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Considering how much most people care about sex (and, for instance, how none of us would exist without it), it’s not surprising that we’ve constructed elaborate, sometimes even poetic, vocabularies to describe all the things we see, do and feel between the sheets — and en route to getting there.
But with all the slang sex terms floating around there (and there are always new ones being created) it can be hard to keep track of what they all mean. So here’s a handy guide of 69 sex terms you might not know — along with what they mean, where they come from, and how to use them in conversation. (Which conversations you decide to use them in is up to you.)
A sixty-nine is a sex position that involves two people performing oral sex on each other simultaneously by lying stomach to stomach in opposite directions. Can be done with both participants lying sideways, with one person on their back and another on top, or with one person standing and the other person upside down. 69 is also considered to be one of the “cool” numbers, along with 420 (cannabis) and 666 (the devil).
Etymology: The numbers 6 and 9 look like two people facing each other while lying in different directions — just like two people who are 69ing.
“Oh man, I just discovered 69ing and I absolutely love it!”
aka “eating ass,” “rimming,” “tossing salad,” “a rimjob”
Anilingus is the anal version of cunnilingus — meaning oral sex performed on the human anus. Meaning butt-licking, essentially. Not everyone’s cup of tea, but it’s definitely gained popularity in recent years. Like the genitals, the perineum (rim of the anus) has lots of nerve endings, and if it’s been cleaned, licking it won’t be dangerous to the giver.
Etymology: Anilingus comes from “anus” and “cunnilingus,” which comes from Latin — “cunnus,” meaning “vulva,” and “lingere,” meaning “to lick.” So anilingus means “to lick an anus,” basically.
“I can’t believe I’m saying this, but Scott and I have been really getting into anilingus lately. He gives a seriously great rimjob!”
Likely popularized by porn, ass to mouth is a sex move where a guy goes from penetrating an anus directly to receiving oral sex, without cleaning his penis off in between. While this can be convenient in the heat of the moment, because of the potential presence of harmful fecal bacteria deep inside in the anus, it could be very unhealthy.
Etymology: Just a simple description of what the penis does — going from being inside someone’s ass to inside someone’s mouth.
“Would you ever go A2M?” “Ass to mouth? Hell no!”
Slang term that’s popular in the gay community for penetrative anal sex done without a condom.
Etymology: A term stolen from horse-riding — if you rode a horse without a saddle, you were riding on its bare back. In this case, the comparison suggests a condom is like a saddle — perhaps safer to ride with, but also perhaps less exciting to use.
"It looked like we were going to hook up, but then he said he only did bareback and that wasn’t cool with me.”
BDSM is a sort of catch-all term for sex that’s commonly described as rough, intense or kinky, often (but not always) involving leather and whips or other means of bondage and punishment, various types of role play, and different types of sensation play such as sexual biting, choking, scratching, electrifying, slapping and spanking, etc. While it used to be considered somewhat shocking, it’s become more and more common and mainstream in recent decades, in part due to the success of the BDSM-focused “ 50 Shades of Grey ” book and movie series.
Etymology: Short for bondage (tying someone up), domination (being in control) and submission (letting someone else have control), sadism (enjoying inflicting pain) and masochism (enjoying experiencing pain).
“Darren and I have been really getting into BDSM lately there’s a local kink community that has pretty regular meet-ups and they are awesome.”
A term in the gay community for a big, chunky, hairy gay man. Much sought-after. Bears are often considered “daddies,” also.
Etymology: Likely a reference to the fact that a wild adult bear is a very large, strong and furry creature.
“I was super into him, but he said I wasn’t hairy enough. I guess he was only looking for bears.”
Slang term for a woman who dates, marries or is “linked” with a gay man in order to make him seem like he’s in a heterosexual relationship. Often used regarding Hollywood couples, since historically there’s been pressure for successful male actors to ‘stay in the closet’ in order to maintain their popularity with female fans.
Etymology: Likely a reference to the fact that macho, manly men stereotypically grow thick beards — whereas gay men are often considered more effeminate and thus may not be perceived as likely to grow much facial hair.
“I can’t believe they’re getting married! I was so sure that he was gay and she was just his beard.”
