Bondage Instruction

Bondage Instruction
Curious About Bondage? 9 Things You Need To Know Before You Go There
For starters, there's a major difference between being tied up and tied down.
1. Communicate, communicate, communicate.
2. Don't get too caught up in copying what you see in the movies.
3. Understand the difference between being tied up and tied down.
4. Only restrain one part at a time.
6. Then consider bondage tape or ribbon.
9. But be prepared for emergencies, just in case.
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If you immediately think of Christian Grey's 50 Shades of Grey Red Room when you hear the word "bondage," there's some good news: it doesn't always have to be that intense! (But of course, it can be if you want it to.) Even if you find the idea of the B in BDSM (bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism) intriguing, you don't have to dive in headfirst. Instead, sex experts recommend dipping a toe into the bondage pool before you really give it your all. Here, one shares some insight into how to start exploring the world of bondage.
Embarking upon a new sexual adventure makes talking about what's going on more important than ever. "Let them know if you’re feeling uncomfortable, and ask how they’re doing periodically," Jess O'Reilly , Ph.D., Astroglide’s resident sexologist, tells SELF. It might also be a smart idea to come up with a safe word, which is a word or phrase either of you can say when you need a time out from the intensity.
Or in pornography, or any other staged bondage depictions you may come across. "They may be beautiful, but they represent expert bondage scenes performed under supervision, and the models may have only held that pose for a few seconds," says O'Reilly. Instead, take it slowly and don't think you have to experience pain or intense anxiety for it to qualify as bondage.
They may sound interchangeable, but they're two distinct things. Being tied up means having a body part restricted, like having your wrists tied together, says O'Reilly. On the other hand, you're tied down when you're attached to something else, like a chair. Very good to know the difference when you and your partner are talking about your sex fantasies !
While keeping an open mind during sex can definitely be a good thing, trying too many things at once is an easy way to become overwhelmed. That's why O'Reilly suggests experimenting by restraining only one part of your body at a time rather than going for the whole shebang. "You don't need to be tied down spread-eagle to enjoy the erotic appeal of bondage," says O'Reilly.
A huge box of materials isn't required to figure out whether you like bondage. O'Reilly suggests neckties, scarves, and stockings as a good starting point. Not only will you potentially save money if bondage isn't your thing, you'll also know your way around them much better than you would a new toy.
If you're more intrigued after using household supplies to hold each other down, think about making bondage tape or ribbon your first bondage-specific purchase. "Even though it comes in a roll like duct tape, it isn’t sticky. It sticks to itself with an electrostatic cling," says O'Reilly. Science! "You simply wrap it around—keeping it flat—and press it against itself to hold it in place," she says, explaining that it's particularly great because of its versatility. "You can use it to bind body parts together or strap your partner to furniture without causing damage, and you can even create a kinky outfit using tape over your chest, pelvic region, or legs."
Once you feel comfortable, you can graduate to more intense bondage toys like handcuffs. And if you're obsessed with the idea of being tied to your bed but lack the all-important headboard, there's hope for you yet! O'Reilly recommends buying an under-the-bed restraint system that connects to your mattress instead.
Using household items is especially good for this aspect. Since you know them more intimately than you do with brand-new toys, you can make sure you're both comfortable when you use them. "Leave a little space for your partner’s skin to breathe and to ensure adequate circulation," says O'Reilly. "If you’re tying your partner up near one of their joints, add a little extra space between the bonds and their skin." Good blood flow is important for sex, and just life in general. Check in with each other every few minutes to see if whoever's being restrained is feeling any tingling or numbness, as that can be a sure sign that the restraints are too tight.
Creativity is the name of the game when it comes to all kinds of sex, especially bondage. Although lying on your back while tied up might be the first position that comes to mind, there are so many others to try! Here are a few of O'Reilly's suggestions for starters: "Bend over a chair and have your wrists tied to its arms, stand against a wall with your hands restrained behind your back, get on all fours and have your ankles bound together, or lie on your side to spoon with your hands bound above your head," she says. That way you can figure out if you like pretty much any position for bondage, if you have a few favorites, or whether you're actually not into it in any scenario.
Although it probably won't happen, sometimes urgent situations arise at the least convenient times. "To ensure that you can always free your lover from bondage in the event of an emergency, keep a pair of safety-edged bandage scissors within arm's reach," says O'Reilly. Also known as EMT scissors because their bent design helps them cut through clothes with less risk to people than ones, you can find them at various drugstores . As a bonus, they often slice through heavy-duty materials like metal and plastic.
Are they good to have on hand? Absolutely. Will you need to use them? Only on the rarest of occasions. The more likely worst-case scenario is that you'll decide bondage isn't for you, in which case you're still learning about your sexuality—always a win. But on the bright side, you might discover a new thing that really turns you on, which is undeniably awesome.
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Notice Personal responsibility is a basic tenet of adult activity. Like any adult activity, rope bondage inherently contains risk of both physical and emotional injury. Any information or safety guidelines provided in this book are solely suggestions on ways to help reduce these inherent risks. By deciding to engage in any adult activity, including those detailed in this book, you are taking on physical and emotional responsibility for your own actions, and agree to hold harmless all individuals associated with the creation, publication and sale of this book. Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage by Shin Nawakiri © 2017 – English Edition – Mystic Productions Press © 2013 – G Books Taiwan All rights reserved. With the exception of brief excerpts for reviews, no part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or any other information storage and retrieval system, without the written permission of the publisher, author, artist, or their estates. Original text and rope work by Shin Nawakiri http://bittersweet.asia/ Photography by Piez Jeng http://piezphoto.com/ Forward by Nawashi Kanna http://nawashikanna78.blog136.fc2.com/ Translated and Edited by David Z. and Lee Harrington http://www.PassionAndSoul.com English Edition layout and cover by Rob River www.RobRiver.com ISBN 978-1-942733-85-0 Ebooks: MOBI — ISBN 978-1-942733-86-7 ePub — ISBN 978-1-942733-87-4

