Bdsm Terms And Definitions

Bdsm Terms And Definitions

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Our Hedo Dick-tionary Volume 1 and Volume 2 are a hit so by popular request, we’ve put together a third and themed installment of our word-smithing series, terms & words to know in BDSM.
Defining BDSM is a challenging thing do: the vocabulary is extensive and specific. However, the very language of BDSM is essentially a part of the play. This is by no means a complete list of kink terminology, but rather a brief selection of key terms.

Hard limits and soft limits are activities that a person in a BDSM scene won’t do. Hard limits cannot be negotiated.

A person who is dominant/a person who is submissive.

A switch refers to someone who alternates between the roles of dominant and submissive and/or top and bottom.

Breath Play is a type of BDSM play wherein the breath of one participant, often the sub, is controlled by choking or holding the breath.

In the kink community, vanilla is a term to designate “not BDSM” or people and practices outside the kink scene. As the term implies, it’s “plain, ordinary, normal.”

Daddy Dom Little Girl is a form of BDSM that often includes ageplay.

Shibari is a type of rope bondage originating in Japan that is often elaborate and intricate in its patterns.

An agreed upon word or phrase that a submissive can say during a scene to stop the activity or session immediately.
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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Erotic practices involving domination and sadomasochism
This article is about consensual adult sadomasochistic activity. For the medical condition involving non-consensual ideation or behaviour, see Sexual sadism disorder . For the medical condition in which pain/humiliation is required for sexual arousal and causes distress or impairment, see Sexual masochism disorder .
Woman wearing a collar with attached chain
A man with gagged mouth and clamped nipples
Left: A typical slave collar , along with ring for possible attachment of a leash . Such collars are worn by bottoms on their neck as a symbol of ownership to their masters . Right: The ring of O as a finger ring.
Sex, nudity and torture performed at public BDSM events, like the Folsom Street Fair in the U.S. , have been labeled as being against the law, even though the events are accepted by the local administration and police, and all acts are done with consent. [223] Left: Demonstration of cock and ball torture on a nude man at the Folsom Street Fair. Right: Breast torture done on a nude woman at the fair.

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^ Grau, Johnson (1995). "What do B&D, S&M, D&S, "top", "bottom" mean" . Leather Roses. Archived from the original on 11 January 2008 . Retrieved 27 January 2008 .

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^ Jump up to: a b Miller, Phillip; Devon, Molly; Granzig, William A. (1995). Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism . Mystic Rose Books. p. 55 . ISBN 978-0-9645960-0-9 .

^ Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday: Consensual Sadomasochism : How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely , page 64, Publisher: Daedalus Publishing Company 2006, ISBN 978-1-881943-12-9

^ "VICSS / Difference between Abuse and Power Exchange by the NLA, Dutch SM Media Information Center and Powerrotics" . Archived from the original on 16 December 2007 . Retrieved 10 December 2007 .

^ "Rack vs. SSC" . Within Reality . 2003. Archived from the original on 8 January 2007 . Retrieved 13 November 2006 .

^ Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book , Greenery Press (CA) 2002, ISBN 978-1-890159-36-8

^ Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book , page 72, Greenery Press (CA) 2002, ISBN 978-1-890159-36-8

^ Jump up to: a b c d e f Wiseman, Jay (1998). SM 101: A Realistic Introduction . California: Greenery Press. ISBN 978-0-9639763-8-3 .

^ Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book , page 71, Greenery Press (CA) 2002

^ "The Restrained Elegance lexicon of slavegirl bondage poses and positions" . www.restrainedelegance.com . Archived from the original on 23 August 2017 . Retrieved 8 August 2017 .

^ Jump up to: a b Philosophizing About Sex Archived 5 June 2021 at the Wayback Machine , PT 244

^ Matthias T. J. Grimme: Das Bondage-Handbuch. Anleitung zum erotischen Fesseln . Charon-Verlag, Hamburg 1999, ISBN 978-3-931406-16-5 . (German)

^ Lee "Bridgett" Harrington: Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé , Mystic Productions 2007, ISBN 978-0-615-14490-0 .