Pronunciation: BEEST with TOO BACKS
Slang term for sex or the act of lovemaking. Not particularly common in the 21st century.
Etymology: A reference to the fact that, when facing each other, two people having penetrative sex are joined at the crotch, like a single animal with a front-facing back and a back-facing back.
“Ugh, I’m so embarrassed. Last night my roommate walked in on me and Lana making the beast with two backs... if you know what I mean.”
aka “involuntary testicular vasocongestion”
Slang term for the pain men sometimes experience from extended sexual arousal without completion. Getting blue balls is primarily an issue for younger people, such as teenage virgins engaging in long bouts of dry-humping but never proceeding to completion.
Etymology: Too much oxygenated blood in your penis can actually make your scrotum look distinctly darker, giving it a purplish look — but “purple balls” doesn’t really have the same ring to it.
“We spent like 45 minutes dry humping but then she had to leave to catch her flight. Worst case of blue balls ever, man.”
Porn genre of Japanese origin where someone (typically a woman) is covered in semen by a group of male participants ejaculating on her, often in a circular formation. Can also be done in an all-woman iteration featuring female ejaculation.
Etymology: Bukkake is the Japanese word for the “act of splashing” — in this case, splashing semen on someone’s face.
“I’ve been watching so much bukkake porn that now when I see a cinnamon roll, I feel like it’s sexual.”
Descriptive term for when a woman’s pants are very tight or ride up so that her pubic mound is visibly defined between her thighs.
Etymology: So named for its apparent similarity to a camel’s toe.
“Her pants were so tight last night… Total camel toe situation.”
A genre of porn that features some clothed participants rather than everyone being fully naked. Often, the people wearing clothes make fun of or dominate the submissive naked person.
Etymology: CFNM is short for “clothed female, naked male.”
“Lately I’ve been really getting into CFNM porn. I don’t know why exactly but it really does it for me.”
Slang term for a penis that’s wider than it is long when erect. Also, all-purpose insult, typically used against a man.
Etymology: Sadly, the origin for the word “chode” appears to be unknown.
“I was super excited for her to go down on me, but when she pulled down my pants, she said, ‘I can’t suck on this, this is a chode.’”
Pronunciation: KOK and BOL tor-CHUR
Something you can ask a dominatrix to perform on you, if someone hurting you via torturing your genitals sounds arousing. (Typically that means you’re a submissive.)
Etymology: It’s just a description of the act — torturing someone’s penis and testicles.
“I’m such a sub... just heard there’s something you can pay a Dominatrix to do to you called ‘cock and ball torture’ and it’s so hot I can’t think about anything else at the moment.”
Someone (typically a woman) who leads people (typically men) on sexually without having any interest in actually consummating. A cock tease could leave you with literal or metaphorical blue balls.
Etymology: The verb “tease” can mean a few different things — in this case, there’s a sense of the mix of playfulness and cruelty in the idea of tempting someone but not delivering.
“My friend called his date a total cock tease when she said she didn’t like to sleep with guys on the first date, so she laughed at him and walked out.”
A person (or, less often, scenario) who acts in such a way as to prevent two people from hooking up or otherwise getting a chance to be alone together. Functions as a noun and also as a verb.
Etymology: Likely popularized due to the rhyming sound, but it’s a person who literally blocks you from using your penis in a sexual sense, so “cockblock” makes sense.
“I was so sure that we were going to hook up, but their roommate kept on dragging us into conversations about politics and stuff. What a cockblock.”
An older woman (often in her late 30s to 50s) who specifically seeks out male sexual partners significantly younger than herself, either for casual sex or for romantic relationships. Some cougars are MILFs, but not all MILFs are cougars.
Etymology: Dates back to at least 1999 — older women who go after younger guys are conceived as predatory animals, like a cougar hunting down smaller prey.
“I love going to wine bars now… They’re always full of hot older women. Total cougartown.”
A creampie is a porn term for a sex act that finished with a man ejaculating into a woman’s vagina, often involving a shot showing the semen dripping out afterwards. Can also be used as a verb, denoting the same act.
Etymology: Like the sex act, real cream pies are primarily white-coloured and potentially messy.
