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Do you own a scarf? Then you’re ready.
If you're looking for a surefire way to spice things up in the bedroom, your mind might jump to handcuffs. But I'll do you one better: Try using rope.
ICYDK, if you're looking to dip a toe into kink , bondage is a great place to start. Most of the tools you need to fulfill your BDSM fantasies are lying around your house already. But, before you grab the nearest bandana and strap your partner to a kitchen chair, there are a few things you should know.
Establishing how to approach rope bondage might be an intimidating process if you've never tried it. Before you and your partner get into it, many experts suggest it’s a good idea to agree on your desired roles and boundaries. For example, figure out whether you'd rather be the dominant partner who takes on more leadership and control, or would you rather be the submissive one, who prefers to give up that control to their partner.
You should also talk to your partner about what you do/don't want done to you, how much pressure you’re into, and what safe word will signal when one of you has had enough.
If this isn’t your first time incorporating BDSM into your partnership, then this process might be second nature to you. But either way, preparation beforehand is always necessary. Here’s a few things to keep in mind before getting started.
Research is a must if it’s your first time using rope. Get familiar with what positions you want to try out and how to execute them properly. There are plenty of websites you can check out dedicated to explaining rope play. Elle Chase , CSE, ACS, a certified sex educator, recommends Remedial Ropes as a good place to start learning. Doing sufficient research will give you a better sense of where to tie, how tight, etc., says Chase.
If you’re interested in trying rope play or any other form of BDSM, consent should be an ongoing conversation. "Consent, communication, and trust are essential for a strong relationship—sexual or otherwise," says Chase. "Incorporating consensual bondage into sex play builds and fortifies essential trust between partners, and requires that communication be deft and clear."
Aside from doing your own research, there are also classes and workshops you can attend to get some real hands-on experience, says Francesca Gentille , PhD, clinical sexologist and professor at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology. Rope bondage is never risk-free as there is the possibility for nerve damage amongst other things, so it’s best for all participants to familiarize themselves with any safety issues that can pop up during practice. "Think R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)," says Gentille.
With safety being the priority, it doesn’t hurt to create some sort of escape plan in the event of an emergency. A good option is keeping the ties that bind the wrists and ankles loose until you get comfortable, says Chase. As you get better with the ties and make them tighter, you can also have a pair of safety scissors handy just in case, adds Gentile.
If executed correctly and with caution, a strong bond of trust can be formed between you and your partner. " When the rope tier, rigger, or dominant listens well, notices beautifully, and attunes to the one being tied, there is a sense of growing intimacy, anticipation, and arousal," say Gentille.
Aftercare is always needed after a scene and is usually negotiated before you start a scene. The purpose of aftercare is to make sure both participants level out mentally and physically. For scenes that can be physically depleting, Gentille recommends a blanket, snacks, and a bottle of water. She also adds that it’s a good idea to check in with your partner a few days after to see if anything other thoughts or feelings have come up. “Aftercare (done well), both immediately after a scene or session, and days later, is an opportunity to deepen your relationship, build trust, and hold space for any triggers and healing,” says Gentille. “If not handled well the opposite can happen. [You] can break trust or rewound and trigger feelings of abandonment [in your partner].”
Once the specifics are out of the way, then it's finally time to play. If you don't have any rope casually laying around your home, don’t worry. Plenty of other household items, like a scarf or a tie, can serve as great alternatives. Whatever tool you've got on hand, get ready to explore these 18 best bondage positions:
How to: Missionary is the easiest possible position for beginner bondage. Simply lie on your back with your arms above your head and your legs spread, then have your partner bind your wrists and ankles to the bed frame.
Licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin recommended Sportsheets’ under-the-bed restraint system ($29, amazon.com ) in a previous interview with Women's Health , because its velcro cuffs are easily removable for a quick escape if/when you decide you no longer want to be bound.
How to: Have your partner lie on their back and bind their wrists and ankles, either together or to the bed frame, with a silk scarf, a tie, or heck, even your own underwear. Once they’re adequately restrained, straddle them facing forward or away, whichever you prefer.
Because they’re tied down, you can switch it up as often as you see fit—playing with your clit, or maybe pulsing a bullet vibe on your partner's perineum, nipples, or clit (try the Tenga Iroha Stick, $20, amazon.com ). Basically, you get to do whatever you want—you’re in charge.
Whether you opt for standard or reverse cowgirl, woman-on-top positions provide a perfect opportunity for you to take complete control.
