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Feb 19, 2016, 07:27 AM EST | Updated Sep 27, 2018
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Let's dispense with the old-people-have-sex jokes , shall we? As the STD rate clearly indicates , people 60 and older are indeed having sex -- and plenty of it. But are they having the "right" kind of "safe" sex? And by right and safe, we mean sex that won't throw out their backs or hurt their knees -- two very vulnerable areas.
Dr. Pepper Schwartz, AARP's Love, Sex and Relationship Ambassador and author of 22 books , said that as boomers age, backs and knees can get a bit creaky. "Pain can be a real downer if you are trying to make love without distraction -- much less discomfort," she said. It just makes sense to favor positions that will help you feel as comfortable as possible. She suggests these three:
Spooning is best-known as the cuddle position and for many, it's more of a go-to position post-coitally -- during which both parties fall asleep. Schwartz suggests making it the main attraction. For maximum effect, the male cuddles up to the female's back. She can either just press back against him and he can penetrate her from behind or lift a leg and he can enter from an angle. It's doggie style, but with no pressure on knees.
"This is a great position for backs and even larger tummies," said Schwartz.
With both partners lying on their backs, the female throws one leg over the male's body and picks an angle that allows entry.
"Very comfortable," notes Schwartz.
In the chair position, the male sits down and the woman faces him, sitting on his lap. One important note: The chair needs to be low enough to the ground that the woman can touch the ground with her feet to steady herself.
"This one is really kind on the back," Schwartz said.

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When it comes to knowing what makes your partner tick in the bedroom, Googling " mind-blowing sex positions (opens in new tab) " only get you so far. Stimulating and gratifying sex is all in the timing, the communication, and the spontaneity, according to Dr. Bea Jaffrey—a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist based in Switzerland—and Mary Jo Rapini, a Houston-based psychiatrist and sex therapist. But what does that mean you should do , exactly? Fortunately, Rapini shared tips with Marie Claire about what actually works in the bedroom (lots of her tips are backed up by research, to boot!), and Jaffrey gave us some pointers from her book on overcoming common sex issues ( 159 Mistakes Couples Make in the Bedroom (opens in new tab) ).
Research suggests that better communication is key to better sex (opens in new tab) —and no, we don't necessarily mean dirty talk. Communicating what you like and don't like can be instructional and informative, no matter how much you think you already know each other's bodies. If they're doing something you like, say so rather than relying on (opens in new tab) ambiguous gestures or noises. And if it's something you're not into, communicate that or guide them in a new direction. Want to try a different angle? Suggest one. If simultaneous orgasm is your goal and you're close to climaxing, don't be mum about it.
In a 2016 study published in the Journal of Sex Research (opens in new tab) , researchers analyzed answers from 39,000 heterosexual couples that were married or cohabiting for over three years. Sexual satisfaction reported to be higher among the couples who revealed that they gave each other positive affirmation during sex and were open enough about embarrassing moments (opens in new tab) during sex to joke about them and move on. Dr. Jaffrey notes that this lighthearted approach to sex is key, saying, "Don't take life too seriously. Happy couples laugh together."
Even great sex can start to feel monotonous over time if it's more or less the same old routine. To mix things up, Marie Claire's guy expert Lodro Rinzler suggests: "If you're in bed with someone and have a sense of something new you or your partner might enjoy, be it some teasing, a change in position, anything…go for it."
Dr. Jaffrey also recommends switching up the time and place to avoid falling into a rut of once-a-week "duty sex." "Try new places to have sex, maybe on the sofa, in the car or on the kitchen countertops? Or how about the back row of a movie theater? Be careful though, because sex is illegal in public places. Try role-playing...take a bath together. Be inventive, have fun."
Long-term desire is built on a foundation of novelty. Otherwise erotic energy will naturally dissipate for most couples. Trying new things is the key to keeping the fire going.
Jaffrey notes that setting the mood for sex is vital, for women especially, and that foreplay should start long before sex even begins: "I am talking here about the mental foreplay that happens days in advance, not the one that you have just before sex. Make sure to be attentive to your partner. Small gestures and nice comments are significant to setting the right mood for sex." She also suggests keeping up communication during the day through texts or emails.
Having good sex requires knowing what you like in bed. The only way to fully understand your pleasure potential is to masturbate and explore your body. Masturbation is a healthy form of self-exploration and should be encouraged for all people, even those in relationships. Studies show (opens in new tab) that masturbation doesn't make you want sex less, it actually has the opposite effect.
Try to spend at least two days a week enjoying your own body. This will improve your sex life, because your partner is not a mind reader. When you know exactly how you like to be touched, you can better communicate your desires to your partner.
Before you put anything inside a vagina, it's important that you're fully, properly aroused. When you're aroused, the vagina expands and gets wet while the genital tissue becomes engorged with blood. This helps intercourse and penetration feel good rather than painful or uncomfortable. Be sure you're giving adequate time and attention to the clitoris. If possible, have an orgasm before penetration. Women and female-bodied people have orgasms most reliably through oral sex or with a sex toy. Make your pleasure a priority.
The power of sexy banter (opens in new tab) in the bedroom gets underplayed, but it can be a serious mood-enhancer when you're trying to liven things up together. Going about that, however, isn't the easiest for people who aren't used to actually vocalizing 50 Shades -esque fantasies (opens in new tab) . "What my [clients] benefit the most from is when they go to a bookstore or they go online and they find an erotic book," says Rapini.
She suggests that couples read from erotic books together, especially if they want to work on developing a "dirty talk" vocabulary that gives them the language cues without feeling self-conscious. Reading off scripts, she says, never works as well as if couples find a book they really like together and can build off of that jargon.
One way that Rapini counsels long-term couples on how to explore the unknown to enhance their sexual experience is to try shopping for products and toys together. That could mean anything from couples' vibrators (she recommends the remote-controlled Fiera (opens in new tab) ) to massage oils to body paint to blindfolds, though Rapini says another way to set the scene is to try adding music as sexy background noise (opens in new tab) . "Make massage part of your routine and start touching each other. Many couples will start feeling their libido rise after they do that," she says.
There is no "right amount" of sex you should be having. This is a myth. As long as both people are satisfied, you're doing great. There isn't one golden rule, but a recent study (opens in new tab) suggested that more sex doesn't mean better sex and that the happiest couples have sex only once a week.
So if you're anxious about you and your partner not screwing like rabbits, there's proof that the more energy you put into making regular weekly sex *better* will pay off in the long run. Focus on how much pleasure you and your partner are experiencing during any one session, not how often you're physically hopping in bed.
It's often underestimated how important empathy is when it comes to sex. Empathy is the care and understanding of a another person's feelings, and this is incredibly important in sex because when you feel that your partner actually cares about your pleasure, you're going to be more into having sex with them. We often come to sex with too much ego, and that's a real shame. We should be understanding and loving towards one another. Sex can be confusing, awkward, weird, and very hot. Make room for your many, many feelings in order to co-create an amazing erotic experience.

