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Jacob Haugaard has been married to his Ilse for 40 years: A lie saved the marriage | BT Celebrities - www.bt.dk They were sitting in the car. Side by side. Talked as always about loose and firm when she suddenly felt she had to lighten her heart. ‘I have something I need to tell,’ she said. And dropped the bomb. 'Shut up, I went crazy. What the hell to picture me like that. I was mad for half a year. I had no control over myself at all, "says Jacob Haugaard. And laughs heartily. By itself. We'll come back to it. In a few days, the popular comedian and entertainer will turn 70 years old. But that is not the only thing to be celebrated there. So must love. On the same day, it is exactly 40 years ago that Jacob Haugaard said yes to her, who is the woman in his life. 76-year-old Ilse Wilmot. Jacob Haugaard and Ilse Wilmot have been together for 40 years. For better and worse. Now they sit side by side in one of the living rooms in the 800 sqm large former manager's residence under Wedellsborg Estate, which they have rented. The living room exudes cohesion. There is coffee in the cups. A teasing twinkle in the eye of both of them. But also lovingly. "Ilse and I are the kind of people who meet each other, go home with each other, and then we are largely together from there," Jacob Haugaard describes their long life together. According to Statistics Denmark, 35 percent of all marriages end in divorce. They have avoided it. Although it was once dangerously close. You can get lost on them. Strike them. Or stroll through life on them hand in hand. In this B.T. series, celebrities tell about love and its unfathomable paths. Previously you have been able to read about: The couple that fate brought together when they were just eight years old TV 2 correspondent and her deep love for the mother Sexologist, who fell in love when she was left Almost five years ago Previous TV host, who after 17 years as a single and single mother found love Designer and entrepreneur, who for 20 years has formed a couple with Morten Paulsen Wild with the dance star about the love of Frederik Haun and thoughts about children It was in May 1980 that the two met to a concert in Aarhus. He was 28. The city's colorful party monkey. She was six years older, in the process of training as a family therapist. And single mother of two children aged seven and ten. They met several times. Had good chemistry. Be able to talk and discuss. 'Jacob was not my type at all. I had thought I was going to have a more checked man. And he had a really bad reputation. Was crazy, «remembers Ilse Wilmot. "When my friends heard that I had become friends with him, they warned me and thought I should fucking get my stuff packed and stop it." "But we did not." A somewhat younger version of Jacob Haugaard and his wife, Ilse Wilmot. Two years later - on Jacob Haugaard's 30th birthday - they got married. Said yes to each other in ups and downs. Success was there were plenty of. They were impulsive. Took in their little Citroën on the wildest excursions out into Europe. With Ilse's muscle wasting son in the back seat. "What we have not thrown ourselves into," laughs Jacob Haugaard, calling his Ilse the wild of the two. ‘It’s something that attracts me to you. That you are not so pissed, "he says. Two children were born. Carl Frederik and Kathrina. But in the marriage was also an invisible guest. Alcohols. 'It's never been the case that I pretended not to be a party monkey. I smoked all the time from jobs, because if I got a beer on Wednesday, I would not stop until the following Wednesday, "says Jacob Haugaard about the abuse that started already when he was 15. Ilse had known about it from the start. Could accommodate it. Right up until she suddenly could not take it anymore. “Jacob was a kind of quarter drinker and had long periods without where we got to rebuild confidence and it all ran. But then all of a sudden, bum, he fell in. "" I never had a clue when it happened, "says Ilse Wilmot, who was afraid of being away from home if Jacob had fallen in. Jacob Haugaard with his son Carl Frederik and daughter Kathrina. “When our youngest started stuttering when Jacob got drunk, it didn’t go any further. I could not offer that to our children. "" I told him I loved him so much that I could not bear to see him destroy himself. And then I left. ”It was in May 1992 that Ilse Wilmot slipped. Jacob Haugaard also remembers it all too well. Remember how he just would not give in to that account. But also did not see himself as an alcoholic. 'I was not the one sitting on the bench. I made a lot of money. Had done well, "explains Jacob Haugaard about the time when he and Finn Nørbygaard were cool with their Squash commercials. In the beginning, he was also relieved that Ilse had slipped. Then he could drink in peace. Search into the intoxication that made the heavy stones in the backpack weightless. For a while. But one day Ilse passed by what until recently had been their home in the small East Jutland town of Malling. Should pick up something. Ever since they first met, there has been a very special bond between Jacob Haugaard and Ilse Wilmot. ‘Then she says‘ I was in town and have met a new man who is hugely sweet. ’That was the worst thing she could say to me. I had hangovers from the day before, had behaved like hell to. It was all bullshit. "" I hung there in the nails where she always used to help me up. But instead, she pushed me over the edge, "says Jacob Haugaard, who until then would have sworn that he was jealous. “It all came out to full blast. I was completely done, went out and lay down on a dream bed over in the Water Tower, "he adds during the day. May 30, 1992. There he lay, rolling over in beers. Ilse could feel that she had sent him out where he could not bottom. But also knew that it was not her who was to be the lifeguard. "Because then it was again me who took responsibility. Not Jacob, 'she explains, then looks her husband in the eye. “But I was afraid you would commit suicide. Honestly. ”She got Jacob's best friend on the field. Who calmed him down. The next morning, Jacob Haugaard called AA. Alcoholics Anonymous. ‘Will you drive me over there,’ he asked Ilse on the phone. She wanted to. 'At two o'clock that afternoon I was admitted to Falster. Was only allowed to keep my underpants. Even my toiletry bag they checked, took my shaving alcohol. They knew very well what it was all about, "says Jacob Haugaard about the day 30 years ago and then smiles:" I have been sober ever since. "That day, Ilse knew very well that she would take him back. For as she says: “I have always been in love with Jacob. And is it still. We are just naughty and childish and have great fun together. Shut up, we're having a good time. "" We're just kidding and childish and having a lot of fun together. Shut up, we're having a good time, "says Ilse Wilmot about her husband of 40 years. Tender glances fill the room. Love won. Preached over the bump on its way, though there was a little extra to overcome when they sat in the car a year later and Ilse felt she had to lighten her heart. Telling that the fact that she had met another man was a lie. Where it came from, she still has no idea. Just that the phrase flew out of her mouth when she opened it. 'Shut up, I got mad. Was it for half a year. And then it was almost over, "laughs Jacob Haugaard. For he knows well that without that phrase he would not be a sober alcoholic today. Without it, they would not be together today. Where they can celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary. “I had never thought that I would succeed in getting so happily married, making it work, being involved. For I have always felt that I looked at others, was a spectator to my own life, an outsider. "" And I also never thought I would say that the one of us who dies first is the luckiest, "says Jacob Haugaard and rarely looks serious. "But I do." And then they look lovingly at each other. SPORT UKRAINE B.T.s judgment B.T.s judgment Shock in DSB train: Do as more than 350,000 Danes Berlingske Media A / S Pilestræde 34 DK-1147 Copenhagen KTlf. +45 33 75 75 33 CVR.no .: 29 20 73 13