insert my penis. We tried many times, but it kept feeling painful to my wife.
It may sound strange  to you but I'm a male with an average to smaller size penis then others.

As my wife continued to have pain, both she and I went to our doctor and asked what might be the cause. It was noted that the size of my penis was avera and therefore could not be the cause.
Our doctor then decided to give us medication to clear up a yeast infection. Even though an infection was not able to be detected, there was evidence that my wife did. Both of use had to use Canastan. I am uncircumcised and was told that it was possible that I would carry the infection to only pass it back to my wife. I had asked of things would have been different if I was circumcised. The answer was no.

My wife still gets bouts of yeast infections on occation. Even thoug it seemed that I had no symptoms, it  I waslikely that I was the source of the infections.
I had a history of using large dosis of antibiotics, due to the fact that I used to come down with kidney infections and other UTI.

Antibiotics can be the source of yeast infections. Whenever my wife experienc pain again, both of us need to medications to deal with this.

Getting checked for yeast infection might be of benefit for you and your husband. Both of you need to be on medication, to clear it up.

I also urge both of you to see a doctor to determine what might be the cause of your discomfort. It might also be of benefit if both of you woulb able to consult with a female doctor. I would think that she might be a better judge whether penis size might be the problem.

God bless,

Ron

Janice M Epp, PhD
Oct 30, 2008

Hi Betty:

Let’s face it: sometimes our anatomy needs a little help. It’s true that your vagina may be a bit tight, and perhaps your husband’s girth is a bit large for you. This just means that you’re going to have to be sure that you’re totally turned on before you have p-v sex. During sexual response, the vagina expands and relaxes, but only during a highly aroused state. So if you’re having p-v sex before your body is ready, it can be painful. Try lots of stimulation in and around the opening and be sure you’re REALLY, REALLY turned on. And remember that your head needs to be turned on in order for your body to follow. Is anything getting in the way for you?

It sounds as though your urethra is also being irritated—again this might be from too much friction without being turned on enough.

You might also try different condoms and lube because sometimes you can develop an allergy to them. Try polyurethane condoms instead of latex and see if this makes a difference. Also ask your pharmacist for a lube that contains a lower formulation of Nonoxynol-9 (spermicide). If none of the above helps, see your gynecologist for an exam to rule out any physiological causes. Good luck to you. Dr. J

thank you i will have to try this//

it is anywhere from 4-6wks is what the doc said.

Just out of curiousity why didn't you wait longer.  I thought the standard to wait for a c-section was about 2 months?

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I am sexually active for more than one year with my ex and he is having a small penis (4.5") and very thin. Even he is small, sometime I still felt uncomfortable.
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Finally, we’re bringing you very public answers to some of your most private questions. When sexual and vaginal health concerns arise, OB/GYN and nationally known women’s health expert Dr. Jessica Shepherd wants to ensure you have the answers you need to feel at ease. As the founder of Her Viewpoint , an online women’s health forum, she uses this outlet to focus on addressing taboo topics in a comfortable setting. Prepare to take notes!
Q: “Is there such a thing as a penis being too big for a woman to handle or a penis to vagina ratio?”
A: The answer to that question is both yes and no.
It really depends on the anatomy of both the male and the female. The vagina is very responsive to different sizes, and it’s very elastic, and again, returns to normal size after childbirth and after sex. It really does have good ability to go back to its normal size for that individual.
The average penis size is actually, when we’re talking about flaccid, so that’s a soft penis, is 3.5 inches and then for an erect penis it’s going to be 4.7 to 6 inches.
Some significant differences in sizes from one partner to another, for the woman, can cause some sex to be painful or uncomfortable relations during intercourse. If that’s the case, then the couple definitely need to discuss that and find out different ways that they can have intercourse that’s still enjoyable, but still accommodating for both parties.
Sexual intercourse or the experience that you have does not really have to do with penis size. There’s more to sex than just penis size, and width, and all that good stuff. There’s more, but it’s more about the connection with the person that you’re having intercourse with.
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By Guest | 15 posts, last post 24 days ago

When I have sex with my boyfriend, i think sometimes he goes too deep. He has a very long penis, and knows how to use it too. Certain positions I think he is going too deep. I feel pains in my abdomen. I am 23, and have only had sex with him and one other guy. I never felt these pains before, like his penis is reaching too far inside of me.

Sometimes it seems more painful than others, and he is so passionate, and caring otherwise, I can tell how great he is feeling so I dont want to aske him to stop. He does stop when I tell him it hurts, but as he gets caught up in our pleasure, and starts going deeper and deeper again. Is there any internal problems I should be worried about, or is it fine if he is reaching so deeply into me? I dont know for sure but i would guess he is more than 8 or 9 inches.

8-9 inchs is average size for an adult male so u have nothing 2 worry about
if hes 14+ u got something 2 worry bout...

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

So tell us, what color is the sky in your world and how many moons do you have?

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

For real? godoftheson: 1st - we try to provide factual and helpful responses to posts. 8-9" is no where near the average size for an adult mail. 5-6" is closer! 2nd - this post you responded to is OVER 1 year old. While there is no rule about that...the message was posted by a guest - so there is almost no chance they are still checking back daily to see if someone responded! AND - you responded with wildly inaccurate information on top of that!

6 is the avreage size, im sure a 6th grader would know that from health class

In reply to taz189094076 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

For a black guy 8-9 inches normal.. Cut godoftheson some slack.

In reply to anonymous on 2014-04-21 - click to read

Even though 5-6 is average. The distribution of penises is such that 8-9 is not uncommon. Perhaps 10-25% of penises are 8in or more. You should be able to find more accurate numbers online.

At any rate, vaginas vary as well. For some women 6in could be too big

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

OK I get it so he can't go 14 + I got to worry

In reply to subscribed mark on 2010-03-13 - click to read

In reply to anonymous on 2021-10-02 - click to read

Only put your fist 4+ not 14+ it hurts I'm a female to I had that happen before if you ever have sex

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

14" or 14 cm? You have no idea what are you talking about!

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

You didn't tell us your gender. Are you a guy and he is going 8-9" inside you anally? Happens to me too and I've been trying to find out what it is and do this is that I have found out so far. 5-7 inches deeper, depending on the person, there is a second sphincter. That pain is caused then the partner is trying to penetrate and open your second sphincter. Allow it to open just like you allowed the first sprinter to open and enjoy double pleasure.

In reply to taz189094076 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

Many things can be issues. Cervix infection, prolapse cervix or even iud placement. Please see your doctor. In the meantime avoid doggy position as it shortens the length of your partners stroke and may hurt you. Good luck

In reply to godofthesun143616 on 2010-03-13 - click to read

8-9 inches is NOT average. At least not average for a human being. It’s time that we quit propagating that myth. 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 is average.

In reply to anonymous on 2014-04-21 - click to read

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