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The world of BDSM contains not only its own sex acts (Is smelling a foot sex? Sure, if it gets you off!), but its own highly-robust vocabulary, too. Since all that terminology can be intimidating for newcomers, let’s start with the basics: “BDSM” stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism—the core pillars of kinky fun. Beyond that, there’s a whole language to describe the consensual power exchange practices that take place under the BDSM umbrella . Whatever you're into, just make sure to snuggle and practice lots of aftercare when it's all said and done, especially if anyone involved is a painslut and needs ice after some impact play.
At press time, “kink” is not a language you can learn on Duolingo, so here’s a handy glossary of some of the most common BDSM terms, from A to Z.
A is for Aftercare Aftercare is the practice of checking in with one another after a scene (or “play session,” a.k.a., the time in which the BDSM happens) to make sure all parties feel nice and chill about what just went down. The dominant partner may bring the submissive ice for any bruises, but it’s important to know that aftercare involves emotional care as well as physical. BDSM releases endorphins, which can lead to both dominants and submissives experiencing a “drop.” Aftercare can help prevent that. There’s often cuddling and always conversation; kinksters need love too.
B is for Bondage Bondage is the act of tying one another up. In most cases the dominant partner is restraining the submissive using ropes, handcuffs, Velcro, specialty hooks, clasps, or simply a belt if you’re on a budget.
C is for Cuckold We can’t let the alt-right ruin the term “cuck” for us. Traditionally, a cuck is a man who enjoys, often for submissive and erotic humiliation reasons, watching another man have sex with his wife. In a cuckolding scene, the other man invited to have sex with the wife is a “bull.” Female cucks are referred to as “cuck queens,” but people of all genders can be cucks.
D is for D/S D/S refers to dominance and submission, the crux of a BDSM relationship. While kinky people can be on a spectrum (see: “ Switch ”), typically you’re either dominant or submissive. If you take away one fact from this guide, it should be that even though the dominant partner in D/S relationship may be slapping, name-calling, and spitting on the submissive, BDSM and D/S relationships are all about erotic power exchange, not one person having power over another. The submissive gets to set their boundaries, and everything is pre-negotiated. The submissive likes getting slapped (see also: “Painslut”).
E is for Edgeplay Edgeplay refers to the risky shit—the more taboo (or baddest bitch, depending on who you’re talking to) end of the spectrum of BDSM activities. Everyone’s definition of edgeplay is a little different, but blood or knife play is a good example. If there’s actually a chance of real physical harm, it’s likely edgeplay. Only get bloody with a partner who knows what they’re doing without a doubt and has been tested for STIs. You don’t have to get maimed to enjoy BDSM.
F is for Foot Fetish One of the most common fetishes out there, a foot fetish is an attraction—often a need—for feet. Foot fetishists may enjoy worshiping a foot, kissing it, smelling it, massaging it, getting a footjob, licking it, sucking on toes, or ( actually ) getting stepped on.
G is for Golden Showers A golden shower is when you lovingly shower your partner with your piss. It’s high time for the BDSM community to reclaim this word from Donald Trump , who, may I remind you, allegedly paid sex workers to pee on a bed that Obama slept in out of spite. This is not the same thing as a golden shower. Kink is for smart people.
H is for Hard Limits Hard limits are sexual acts that are off-limits. Everyone has their own, and you have to discuss these boundaries before any BDSM play. Use it in a sentence: “Please do not pee on me; golden showers are one of my hard limits.”
I is for Impact Play Impact play refers to any impact on the body, such as spanking , caning, flogging, slapping, etc.
J is for Japanese Bondage The most well-known type of Japanese bondage is Shibari, in which one partner ties up the other in beautiful and intricate patterns using rope. It’s a method of restraint, but also an art form.
K is for Knife Play Knife play is, well, knife sex. It’s considered a form of edgeplay (our parents told us not to play with knives for a reason.) If you do play with knives, do it with someone who truly respects you and whom you trust. Often knife play doesn’t actually involve drawing blood, but is done more for the psychological thrill, such as gliding a knife along a partner’s body to induce an adrenaline rush. Call me a prude, but I wouldn’t advise it on a first Tinder date.
L is for Leather The BDSM community enjoys leather as much as you’d expect. Leather shorts, leather paddles, and leather corsets are popular, although increasingly kinky retailers provide vegan options for their animal-loving geeks.
M is for Masochist A masochist is someone who gets off on receiving sexual pain.
N is for Needle Play Also a form of edgeplay (blood!), needle play means using needles on a partner. Hopefully those needles are sterile and surgical grade. Don’t do this with an idiot, please. Most professional dommes have clients who request or are into needle play. It can involve sticking a needle (temporarily) through an erogenous zone such as the nipple or... BACK AWAY NOW IF YOU'RE QUEASY... the shaft of the penis.
O is for Orgasm Denial You know how sexual anticipation is hot AF? Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. The dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Repeat as necessary.
P is for Painslut A painslut is a dope-ass submissive who knows what they want, and that’s pain, dammit.
Q is for Queening Queening is when a woman, a.k.a. the queen you must worship, sits on your face. It’s just a glam name for face-sitting, often used in D/S play. Sometimes the queen will sit on her submissive’s face for like, hours.
