There are four new shirts in the xkcd store, along with posters and lots of other stuff! RSS Feed - Atom Feed Junior Scientist Power Hour This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial 2.5 License. This means you're free to copy and share these comics (but not to sell them). Today, my boyfriend and I were spooning in bed, nude, when I accidentally farted. He freaked out and asked in all seriousness if I was trying to give his dick pink-eye. I agree, your life sucksSpoons fit together almost perfectly – particularly if they are gay spoons. This intimate cuddling activity is allows you and that special someone in your life to snuggle in a way that exudes romance while also speaking to something very primal – safety and trust. Spooning is basically the art of cuddling. It is the ultimate way a couple can show intimacy towards one another outside of sex. What many people do not know is that spooning also fosters greater intimacy and can be a variation of sensate focus, an approach used in couples intimacy therapy to create closeness.
This brief guide for gay spooning has been especially designed for guys who want to love on one another in a way that is fun and comforting while also taking into account the male physique. You don’t have to be partnered to spoon and can in fact be a single gay man if you are looking for an alternative to a hookup. Spooning should be an activity both parties want to engage in and won’t work well if you are dealing with a narcissistic gay. Spooning also might not work well for certain personality types who are unable to engage in intimacy (see our gay men to avoid post). Some of what follows may seem intuitive while other parts may give you pause to reflect. Read them all so that you are better able to understand how spooning works in tandem.Let’s jump right in! 1. Figure your spooning sizes. For most gay men, the size of our bodies tends to be different than the person we are cuddling with. Here are some considerations: 2. Try the Traditional Spoon.
For this position, the big spoon guy lies on his side and the little spoon guy puts his back to the stomach of the big spoon. In many cases, the two of you will take on a cuddly fetal position. For experienced gay-spooners, it is well accepted that the big spoon should wrap his arm around the midsection of the little spoon. Here are some other considerations: 3. Try the Ball and Spoon. In this position, the big spoon lies on his or her side, and the little spoon should then curl into a fetal position facing the stomach of the big spoon. The big spoon should then hug the little or Baby Spoon with both arms. For this unique position, the bigger spoon lies on his side. The little spoon should get curled up in the fetal position in a way that is facing the stomach of the big spoon. Conversely, the big spoon should hug the smaller spoon with one or both arms. 4. Try the Stomach Spoon. For this fun move, the bigger spoon will lie on his back, preferably with his head propped by a pillow for greater comfort.
The smaller spoon should lie on top of the bigger spoon’s chest, shoulder or midsection, with the face down. To increase intimacy and cuteness, hug on one another. 5. Try the Back to Back Spoon. What’s nice about this approach to spooning is the ability to move freely. Both the bigger and littler spoon should position their backs against one another. One or both legs of each person can be rested upon one another. You can also do this one face to face. Other considerations for this approach: 6. Hand Holding Spoon. If you have a hard time getting too close to your guy because it gets hot or because you need to move, the hand holding spoon will work in a pinch. All that is necessary here is for the two of you to face one another, laying on your sides. The big spoon and little spoon, with arms extended in the “Statue of Liberty” position will join hands. If both of you are drastically different in height, make sure the both of you are position at the midsection of the bed so that your extended arms to not get blocked by a wall.
7. Head to Head Spoon. This cute approach to spooning allows both guys to realize maximum comfort. Both spoons should lie flat on their backs. Position the side of each of your heads in a way that touches one another. 8 Trade Spooning Positions. For variety’s sake, try switching positions. In other words, if the big spoon traditionally is doing the cuddling, allow the smaller spoon to assume this position. The nice thing about gay spooning is that gender roles don’t matter. After all, the both of you are guys!Your spooning activities aren’t restricted to sleep time. You can also spoon when you are just chilling, like watching a movie. A cute flick to consider as an example is Playing It Cool with Hollywood hunk, Chris Evans. Sometimes, one of the two spooners may need to have a little space. This is particularly true when it comes to sleeping. There are people who don’t like to be held while they asleep because they feel confined. If you are looking for some practical tips to get out of your gay spooning situation without hurting your partner, we have some practical tips.
Just for fun, we are publishing a gay spoon poll for you to vote in. Read each choice carefully so that you can make the best choice for your situation. Remember – no two spoons are alike! If you are looking for more practical advice on how to increase the romance factor in your relationship, be sure to pick up a copy of the book: Gay Men’s Guide to Love and Relationships by Dr. Richard Travis. Inside, you will find lots of practical advice on healthy gay role models for relationships with answers to thorny questions like: “Should we be exclusive” and “?” Thanks for visiting Gay Pop Buzz online! Please Like us on Facebook, Tweet us on Twitter and Pin on Pinterest!Snuggling up with a loved one at night? Sharing that bed is likely affecting your quality of sleep—for better or for worse. Of the 61 percent of Americans who share a bed, many report being somehow disturbed by their partner during the night. Sure, spooning’s great, but is it really worth it?There are plenty of reasons so many couples have trouble sharing the sheets.
Get two people in one bedroom and chances are, they’ll have different sleep/wake patterns—a fancy term for being either a morning person or a night person. But sharing sleep space with someone on a different schedule isn’t just about being startled awake by a banging refrigerator door at 4 a.m. In one study, spouses who had opposite sleep/wake patterns reported more relationship issues, including less frequent sex, less time talking, and more conflict in general.More problems can start once bed partners are finally asleep. If one partner has a problem such as snoring or sleep apnea (a condition when breathing repeatedly stops and starts during sleep), it’s a good chance his/her bedmate will be disturbed. One study found that when snorers’ symptoms were treated, their partners’ sleep efficiency (i.e. how much they’re actually sleeping and not just lying in bed) increased by 13 percent—even if the partner had gotten used to the snoring over time .More often than not, men are responsible for disturbing their partners’ sleep.
(It’s worth noting that most research on couples’ sleep habits has been conducted on opposite-sex couples, so it’s unclear how these findings apply to same-sex partners.) Not only do men snore more than women, but they also tend to be rowdier in bed . In two different studies, both of which used a device called an actigraph to measure wrist movement, women were more frequently disrupted by their partners’ movements than men were . Sounds like a recipe for separate beds like Lucy and Ricky had, right? In both studies mentioned above, women reported sleeping better with their partner than without, regardless of what the actigraphs said about their sleep quality. And strangely enough, another snoring study found that when female partners of men who snored slept separately, there was still no difference in the females’ sleep efficiency .The women’s preference for sleeping with their disruptive partners suggests there are plenty of positives to sharing a bed that could override the negatives.
One possibility is the sense of security that can come from being snuggled up next to someone. Recent research suggests that feeling of bedtime security leads to a decrease in the stress hormone cortisol and an increase in the so-called love hormone oxytocin, which is also released during orgasm. Honking nasal passages and poking elbows can’t cancel that out! Couples who share a bed also report that bedtime is an important time to communicate and reconnect at the end of the day. When two people have demanding jobs and busy lives, those moments at the end of the day might be the only time they have together to catch up and make decisions, so sharing a bed can really benefit the relationship.So what can two partners do if they’re bad bed buddies? Start off with at least a queen-size mattress, and go bigger if one partner is a sprawler. Couples with different body temperatures can also try separate blankets. And if one partner moves a lot more than the other, go for memory foam or a mattress that allows each person to adjust the firmness of their side individually.