How to: Lie with your stomach flat on the mattress (or wherever you’re going to be having sex) and have your partner bind your wrists together over your head. Maybe have them blindfold you , too, because why the hell not?
Then, have them lift your hips to enter you from behind, keeping your shoulders down and your knees rooted while he (or she) thrusts.
How to: Bend over and have your partner bind your wrists to your ankles, with your feet anchored shoulder-width apart for better balance.
Have your partner enter you from behind, keeping their hands on your hips to make sure you don’t topple over. Try a hands-free couples vibrator, like the Eva II ($135), for added clitoral stimulation.
How to: Lie down with your back flush to the mattress and then lift your hips into the air, as if you were doing a bridge in yoga. Then, have your partner bind your wrists behind your back and grab your butt, so you can wrap your legs around their waist as they thrust. (This one is like the leap frog, but in reverse.)
How to: For this one, grab a sturdy chair and park your partner’s butt in it. Then, tie their wrists and ankles to the frame, and once they’re ready to go—after a little oral sex , maybe—straddle them and pump up and down. Whether you face them or turn away is entirely up to you.
How to: First, grab two ties, one for your eyes and one for your wrists. Have your partner blindfold you and bind your wrists in front of you, so they hang down by your hips. Once you’re all tied up, they can take the reins in foreplay, before rolling you onto your side and entering you from behind. As they rock into you, they can surprise you with nipple tweaks and strokes, keeping stimulation on your clit. The best part: You get to lie back and enjoy the feels.
A big part of what makes spoon sex such a winner: Easy access to the clit and nips.
How to: Have your partner kneel and sit back on their legs. Loosely bind their wrists together behind their back and sit with your back facing your partner's front. From there, straddle your partner's thighs, bending your knees so that your legs are alongside your partners. Your partner can then use their hips to thrust, without using their arms or legs.
How to: Have your partner sit in an armless chair with their ankles loosely bound together and their wrist tied together behind the back of the chair. Face your partner and straddle their lap. For extra leverage, hold onto your partner's shoulders while you ride.
How to: To best introduce bondage in a knees-to-chest position, have your partner bind your ankles and calves together. Then, while you’re lying on your back, drape your legs over his shoulder as your partner penetrates you. You can also make use of those restraints or even cuffs, and have your partner bind your wrists above your head.
How to: For this one, assume roughly the same position as leap frog, but have your partner handcuff your wrists behind your back and spread your legs. They should kneel between your legs and enter you from behind while your body is flat against the mattress, ground, kitchen table, wherever. Then, have them reach a hand around to stroke your clitoris —because to neglect it would be very rude indeed.
How to: Lying on your back with your legs spread wide, have your partner straddle you while facing your toes. Once they’re situated, wrap your legs around their waist and tip your pelvis up, allowing them to slide back and enter you.
Then, grab your anal toy of choice, lubricate it generously, and work it while your partner rides. (Please note, anal always goes better when the receiving party is really aroused, so preface this position with plenty of foreplay.)
Because the butt is right there, other teasing options include slaps and pinches. If your partner has balls, Snow Angel also gives you prime access: Consider some light testicular tugging, whatever your partner is comfortable with and enjoys.
How to: First things first, ready your restraints, whether that’s the aforementioned under-the-bed system or simply scarves or rope. Have your partner bind your wrists, either to the bed frame or above your head, while you lie in missionary position. Then, spread your legs in a V-shape and lift them toward your head. Have your partner help with this, pushing your ankles back (as far as feels good for you) and holding them in place while they thrust.
Easy to execute without too much maneuvering, the Valedictorian remains a classic because it offers solid G-spot stimulation in combination with a good stretch.
How to: For this position, bend over the bed and have your partner bind your ankles, and then wrists together. Have your partner stand behind you with one leg on either side of yours and enter. Your partner can use their free hands to stimulate other areas, like the nipples or clitoris.
How to: For a more advanced option, have your partner secure the leg tie so that both legs are locked together. From there, your partner can either spoon you while on the bed or can stand up for more leverage.
How to: Have your partner complete a simple box tie so that your wrists are tied in a horizontal position and then tied across the chest and shoulders to create a harness. From there, have your partner stand up or lean over the side of the bed for genital or anal entrance, says Amanda Pasciucco , a certified sex therapist in Connecticut.
How to: Have your partner tie you so that your legs are bent at the knees and your thighs are pressed to your chest (kind of like a fetal position). While this position may be trickier for penetration, it's a great option for other forms of play.
