About me

The Good

• I am fiercely loyal to my friends and family.
• I have a high capacity for empathy, and I practice compassion as often as I am able.
• I am heavily invested in my sexual partner’s pleasure—getting you off gets me off.
• I love giving head.
• I’ve had a vasectomy.
• I have a (pretty good) job—it pays the bills and leaves some income for more, anyway.

The Bad

• I can be argumentative. I’m passionate about my opinions and beliefs, and sometimes I have difficulty letting an argument go. Living with a partner for the last decade has definitely forced me to work on this, and I’m better than I was—but this might be a lifelong struggle for me.
• I experience depressive episodes on occasion; sometimes, there’s no clear reason(s)—just the result of a primitive meat brain dealing with modern civilization, I suppose.
• I don’t like being around large groups of people, so concerts, sporting events, theme parks, and crowded beaches are some of my least favorite places to be.
• I don’t want kids. Ever. Considering that I’m looking for a LTR, I understand how this could be a hard limit for some.
• I’m pretty slow when it comes to doing things—getting dressed, making food, you name it—and I can see how this might drive a certain kind of person crazy.
• I use the word ‘fuck’ a lot. (To be clear: I don’t think this is a bad thing, but I know some are put off by ‘foul’ language.)

HSV Disclosure

I have tested positive for HSV1 antibodies.

The Weird

• I am a nihilist—I believe the universe is a physical accident and nothing at all ‘matters’ or has any inherent meaning. Why is this not in The Bad, you ask? Well, nihilism can lead to some dark places, for sure; however, it can also be quite liberating and empowering. (See Kurzgesagt’s “Optimistic Nihilism”) I aim for the latter as best I can.
• I have cold hands and feet. This can be good or bad, depending on the weather. Sure, they might feel like the icy hands of death when it’s cold out, but you’ll be begging me to touch you when summer days get unbearably hot.
• I am on the look-out for opportunities to [largely] opt-out of our society. I don’t buy a lot of stuff, I’d love to own and live in an off-grid tiny home, and I’d leave my job in a heartbeat if I could figure out a way to make that all work.
• I adopted a vegan/vegetarian diet almost a decade ago. It’s unlikely I’ll ever go back to eating animals

My Interests

Sex is my passion. I love participating, watching, listening; I love to read and write about it; I love thinking about it.

I love to be outdoors here in the Pacific Northwest, and some of my favorite activities include hiking, trail running, camping, backpacking, and paddling.

When I’m not outdoors, I’m usually at home, reading or watching something in the sci-fi/fantasy genre. I try to write, too, but I haven’t been very successful sticking to any one story for very long.

I love music, and I listen to a wide variety of genres and artists (from Stravinsky to Opeth and nearly everything in between). I love discovering and sharing new music. Seriously, whatever your first thoughts are about this, you are probably underestimating the scope of my music listening habits.