“I asked Cheryl if she would let me finish inside her, and she said if I wanted to creampie her, I would have to pay for her IUD.”
Term for a man who is cheated on by his wife, often by bigger/stronger men known as “bulls,” often while he watches, often while he masturbates, often while he is verbally or physically abused by his wife/the other man or men. Also a term for the porn genre featuring such acts. In some cases, cuckolding has a distinct racial connotation — effete or weak white men watching while strong, powerful black men dominate their wives sexually.
Etymology: The term “cuckolding” comes from the word “cuckoo,” since, for the cuckoo bird species, the female often entertains multiple male sexual partners.
“I feel weird admitting it, but yes, the thought of my wife cucking me really turns me on.”
Porn term for the moment when a man ejaculates on camera.
Etymology: What you see on screen in porn (and in film and TV generally) is known as a shot — so a cumshot is a shot of the moment when a man cums.
“I was watching porn last night and my wi-fi cut out just before the cumshot. Total anti-climax… Literally.”
Term for a sexy man with stereotypically father-like/masculine qualities — often older, physically strong, and financially well-off. While the name suggests incestuous desire, that’s not always the case — daddies are much in demand both for gay men and for women and often it’s a relatively surface-level description. However, in some cases, there is a desire for a kinkier, incest-themed roleplay version, like DDLG, or “daddy dom/little girl,” which is a Dom/sub category of BDSM where a typically older man and younger woman will engage in sex acts and sexualized play than incorporate elements of a father/daughter relationship.
Etymology: Daddies are men who remind us of male patriarchs — older, stronger, more financially well off, like a father in comparison to their children.
“We were hooking up, and she said to me, ‘Ooh, spank me, daddy.’ I wasn’t sure whether to be weirded out or turned on. Maybe a little bit of both.”
A sex term for a group of three or more people each performing sex acts on the next person. Similar to a 69 in that you’re both giving and receiving at the same time, but in this case with a larger number of people — and possibly the people at the ends are only engaging in one of the two actions.
Etymology: This sex act is sort of like a chain, and daisies are flowers that are ofter linked together by their stems to form a chain or circle.
“So I had a foursome last night.” “Wow! What was it like?” “Well, we sort of formed a daisy chain rather than everyone trying to fit into the same thing or splitting off into pairs. It was super hot.”
A form of fellatio where the person performing oral sex attempts to take their partner’s penis as deeply into their mouth as possible, to the point where it moves down their throat.
Etymology: Popularized by the 1972 porn film “Deep Throat,” which featured a woman who received sexual pleasure from having deep oral penetration.
“I love it when the person blowing me can really deep-throat me, but my girlfriend’s gag reflex is so intense I’m not sure she’ll ever be able to.”
A form of protection to prevent contraction of STIs from cunnilingus — typically a thin sheet of latex, sort of like a condom for a woman’s vulva. Compared to condoms, dental dams are not nearly as popular, however.
Etymology: Dental dams were originally used in dentistry to cover a patient’s face and surrounding teeth while a dentist worked on a specific section of their mouth.
“He told me he would only go down on me if we used a dental dam, and I told him I appreciated his commitment to safer sex, but no thank you.”
The name for an accumulation of fecal residue on a person’s upper lip that might occur when performing ass-to-mouth sex. In a vein with other iconically named slang terms like “Hot Karl” (any sex act where one participant’s feces gets on the other’s body), “Rusty Trombone,” (giving a person a rimjob and a handjob simultaneously), “Donkey Punch” (punching a woman behind her head while having anal sex), and “Blumpkin” (receiving a blowjob on a toilet while defecating), it’s something that seems to exist more for teenage boys to joke about than as an an actual sex act or term.
Etymology: Since fecal residue on one’s upper lip might resemble a mustache, and stereotypically, Hispanic men often have mustaches, and Sanchez is a Hispanic last name, “Dirty Sanchez” sort of makes sense.
“He told me he wouldn’t eat my ass out because he was afraid of having a Dirty Sanchez… After that, I had a hard time taking him seriously.”
Public sex , often in situations that specifically invite the participation of strangers.
Etymology: Believed to be a British sex slang term. Originally from men who watched couples having public sex — ‘dogging’ them in the sense of being watchful or following them, as a dog might.