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Foreword この本の著者と出会ったのは数年前になる。縛りを覚えたいと言うことで私の元に来て一生懸命縄を覚えていたのを今でもよく覚えている。その頃神凪一門と言う一門を設立し、著者にも声をかけ一門入りし、ますます縄の技術を身に付けるようになる。日本の中でも著者の縄の腕前はかなりのものだ。ここ数年著者には会っていないが、ネットで著者の縛りを見るたびにその頃を懐かしく思うのと同時に、縄のレベルがあの頃より格段に上がっていてすごく嬉しく思う。今回緊縛教本を出すということで著者から話を聞いて私自身すごく楽しみにしている。この本を読んで皆さんが安全に楽しめる事を願う。 Several years ago I met the author of this book. I still remember the moment when he first came to me to study kinbaku, and his persistent enthusiasm. When Kanna Ichi-mon (the Kanna school of kinbaku) was established, Shin Nawakiri joined us at my invitation. He improved his kinbaku skills, and his skill level was very good even compared to those in Japan. Although I have not reunited with the author in the past few years, when I see his kinbaku work on the internet, I reminisce over those past days of us together, and feel very happy that his kinbaku level has further advanced to a higher level. Now, as I hear about his upcoming publication of this book, I am also filled with anticipation, and very much hope that all those who will read this book will learn kinbaku in a safe and joyful way.

Nawashi Kanna

Editor and Translator’s Notes It has been an honor to get a chance to bring Shin Nawakiri’s book, Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage, to an English-speaking audience. Ever since I saw the book, I knew it was something special, and set upon an almost two year quest into making it happen. This book offered unique challenges in that it was written in Chinese, by an author from Taiwan, about a topic (and teachings) originating from Japan. The author cited works from teachers that speak English, Italian, and Spanish – providing additional hoops for confirming correct translation of their quotes. We chose to list all of the above languages in English for the book: Japanese-language concepts that were listed in romaji (roman letters) with translations listed as [translation] after them; and Chinese-language specific terms listed as the English translation followed by the original Chinese characters. Another choice we debated were the words ‘kinbaku’ and ‘shibari’. In Chinese, these words get used interchangeably, as was the case in classical magazines such as Kitan Club from the 1950s. In current English vernacular, shibari often gets used to refer to Westernized Japanese aesthetic ropework, while kinbaku is used for Japanese work done in Japan. However, both terms are used in Japan at this time. We have chosen to use both terms interchangeably in the early parts of this book, shifting later in the book to kinbaku to reference the style and tool, and shibari to reference specific ties. One of the reasons that Nawakiri’s book was specifically of interest to us at Mystic Productions Press was that it features both male and female bodies being bound. That is not the case in the work of all authors, who tend to feature a specific aesthetic of the female body. When a he or she is referenced in this book, it is referring to the gender of the person in the images, not a tie being limited to a specific gender. Though the book features Taiwanese models, these ties can all be modified for diverse bodies, and Nawakiri says that no reader needs to feel excluded from the ties, even if not all body types are directly shown. The original text features a number of Taiwanese-specific references. Some have been

kept for interest of the reader, while others have been modified – with author permission – to open the topics to a Western audience. Some safety ties have also been expanded for awareness that may have been previously understood by his original audience. In doing all of this play, please remember that one of the basic tenets of shibari is that it requires active informed consent between adults. This includes awareness of personal safety and discussing the needs, wants, and desires of all parties. It is wonderful to have a rich text like this one to share, but understand that all ideas, techniques, and notes on safety and technique are from but one perspective, and there are others out there. We encourage readers do their own research and look into other works, as well. We hope that you will enjoy this work as much as we do, and dive into the beautiful world of kinbaku with Shin Nawakiri as your guide. Yours in rope and joy, David Z. and Lee Harrington

