Blended Orgasm

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Here's a more intense climax to add to your repertoire. Your new slogan may become "I'll take mine blended."
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Okay, you've heard of a clitoral orgasm and you've heard of the G-spot kind — both damn good in their own right. Now imagine if you blended the two types for one phenomenal fireworks-like finale. Yep, you can actually do that. It takes some specific techniques — which we teach you here — and a bit of practice, but experts say it's a skill you can master.
As we said, a blended O is the combo of the two different ways women can climax. Clitoral orgasms usually come on faster because that area is so accessible. G-spot orgasms — named for the dime-size pleasure zone behind your inner vaginal wall — are considered much more intense because they reverberate from inside your body. "By simultaneously having your clitoris and G-spot stroked, you mix the unique sensations of each peak into one, resulting in a longer, deeper experience," explains Ava Cadell, PhD, a certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.
This kind of big bang won't just leave you feeling ah -mazing; your guy will reap its benefits too. "A blended orgasm requires different touches on two distinct body areas, and this extra effort naturally slows him down and helps him last longer," says Cadell. Plus, men love it when a woman really loses herself in lust. Watching you experience twice the power of a regular O will absolutely drive him over the edge as well.
Before you pursue a blended O with your guy, it's a good idea to learn the ropes on your own so you're then able to better direct him, explains Lori Buckley, PsyD, a certified sex therapist in Pasadena, California.
The best way to start is by lying on your back comfortably and letting your body de-stress. When you feel relaxed, begin manually stroking your clitoris lightly. As you become more aroused, increase your pressure and speed until you're close to reaching your peak.
Once you're near the brink, take your hand off your clitoris and move it to your G-spot. If you're not sure where yours is, locate it this way: Insert a finger palm-up about an inch or two into your vagina, feeling for a spongy or puckered area along the front wall. You'll know you've found it when a warm, sexy sensation washes over you...one that may even make you feel like you need to pee (because your G is near your bladder, it can trigger the urge to urinate, but don't worry, this should subside in a few seconds).
As you massage your G and become increasingly excited, resume stimulating your clitoris with your other hand or a vibrator...but don't take your finger off your G-spot. "While touching both, charge full speed ahead until you reach an explosive, pulsing kind of climax," says Buckley. If it doesn't happen the first time, practice, practice, practice.
Once you've located your G-spot and know how to bring yourself to a blended orgasm, you're ready to go for it with him. This position should make it easier: Lie on your back on the bed, your feet dangling over the edge, with a few pillows underneath your bottom to raise your pelvis. "It'll be easier for your man's penis to hit your G-spot if your vagina is elevated," says Buckley.
Have your guy stand or kneel (depending on how tall he is and how far off the floor the bed is) as he penetrates you. You two will form an L shape; he shouldn't lean too far over your body because you'll soon need room to reach down and touch your clitoris. Once he's inside you and you feel his penis stroke your G, have him thrust until you feel close to climax...then ask him to stop and remain very still. Let him watch as you softly tease your clitoris with your fingers. "Switch back and forth between touching your clitoris and stopping and having him thrust until you can't take it anymore and you have to do both moves at the same time. It'll lead to an incredibly explosive finale," says Cadell.
Once you've mastered this missionary move, test-drive a few slightly trickier — yet superpleasurable — positions. One option is a blended O during doggie-style. "When you're on all fours and he's thrusting from behind, his penis naturally finds your G-spot," says Buckley. Lean your upper body against the bed for support while reaching down and massaging your clitoris as he thrusts.
But doggie-style offers a bigger bonus: You can make him do all the work. His hand is free to rub your clitoris as he thrusts, putting him totally in charge of the two different types of stimulation.
If you crave more control over the G-spot stroking, try woman on top. "Face your guy, lower yourself onto his body, and lean forward. You'll feel his penis tickling your G-spot," says Cadell. "Because you're on top, you can thrust fast or slow, up and down, or in circles while you or he touches your clitoris."
Or by leaning far enough forward as you thrust, your clitoris will rub against his pelvis, creating completely hands-free stimulation that will culminate in blended-O nirvana.

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You think you’re pretty good at sex, huh? You know that size is less important than technique, that energy and enthusiasm count for a lot, where the clitoris is, how to give head and how to give her an orgasm .
But do you know how to give her a blended orgasm?
Blended orgasms are neither mythical nor mystical — they’re simple, straightforward and you can achieve them fairly easily if you know what they are and how they work. They’re also an incredible sensation, and adding the ability to give your partner a blended orgasm to your sexual toolbox can help take you from a good lover to a great one.
“A blended orgasm often refers to an orgasm that results from stimulation of multiple pathways at the same time,” says Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the “@SexWithDrJess” podcast .
