Bisexual Friends

Bisexual Friends
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Pay attention to what the person says about people's attractiveness. Bisexual people can find either sex attractive, though they won't be attracted to everyone. To figure out if they may be bi, listen to them comment on other people's bodies. Additionally, point out attractive people to them and see how they respond. [1]
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For instance, let's say you're at the beach with your friend. A guy who is bi might say things like, "That girl is fine," while also saying things like, "I'm so distracted by that guy's abs."
Keep in mind that this doesn't necessarily mean the person is bi. Some people are just comfortable talking about people's bodies.

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Reflect on the person's past relationships and crushes. If the person is bisexual, they may have dated or had crushes on people of any gender. Listen to what they have to say about their partners or crushes. Additionally, consider what they've shared with you about who they're interested in dating. [2]
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For instance, let's say you know your friend has been dating a guy recently but previously had a close relationship to a girl that seemed romantic. This could mean your friend is bi, but not necessarily.
Similarly, let's say you know a guy who often dates women, but he's also talked about how he thinks a mutual male friend is the perfect guy. He may be bi.

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Notice if they use "they" when talking about dates or crushes. Someone who is bi and in the closet might not want you to know the gender of the person they're dating or crushing on. Instead of using "he" or "she," they might use "they" or "them" when referring to the person. Listen to them closely to see if they tend to do this. [3]
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For instance, they might say something like, "I ran into my ex the other day. They're doing well, but I'm still glad we broke up."
They might also be using "they" because it's their date's preferred pronoun or because they think gendered pronouns are outdated. Don't automatically assume that they might be bi.

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Recognize if they refuse to talk about their love life. Someone who is bi may not like talking about who they date because they're worried they'll accidentally reveal too much. Consider if the person never wants to talk about their love life, even if you ask about it. Then, tell them about what's going on in your love life to see if they reciprocate. [4]
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You might say, "Dating has been rough lately. Last weekend I had a first date, but it didn't go well." Then, see if they share.
Don't pressure them to talk because they may not be ready. Additionally, don't assume that someone is bi because they won't open up to you. They may just be a private person.

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Avoid making assumptions based on how someone looks or speaks. Sometimes media representations show bisexual people as either androgynous or over sexualized. However, both of these stereotypes are misrepresentations. Don't judge someone based on the clothes they wear, the hairstyle they choose, the way they walk or move, or the way they talk. [5]
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For example, don't assume a girl who prefers short hair and masculine clothing must be a lesbian or bisexual.

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Recognize that there are many different types of sexuality. Sexuality is a complex topic that's full of grey areas, so you can't assume that the person will label themself as bisexual even if they're attracted to more than one gender. In addition to gay, lesbian, bisexual, and straight, they could identify with one of the following: [6]
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Pansexual or omnisexual means you're attracted to people regardless of gender.
Sexually fluid means your sexual identity can change.
Ambisexual means you're attracted to both genders and may be used as a replacement term for bisexual.
Asexual means you aren't sexually attracted to other people.

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Discuss your own sexuality to bring up the topic. Being open about your sexuality, no matter what it is, can make others feel comfortable opening up to you. Bring up the topic of sexuality to see if they're open to talking about it. If they seem comfortable, tell them about your sexual identity. [7]
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You might say, "I'm watching this TV show that has great gay and bi representation. What did you think of the characters?" If they have a positive response to the topic, you might add, "I'm bi, so I like that they're not sticking to stereotypes."

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Tell them that you're a supporter of the LGBTQ+ community. Coming out can be scary when you don't know how the other person feels about LGBTQ+ issues. Expressing your support for the community will tell them that you're an ally without suggesting anything about their sexuality. Be open about your position and let them know you'll be there for your LGBTQ+ friends. [8]
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You might say, "I think love is love, so I'm an ally for the LGBTQ+ community," or "I started questioning my sexuality when I was a preteen, and I finally realized last year that I'm a lesbian. Now I'm trying to support my friends who are LGBTQ+."

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Ask them about their sexuality if they seem comfortable talking about it. The only way to be truly sure someone is bi is to ask them. If you think they'll be comfortable sharing their sexual identity with you, just go ahead and ask. If they rebuff the question, change the subject and respect their privacy. [9]
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Say something like, "Have you ever questioned your sexuality?" or "Do you think you could be bisexual?"
If they don't want to answer, say, "No worries. How has work been lately?"

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Allow them to decide whether or not they want to come out. You likely have good intentions, but it's important to remember that they don't have to be honest with you. A person's sexuality is private, so don't pressure them to tell you if they aren't ready. Give them the time and space they need to come out to you. Additionally, don't out them if they do come out to you. [10]
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If they tell you they're bi, keep that information to yourself. If someone asks you about it, say, "If you want to know, you'll have to ask them."

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Don't discuss someone's sexuality with other people. You might be afraid to talk to the person about their sexuality, and that's understandable. However, it's not okay to discuss it with other people or ask people if they think the person is bi. This is gossiping and can lead to rumors and hurt feelings. Keep your thoughts and questions about their sexuality to yourself until you're ready to talk to them directly. [11]
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For instance, don't say, "I heard that Ashley and Lauren kissed last night. Do you think they're bi?"

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Ask them on a date if they tell you they're bisexual. Once you know for sure that they're open to dating either sex, try asking them on a date. Let them know that you're interested in seeing them romantically, then suggest an activity that you both enjoy. [12]
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Say, "I really like hanging out with you and I think we could be more than friends. Would you like to go mini golfing with me on Friday as a first date?"
Keep in mind that being bisexual doesn't automatically mean that they're attracted to everyone. It's possible that they won't be interested in a romantic relationship.

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Invite them out as friends if you're not sure they're bisexual. It's hard to just be friends with someone you're crushing on, but developing a friendship with them can help you figure out if they're open to dating you. Consider your common interests, then choose an activity that you'll both enjoy. Ask them to join you for that activity as a friend outing. [13]
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For instance, let's say you both like a local band. You might say, "The Hatracks are playing on Friday. Do you want to go with me?"

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Spend time with them so they feel comfortable opening up to you. Ask them to hang out so your friendship will become deeper. Additionally, text or message them every day so you're constantly in touch. This will help them feel comfortable around you so that they may open up to you about their sexuality. [14]
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Be open about your own sexuality so that they're more likely to talk about there's.
You could say, "I still remember my first crush on a girl. Has that ever happened to you?"

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Flirt with them if you think they might be interested in you. First, give them a small compliment about their looks. Then, try commenting on their body. If they seem receptive, give them a pet name to see if they reciprocate. When you feel ready, try touching them lightly to break the touch barrier. [15]
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Take things slow so that you're both comfortable with what's happening.
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