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Women and men don’t always agree about what qualifies as pleasurable sex . Due to our differing anatomies, intercourse that feels pleasurable to one partner may not be all that impressive to the other.
In this satisfaction battle of the sexes, women often lose out. “Intercourse itself seems to be designed really for giving the man pleasure,” says Deborah Caust , clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist.
There is hope, however, in the form of relatively simple sex positions, specially curated by Caust with women’s desires in mind.
Of course, none of these amount to much without foreplay (think oral sex and clitoral stimulation), proper lubrication , and communication, but combine any one of them with that trifecta, and the both of you will be well on your way to having great sex. Remember, some positions like anal sex (rear entry), doggy style, and deep penetration can be painful for women, so take the necessary steps to make her both emotionally and physically comfortable with deeper penetration.
Sex helps women in a variety of ways, including pain alleviation, better cardiovascular health, decreased melancholy and anxiety, and increased self-esteem. Here are the 10 best sex positions for women beyond face-to-face missionary that she’ll love, according to a sex therapist.

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This position is a common favorite for both men and women, as it encourages deep penetration. With the woman lying on her back (hips at the edge of the bed), the man enters her from under her legs.
Her legs can rest up against his torso or she can place her feet on his chest, options that allow her some control over what angle feels best. (Note: this position can be a bit problematic for more well-endowed men.)
The Coital Alignment Technique or CAT is penetrative sex position designed to stimulate the clitoris. It is a modification of missionary position where the woman has her legs together and the man has his apart. The man then uses his legs to move his entire body.
When done correctly this position should move the woman’s mons Venus (the fatty tissue covering the pubic bones) over the shaft of her erectile tissue, which lies under the skin.
In this position, a man will only be able to penetrate about an inch or so inside the vagina but not to worry, Caust says men still get plenty of satisfying sensation.
“Even though [men] are more used to being able to thrust inside completely, they’re feeling her thighs everywhere,” she says. “So he is getting complete stimulation anyway.”
Right away, know that this position requires some added effort and flexibility — but it pays off for the woman by offering lots of control. To get into the Amazon position, the man lies on his back and brings his knees to his chest.
The woman then squats down onto him, with his legs wrapping over hers. Variations of this position include reversing the woman’s position or having her kneel over her partner.
The ease of this position inspires its pleasant name, and it’s another great choice for full access to the clitoris. This position is a variation on an “X” position, like scissors.
Specifically, the man lies on his side and the woman lies on her back. She puts one leg over his hip and the other can wrapped around his lower leg to pull him in close.
This is for couples looking for something outside the norm. It allows for both deep insertion and total clitoral stimulation, so it’s a big win-win. To get in this position, the woman lies down on her back and the man kneels.
She places one leg on her partner’s shoulder and the other around his thigh. Some added cushioning for the woman, like a pillow , can make the experience even better.
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If you believe the studies, there is a LOT of action going on between the sheets among those over 60 -- and even among those over 70 and 80. A large body of research shows that arousal continues well into old age. Specifically, data from the University of Chicago's National Social Life, Health and Aging Project presented in the New England Journal of Medicine revealed that many men and women remain sexually active even when in their 70s and 80s.
But it's more than just the Viagra that makes sex over 60 such a satisfying experience. Many seniors have figured out how to have hot sex -- the best in their lives -- with the help of a few tips. Here are just seven of them from Joan Price, author of several books including "Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex," as well as creator of the blog Naked At Our Age.

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