How to cope with dangerous situations

One might not expect to get into "dangerous situations". That seems to be a thing only happening to strangers or in books and movies. You might even roll your eyes and think "yeah maybe in another time it was like this" (I low-key definitely did that.), when someone tries to warn you.

But what to do when it does happen? How to prepare?

Some might advise you to simply avoid potentially dangerous actions.

But since already travelling alone as a girl, talking to "bad people" like the homeless, drug dealers etc count as potentially dangerous for the majority of our society, you can expect that I don't ever like to avoid danger, but to prepare to be able to live within. 

(That does not (!) mean to willingly put yourself in a situation you can't estimate.)

BEFORE 

The first and most important thing is your mindset.

You have to realize for yourself, that there are only very few bad things and even fewer persons acting willingly bad.

Most things can be cleared out with a willing to understand different views and cultures.

 And how often used this phrase may be: In every negative happening is something positive to be found as well. This does not mean to blindly trust everyone. On the contrary, always reflect why this person is so nice to you

If you practise this in your every-day-life, it will positively affect less normal situations.

WHILE

Staying calm is the first thing to do. And stay within your head! Though this may seem like an odd advice, it's fundamental. When something bad is happening (e.g. someone put something in your drink, your friend cut his foot and can't walk anymore, you got your phone stolen, you fell into a waterfall, the person you're talking to is a pimp and drug dealer and aggressively tries to recrute you, someone is touching you even though you don't want it, someone is pulling out a weapon,.. etc), people around tend to flip. Like "omg, there's blood!","you can't do anything now!", "what a bad person, let's start insulting him!" etc. You have to stay calmly in your head and rationally analyze what to do best. 

It nearly never is a good idea to lose your temper - with crying, panicking, screaming, insulting etc. You only lose energy and create a bigger tension. So try tro go smiling through it. Most people don't really want to do something bad actively. I like to tell myself that only very few people would have the actual courage to rape or murder someone, most just want to take what's possible with the smallest possible effort. So don't make it easy for others to use you! 

AFTER

Do yourself some good. Have a drink (maybe a tea?), sit down, look at something beautiful (maybe it's a flower or a tree, a picture of someone you love, the sky is always there,..)

Reflect what happened - maybe it's enough to think about it, maybe it helps you to write it down, maybe you know someone you can talk to about it. 

Try to see a good site and what you learned out of it. 

I think about making more specific posts, tell me what you would like to read first!

-> What to do when.. 

Someone got hurt

someone wants to fight with or over you

someone touches you in a way you don't want it

important belongings of yourself got stolen