^ Joyal, Christian C.; Cossette, Amélie; Lapierre, Vanessa (February 2015). "What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?". The Journal of Sexual Medicine . 12 (#2): 328–340. doi : 10.1111/jsm.12734 . ISSN 1743-6095 . PMID 25359122 .

^ Wiseman, Jay (2000). Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook . CA: Greenery Press. ISBN 978-1-890159-13-9 .

^ Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday: Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely , page 71, Daedalus Publishing Company, 1996, ISBN 978-1-881943-12-9 .

^ "Face to face: Dominatrix and submissive" . BBC News . 22 September 2005. Archived from the original on 26 December 2007 . Retrieved 22 October 2009 .

^ Wiseman, Jay. "Negotiation and Negotiation Forms" . Archived from the original on 2 December 2014 . Retrieved 26 November 2014 .

^ McGreal, Scott A. "BDSM, Personality and Mental Health" . Psychology Today . Archived from the original on 3 December 2019 . Retrieved 26 November 2014 .

^ cp: Marquis de Sade: The 120 Days of Sodom , Pbl. ReadHowYouWant (1 December 2006), ISBN 978-1-4250-3448-1 , pages 407–409 "'You'll have no further use for these,' he muttered, casting each article into a large grate. 'No further need for this mantelet, this dress, these stockings, this bodice, no,' said he when all had been consumed, 'all you'll need now is a coffin.'"

^ Details describing the development of the theoretical construct "perversion" by Krafft-Ebing and his relation to this terms, see Andrea Beckmann, Journal of Criminal Justice and Popular Culture , 2001; 8(#2) 66–95 online at Deconstructing Myths Archived 3 March 2016 at the Wayback Machine

^ Isidor Isaak Sadger: "Über den sado-masochistischen Komplex" in: Jahrbuch für psychoanalytische und psychopathologische Forschungen , Bd. 5, 1913, S. 157–232 (German)

^ Krueger & Kaplan 2001, p. 393: "The DSM nomenclature referring to sexual psychopathology has been criticized as being vague and not having undergone DSM field trials." ( Note: "DSM" here is not related to "BDSM". It is the standard abbreviation for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders .)

^ Jump up to: a b c d e Barker, Iantaffi & Gupta 2007 , p. 13

^ Weiner, Irving B.; Craighead, W. Edward (2010). The Corsini Encyclopedia of Psychology, Fourth Edition Volume 4 . Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons. p. 1488. ISBN 9780470170243 .

^ Davies, Janet L.; Janosik, Ellen Hastings (1991). Mental Health and Psychiatric Nursing: A Caring Approach . Boston, MA: Jones & Bartlett Learning. pp. 390 . ISBN 0867204427 .

^ Craighead, W. Edward; Nemeroff, Charles B. (2004). The Concise Corsini Encyclopedia of Psychology and Behavioral Science . Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons. p. 562. ISBN 0471220361 .

^ Goldberg, Jeff (1988). Anatomy of a Scientific Discovery . Bantam Books, 1988. ISBN 978-0-553-34631-2 ; ISBN 978-0-553-17616-2 (British edition); ISBN 978-0-553-05261-9

^ Fries, DS (2002). "Opioid Analgesics". In Williams DA, Lemke TL. Foye's Principles of Medicinal Chemistry (5th ed.). Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins. ISBN 978-0-683-30737-5

^ Burke, Edmund (1909). On Taste: On the Sublime and Beautiful; Reflections on the French Revolution; A Letter to a Noble Lord; with Introduction, Notes and Illustrations . P. F. Collier & Son. OCLC 16729697 . Archived from the original on 13 April 2021 . Retrieved 13 April 2021 .