Sex educator Kenneth Play breaks that down in concrete terms: “Simply put, a blended orgasm is when clitoral stimulation is combined with internal vaginal stimulation to bring your partner to orgasm.”
Splitting your attention between both the clitoris and G-spot allows for a more intense pleasure to grow into that explosive “O.”
“Blended orgasms tend to be much more intense than clitoral or G-spot orgasms on their own,” notes Kayla Lords, sexpert for JackAndJillAdult.com . “Pleasure is felt in multiple areas at once — externally through the clitoris and internally through the G-spot.”
Not only does that mean more and more varied pleasure, it’s also potentially easier to achieve than attempting an orgasm by vaginal penetration alone.
“Research from OMGYes says that while only 18 percent of women can orgasm from penetration alone, 73 percent can orgasm from penetration combined with clitoral stimulation,” says Play. “Clitoral orgasms can be considered the more reliable orgasm and stimulation, but we also know that G-spot orgasms access the internal clitoral structure via the bulbs, and other internal orgasms are possible and can be immensely pleasurable too.”
However, the specific why of what makes blended orgasms so powerful isn’t 100 percent clear yet.
“For some women, their clitoris is much more sensitive and so feels pleasure on a surface level,” notes Lords. “For women who enjoy G-spot stimulation , this may be reported as a deeper or slower building pleasure. When a blended orgasm occurs, it can feel like it’s exploding out of the body in all directions.”
In more immediate terms, that means your partner will be feeling different types of pleasure, and in different places in the body.
“Some people report feeling tingling through their arms and legs,” she adds. “Some people feel their muscles clench — not just in their vulva and vagina, but also their stomach. Blended orgasms tend to be full-body orgasms.”
If you’re trying to give someone a blended orgasm, you need to be able to multitask. You’re attempting to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot at the same time which, if you’re not used to, might not feel super natural at first.
Luckily, there are a host of different ways to do that, using a combination of your fingers, your penis or even sex toys. Alternately, your partner can join in, for instance, by taking over clitoral stimulation while you focus on the G-spot.
If one method feels difficult or just not terribly sexy, keep experimenting! Trying different variations of the above will give you a sense of what’s easiest, and you’ll get a chance to see what works best for you (and your partner) both in terms of what’s most comfortable and in terms of what’s most pleasurable.
Perhaps the most important part of improving at any sex act is communication with your partner. What works for one person might feel terrible for another; what’s exciting for one may freak out or bore the next.
“Listen to their direction on what feels good,” says Lords. “The clitoris may need different kinds of stimulation than the G-spot.”
Rather than acting confident and making assumptions, ask what feels good, what you can improve at and be open to critical or constructive feedback. Having a few conversations about it in the early going, even if they’re a little bit awkward, can make for much more successful attempts later on.
Just because you’re stimulating two different parts of the body doesn’t mean you get to go half as hard on each. Bringing your partner to a blended orgasm will require similar amounts of focus and determination you bring to an orgasm focusing on just one erogenous zone.
“I talk about consistency a lot, but it is especially crucial for blended orgasms,” says Play. “Consistent stimulation of the clitoris in exactly the spot/speed/pressure that your partner loves. And consistent internal stimulation after you calibrate to the right location and pressure to reach the pleasure threshold there. You're consistently building up pleasure in all the spots.”
Many guys aren’t as big fans of lube as they should be. There’s an assumption, perhaps, that a real man will get his partners wet enough that there won’t be a need for any.
That’s bunk, however — for starters, some people naturally produce more lubricant than others, and various factors can greatly impact someone’s ability to get wet from one sexual encounter to another, especially if you’re having a lot over a short period of time. For that reason, having a good lubricant in the mix is crucial.
“Add plenty of lube,” advises Lords. “The wetter, the better. This helps fingers and toys glide across the clit more easily and helps make penetration more comfortable.”
That sense of caution around lube ratchets up to a full-blown dislike of sex toys for many guys. Our recommendation? Leave those insecurities at the door.
“If the point of giving your partner a blended orgasm is so they’ll feel amazing, don’t be intimated by sex toys,” says Lords. “Certain products can provide both external and internal stimulation, giving your hand a break. And in some cases, you can use a dildo or vibrator for penetration while your tongue or fingers work the clit.”
So which toys should you get? Well, the experts have some suggestions.
