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When it comes to the clitoris, that old saying "different strokes for different folks" has never been more true.
"Clitorises are very unique! There's really not one standard type of stimulation that works for all women," says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School , an online orgasm course for women. And, considering orgasms aren't even on the table for many women without some clit play, figuring out what makes you tick is pretty important.
"In general, most women are divided into two camps: those [who] prefer direct clitoral stimulation, and those [who] prefer indirect," says Marin. To determine which brand of stimulation your body likes, she suggests starting with two different strokes: "First, try circling your clitoris with one fingertip, without directly touching it. If you want more stimulation, make your circle tighter until you start touching the clitoris itself."
Once that baseline for pleasurable touch is established, feel free to get creative. Here are six new ways to stimulate your clitoris you may not have thought of before.
It may be tempting to just zero in on the clit and start rubbing away, but that may not quite be what makes your clit tick. Try building sensation first. "If you like direct stimulation, try stroking diagonally across the surface of your clitoris," Marin suggests. If you prefer indirect, try stroking the sides of the clit and the clitoral hood rather than the clit itself. Mix it up by using two, three, even four fingers if you typically just use one. Experiment with different patterns over your go-to.
A light touch may be best, but instead of just stroking your clit, try playing around with pressure: Try squeezing the clit, gently gripping the skin on either between your thumb and pointer finger. Once you've established what degree of pressure feels good for you, try manipulating the skin by moving your hand up and down—like a tiny hand job for your clitoris.
Edging means building up to climax, but then backing off just before you reach the point of no return. When you finally do cum, the sensation is...let's just say, worth the wait.
That said, it requires practice: You need to know your body well enough to discern how close you are to orgasm and exactly how much further you can go before pulling back. Try it on your own before you do it with a partner: start slowly, and build up pleasure with light touches around your clit. Engage in meditative, yogic breathing to help pace yourself. As you feel yourself about to climax, switch from whatever rhythm's getting you there to something else: pulsing over strokes; left hand over right; one finger from two; broad circles from a diagonal. Tease yourself until you can't hold back any longer.
Sex toys are, obviously, a reliable way to get off; most readers, however, will likely be most familiar with the penetrative Rabbit-inspired models, or maybe the iconic Hitachi wand. But for couples play, it helps to incorporate something smaller.
"In most positions, you can squeeze a sex toy between your legs to get some clitoral stimulation," says Marin. "My favorite vibrator recommendation is the Minna Life Limon ($119, minnalife.com ). It uses a squeeze technology, so the harder you squeeze, the harder it vibrates. It feels more intuitive than many other vibrators."(Or check out Squish ($99, u nboundbabes.com ), Minna's collaboration with Unbound.)
Or, choose a hands-free vibrator—like Dame's Eva ($135, amazon.com )—that's designed to stay positioned on your clit during sex. For solo play, the Satisfyer Pro ($48, amazon.com ) is designed to mimic the sensation of cunnilingus using air pressure. Stimulating!
Don't want to shell out for a sex toy? Maybe reconsider some of the stuff you have just lying around the house. "A lot of women masturbate by grinding against pillows, towels, hairbrushes, or TV remotes," says Marin. In case you were feeling weird about humping your duvet cover.
Certain penis-in-vagina sex positions work better for clitoral stimulation than others— Women's Health has a whole list for your pleasure—but in general, any situation in which the clit is grinding against another body part will be more likely to yield orgasmic results. Think: rubbing up against your partner's thigh or pubic bone.
"When you're on top during intercourse, have your partner hold his thumb upright against his pelvis. You want it located directly under your clit. As you move, grind your clitoris against his thumb," Marin suggests.
But if you prefer positions that leave your clit out in the open, like doggy style, "touch yourself!" she urges. "So few women actually do this."

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The Clitoral Bulbs The complete clitoris is about 9-11 cm long and is made up of the ‘head’ (pink), body (purple), legs (light blue) and bulbs (dark blue), and has a kind of ‘erection’ when its aroused. The glans or ‘head’ of the clitoris is made of densely packed nerves and is external , which is what you can see and touch in the vulva. The body, legs and bulbs of the Clitoris are internal and are made up of Erectile tissue. The clitoral bulbs that sit either side of the vagina and urethra, as you can see below are responsible for a lot of pleasure, they are usually stroked or stimulated through the inside of the bottom of the vagina. This is one of the reasons why penetration can feel good as the clitoral bulbs are made of erectile tissue and on arousal they engorge, becoming bigger and more sensitive, allowing for pleasure. Recap: Erectile tissue : a type of tissue that, when blood flows into it, it doesn’t flow out, but instead holds on to the blood, causing the area to swell up. When you start to feel turned on or excited, blood flow in the genitals increases and the clitoris in particular swells and has a kind of ‘erection’ that is similar to the penis. Click ‘play’ and explore the 3D model below...