TABLE OF CONTETS FOREWORD 0.1 Foreword by Nawashi Kanna 0.2 Editor and Translator’s Notes 0.3 Table of Contents 1 INTRODUCTION 1.1 What Can This Book Teach You? 1.2 History of Kinbaku 2 UNDERSTANDING YOUR ROPE 2.1 Materials and Specifications 2.2 Language Specification 2.3 Storage of Rope 2.4 Treatment and Maintenance of Rope 3 DELIGHTFUL KINBAKU 4 BASIC TIES 4.1 Single Column Tie 4.1.1 Single Column Tie 4.1.2 Square Knot Single Column Tie 4.1.3 Carrick Bend Single Column Tie 4.2 Double Column Tie 4.3 Half Hitch and Double Half Hitch 4.4 Various Styles of Frictions 4.4.1 Figure 8 Friction 4.4.2 Cross Friction 4.4.3 Twisted Cross Friction 4.5 Connecting Ropes 4.5.1 Lark’s Head

4.5.2 Square Knot 4.5.3 Sheet Bend 4.6 Lock Stitch Crocheting 4.7 Comprehensive Exercise: Improvisation 5 SAFETY ISSUES 5.1 Selection of the Body Parts to Tie 5.2 Nerve Compression 5.3 Instructions for Rope Tops 5.3.1 Building the Mental Aspects of Bondage 5.3.2 Location and Equipment 5.4 Instructions for Rope Bottoms 5.4.1 Chose a Partner Carefully 5.4.2 Know Yourself 5.4.3 Models and Performance 6 COMMON KINBAKU TIES 6.1 Hands Behind the Head Tie 6.1.1 Crotch Rope Version 6.1.2 Affixed Upper Arm Variation 6.1.3 Additional Variations 6.2 Hip and Crotch Tie 6.2.1 Simple Version for Women 6.2.2 Simple Version for Men 6.2.3 Akechi/Kanna Style Hip and Crotch Tie 6.3 Pentacle Chest Tie 6.4 Futomomo (Thigh) Tie 6.4.1 Letter M Open-Leg Tie 6.4.2 Crab Tie 6.5 Tortoise Shell Tie/Rhombus Rope 6.6 Arm Binder Tie 6.6.1 Strappado Tie 6.7 Shoulder Carrying Pole Carrier Tie

7 TAKATE KOTE (TK) SHIBARI TIE 7.1 Basic Form 7.1.1 Steps of the Tie 7.1.2 Finer Points 7.1.3 Prevention of Nerve Compression 7.2 Decorations 7.2.1 V Neck 7.2.2 Akechi Denki Style - Ushoro Takete Tasuki-Gake 7.3 Ebi Tie and Reverse Ebi Tie 7.3.1 Agura Tie, Ebi Tie 7.3.2 Reverse Ebi Tie 8 PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS 8.1 Application of Furniture 8.2 Application of Suspension Points 8.3 About Semenawa ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS About BDSM Taiwan Biographies

Some people see kinbaku as a beautiful and cruel expression of sexual desire, while others see it as a refined performance art. Whichever view you may hold, kinbaku – also known as shibari – has become a symbol of Japanese SM. Since the Second World War, BDSM communities in the West have explored and

defined concepts such as Dominant, submissive, Top, bottom, and other related terminology. By doing so, they have established a foundation for the long-term development of a BDSM subculture. However, in Japan, there seems to be a lack of this kind of social movement. Fans of SM explore this aspect of their sexuality through videos and books, as well as through watching bakushi [rope bondage masters, teachers, or artists] talk about their profession, their experiences in the SM lifestyle, and their understanding of roles of SM practitioners. Accordingly, bakushi have played a very influential part in the forming of Japanese SM subculture. Kinbaku has also become popular among BDSM circles in the West since the turn of the century. Aficionados from all over the world have formed interest and practice groups, and some have made pilgrimages to Japan to study this art. Well-known bakushi have become international celebrities. Meanwhile, BDSM circles in the West have continued their longstanding tradition of sharing and publicizing knowledge. The flourishing community-based kink culture has established an efficient network to share knowledge on shibari. As a result, in the past decade, the level of kinbaku accomplishment in the West has advanced rapidly. I believe that the top players in the West have remarkably attained the same level of quality as those well-known bakushi in Japan, and a number of upcoming aficionados in the West are equally remarkable. With a high level in both quality and quantity, Western kinbaku circles already have the ability to rely on themselves to explore, comprehend, and develop new skills of kinbaku. Taiwan and other Chinese-speaking regions benefit from a proximity to Japan, and subsequentially have been in contact with kinbaku earlier than the West. However, whereas the West ha
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