A Thought Experiment: ‘What If Nothing Ever Changed?’

When X, then Y. When X, then Y. When X, then Y. We repeat this formula ad nauseam(до тошноты).

“When the kids go back to school, I’ll finally focus on this creative project.”

“When I’m able to see my friends in person, I’ll stop feeling so isolated.”

We spend a lot of time dreaming about the arrival of some specific future that would surely, definitely change everything for us… won’t it? But as I waited in discontent, I was struck by a thought experiment: What if nothing ever changed?

I know this sounds a little depressing, but stick with me. I promise you that asking yourself this question can be as life-affirming for you as it was for me.

What if nothing in your life ever changed from this exact moment?

What if you always had this job?

What if you always had this body at its exact shape and weight?

What if you’re forever stuck in the home you’re living in right now?

What if you were never able to travel again?

What if you always made this amount of money?

What if this person in your life remained(остался) exactly the way they are?

How then would you find happiness?

Before I continue, I must say that we should never apply this exercise to issues of abuse, racism, economic inequality, and other oppressive and dangerous systems or situations. Those things must change, and it is critical that we imagine a world in which they can and will.

But we make so much of our happiness conditional on other events, chasing(преследую) an idealized state that may never exist. As a recovering perfectionist, I understand this deeply. My eyes were always focused on the next big thing. I began to imagine myself like a pinball: I’d move fast but feel hollow (опустошенный), banged about by circumstances (обстоятельства) that were outside of myself.

Asking myself, “What if everything in my life stayed exactly the same?” has helped me be more present for the joy of what is, not what I think it should or could be. I hope this question inspires you to reflect on what is here for you right now and stop waiting for circumstances to change before you do the thing. You know, that thing. The thing that only you have the power to do.

Because what if nothing ever changed? And what if fully stepping into that question actually allowed you to have everything you need?