Because: “In terms of toys, the We-Vibe Nova is perfect for a blended orgasm,” says O’Reilly, “as its inner vibrating arm curls against the G-spot and the outer vibrating arm rumbles against the hood, shaft and head of the clitoris externally.” $142.50 at JackandJillAdult.com
Because: “Rabbit vibrators are the first (and sometimes best) sex toy to use for blended orgasms,” explains Lords. She also suggests trying the Pretty Love Natural Motion Thrusting Rabbit or the Posh Silicon Thumper G . $23.66 at JackandJillAdult.com
Because: “If you have a penis, the Verge is a good option which provides stimulation of the penile shaft, balls and perineum (against the inner bulb of the penis),” says O’Reilly. $119 at AdamEve.com
Because: “Vibrating cock rings may also be a good option if your partner genuinely orgasms through penetrative sex and enjoys clitoral stimulation, too,” says Lords. $71.25 at JackandJillAdult.com
Because: “My current favorite combination is the Njoy Pure Wand for some amazing G-spot stimulation (my absolute go-to) plus the Le Wand Petite which is a wand vibrator in a slightly smaller size, which makes it less obtrusive when combined with other toys or penetration,” suggests Play. $129.99 at LoveHoney.com
Because: “The powerful motor of the Le Wand stimulates the clitoris on all angles of the exterior glans and sends vibrations deep into the body, pleasuring the entire clitoris organ,” says Play “The curve of the Njoy Pure Wand uses leverage to rock up against the G-spot to add an extra burst of sensation to the internal part of the clitoris.” $135 at Amazon.com
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Blended orgasms are where clitoral and G-spot orgasms meet to take you to the next level of orgasmic bliss. While it might sound a little bit like a swanky cocktail you’d find at a trendy nightclub, I can assure you these are better than any beverage a bartender could concoct. So let's dive in to what you need to know about blended orgasms and the best techniques to help you achieve one.
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First things first: You need to know your anatomy and how to find your clitoris and G-spot. Contrary to popular belief, your clitoris is not just a little button sitting on top of your urethra. In fact, this is just the tip of the iceberg, and what is known as the glans of the clitoris . When you become aroused, the clitoris swells, and the skin covering the glans (known as the clitoral hood) moves to expose this area further.
Picture your clitoris like a wishbone. The glans is the intersection of the two bones and is external. The majority of the clitoris is internal and extends down on each side and is estimated to be about 8 to 10 centimeters long and spans each side of the vaginal opening. It's a little more complex than how we were taught to think about the clitoris, but it's also a whole lot more exciting. When you become aroused, the entire clitoris swells because it is made of erectile tissue, much like a penis.
But when it comes to blended orgasms, locating your clitoris is just one part of the equation: You also need to find your G-spot. One of the easiest tricks to find your G-spot is to get aroused first, which is why locating your clitoris is so important. When you're aroused, blood rushes into the pelvis and can make this area a lot more pronounced.
Once you're aroused, insert your finger about 2 to 3 inches deep with your palm facing up. Your G-spot will feel subtly different from the other tissue in the vagina. Some women describe it as rough, or feeling a bit softer than the roof your mouth. The size of the G-spot can vary, and it may be as small as the tip of your finger, or it may be as large as a half-dollar. Take some time in exploring your terrain to locate your G-spot and be patient with yourself if you’ve never gone searching before.
Now that you know how to find your clitoris and your G-spot, it’s time to combine the two to create a blended orgasm. If you've been looking to next-level your orgasms, well, the blended orgasm is where it's at. So let's dive in on how to achieve this, either with a partner or by yourself.
One of the best ways you can help your partner in delivering a mind-blowing orgasm is to start with getting to know your body and what works for you. You can use your hand or a toy to simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and your G-spot to reach a blended orgasm. When using a toy, you can try one that provides clitoral stimulation or internal only, or use a toy that combines both.
Here's another great approach: Start by stimulating your clitoris and increasing arousal. Remember, this will increase the blood flow to your pelvis and make your G-spot easier to locate. Once you've brought yourself to a heightened state of arousal, try inserting a finger or two, or maybe a toy, to access your G-spot. How do you know when you’re on it? When the crazy, sexy sensations start moving through your body. Once you have your G-spot dialed in, begin incorporating clitoral stimulation simultaneously. It can take a bit to find your rhythm, but once you do, it is all hands on deck (pun intended). With a blended orgasm, women report experiencing a pulsing, breath-grabbing moment of complete ecstasy.
If you feel you can’t get there the first time, no worries. It can take some practice. And, girl, there are much worse things you could be practicing.
Like the best of sex, position is everything. If this your first attempt at a blended orgasm, start out lying on your back, allowing your partner to penetrate you while you or they simultaneously stroke your clitoris. Hands can get a bit tricky due to the space restrictions two bodies coming together create. I recommend women try placing a pillow or two under their pelvis and having their partner keep their torso more upright.
If you and your partner are struggling to find a rhythm that allows for both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, try them one at a time. Take
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