R is for RACK RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, which are the BDSM community guidelines on how to make sure everyone is aware of the dangers they consent to. Another set of guidelines are the “SSC,” which stresses keeping activities “safe, sane, and consensual.” We kinksters want everyone to feel happy and fulfilled, and only experience pain that they desire—without actual harm.
S is for Switch A switch is someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role. Get thee a girl who can do both.
T is for Topping From The Bottom Topping from the bottom refers to when a bottom (sub) gets bratty and tries to control the scene even though negotiations state they should submit. For example, a submissive male may start yelping at his domme that she’s not making him smell her feet exactly like he wants. It can be pretty annoying. It can also be part of the scene itself, such as if the submissive is roleplaying as a little girl with her daddy (this is called “age play”).
U is for Urination Urinating means peeing (duh) and aside from pissing on a submissive’s face or in their mouth you can do other cool and consensual things with urine, like fill up an enema and inject it up someone’s butt! I am not a medical doctor.
V is for Voyeurism A voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex, undress, or whatever floats your erection boat. Voyeurs can get a bad name, because we think of peeping Toms, but there are lots of wonderful ways for a voyeur to consensually engage with their kink, such as going to a play (sex) party or kink event. Voyeurs watch the exhibitionists and everyone wins.
W is for Wartenberg Wheel A Wartenberg Wheel is a nifty little metal pinwheel that you can run over your partner’s nipples or other erogenous zones. It looks scary, but in a fun way, like the Addams Family. It can be used as part of medical play (doctor fetish) or just for the hell of it. Fun fact: It’s a real-life medical device created by neurologist Robert Wartenberg to test nerve reactions, but kinksters figured out it was good for the sex, too.
Y is for Yes! BDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. The dominant partner won’t step on their submissive’s head and then shove it into a toilet without a big ole’ “yes, please!”
Z is for Zentai Zentai is a skintight Japanese body suit typically made of spandex and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Dance teams or athletes may wear Zentai, but some people get off on the sensation of having their entire body bound in tight fabric, and wear it for kinky reasons.
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Its been a while since I have written you. So many things have gotten in my way lately. So many things have happened since I last wrote you…so much has come between us.
I sometimes feel lost. Sometimes feel that I have lost you…not in reality because you’ve always been right here, but mentally…like deep down inside you are somewhere else…with someone else. I know it isn’t true, but its seems that way sometimes.
You have been so far gone somedays that I have wondered why I ever agreed to start this lifestyle with you. And other days you have been yourself…that same Master that I love to see come out. Its been really confusing and disheartening to watch it happening from “outside” of myself. Its enough to make a slave girl not want to do this anymore.
But you do seem to be finding your way back to me…back to what you were…back to what you hide inside from so many.
I suppose I just wanted to say…to make sure that you know…
When you do find yourself? When you are okay again?
Today was a good day. The last couple days have been good ones. We have spent time doing fun things (well, subjectively fun like the Civil War thing) and spending time together, with the kids, as a family for the first time in a long time. It was really nice.
I also managed to make it thru the day without bratting too much and without having to be punished. You were so loving, and so affectionate today that it almost floored me. You were the old you again and I was more than happy to bask in it all…lol.
I love it when you hug and kiss on me…when you joke and play around with me, It makes me feel loved, and well who doesn’t like to feel loved?
The man that you were today is the man that I fell in love with. He’s the man that I love to serve, the one that I belong to. The one that I will willingly go on my knees for, the one that I would walk to the ends of the earth for if i was told to…the one I married. I love seeing this side of you.
It is days like today that I am reminded why I fell in love with you in the first place…why I chose you as my Master (you know what i mean), why I moved here to be with you, why I chose you as my daughters father. You are everything that I have ever wanted in a man, everything that I have always needed…even when I didn’t know what I needed.
I love you with all of my heart and I always will.
Today you punished me. Today you took me farther than you have ever taken me and pushed me harder than ever before. With each strike from the crop, you reminded me of what I had let myself forget…that you, and you alone are in charge and that I am nothing but your slave girl. When you tied me to the bed and used me, you drove home the idea that when I don’t obey you there will be reprocussions. I needed to be reminded of that.
When we spoke after, I told you that while you are punishing me and using my body that I am most repulsed by you then. This is true, but what I didn’t say was that those are also the times when I fall in love with you all over again. Those are the times when I realize that I really am loved and protected and that as long as I serve you, I will be.
I have tried to forget about this afternoon, but am finding it impossible because everytime I move i feel the icy pain of brusing shoot thru my legs and bottom. I want to forget. If I forget, then it never happened. Maybe its good that I don’t tho.
It has been so long since you have shown yourself as Master to me and for the longest time I thought that you were gone.For the longest time, you were noting but a shell of your former self. It was because of this that I became as out of control as I have become. I was allowed to brat everyday and to shirk my duties and I did it with the knowledge that nothing would be done to me. I am glad that you have shown me that I was wrong.
I am thankful that you punished me today. As badly as it hurt and as humiliating as it was, I am glad. Thank you.
I long to be the slave that you deserve. I crave the submission that I know I should have and I dream of the day when I can be the slave that you not only desire but also deserve. I am lucky to have a wonderful Master like you…and I am lucky and feel so blessed that you let me serve you. I love you with everything that I have and I always will.
I am humbled not only by today’s events, but also by the fact that you let me serve you. I can only pray that you will allow me to serve you for the rest of my life.

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