^ Sagarin, BradJ.; Cutler, Bert; Cutler, Nadine; Lawler-Sagarin, Kimberly A.; Matuszewich, Leslie (1 April 2009). "Hormonal Changes and Couple Bonding in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity". Archives of Sexual Behavior . 38 (#2): 186–200. doi : 10.1007/s10508-008-9374-5 . ISSN 0004-0002 . PMID 18563549 . S2CID 15989116 .

^ William Brame, Gloria Brame: Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission (paperback), Villard, 1996, ISBN 978-0-679-76956-9

^ Claudia Varrin: The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women , Citadel, 2000, ISBN 978-0-8065-2089-6

^ John Warren, PhD: The Loving Dominant , Greenery Press (CA), 2nd rev. ed., ISBN 978-1-890159-20-7

^ Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday: Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely , Daedalus Publishing Company 1996, ISBN 978-1-881943-12-9

^ David Stein: S/M's Copernican Revolution:From a Closed World to the Infinite Universe and Safe Sane Consensual: The Evolution of a Shibboleth available at s/m-leather history

^ Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday: Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely , pages 80–94, Daedalus Publishing Company 1996, ISBN 978-1-881943-12-9

^ Deborah Cameron, Don Kulick: Language and Sexuality , Page 24, Cambridge University Press 2003, ISBN 978-0-521-00969-0

^ Tristan Taormino (ed.): The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge , page 26, Cleis Press 2012, ISBN 978-1573447799

^ Gilmour, Paisley (25 January 2018). "The world's most popular 'safe words' have been revealed and wow" . Cosmopolitan . Archived from the original on 13 January 2019 . Retrieved 12 January 2019 .

^ "What is a safe word and do you need one?" . Metro . 22 February 2018. Archived from the original on 13 January 2019 . Retrieved 12 January 2019 .

^ Joseph W. Bean: Flogging , Greenery Press (CA), 2000, ISBN 978-1-890159-27-6

^ Jack Rinella: The Toybag Guide series, Greenery Press (CA), e.g. The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play , ISBN 978-1-890159-57-3

^ Arne Hoffmann, Das Lexikon des Sadomasochismus. Der Inside-Führer zur dunklen Erotik: Praktiken und Instrumente, Personen und Institutionen, Literatur und Film, Politik und Philosophie , page 42, Schwarzkopf & Schwarzkopf 2000, ISBN 978-3-89602-290-5 (German)

^ Phillip Miller, Molly Devon, William A. Granzig: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism , pp. 95, Mystic Rose Books 1995, ISBN 978-0-9645960-0-9

^ Barker, Iantaffi & Gupta 2007 , p. 6

^ Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book , page 111

^ Zane, Zachary (4 October 2019). "What Is Sexual Aftercare, and Why Is It So Important?" . Men's Health . Archived from the original on 20 July 2020 . Retrieved 20 July 2020 .

^ lunaKM. "5 Ways to Recognize Topping from the Bottom" . Archived from the original on 10 October 2014 . Retrieved 6 October 2014 .

^ Cutler 2003 , p. 99

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^ Cutler 2003 , p. 103

^ Jump up to: a b Cutler 2003 , p. 104

^ Jump up to: a b c Cutler 2003 , p. 107

^ Cutler 2003 , p. 108

^ Jump up to: a b Cutler 2003 , p. 109

^ Cutler 2003 , p. 110

^ Cutler 2003 , p. 111

^ Cutler 2003 , p. 112

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^ "What is D/s" . Archived from the original on 4 February 2012 . Retrieved 29 January 2012 . Dom Sub Glossary

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^ "Rascal's Club Rules" . Rascal's Club . Archived from the original on 29 September 2014 . Retrieved 25 May 2018 .

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^ Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book . Page 163

^ "Folsom Street Fair" . Archived from the original on 15 December 2007 . Retrieved 11 December 2007 .

^ "Fantasy becomes reality at Folsom Street Fair" . 22 September 2014. Archived from the original on 14 February 2017 .
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