fuck
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:41]
Your major is... Psychology right?
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:42]
ye
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:43]
why u ask
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:45]
I want to be healthier mentally and I didn't know who else to ask on this.
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:45]
shit idk if i can help
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:45]
i may be a psych major but it doesn't mean much
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:46]
what's the situation
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:48]
I just don't wanna sound dumb or like a broken record. I can't remember if I've asked for help with this kind of thing from you before.
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:49]
But I just want to be stronger mentally when playing games. Able to take situations that would normally frustrate me to no end and be able to grow from them.
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:50]
I want to be able to avoid the point of frustration I've reached on several occasions in the past where I couldn't express myself any other way than throwing my controller.
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:50]
Because it's expensive and embarrassing
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:50]
Not to mention, infinitely unhelpful.
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:51]
well you have asked for help in the past, but you're not dumb at all
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:51]
but
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:51]
lemme see
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:51]
here's my 2 cents from all that i heard
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:52]
Feel free to take your time on this, I have this horrible habit of sending messages before 2 hour meetings are supposed to start...
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:52]
(not about you but the situation in general)
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:52]
u good
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:52]
i think everyone takes their issues to the game and that's what happens
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:53]
that's my opinion
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:54]
because here's my bottom line: you do not need to get physically angry at something that gives you joy
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:54]
and at the end of the day doesn't matter
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:54]
this is NOT me saying video games don't matter
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:54]
that is nOT AT ALL WHAT I'M SAYING
Jacob Collins, [11.04.18 13:54]
No no I understand what you're trying to say I think
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:54]
because people take that the wrong way and i know it is important to you
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:55]
but whether you lose 5 overwatch matches or win 5
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:55]
does not determine your self worth
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:55]
if you lose every game in a tounrament, it does not determine that you are a bad person or that you have no worth
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:55]
everyone seems to put their worth in their rankings and stats and w vs l
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
which is undestandable because it is important
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
but
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
it is not more important than your health
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
relationships
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
rent
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:56]
if a number goes down, your worth should not go down as well
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:57]
i think that that's the issue
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:57]
you're free to correct me if i'm wrong
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:57]
but from what i'm hearing
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:57]
competitive gaming is used a a basis of whether one is a good person or not
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:57]
and it truly doesn't
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:58]
you are a good person and you are awesome
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:58]
i think that there's insecurities and sometimes that causes us to gauge our worth on external factors
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:58]
i have insecurities too man
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:58]
like its hard shit
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:59]
but gaining self-confidence is very important
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 13:59]
and ot getting dissapponted in yourself and down on yourself because you don't perform as expected
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:00]
i used to determine my worth by my number on a scale
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:00]
which has led to years or problematic behavior
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:00]
the only thing that has gotten me through that is self-confidence
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:01]
which took fucking years to get even an ounce of
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:01]
it's not easy
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:02]
but once you have self-confidence it truly helps reign in on negative thoughts and that
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:02]
is what causes a lot of anger and frustration
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:02]
how do u build ur self-confidence? well that depends
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:03]
easy steps are looking in the mirror and saying good things about yourself out loud
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:03]
sounds cheesy but works well
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:03]
another
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:03]
therapy
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:03]
super helped me see reality
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:04]
and that's the problem with self depreciating and defeating thoughts
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:04]
they convince you that in reality this is what's wrong and fuck you for fucking up and all this other shit
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:04]
and it's bullshit
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:04]
it's not reality
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:04]
another thing that has helped is my meds
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:05]
not selling you drugs
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:05]
i have a decade of anxiety and depression on my shoulders and once it started working i realized what people normally feel like on a noral basis
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:06]
for the first time in my life i feel happy everyday and motivated to do things i enjoy
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:06]
because i've felt that frustration and anger
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:06]
art brought that outt ame
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:07]
got so mad an down on my art whatever i did i hated it regardless of what people told me
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:07]
because i saw all the flaws that they can't
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:07]
and that's an illusion
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:08]
i have had anger probblems in the past
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:08]
trust me
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:08]
i too it out on myself daily
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:08]
but i don't have a step by step guide to give you self esteem
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:08]
i don't have that 'one weird trick'
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:09]
i'm not trying to give you my sob story or anything
Stephanie Cavanaugh, [11.04.18 14:09]
i am genuinely not qualified for it