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The clitoris has around 8,000 nerve endings—roughly double the number in a penis.
If your partner has a vulva, they might enjoy penetrative sex, but you’ll need to stimulate the clitoris to take them over the edge. A 2017 study published in the journal Sex and Marital Therapy found that only 18% of women can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. The rest either require or prefer clitoral stimulation to orgasm during intercourse.
The clitoris has around 8,000 nerve endings , which is roughly double the number in a penis. In her book Come As You Are , sex researcher Emily Nagoski writes that the clitoris is the “Grand Central Station of erotic sensation.” But despite its critical role in pleasure and arousal, researchers haven’t always given the clitoris the attention it deserves. The clitoris was omitted from some early medical textbooks. We didn’t even have a 3D model of the clitoris until 2009 . Thankfully, we now know more about its structure than ever before, and you can use this knowledge to stimulate the clitoris.
The clitoris is like an iceberg—it’s larger than you think. There’s a tiny nub at the top of a vulva where the inner labia meet (that’s the glans), but the majority of the clitoris is actually underneath the skin . The full clitoris is shaped kind of like a wishbone that runs along the sides of the vulva and extends up to five inches inside the body. You may have noticed your partner’s vulva puffs up before or during sex. That’s because the clitoris is composed of erectile tissue that swells during arousal, just like the penis.
Because the clitoris is both an internal and external structure, some researchers believe that “ G-spot orgasms ” don’t exist —they’re actually internal clitoral orgasms. For this piece, however, we’re going to focus on the parts of the clitoris that you can access externally.
Even though the clitoris is a highly erogenous zone , it’s not a magic button. You can’t just poke it and expect your partner to moan in ecstasy. For the best clitoral stimulation, you need to stay consistent and pay attention to your partner’s feedback.
Before you try something new, you should ask your partner to tell you or show you what they like. But in the event they’re not sure exactly what feels great (or they’re in the mood to explore), here are some tips from sex experts about how to go about stimulating the clitoris.
The most sensitive part of the clitoris is located where the labia meet, but it can be hard to find the right spot, especially if you’re in low lighting. “The easiest way to find the clit by touch is by asking your partner to place your fingers on it—there’s no shame in that,” explains Allison Moon, sex educator and author of Girl Sex 101 . “Some clits are more prominent than others. It’s better to ask than to diddle a part that definitely isn’t it.”
If you’re not sure where to start, cup your partner’s vulva and let them control the movement and pressure. “Create a firm base with your palm that your partner can hump or grind against,” Moon says. “Ask them to move their hips against your hand to demonstrate the kind of motion that feels good to them.”
While some people love direct clitoral stimulation on the glans, others might find it’s too intense. If your partner has a particularly sensitive clitoris, Moon recommends stimulating the area around the glans by stroking the clitoral hood or either side of the clitoral shaft.
“Imagine the clit has a clock on it, where the top point, closest to their bellybutton, is twelve, and the spot closest to their vaginal opening is six,” says sex-hacker and sexpert Kenneth Play . “ Move along their clit around the clock with a finger or sex toy , starting from twelve and going in a circle slowly, asking them to let you know which spot feels the best.”
Once you find the right location, try different ways of touching it, Play explains. “The things you can vary are pressure, friction, speed, and angle,” he says. You can tell them to make a noise, squeeze your hand, or say something when it feels particularly good.
As the adage goes, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” The most common frustrating thing men do is change things up too much, says Play. Once you find what works, keep doing it. “You don’t need a million different tricks, you just need to find the thing they like, and consistently repeat it,” he says. “Let it build up enough to spill over.”
“Put your fingers in a peace sign and with lots of lube , slide them up and down on the inside of their outer lips, around the inner lips,” explains Anne Louise Burdett, a certified Sex Educator and CEO of TOCA , an organic CBD line of intimacy lubricants. “Here you are stimulating the extended internal structure of the clitoris. This is erectile tissue that becomes highly sensitive when engorged, making the area hotter, filled with blood and pulsing.” Make sure that you use plenty of lube; this does not feel pleasurable without it.
“Slide or bring the heel of your hand to the hood of their clitoris,” Burdett says. Have your partner breathe and ask them if they want more or less pressure. “You may want to repeat this, pulse, or slide.” You can also apply pressure with other things besides your hands, including sex toys .
“Spread your fingers and lay them flat over your partner’s outer labia, and then alternate pressure between your fingers,” Burdett says. As always, explore pressure and rhythm, and ask your partner what feels best. “Here you are stimulating the clitoral bulbs under the outer labia, which is an essential way to signal to the body to produce lubrication and fill the area with blood to increase pleasure and sensitivity vastly.”
The future of sex is here, and there are hundreds if not thousands of toys created to stimulate the clitoris directly. There’s even been a surge in clitoral suction devices (a.k.a. clit suckers) that provide a unique stimulation that your hands simply can’t—no matter how hard you may try. Here are some to try.
Swap deep penetration for deep clitoral pleasure. In the CAT sex position, the insertive partner holds themselves over the receptive partner—like in missionary—but they shift their body forward so their penis or dildo is pointing down. That way, as the insertive partner moves their shaft toward their partner's vagina, it rubs against the clitoris on the way there.

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You know how in A Midsummer Night’s Dream , Shakespeare famously wrote, “And though she be but little, she is fierce”? Yeah, that basically sums up your clit. “Research shows it’s clitoral stimulation, not vaginal stimulation, that is the powerhouse of the female orgasm,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner , PhD, author of She Comes First . In other words, clit stimulation is a must when it comes to mind-blowing sex.
Relationship and sex therapist Erica Marchand , PhD, agrees. "Clitoral stimulation is a necessity for most [people] to have an orgasm. Plus, it feels really good, helps [the partner] get turned on, can help with lubrication, and in general makes for a much more pleasurable sexual experience."
It's also a must for people who usually don't orgasm from penetrative sex whether that's because they're on their periods, find penetration painful, or simply don't get off from it. "Most women don't have orgasms through penetration alone—it would be akin to a guy trying to orgasm just from someone stimulating his scrotum and the base of his penis and never going near the head. Maybe it would happen sometimes, but it would be difficult!" says Marchand.
Sex therapist Wendasha Jenkins-Hall , PhD, also adds that the clitoris is the only organ on the human body that exists solely for sexual pleasure, so it's often the key to unlocking the female orgasm.
But given that your clitoral glans—that nub you can see on the outside, which contain the most nerve endings in the clit, 8,000 to be exact—can be anywhere from 2.5 to 4 centimeters away from your vaginal entrance, lots of sex positions won’t exactly do the trick, says Kerner. That’s why WH rounded up a few expert-approved moves that will hit all the right spots. Happy experimenting!
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