How to: Have your partner tie your ankles together. Then have them tie your wrists behind your back, and tie the wrists and ankles together.
This tie can be a great option for giving or receiving oral sex. ( Note: Beginners should opt for cuffs or clips that can be easily removed instead of rope as some people may struggle to breathe in this position.)
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Why are people aroused by pregnancy risk?
S ocial media platforms like TikTok spin more and more examples of kinks that have been relatively underground until revelations hit avid viewers.
Fetishes like age play, shibari and other forms of bondage have public air time in general audiences. People confess realizing they are attracted to hands or feet in average conversation.
Outside of social media, the pornography industry has long been a bastion of misogyny popularizing degradation, sexual assault, and other forms of violence against women.
The specific kink for this discussion is "breeding" or "breeding kink." A breeding kink is generally defined as being aroused by the act of ejaculating inside of women with the intentional risk of pregnancy. For women, it is being aroused by the risk of becoming pregnant.
The state of pregnancy is not the fetish here, that is a different brand of kink entirely. This kink does not fetishize the labor or birth, it also does not correlate to lactation fetishes. Instead, a breeding kink is more focused on the pleasure of risking pregnancy. This kink might be closely related to feeling aroused by being submissive in the case of the woman and feeling dominant for the male.
Whether or not a pregnancy is possible is, ironically, not always the arousal factor. A breeding kink can also be fulfilled in sexual interactions using contraceptives, in these cases the fetish centers more around role playing the breeding portion but limiting STD risk. In other cases, without contraception, the breeding kink can be augmented by the added risk of getting an STD.
Although it is well established in non-binary, queer, and lesbian communities that these kinks exist for those who are biologically unable to be impregnated or impregnate their partner, this kink exists for women who can and may become pregnant as well.
Male partners in this framework are marking territory, claiming dominance, or staking ownership over their female or partners.
Male-centered dominance, specifically in heteronormative interactions, is an agent of the patriarchy. We also bring those constructs into the bedroom.
Some factors of the breeding kink may be unintentionally biblical. Christianity endows men with ownership and dominance over women, while it divorces women from their bodily autonomy, insists on submission, reinforces pregnancy as a form of punishment and misery, all while driving faithfulness to a single man.
Timothy 2:11-14 declares that “a woman must learn in quietness and full submissiveness... do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; she is to remain quiet.”
“It is not far-fetched to wonder if a breeding kink could be ingrained but unrealized religious trauma and indoctrination.”
As far as pregnancy, birth and bodily autonomy goes, in Genesis 3:16, God tells Eve “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”
That isn’t even in the fine print. Genesis 9:1 advises Noah and his sons to “be fruitful and multiply and fill the Earth...”. Genesis 1:28 discusses the creation of men and women wherein God offers the same advice but adds “fill the Earth and subdue it” to the list of things “man” must do.
If you believe that society, especially in countries like the United States, builds social constructs around biblical tropes, it is not far-fetched to wonder if a breeding kink could be ingrained but unrealized religious trauma and indoctrination.
Dominating female partners by way of attaching them to pregnancy and therefore a child would, in this sense, be a way of further subjecting women to one of the world’s favorite forms of control - removing bodily autonomy. Pregnancy is, in a way, sacrificing your body to further the population and create more people to support male-centered initiatives. For many women, pregnancy and the resulting child is another way patriarchal control can be applied through financial instability, anti-choice laws, and the withdrawal of male partners who do not support their offspring.
Female slaves in the United States, and globally, were historically subjected to forced breeding. The desire for pregnancy was not an option for these women. Masters coerced by threat of position or outright assaulted, female slaves. Traditionally the female slave experience existed “in the periphery.” However, revisionist historians have traced the practice and suggested that this was a way to manufacture more slaves in order to avoid having to pay for them at auction and ensured continuity of production.
Female slaves at auction were raped, sexually assaulted and exposed in order to make them more attractive to buyers as fertile, attractive and young. The ability to reproduce, a unique trait of women, was a selling point. Breeding, in this case, brought financial stability for plantations whose production required slavery to function. The womb was a commodity.
“The risk in anti-choice areas is that this kink becomes a liability on your quality of life and, potentially, your health.”
Society scales the value of women off of a few well-known constructs, not the least of which is her modesty and how she can be utilized as a reproductive tool while purposefully separating her from her sexual power. Women’s bodies are policed by legislature and moral imperatives. But let’s discuss the biological imperative argument.
A favorite stance that excuses rape is the argument for biological imperatives.
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