“It turns out we both love dogging… We’ll drive out to a nice little spot and meet up with some people from online and just go at it. It’s incredibly hot.”
A dominatrix is a sex worker — who often works out of a location called a “dungeon” shared with other dominatrixes — specializing in sexual kinks and BDSM. Typically, dommes don’t engage in full penetrative sex with clients, rather they will dominate paying submissive clients in various ways — dirty talk and role-playing, spanking and various forms of sensation play, cock and ball torture, etc.
Etymology: Dominatrix is the female form of “dominator” in Latin.
“I met someone at a bar recently who was just, like, the sexiest person ever. She was flirting with me real hard and hitting all my dirty-talk buttons. Turns out she’s an actual professional dominatrix. I can’t tell if I want her to be my girlfriend or if I want to hire her.”
Gay slang for a sexual partner who looks just like you — like you could be a pair of twins.
Etymology: Derived from the German word doppelgänger, literally a “double-goer,” or your exact double.
“Oh my God, did you see Dylan and his new boyfriend? Real doppelbanger situation.”
DTF is an adjective indicating that a person is broadly ready to engage in sex acts, or possibly ready to do so with a specific person.
Etymology: DTF is simply short for “down to f*ck” — “down” here meaning “willing” and “ready.”
“We Tinder matched at 11:15 and she had invited me over for drinks before midnight. That’s why I knew she was absolutely DTF.”
Adjective and noun denoting someone who is gay but in the closet and perceived as straight, or someone who secretly engages in homosexual activity while maintaining a heterosexual appearance.
Etymology: Of African-American origin, likely from the late ‘90s or early 2000s. The implication is that a man who’s on the down-low is hiding his true sexuality ‘below’ a public facade of heterosexuality.
“Do you think Grant is really straight? I heard he was on the down-low…”
Pronunciation: eh-RAW-tick as-FIX-ee-AY-shun
Practice of engaging in strangulation during sex to heighten pleasure, as decreased oxygen flow can lead to a “rush”-like sensation. Can be achieved by a partner choking you or alone while masturbating (“autoerotic asphyxiation”). Can be quite dangerous and lead to brain injury or even death if performed improperly.
Etymology: Asphyxiation comes from the Greek word “asphuxa” meaning “without pulse,” but in English means losing the ability to breathe.
“I can’t tell if I love it when he chokes me because I like feeling him in control, or I’m into erotic asphyxiation, or both. But damn, yes, choking makes me wet as hell.”
Pronunciation: ESS-kih-MO SISS-turs
Slang term for two women who have both slept with the same person. Less common these days given “Eskimo” is increasingly seen as an offensive term as compared to “Inuit.” “Eskimo brothers” is also used for two men in the same situation.
Etymology: There are various anthropological sources that suggest different forms of non-monogamy have long roots in numerous Inuit cultures — vague notions of these practices during the 19th and 20th centuries likely contributed to the popularity of the phrase.
“So after talking for 10 minutes we realized we had both slept with James… and I said, ‘Is there a less offensive term for Eskimo sisters?’ but we couldn’t think of one.”
Facesitting is an oral sex position where one participant lies down, and the other positions their genitals on their face to receive oral pleasure. Easier if the sitter has a clitoris, but still possible if the sitter has a penis.
Etymology: Literally, sitting on someone’s face — or at least squatting right over it.
“I came like, five minutes in. But I knew she was into facesitting, so she climbed up to my mouth, and I licked her clit until she came, too.”
Porn term for a man ejaculating on his partner’s face. Typically occurs at the very end of a scene or movie — in which case it would count as both a money shot and a cumshot.
Etymology: Probably a winking reference to the noun “facial” meaning, “a beauty treatment for the face,” typically in the form of a cream of some sort that women would rub into their faces, circa early 20th century America.
“I can’t believe this, but my hook up last night was actually into the idea of me facialing her. I guess we both got what we wanted.”
Slang term for sucking semen out of an anus after an anal sex ejaculation.
Etymology: The term goes at least as far back as the ‘70s, but it’s not clear what the origin of the word is, exactly.
“I thought I was the kinky one, but then after he came, he pulled out and sucked his load
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